Anyone else feel nothing for the fetus?

klirwin82

Lurking...

Don't know if this is real or not. But on the chance it IS, and you give birth and still feel like you hate or resent the baby, PLEASE contact your state's Child Protective Services. You can surrender the baby to them, no questions asked. My husband is a social worker and people do this more than you'd think. Our state has had 4-5 people this month drown their babies in bath tubs. So sad when there are Safe Haven laws that allow you to surrender your child without penalty.

Also, regarding support, once you get a court order the father has to pay. Or he goes to jail. And if he's in the military that's not going to work out well for him.

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Leah6120

Military doesn't work that way. Make sure your business is in order (stable home, clean drug tests, etc) and there's not a lot he can do to you. He is obligated to pay child support and keep the kid on tricare from the point you are legally separated and his child support is essentially a fixed rate. My friends who went through this didn't even have to get it set in court initially..they went thru the ex's chain of command and it was handled. He can't threaten you away from it and you need to document when he does for court later.

Edit bc I kept thinking about this: if you don't want him to win in court I'd seriously consider not posting about your ambivalence/late term abortions/wish it didn't exist feelings towards said baby on public Internet forums..bc if I was a judge and I saw this I might feel less sympathetic.

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jezygal

With my first I didn't really feel a bond until my baby was 3 weeks old, this time I feel different because I know how much I love my daughter now.

nlwz123

ChiccoBeanz

I'm just lurking...how the hell was the thread not shut down? This is insane. 

ntyravgsp

ChiccoBeanz said:

I'm just lurking...how the hell was the thread not shut down? This is insane. 

Welcome to J16.

AlabamaWorley

ChiccoBeanz said:

I'm just lurking...how the hell was the thread not shut down? This is insane. 

Because apparently telling people how to properly utilize the community or suggesting reading up on pregnancy/newborn care when asking the same question for the umpteenth time is horrendous (don't forget, no Leo gifs!). However, spewing blatant MUD about waning a late term abortion, fantasizing about ODing on Plan B, abusive relationships, and only caring enough for a child to not get thrown in jail is a okay.

nlwz123

ChiccoBeanz said:

I'm just lurking...how the hell was the thread not shut down? This is insane. 

I don't think anyone reported it to bump admin.  If I were to post a funny meme that swore, though, this would be closed in a hot second.  Morals of the board are strange.

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nlwz123

Sweet Jesus.

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