My shower is coming up and the theme is stressing me out. The hostesses asked every guest to bring a beloved teddy bear to the party. While this is very me, unfortunately my lifelong beloved teddy bear began to officially fall apart at the beginning of my pregnancy. Being hormonal, and this bear as one of my favorite worldly possessions I put him away padded and safely wrapped up to see if a dollmaker could fix him after my pregnancy. (I could not handle the complete loss of this beloved item during pregnancy and the hormonal ride it is.) Anyways when the invitation was shared with me after it was sent out I was told the guests were asked to bring a bear and that the theme around teddy bears was particularly choosen because of my own childhood obsession with my own teddy bear. I was a little unsettled about the theme at first because as an adult my insane teddy bear love is not something I share with my adult friends and a bit embarrassing, but I understood it is a very sweet idea and that the hostesses who are all family were only trying to pick something that related to my childhood, and that was cute. I thought at first it wouldn't bother me, but as I am in the last month of pregnancy now and more tired and emotionally drained than ever I am finding it hard not to feel just overwhelmed by the day to day and when I think about my own bear it just puts me over the edge for some reason. I know this must seem like the most juvenile saga ever. But the fact that my own bear will not be in good enough shape to attend especially with children in attendance, and as my family knows how much I am obsessed with this childhood bear it will inevitably come up and be a topic of conversation just makes me feel spun out and brings me to tears. I do not want to get upset and embarrass myself in front of my friends because my Aunts will want to know all about where my beloved chilshood bear is and it is simply something I was hoping not to think about in general until my baby was born. I also don't want to end up being ungracious to those who threw the party as their hearts are in the right place, O am just very emotional right now and finding it all a little too much.Any suggestions on how to handle this awkward theme?
Re: Stressed About My Shower Theme
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My suggestion would be to seek some therapy.
*edit* I said ready bear instead of teddy...
I don't think anyone meant to embarrass OP (including the host of the shower). I think they were trying to do something nice for her. I agree with the shadowbox or display picture idea. Maybe a picture of OP with the bear during her younger years when the bear was in better condition? That way the stuffed animal doesn't upset OP. See? I'm not completely unempathetic. I just think this is something that needs to be walked back to a place of sense.
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You're not alone. My response was short because I wasn't going to expend too much energy on this.
This is bizarre to say the least.
Seriously? Was that necessary?
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