Announce on social media

Jem0285

When I first found out, I got ahead of myself and made a video with pictures and significant dates for me and my hubby and at the end it reveals we are expecting. I will be about 12 weeks around our 5 year wedding anniversary so I thought of posting it and let people get the surprise at the end. After using the video to announce to parents and siblings and seeing the overwhelming emotions from them, I think I want to keep that for family and close friends. Really, I don't think my high school friends/coworkers want to watch a video of a million pictures of us! LOL So after coming back down to earth, I am going to do a Halloween themed announcement with matching skeleton shirts- mine will have a baby skeleton in the belly and DH has a beer bottle, burger and pizza! 

amross92014

I don't understand why you would unfollow a friend for sharing such happy news.  Yes, it is devastating having a miscarriage, but that doesn't discount the happiness I feel for my friends.  I am happy that they are sharing such a positive event in their lives.  I would never punish someone for being happy about their pregnancy.  I would however, second guess my friendship if someone is unable to be as happy for me as I would be for them.  Now, if they are rubbing it in your face and making personal remarks, that is one thing, but simply posting good news, not something to that deserves to be shunned.  Perspective.

asunna

im actually not going to announce

i have a tendency to just let this naturally happen, the family of course will know, and i guess everyone will just naturally figure it out at some point by photos, 

nerdymama15

A few friends and family already know. We are thinking of announcing on social media after the first trimester is over or after I start showing noticeably - which ever comes first.
In the meantime I'm thinking of cute ideas for announcements for fb

side note: my wysiwyg text editor thing disappeared and now I'm having to format in html wtf

soralette

KissOfApproval said:

So I have a question! Realizing that we need to be sensitive to those who have had losses...and to those who have been trying for a long time with no luck....  how do you tell these people you are pregnant? 

My best friend has been trying for so long and is sensitive (and rightfully so!)  Its even more awkward because we just visited them (we live across the country now!), stayed at there house, and conceived while on that trip!  

Tell them privately -- and, if you can, over text or email, so they can cry if they want to instead of having to pretend to be happy and then fall apart later.

soralette

Anyway. Sorry to doublepost; I wasn't done reading when I wanted to reply to that.

We've told a few friends privately already -- including our friends who've had losses, so they can prepare for the public announcement. We'll tell family as a whole after our 7w ultrasound when we confirm the presence of a heartbeat, and probably announce publicly at the beginning of the second trimester (so, beginning of December, for us).

I have a separate (opt-in) filter on FB for all baby-related stuff, though, so while I'll be putting the pregnancy and birth announcements available to all my friends, any/all other pregnancy/baby/preschooler/etc stuff goes into the filter, so people who don't want to see it don't have to.

HullGut

We will hopefully put a picture of DD with a "big sister" sign on our Christmas card this year if everything goes well. That will only go to friends and family. I don't know if I will announce on FB. I am pretty cautious as I have a full term loss in the past. 

lionstigersbears

soralette said:

Anyway. Sorry to doublepost; I wasn't done reading when I wanted to reply to that.

We've told a few friends privately already -- including our friends who've had losses, so they can prepare for the public announcement. We'll tell family as a whole after our 7w ultrasound when we confirm the presence of a heartbeat, and probably announce publicly at the beginning of the second trimester (so, beginning of December, for us).

I have a separate (opt-in) filter on FB for all baby-related stuff, though, so while I'll be putting the pregnancy and birth announcements available to all my friends, any/all other pregnancy/baby/preschooler/etc stuff goes into the filter, so people who don't want to see it don't have to.

@soralette that's interesting, how exactly does the filter work? I swear I know how to Internet....

emilyj77

I've been thinking about this from almost day one. Sad but true. With DD we posted in the 2nd trimester with a cute rhyme: "First came love, then came marriage, then came....Baby XYZ due November 2011." For this baby I was thinking about doing another rhyme and attaching it to a photo of DD: "Look! Do you see? I spy a family of three. But wait. Here comes one more. Now I spy a family of four."
DH wants to give DD a big sister shirt for her birthday, when I'll be 12 weeks. Even though we haven't told her yet, she already thinks she's going to be a big sister since all of her friends at daycare have baby siblings. So I'm not sure it'll have the effect he's hoping it will. 

I want to do something special for DH's parents since they found out accidentally from a friend of ours last time (long story). Hoping to wait till Thanksgiving and maybe I can start a new tradition of us each saying what we're thankful for and ending with DH and I announcing. Not sure when we'll tell my parents. I'm trying to avoid them, but I'm guessing they suspect.

NY2PA2

We told some friends and family early so they can pray for us, but I'll probably announce it on FB after my 1st u/s at 9w1d. This pic is how I will announce

autumnlynne1221

I plan on announcing on FB around Christmas time after I've sent out my Christmas cards. I'm going to have a family picture with DD holding a sign saying I asked Santa for a real baby for Christmas. Estimated arrival May 2016.

soralette

lionstigersbears said:

Anyway. Sorry to doublepost; I wasn't done reading when I wanted to reply to that.

We've told a few friends privately already -- including our friends who've had losses, so they can prepare for the public announcement. We'll tell family as a whole after our 7w ultrasound when we confirm the presence of a heartbeat, and probably announce publicly at the beginning of the second trimester (so, beginning of December, for us).

I have a separate (opt-in) filter on FB for all baby-related stuff, though, so while I'll be putting the pregnancy and birth announcements available to all my friends, any/all other pregnancy/baby/preschooler/etc stuff goes into the filter, so people who don't want to see it don't have to.

@soralette that's interesting, how exactly does the filter work? I swear I know how to Internet....

@lionstigersbears On Facebook, hover over (don't click) on a friend's name in your feed. A little box will pop up with some info about them and three buttons -- "Friends" "Following" and "Message" -- on the bottom of it. Next to "Friends", there's a little downward-pointing arrow. Click on that arrow. One of the options it'll show is, "Add to another list..." ... Click on that. It'll offer you several different default lists (like "Close Friends" and "Acquaintances"), and at the very bottom there's "+New List..." ... click that, and it'll walk you through creating a new custom list. The people in the list do not see the name of the list, and only they get to see things you post to that list.

Later, when you're ready to make a post for the list, right under the box where you write your posts, there are two buttons -- one's blue and says "Post", and the other has your current privacy setting for your last post (it might say 'Public' or 'Friends' or whatever), with a little downward pointing arrow next to it. Click on the little downward pointing arrow, and it'll show you your lists (you might have to click on "More Options" to see your new list). Pick one BEFORE you hit "Post" (I usually pick it first so I don't forget), because you can't edit which list the post is shared with after you hit post -- you have to delete and repost it, imx.

lionstigersbears

@soralette thanks for that, I never knew!

KnitPearl

We'll probably wait until we know the gender, since by then just about everyone in our circle will have found out -- it'll be far enough down the road that no one close can tell us, "I can't believe I had to find out on Facebook!"

soralette

@lionstigersbears Happy to help!

durbie92

Most of my coworkers know simply because I can't keep my big mouth shut, a few close friends know and my parents. My DH is a mortician and I am a wrongful death litigation paralegal so we decided it was right up our alley to do something cute for a social media Halloween reveal. I can't think of a more perfect holiday for us to announce it. Now I just need ideas. It's the first baby for both of us.

jewels1020

I'm going to be a ftm or am idk how to word that yet lol but I honestly was way to excited and announced it at 7 weeks after having It confirmed by the doctor.. if something were to go wrong I'll just announce it to.. but I think since we didn't do a cute well thought out announcement we'll do something special to reveal the sex of the baby.

lplyler

I just announced on FB today at 9 weeks 4 days. We are having identical twins, and after telling family the news has spread! I guess 2 babies was just to much for them to handle quietly. Lol My first doctors appt was this past Wednesday, and we called everyone important first. I figured we needed double the prayers, and it's basically like we are 12 weeks since we are gonna deliver at least 3 weeks early. Haha

schicksal

We're waiting until roughly Halloween. People who are REALLY close already know, and have since about week 7 but this is more of a general population thing. On mine anyway, FB is mostly family and friends from h/s, college and some who are local. Neither of us have family within 1,000 miles so it's how a lot of us manage to keep in touch.

Both of us already have ideas for the different pictures we're taking to make the announcement so that should be a little fun.

togmama

I am doing this! End of October when I am 12 weeks

Sienna516

We announced yesterday on Facebook. I'm 9 weeks 3 days. We told my family 3 weeks ago and several friends over the last couple of weeks and I was afraid someone would leak it on Facebook. Plus I can't keep a secret either because I'm so excited.. Here is our picture!