Announce on social media

wsgjmw1

hey friends . . . When are you planning to put the news on social media ie Facebook Twitter Instagram etc ? I have seen friends do it anywhere from 10-20 weeks ? Just curious ! I know some of us have shared with parents and close friends but what about the social universe ?

Charla1224

My plan is to announce publicly with my Halloween costume and I'm sure pictures will end up online. That will mark 12 weeks for us.

DanandVan

I will probably announce after the 1st trimester is safely over. Of course, my friend announced today on fb literally before the pee had even dried on the stick...so go with whatever you are comfortable with. My personal rule (after 2 losses) is to wait till the 1st ultrasound (7-8 weeks) to confirm heartbeat, etc before telling close friends/family. And like I said, wait till I am safely out of the 1st tri before making it news on facebook.

daphne814

Yeah, I'm waiting for the first ultrasound to tell family and I won't make any big announcements on social media until 12 weeks.

DutchLucyLu

We're in the process of telling family but we won't announce on FB until around 13 weeks, which is when I'll have an ultrasound scanning for serious birth defects.

*possible trigger warning*

We're expecting the scan to come back fine but I don't want to announce to the entire world if there is a chance the baby might not be viable and we might have to discontinu the pregnancy after announcing.

mariaalene

My mom will announce it on fb the second I tell her. So I'm trying not to tell her till nov or dec. she just retired this year so she's kinda bored

vinerie

I'll throw something on FB when I'm showing. My twitter account is a 'professional account,' in that I use it to maintain a public, professional presence, so I won't put it up there at all. Never got into Instagram. I hate social media, actually, but that is a separate issue!

katie1782

We are going to hold out as long as possible to tell anyone, so whenever I start showing we will tell our family and then we will announce on Facebook after that. We definitely want to wait at least 12 weeks. I'm hoping we can hold out until November or December to do a fun holiday announcement!

kmd0501

We're waiting until after my first OB appointment to share to our moms and sisters. Trying to hold out that long to tell stepson too. I will be 12 weeks right around thanksgiving so I think that's when we'll share with everyone else.

oandmplus1

I told my parents, and we are telling a couple that are our closest friends (more like family), but other than that, I am waiting to announce to the general public until I hear the heartbeat, which won't be until we reach the 10-12 week mark.  It feels like forever away, but we won't get an ultrasound and I don't see an OB until then.

I may tell me supervisor and manager.  She is a good friend, and knows we are TTC.  We need to hire someone as resource to cover me, so the more notice she has, the better.

kbrands7

We told close family already and will likely do a FB and work announcement somewhere between 12 and 14 weeks.

countrygrl5533

We have told about 10-15 friends already (I was also very open with my miscarriage, even blogged about it, so not uncommon for me). We won't tell parents or announce on FB until around 12 weeks.

dsmith211

12-14 weeks or so. I'm friends with a few close work people on Facebook so I need to really wait till I tell HR/my boss. We plan on telling family first and we're really emphasizing with them not to post on Facebook or anywhere till I do - and I really hope they listen.

saladflambe

After I hear a heartbeat at the end of October / 12 weeks

Bluejay3030

I don't think I'm going to make a Facebook accouncement. I never really post anything, so it seems weird to start now

Spylon

We're telling DH's parents in mid-October when we go see them, and we have a trip planned to visit some old friends in early November to tell them in person. At that point I'll be 12 weeks, so I'll put something on Facebook after that. Right now I'm not as excited to do that as I thought I would be.

AnastasiaBeaverhausen09

I can't decide if I want to do a big social media announcement or not, but we won't be putting the news out there until 12 or 13 weeks.  Will probably tell close friends/extended family after the first ultrasound.  It is SO HARD to keep it a secret!

josie12367

We have a really cute Halloween reveal picture almost completed, and that will be used to tell everyone. We're printing it out and putting it in frames for the family who will get it as soon as we hear the heartbeat, and then we'll just post it for everyone else on Instagram and FB afterwards. We have so many friends all over the place from the military, so we love to keep our FB up to date. We almost broke down and announced this weekend, but we were able to get ourselves in control again....lol. So now we wait...

gracefulruby33

I don't plan on announcing on FB until the holidays. I was even thinking of waiting until Christmas, after we've found out the sex.

Bookhousegirl

We've told family and close friends already, but won't make the social media announcement until after we find out the sex, so around christmas time. 

vampirina

I don't think I'll ever "formally" announce it. I'm sure it will be obvious that my belly is growing, and that yeah, that's a baby in there, but I don't think I'll do one of those "cute" announcement photos. I don't have the time or energy to create one

cortney626

We'll probably announce around 12-13 weeks. I'll be 11 weeks around hubby's bday and 13 weeks around DD's bday/ Halloween. So with a bunch of celebrating we may through an announcement in there. I'd like to take a picture of DD holding a "big sister" sign with us in the background. But we'll see. 

hellogoodbye2

We aren't sure when we're telling family/friends yet. Definitely after my 8w ultrasound though.

We had my daughters 2 year pictures last night and we threw in a couple "big sister" ones. We'll probably post that picture around Thanksgiving (I'll be well out of 1st tri by then).

mhc13

I'll announce around 20 weeks after the anatomy scan like I did with my 1st. All of my close friends and family pretty much knew immediately so I don't really feel the need to announce to aquantences earlier on.

zekesmommy611

With DS we announced at 10 weeks on FB. We posted all kinds of u/s pictures and pregnancy updates.
I never understood the hurt that people feel and go through when they can't have children or who have experienced a miscarriage, until I had a miscarriage in May. The day I miscarried I was laying in a hospital bed waiting to get cleared by the doctor to go home. I was scrolling through FB and one of my friends announced her pregnancy, we would have been due the same week . I suddenly realized that while I felt happy for her and her family, seeing it posted over and over made me very upset. I don't think anyone can really understand this unless you experience a loss. I am very grateful for that experience and because of it we will not be posting anything to FB this time around.

Novia1998

I'm definitely not posting on Facebook until new baby announcement after birth. I always unfollow my friends who post ultrasound pics and announcements, because it kills me after so many losses. It's like traumatic.

KissOfApproval

So I have a question! Realizing that we need to be sensitive to those who have had losses...and to those who have been trying for a long time with no luck....  how do you tell these people you are pregnant? 

My best friend has been trying for so long and is sensitive (and rightfully so!)  Its even more awkward because we just visited them (we live across the country now!), stayed at there house, and conceived while on that trip!  

katkuper

Oh wow, Kissofapproval, that is a tough situation. I would definitely not let on when (where!) the conception occurred. That is definitely salt on the wound. As in how to tell them.... there are probably different opinions than mine, but I feel like an email or something might be best. Better than, say, a phone call or in person (though you couldn't really tell her in person anyway, without another trip). I only say this because, if I were in her shoes, my first reaction might be a feeling of betrayal or anger. Certainly some pain and frustration. And an email might give her the space to go through those initial feelings and then she can approach you about it when she's ready. Tell her how much you love her and you understand whatever feelings she might have. I would definitely tell her before you tell other people, so that, again, she has time to process it before possibly hearing from a mutual friend or on facebook. If it were me, I would find that very thoughtful and kind.

Any other suggestions? That's the best I got - it is a tough situation! Congrats and kudos to you for being sensitive to your friend's emotions!!

seashellz1223

We're planning to announce on Facebook on Halloween which will be 12 weeks. I'm not going to post much about the pregnancy on Facebook besides the announcement as I know how upsetting it can be to see so many pregnancy related posts when you have been TTC for a while.

vinerie

zekesmommy611 said:

With DS we announced at 10 weeks on FB. We posted all kinds of u/s pictures and pregnancy updates. I never understood the hurt that people feel and go through when they can't have children or who have experienced a miscarriage, until I had a miscarriage in May. The day I miscarried I was laying in a hospital bed waiting to get cleared by the doctor to go home. I was scrolling through FB and one of my friends announced her pregnancy, we would have been due the same week . I suddenly realized that while I felt happy for her and her family, seeing it posted over and over made me very upset. I don't think anyone can really understand this unless you experience a loss. I am very grateful for that experience and because of it we will not be posting anything to FB this time around.

Thank you for sharing. I think this is important to keep in mind.

SamarieZ

My DH and I TTC for over two years. As you might imagine, it's an emotional roller coaster. Though, Never once did I feel anger when one of my friends told me they were expecting. I was delighted and genuinely excited for them.

The things on social media that triggered anger from me were sharing news stories of child abuse/neglect. I also loathe postings from Moms about how terrible their kids are and that I could "borrow" them. Yes, being a Mom is hard, but I would've spent my last tear and dollar trying to be one.

aamm04

Week 12 we will announce publically. My family will all know after our first appointment where I'll be about 8 weeks.

2.red.heads

Yes, while I will be posting something on Facebook (after the first tri) I plan to be cautious. I have friends that haven't been able to ever get pregnant and I don't want to shove it down anyone's throat. It took me a year and a half to get pregnant and some days it was kind of a bummer to see tons of pregnancy news on FB. 'Bragbook'. I'm still happy for them of course - I just want to make sure my FB friends know how thankful I am and that I'm not taking this baby for granted.

I'm older this time around so I'm also a little more worried about the health of the baby (compared to when I was 28 with my first).

bookelf221

My hubby and I plan on announcing on Facebook around the beginning of November when I'm around 12 weeks. We've already told family and will probably start telling (more) friends after our u/s on Oct. 7th, I've already told some friends- mostly because they are Moms and help reassure me that things I experience are normal. 

babymackey

We were gonna post on fb/ig at 12 wks! I think that's a fair amount of time

kmcchs

We've told all family--friends we'll tell after 12 wks. Facebook is going to be a 20 week gender Christmas holiday announcement

nbgmom

With our first, we announced super early, and then as a baby gift someone went back and printed ALL of my pregnancy related posts and put them in a photo album. It was super sweet. With our 2nd, I didn't say anything on FB until 20 weeks, and even then made very few pregnancy related posts. Didn't post when she was born until we were home from the hospital. It gave people the awful and absolutely untrue assumption that she was not a planned, wanted and welcome addition to our family. With this one, we hadn't really made a decision of how/when we were going to make announcements on or off social media. We told our parents and siblings immediately, and mentioned it to co-workers; him because he was excited and me because it effects my job and the type of patients I can be assigned. Unfortunately, my husband neglected to mention to his boss not to say anything, forgetting he runs in the same circles as my parents, and I got a call from my mom (luckily she did know) that he was talking about it at an event. We decided we would rather jump the gun and tell people quickly before friends found out elsewhere. SO we took some sweet pictures of our older daughters and made a post at 6 weeks.

alliemac-2

These are some cute ideas. DH family moved to Japan earlier this year for work so we are trying to figure out how to tell them after we are in the "clear" for everything.

Facebook will be after we tell everyone else, probably around Halloween, maybe thanksgiving!

kns1988

KissOfApproval said:

So I have a question! Realizing that we need to be sensitive to those who have had losses...and to those who have been trying for a long time with no luck....  how do you tell these people you are pregnant? 

My best friend has been trying for so long and is sensitive (and rightfully so!)  Its even more awkward because we just visited them (we live across the country now!), stayed at there house, and conceived while on that trip!  

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I second not telling them when and where you conceived, but other than that, you should just let her know. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it; she'll probably be bummed and happy for you at the same time.

As far as announcing on Facebook, I've never been a Pinterest-y, cutesy kind of person. I think we'll probably just post "We're expecting a new (last name) on May 18th" and leave it at that. I think it'll be after Thanksgiving, which is when we want to tell family (15 weeks). The only reason I'd even post it on Facebook is because we have lot of friends scattered all over the place.

gkamerman78

I posted on fb after my first u/s I've only been pregnant once before and it ended in an ectopic. So I'm excited and since it's twins I'm going to share it with the world, why live in fear that something could go wrong. It could and if it does I'll announce that too. But even if I only have a short time to be this excited why hide it only to have to hide the pain as well.

nbgmom

gkamerman78 said:

I posted on fb after my first u/s I've only been pregnant once before and it ended in an ectopic. So I'm excited and since it's twins I'm going to share it with the world, why live in fear that something could go wrong. It could and if it does I'll announce that too. But even if I only have a short time to be this excited why hide it only to have to hide the pain as well.

This is exactly my reasoning too. We would tell if something tragic happened, why not enjoy the happiness as long as it is present?