Hello...New Here : )

AmandaLHG

Hi all, 

I just brought home our 3rd child a few days ago. I have 2 biological children: a daughter (5) and a son (2) and now a new daughter (10 mo). Her adoption won't be finalized for probably 6-8 more months (if I am lucky) but after 9 months of working to bring her home I feel we are very close to permanency! Just wanted to introduce myself as I may be asking questions and getting involved on this board. 

Anyone else adopting/have adopted through foster care? 

Knottie1442268460

We're adopting through foster care but haven't finalized.

twomommiestobe

We are considering adoption. Did you foster-to-adopt? Or just go in wanting to adopt. We are not sure if it is possible, but we want to adopt a child from the system but do not want to foster first. I have looked at the children in waiting in our state and there are a handful that have stolen my heart so I know this is right. We are not wanting to foster first, is that possible? Does it make you a undesirable candidate? We are having infertility issues. We had planned to have one then adopt one. So our time line is changing, but that is ok. I just know I cannot emotionally handle letting a child go back after dealing with infertility. Maybe later down the road once we have settled into being a family, but not now.

TiffanyA83

Hi Amanda, I'm new here too. We adopted from foster care in 2013. :-) It's a strenuous road, but worthwhile.

Knottie1442268460

Two mommies- I started out only wanting to foster. Oops! Fell in love.

Some states have a foster to adopt program where you have lower risk of the child leaving. If you start actually fostering but say no to placements that don't seem adoptable they'd look down on you.

The kids on photo listings are usually very troubled. But if you can be a one child home it might be the best therapeutic environment for the child.