Pregnant again after miscarriage

meredithwynne

Hi everyone, I miscarried in June at 10 weeks (even though the baby died at 7.5). It was beyond traumatic and was a huge reality check. I'm wondering if anyone else has miscarried before and how it's affecting your outlook on this pregnancy. We're obviously excited but very cautious, and it's kind of getting in the way of enjoying it all over again.

gotnw3

Totally understand. The stress is immense. We had two miscarriages last year and two chemicals earlier this year. But this time, our scan at 7w3d went well and all is looking promising this time. I really hope your pregnancy goes well.

crichb

Meredith, I am in the exact same position. We miscarried at 10 weeks in March. Truly it was the most traumatic and saddening experience. I tested positive several times for this one, but I am waiting a bit longer before jumping to call the doctor. I am planning to call and schedule the visit today, but of course I am eager and scared at the same time. A good thing to say to yourself to keep up that positivity is "today I am pregnant!" Also know that after reading this blog, most women have experienced a MC and go on to have happy, healthy families. Good vibes to you for a sticky baby this time around!!

jonesl12

I miscarried at 8 weeks on June 8th. I work in ob/gyn so for me I looked at the situation differently. I had a D&c the same day and went back to work 2 days later. For me it wasn't a big deal as these things happen typically due to chromosomal issues plus I had a SCH. I walked away knowing I can get pregnant and that's a good thing. I'm about 7 weeks now and if it happens again then I'll just start over again.

sarahufl

I think you will find it has happened to a lot of people and it is totally normal to be afraid. I had an ectopic in March, so when I found out this pregnancy was properly implanted, I could not stop crying.

Of course, now I am worried about carrying to term. Just take it one day at a time and know there isn't anything you can do.

Goldsgirl9

I think it's more common than we could imagine. I find a lot of people don't speak about it so you just don't know. After DS, I have had two mc this year the last being in May at 10 weeks. It was devastating. I am pregnant again but now waiting until 18 weeks, if possible, to tell family. I am trying to be as positive as possible and just trust my faith but there is worry and doubt in the back of my mind.

Just remember, today you are pregnant! Enjoy the today and it seems to help a little bit. Sending you sticky vibes!

meredithwynne

I'm so sorry to hear about your experiences. I went through just one miscarriage and can't imagine the stress it must have put you under. Keeping my fingers crossed for you and sending lots of positive vibes xx

meredithwynne

That's such good advice, thank you just take it one day at a time. Sometimes it can be agonizing because you don't know what's ahead of you but at least each day that passes is progress

meredithwynne

Thank you for all the support, and thank you for sharing your experiences. It definitely helps to hear from other members of the "club". I am six weeks today and have the first ultrasound in two weeks. Definitely anxious. But on the upside I am feeling more pregnant this time around. Nauseous, sore boobs, no energy, moody. Last time I had almost no symptoms, so maybe it was just too good to be true.

emslade982

No experience with MC here, but I definitely understand the worry. In general the sicker you are in the first trimester, the lower your chances of a miscarriage (or so I've heard). It's no guarantee of course, but I'd say it's a good sign. T&Ps for a smooth and healthy pregnancy for ya!

AllyDogg

I had a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks (baby measured 6 weeks and the same as when we had the dating scan at 6 weeks). I passed the baby at "8 weeks" naturally at home. I also found the miscarriage to be quite awful and traumatic. It took us almost 9 months after to get pregnant again with this one. I would like to say that I am estatic about this pregnancy, but to be honest, it's so hard to be excited when there is always the possibility of loss. I constantly am checking the toilet paper every single time I go to the bathroom as I have a fear of seeing blood again.

Everything looked good at our dating scan this week (heart rate was 128!) so I'm being cautiously optimistic. We are taking it one day at a time.

T&Ps and lots of baby dust to keep these little ones growing!

sarahufl

emslade982 said:

No experience with MC here, but I definitely understand the worry. In general the sicker you are in the first trimester, the lower your chances of a miscarriage (or so I've heard). It's no guarantee of course, but I'd say it's a good sign. T&Ps for a smooth and healthy pregnancy for ya!

@emslade982- where are you getting this information? That is ridiculous and just adds fuel to the fire of people thinking there is something wrong with them if they aren't sick. Don't feed into this.

emslade982

https://www.nytimes.com/2000/06/06/health/personal-health-what-could-be-good-about-morning-sickness

https://www.today.com/parents/morning-sickness-pregnancy-has-surprising-upside-1D80007975

https://www.nhs.uk/news/2014/07July/Pages/Morning-sickness-linked-to-healthier-babies.aspx


Take it for what it's worth. Wasn't my intention to cause other people worry. Just trying to support the OP.

meredithwynne

Ally - it's exactly the same for me! Every time I go to the bathroom I cringe at the thought of wiping and possibly seeing blood. And given that were newly pregnant unfortunately there are lots of bathroom visits daily I tell myself to take it one week at a time, not to think too far ahead in case it happens again. It's natural to want to protect ourselves from being so devastated all over again. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy xx

cmerribury

Yes, you are not alone here. Two miscarriages myself (one at 10 weeks, one at 12). I wish I could tell you how to not worry, but I haven't figured it out myself yet! We are just trying to take one day at a time and hope that this is the pregnancy that makes it to the end. Wishing you a safe pregnancy! And, welcome!

ejled

I miscarried in April at 6+4, the same day my best friend had her baby. I had a tough time with it, of course; but this time around I just say a little prayer anytime I get anxious, and remain thankful for each day being pregnant. I am certainly much more aware now of what could go wrong, but I also tell myself that most go on to healthy pregnancies after a MC. It definitely helps to have this forum of women to share with, as we have decided not to yell anyone for quite awhile.

amberlizmay

I'm pregnant again after two miscarriages at the beginning of the year. So glad I am pregnant again but my partner and I are both finding it hard to get excited about it this time! We both found the miscarriages so so hard and think if we get less excited and attached we won't be as devastated if we suffer another loss... I'm even scared to phone the doctor and make an appointment because I don't want to have to phone up to cancel. We don't want to tell anyone, even our parents this time because we don't want to have the tell them bad news if anything happens...
Is anyone else finding it hard to get excited?

meredithwynne

Amber, we are feeling the exact same way. We did tell our parents because they were a huge support during the miscarriage and we'd want them to know if it happens again. But every pregnancy is different and there's no right or wrong way to go about telling people. We are talking about the baby much less this time around. Almost ignoring the pregnancy, in an attempt to protect ourselves. Wishing you a successful pregnancy xx

amberlizmay

I'm glad I'm not the only one

Jizzill

It's impossible not to have anxiety, but I'm remaining 'cautiously optimistic' for the time being.  

You're certainly not alone, I hope you have a healthy 9 months and find all the support you need here!

ETA: I forgot to mention I had a natural mc in April.  I hate that you had to go through your loss, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

mrsseaver28

Miscarriages suck!! I miscarried in July at around 5 or 6 weeks. We had announced it at my son's first birthday with all our friends and family. I'm so thankful we did because I had people to talk to. We got pregnant right after the miscarriage and I'm thinking I am almost 6 weeks. As much as these symptoms are annoying and draining, I keep telling myself that it is ok because it means I am pregnant. We have told our parents and some family about this pregnancy. We aren't making it "Facebook official" but we are telling people as we see them. Definitely love having the support if we were to have another loss. We are just taking it day by day, week by week. Lots of prayer and hope!

Meggs2559

I'm going through the same thing! Just posted about it in my intro. We miscarried in July and found out we were pregnant again in August. It's so scary and nerve-wracking

live4something

I understand completely. My loss in April was traumatic for me. I was heartbroken. I knew with that pregnancy that something didn't feel right. I felt pregnant, then suddenly didn't feel anything - all my symptoms stopped then the bleeding started. I now find myself periodically touching my breasts to make sure they still hurt, checking the tp when I go to the bathroom, and being grateful for nausea. I don't want to go through another loss so I just keep trying to focus on one day at a time. One thing that I realized during the loss, was that I was grateful for every single day that I was pregnant with my little bean. It wasn't meant to be, for whatever reason, but I was grateful for each day I held him/her in my body. So, I am trying to use the same mind-set with this pregnancy, and I am going to try enjoy every day of being pregnant this time too. I am going to try to focus on this little one and all of the time we have together, which I hope is for the rest of my days.

meredithwynne

All of you are so incredibly strong and it's so heartwarming to read all of your stories. I know I am not alone when it comes to miscarriage but now that I'm pregnant again it's nice to hear firsthand accounts from those who have been through it and are in their second pregnancy. Sending lots of love and support

BeatboxBaby

Had a mc in May...baby only measured at 6 weeks and I passed it naturally around 9 weeks. Definitely am a lot more anxious this time around and same as some of you ladies, always checkin the tp when I go.

@amberlizmay ...don't be afraid to call! I think the earlier you go in after a mc, the better. Our doc told us to call as soon as we found out (which we did) and we had bloodwork done and an us within the first couple of days. This is where we found I had low progesterone and got put on supplements for it. Apparently, that can cause mc so it's good that we caught it early .

We had another us at 5w6d and heard a heart beat and I think after that app it calmed us down a lot more. We were definitely relieved to see and hear that little thing thumpin!