@jennsuzanne87 this reminds me of another unpopular opinion I have. Men looking after their children is not amazing and I'm not super lucky and he isn't babysitting. He's a father and that's his job just like it's my job. I didn't get lucky. I was smart and didn't marry a child.
I totally agree, but I have to say with my first I was surprised and impressed with HOW MUCH DH stepped up. I had a rough labor and unplanned C section - I was a WRECK. Physically and emotionally. He pretty much cared for DD all day while I tried to recover and deal with breastfeeding going horribly, then went home from hospital at night to prep for our arrival home and sleep a little. Then once we went home, he was crazy attentive. God love this man.
In my community my unpopular opinion is helicopter parenting needs to stop. My kids run wild in the yard and woods while I work in the house. If they get stuck in a tree they figure out how to get unstuck. This doesn't mean I don't rescue them when needed, but I don't have to be right up under them all the time. Kids need to learn how to be independent. That being said, I always know where my kids are and who they are spending time with. I have rules, I just don't have to smother the life out of them.
See I agree, then I have a day like today... Took DD (2.5) to the playground, let her run the route from the stairs across the bridge to the "big kid slide" about 10 times while I hovered. Time 11 when I was too hot to chase and decided to give her a little freedom - she runs over the bridge and the big kids start wobbling it. Cue her falling beneath the rail and falling 3-4 feet into the ground, on her upper back/neck. I run over from the 5-10 feet away that I'm standing, and I get the mom or nanny above me going "it's her head, she fell on her neck". Thanks, B, I saw. I could feel all the eyes on me seething "where were you?" Luckily a good cry, some juice box, and a snack solved everything. I just hate feeling like a hoverer, but when I don't, my baby chooses THAT MOMENT to hurt herself
@alyjmac That had to have been so awkward lol then we get told were the bad guys for being uncomfortable and told "don't look." My reaction to that is you clearly want people to look, so don't even try that. Even if you notice and look away it's still happening right there is the open lol you're not allowed to be naked or flash in public..so how it this different?
I hope you have babies that let you cover them then. And understand not all babies tolerate the covers. I wouldn't want to eat under a sheet. It's not sexual. Feeding your child has nothing to do with modesty. This is coming from a very modest Christian woman. There were many times I had no choice but to NIP. I tried to go to the car or somewhere private for the most part but I remember once sitting on the dirty floor of a family restroom at Walmart because that was the only option. Point is, how about we all do what we need to do? My kids will be shown breastfeeding and taught it's beautiful and important so they won't be judgmental or uncomfortable seeing a human boob feeding an infant.
Well she did say that she didn't believe a baby's face should need to be covered! I think there is a huge difference between breastfeeding modestly (showing the least amount needed/wearing clothes that make this possible and practically taking your top off. Last year I took the kids to Friendly's, and yes it's a family restaurant, but this woman was wearing a tube top and pulled the whole thing down to expose both breasts completely, and then she started breastfeeding. This was literally right across from me and my three kids. There was no need for both boobs to be hanging out in the middle of our lunch, no matter how natural the act of breastfeeding is. I think she did it to dare someone to say something so she could cause a big stink. No one said anything...until she was done feeding and started changing her baby's dirty diaper, right on top of the table!
Geez, the nipple police better start making the bottle feeding moms cover up the nipples of their bottles too. "Sorry ma'am no nipples allowed in this area, move along there.". Or for heavens sake, the men need to have shirts on too, shouldn't be showing those hairy man nipples either. Better get some legislation on the docket for that!
Goodness guys, you see nipple for two seconds before it goes in the babies mouth and some of us well endowed ladies need a minute to adjust. It's the same damn thing you would be seeing with the skimpy clothes or bikini, side and top boob. [-X
In my community my unpopular opinion is helicopter parenting needs to stop. My kids run wild in the yard and woods while I work in the house. If they get stuck in a tree they figure out how to get unstuck. This doesn't mean I don't rescue them when needed, but I don't have to be right up under them all the time. Kids need to learn how to be independent. That being said, I always know where my kids are and who they are spending time with. I have rules, I just don't have to smother the life out of them.
See I agree, then I have a day like today... Took DD (2.5) to the playground, let her run the route from the stairs across the bridge to the "big kid slide" about 10 times while I hovered. Time 11 when I was too hot to chase and decided to give her a little freedom - she runs over the bridge and the big kids start wobbling it. Cue her falling beneath the rail and falling 3-4 feet into the ground, on her upper back/neck. I run over from the 5-10 feet away that I'm standing, and I get the mom or nanny above me going "it's her head, she fell on her neck". Thanks, B, I saw. I could feel all the eyes on me seething "where were you?" Luckily a good cry, some juice box, and a snack solved everything. I just hate feeling like a hoverer, but when I don't, my baby chooses THAT MOMENT to hurt herself
Those bigger kids probably would've been a$$'s whether you were watching or not!
In my community my unpopular opinion is helicopter parenting needs to stop. My kids run wild in the yard and woods while I work in the house. If they get stuck in a tree they figure out how to get unstuck. This doesn't mean I don't rescue them when needed, but I don't have to be right up under them all the time. Kids need to learn how to be independent. That being said, I always know where my kids are and who they are spending time with. I have rules, I just don't have to smother the life out of them.
See I agree, then I have a day like today... Took DD (2.5) to the playground, let her run the route from the stairs across the bridge to the "big kid slide" about 10 times while I hovered. Time 11 when I was too hot to chase and decided to give her a little freedom - she runs over the bridge and the big kids start wobbling it. Cue her falling beneath the rail and falling 3-4 feet into the ground, on her upper back/neck. I run over from the 5-10 feet away that I'm standing, and I get the mom or nanny above me going "it's her head, she fell on her neck". Thanks, B, I saw. I could feel all the eyes on me seething "where were you?" Luckily a good cry, some juice box, and a snack solved everything. I just hate feeling like a hoverer, but when I don't, my baby chooses THAT MOMENT to hurt herself
Those bigger kids probably would've been a$$'s whether you were watching or not!
To clarify, I don't think they did it on purpose to knock her down - I think it was just bad timing/not paying attention to other kids. They were 6/7 year olds being 6/7 year olds on a playground - just ones who weren't being cautious of others around them. They sure looked frightened when she hit the ground! It was more the idea that I was getting stares for not being RIGHT THERE. Even if the bridge wasn't wobbling and she slipped and fell...at what point are we allowed to stop running around with our arms under them constantly? The part where she fell was in the middle of the structure and you have to duck to about waist level to get to that section. Even if I had been hovering, I would have been on other side of the bridge.
While I am fairly modest myself, I don't think that women need to cover up at all while breastfeeding. I've had my fair share of nursing in public when DD1 simply wouldn't allow a blanket or cover over her. It's quite difficult at times to be super discreet and juggle a baby in one arm. It shouldnt make anyone uncomfortable for the two seconds someone is going to flash a nipple (no! not a nipple!). I'm not a crusader but we need to normalize breastfeeding. It shouldn't make you look twice. That's how a baby eats. It's not sexual. #freethenipple
I don't mind breastfeeding in public, I get that sometimes you need to adjust and some babies hate a cover and all that, I don't even mind a nip slip once in awhile but I think what some of the ladies are talking about are the mom's who feel the need to make a spectacle of it, daring you to say something so they can shame you for being uncomfortable when they've been exposed to everyone around them for obviously longer then they really needed to be or the moms whipping out their boob before they've even picked up baby leaving them exposed to everyone while they then pick up baby and get comfortable before they even try to let baby latch. I think there does need to be a balance of atleast trying to be discreet/modest and other people getting over themselves if they happen to see a nip slip (that they are practically praying for at every awards show/red carpet/etc).
I don't mind breastfeeding in public, I get that sometimes you need to adjust and some babies hate a cover and all that, I don't even mind a nip slip once in awhile but I think what some of the ladies are talking about are the mom's who feel the need to make a spectacle of it, daring you to say something so they can shame you for being uncomfortable when they've been exposed to everyone around them for obviously longer then they really needed to be or the moms whipping out their boob before they've even picked up baby leaving them exposed to everyone while they then pick up baby and get comfortable before they even try to let baby latch. I think there does need to be a balance of atleast trying to be discreet/modest and other people getting over themselves if they happen to see a nip slip (that they are practically praying for at every awards show/red carpet/etc).
Yes! You said it better then I did. This is exactly what I meant. I meant it specifically towards that type of woman, and not just the ones who feed in public. There's a huge difference. I will be feeding my son in public, but you will not see me walking through a store trying to get a reaction out of people
I don't mind breastfeeding in public, I get that sometimes you need to adjust and some babies hate a cover and all that, I don't even mind a nip slip once in awhile but I think what some of the ladies are talking about are the mom's who feel the need to make a spectacle of it, daring you to say something so they can shame you for being uncomfortable when they've been exposed to everyone around them for obviously longer then they really needed to be or the moms whipping out their boob before they've even picked up baby leaving them exposed to everyone while they then pick up baby and get comfortable before they even try to let baby latch. I think there does need to be a balance of atleast trying to be discreet/modest and other people getting over themselves if they happen to see a nip slip (that they are practically praying for at every awards show/red carpet/etc).
Yes! I, like I previously said, was 7 or 8 and this lady was just leaving it out and not even ready to start feeding. She probably had it out for a good 5 minutes beforehand and 3-4 afterwards. I get that nip slips are going to happen and I probably won't even notice (since I'm not one to stare).
I don't mind breastfeeding in public, I get that sometimes you need to adjust and some babies hate a cover and all that, I don't even mind a nip slip once in awhile but I think what some of the ladies are talking about are the mom's who feel the need to make a spectacle of it, daring you to say something so they can shame you for being uncomfortable when they've been exposed to everyone around them for obviously longer then they really needed to be or the moms whipping out their boob before they've even picked up baby leaving them exposed to everyone while they then pick up baby and get comfortable before they even try to let baby latch. I think there does need to be a balance of atleast trying to be discreet/modest and other people getting over themselves if they happen to see a nip slip (that they are practically praying for at every awards show/red carpet/etc).
Yes! You said it better then I did. This is exactly what I meant. I meant it specifically towards that type of woman, and not just the ones who feed in public. There's a huge difference. I will be feeding my son in public, but you will not see me walking through a store trying to get a reaction out of people
But you're only offended if the woman has "gigantic" gross boobs right? I still want to know why you felt the need to describe the anatomy of the woman you were talking about in such detail and with such distaste. Explain why breast or nipple size matters AT ALL
I don't mind breastfeeding in public, I get that sometimes you need to adjust and some babies hate a cover and all that, I don't even mind a nip slip once in awhile but I think what some of the ladies are talking about are the mom's who feel the need to make a spectacle of it, daring you to say something so they can shame you for being uncomfortable when they've been exposed to everyone around them for obviously longer then they really needed to be or the moms whipping out their boob before they've even picked up baby leaving them exposed to everyone while they then pick up baby and get comfortable before they even try to let baby latch. I think there does need to be a balance of atleast trying to be discreet/modest and other people getting over themselves if they happen to see a nip slip (that they are practically praying for at every awards show/red carpet/etc).
Yes! You said it better then I did. This is exactly what I meant. I meant it specifically towards that type of woman, and not just the ones who feed in public. There's a huge difference. I will be feeding my son in public, but you will not see me walking through a store trying to get a reaction out of people
But you're only offended if the woman has "gigantic" gross boobs right? I still want to know why you felt the need to describe the anatomy of the woman you were talking about in such detail and with such distaste. Explain why breast or nipple size matters AT ALL
I was talking about one specific person. I myself am a 40D. The girl I'm speaking of has breast double the size of mine, so for her to have them full out on display and if everyone's face is obnoxious. Who said boobs were gross? Don't put words in my mouth. Her boobs are "gigantic" and she says so herself, there's nothing offensive about it so you can go calm down.
I don't mind breastfeeding in public, I get that sometimes you need to adjust and some babies hate a cover and all that, I don't even mind a nip slip once in awhile but I think what some of the ladies are talking about are the mom's who feel the need to make a spectacle of it, daring you to say something so they can shame you for being uncomfortable when they've been exposed to everyone around them for obviously longer then they really needed to be or the moms whipping out their boob before they've even picked up baby leaving them exposed to everyone while they then pick up baby and get comfortable before they even try to let baby latch. I think there does need to be a balance of atleast trying to be discreet/modest and other people getting over themselves if they happen to see a nip slip (that they are practically praying for at every awards show/red carpet/etc).
Yes! You said it better then I did. This is exactly what I meant. I meant it specifically towards that type of woman, and not just the ones who feed in public. There's a huge difference. I will be feeding my son in public, but you will not see me walking through a store trying to get a reaction out of people
But you're only offended if the woman has "gigantic" gross boobs right? I still want to know why you felt the need to describe the anatomy of the woman you were talking about in such detail and with such distaste. Explain why breast or nipple size matters AT ALL
I was talking about one specific person. I myself am a 40D. The girl I'm speaking of has breast double the size of mine, so for her to have them full out on display and if everyone's face is obnoxious. Who said boobs were gross? Don't put words in my mouth. Her boobs are "gigantic" and she says so herself, there's nothing offensive about it so you can go calm down.
If it doesn't matter to you the size of her breasts you wouldn't have made a point of describing them. You did so in a rude way, like her breasts either offend or disgust you. You say BECAUSE her breasts are twice the size of yours, it's "obnoxious" for her to have them on display. But if she were a b cup it would be ok? Listen to yourself. You sound hateful.
I don't mind breastfeeding in public, I get that sometimes you need to adjust and some babies hate a cover and all that, I don't even mind a nip slip once in awhile but I think what some of the ladies are talking about are the mom's who feel the need to make a spectacle of it, daring you to say something so they can shame you for being uncomfortable when they've been exposed to everyone around them for obviously longer then they really needed to be or the moms whipping out their boob before they've even picked up baby leaving them exposed to everyone while they then pick up baby and get comfortable before they even try to let baby latch. I think there does need to be a balance of atleast trying to be discreet/modest and other people getting over themselves if they happen to see a nip slip (that they are practically praying for at every awards show/red carpet/etc).
Yes! You said it better then I did. This is exactly what I meant. I meant it specifically towards that type of woman, and not just the ones who feed in public. There's a huge difference. I will be feeding my son in public, but you will not see me walking through a store trying to get a reaction out of people
But you're only offended if the woman has "gigantic" gross boobs right? I still want to know why you felt the need to describe the anatomy of the woman you were talking about in such detail and with such distaste. Explain why breast or nipple size matters AT ALL
I was talking about one specific person. I myself am a 40D. The girl I'm speaking of has breast double the size of mine, so for her to have them full out on display and if everyone's face is obnoxious. Who said boobs were gross? Don't put words in my mouth. Her boobs are "gigantic" and she says so herself, there's nothing offensive about it so you can go calm down.
If it doesn't matter to you the size of her breasts you wouldn't have made a point of describing them. You did so in a rude way, like her breasts either offend or disgust you. You say BECAUSE her breasts are twice the size of yours, it's "obnoxious" for her to have them on display. But if she were a b cup it would be ok? Listen to yourself. You sound hateful.
I'm hateful? You came at me with your rude sarcasm and negative comments when you were not apart of the conversation I was having with another person. You're picking apart anything I say and trying to make a problem out of it. It's obnoxious at any cup size to have a full breast on display, but for her size in particular its even more in your face. I don't get why I'm even bothering to speak to you, you're not worth my time. You're rude and trying to get a rise out of me, so I will no longer have anything to say to you and block you from my feed and be done with it
I don't mind breastfeeding in public, I get that sometimes you need to adjust and some babies hate a cover and all that, I don't even mind a nip slip once in awhile but I think what some of the ladies are talking about are the mom's who feel the need to make a spectacle of it, daring you to say something so they can shame you for being uncomfortable when they've been exposed to everyone around them for obviously longer then they really needed to be or the moms whipping out their boob before they've even picked up baby leaving them exposed to everyone while they then pick up baby and get comfortable before they even try to let baby latch. I think there does need to be a balance of atleast trying to be discreet/modest and other people getting over themselves if they happen to see a nip slip (that they are practically praying for at every awards show/red carpet/etc).
Yes! You said it better then I did. This is exactly what I meant. I meant it specifically towards that type of woman, and not just the ones who feed in public. There's a huge difference. I will be feeding my son in public, but you will not see me walking through a store trying to get a reaction out of people
But you're only offended if the woman has "gigantic" gross boobs right? I still want to know why you felt the need to describe the anatomy of the woman you were talking about in such detail and with such distaste. Explain why breast or nipple size matters AT ALL
I was talking about one specific person. I myself am a 40D. The girl I'm speaking of has breast double the size of mine, so for her to have them full out on display and if everyone's face is obnoxious. Who said boobs were gross? Don't put words in my mouth. Her boobs are "gigantic" and she says so herself, there's nothing offensive about it so you can go calm down.
If it doesn't matter to you the size of her breasts you wouldn't have made a point of describing them. You did so in a rude way, like her breasts either offend or disgust you. You say BECAUSE her breasts are twice the size of yours, it's "obnoxious" for her to have them on display. But if she were a b cup it would be ok? Listen to yourself. You sound hateful.
I'm hateful? You came at me with your rude sarcasm and negative comments when you were not apart of the conversation I was having with another person. You're picking apart anything I say and trying to make a problem out of it. It's obnoxious at any cup size to have a full breast on display, but for her size in particular its even more in your face. I don't get why I'm even bothering to speak to you, you're not worth my time. You're rude and trying to get a rise out of me, so I will no longer have anything to say to you and block you from my feed and be done with it
It's an unpopular opinion thread. You stated an opinion that is, in fact unpopular. People then discuss. That's the point. I'm not trying to get a rise out of you I'm just trying to see you are body shaming a woman feeding her child. That is what's rude.
Well mine is women attacking women on here for voicing their opinions. We are all entitled to our own thoughts and are able to say them as that is what we all do. Geeze if we all thought and felt the same we wouldn't learn anything from each other. Stop jumping down people's throats!!
FYI, anything said to another person on a topic on these boards isn't a private conversation that other people can be excluded from. That's what PM's are for, right? That said, this is a ridiculous thing to be arguing about. Everyone's going to have a different opinion about breastfeeding in public/what level of boob skin visible is or isn't appropriate/how people should feel about seeing a woman breastfeed. Nobody came to the bump forum to have their opinions changed, and nobody should feel that their opinion is the holy f'in word from god. If you know you're going to disagree with someone, state your counter opinion once and move on like a grown up.
I breastfed my 2 girls out and about and never covered them. I used nursing tanks and sweaters and not too much could be seen. That suited me best. And tbh that's all that matters on this one / what works for you and baby!!
Drives me nuts when I see threads like "PLEASE HELP ASAP!!" Followed by what seems a medical emergency...sharp pain...I think my water broke...I'm bleeding. Then the question ending with "should I call my doctor?".
Seriously? Why are you on an Internet forum asking a medical question like its 911 or your doctor's answering service? This is concerning to me and insane. How about you call your doctor first and then tell us all about it.
@chelseajeanene I think what @kanga915 (and correct me if I'm wrong) is saying is that the choice of words were a tad vulgar and the way you phrased it made it seem as if you only saw it as a problem because of the size of her breast rather than what she was doing. Coming from someone with 36EE breasts sometimes things are a little harder and end up seeming more sexual. I can't wear any type of tank or even some tee shirts because they show my cleveage so much, I got branded a skank for it and was shamed pretty badly but it was just something I couldn't control and happened, so I see how your post could have been offense, but I understood what you meant beyond that.
@chelseajeanene I think what @kanga915 (and correct me if I'm wrong) is saying is that the choice of words were a tad vulgar and the way you phrased it made it seem as if you only saw it as a problem because of the size of her breast rather than what she was doing. Coming from someone with 36EE breasts sometimes things are a little harder and end up seeming more sexual. I can't wear any type of tank or even some tee shirts because they show my cleveage so much, I got branded a skank for it and was shamed pretty badly but it was just something I couldn't control and happened, so I see how your post could have been offense, but I understood what you meant beyond that.
Yes all of this! I'm glad I'm not the only one who found the wording to be insensitive and mean-spirited. I was a C cup in 6th grade and was name called for it. You're right about being limited in what you can wear and about assumptions that are made about you. The unwanted attention sucks.
I don't even think I disagree that much about her original point except I think it's no big deal if a little bit of boob or nipple is visible momentarily while you're latching. I find it hard to believe someone is truly exposing two entire breasts at Friendly's. If that's the case, I agree, that's unnecessary. I've spent a LOT of time around nursing moms, in public too, and went to countless La Leche League meetings where an entire room of women are nursing openly. I've never seen it done in a vulgar or offensive way.
Just cool it with the unnecessary and rude descriptions of boobs you didn't like. As if a Victoria's Secret Angel doing the same behavior is less "obnoxious." That's just ignorant.
@chelseajeanene I think what @kanga915 (and correct me if I'm wrong) is saying is that the choice of words were a tad vulgar and the way you phrased it made it seem as if you only saw it as a problem because of the size of her breast rather than what she was doing. Coming from someone with 36EE breasts sometimes things are a little harder and end up seeming more sexual. I can't wear any type of tank or even some tee shirts because they show my cleveage so much, I got branded a skank for it and was shamed pretty badly but it was just something I couldn't control and happened, so I see how your post could have been offense, but I understood what you meant beyond that.
Thank you for understanding that no part of me meant that to come off as offensive. That's a shame you've had to go through that, and in no part does having a large chest mean anyone is automatically tagged as those terms.
@chelseajeanene I think what @kanga915 (and correct me if I'm wrong) is saying is that the choice of words were a tad vulgar and the way you phrased it made it seem as if you only saw it as a problem because of the size of her breast rather than what she was doing. Coming from someone with 36EE breasts sometimes things are a little harder and end up seeming more sexual. I can't wear any type of tank or even some tee shirts because they show my cleveage so much, I got branded a skank for it and was shamed pretty badly but it was just something I couldn't control and happened, so I see how your post could have been offense, but I understood what you meant beyond that.
Yes all of this! I'm glad I'm not the only one who found the wording to be insensitive and mean-spirited. I was a C cup in 6th grade and was name called for it. You're right about being limited in what you can wear and about assumptions that are made about you. The unwanted attention sucks.
I don't even think I disagree that much about her original point except I think it's no big deal if a little bit of boob or nipple is visible momentarily while you're latching. I find it hard to believe someone is truly exposing two entire breasts at Friendly's. If that's the case, I agree, that's unnecessary. I've spent a LOT of time around nursing moms, in public too, and went to countless La Leche League meetings where an entire room of women are nursing openly. I've never seen it done in a vulgar or offensive way.
Just cool it with the unnecessary and rude descriptions of boobs you didn't like. As if a Victoria's Secret Angel doing the same behavior is less "obnoxious." That's just ignorant.
Doesn't matter now because you're blocked :-SS (I'm pretty sure I am too so this comment won't be seen lol)
@chelseajeanene I think what @kanga915 (and correct me if I'm wrong) is saying is that the choice of words were a tad vulgar and the way you phrased it made it seem as if you only saw it as a problem because of the size of her breast rather than what she was doing. Coming from someone with 36EE breasts sometimes things are a little harder and end up seeming more sexual. I can't wear any type of tank or even some tee shirts because they show my cleveage so much, I got branded a skank for it and was shamed pretty badly but it was just something I couldn't control and happened, so I see how your post could have been offense, but I understood what you meant beyond that.
Yes all of this! I'm glad I'm not the only one who found the wording to be insensitive and mean-spirited. I was a C cup in 6th grade and was name called for it. You're right about being limited in what you can wear and about assumptions that are made about you. The unwanted attention sucks.
I don't even think I disagree that much about her original point except I think it's no big deal if a little bit of boob or nipple is visible momentarily while you're latching. I find it hard to believe someone is truly exposing two entire breasts at Friendly's. If that's the case, I agree, that's unnecessary. I've spent a LOT of time around nursing moms, in public too, and went to countless La Leche League meetings where an entire room of women are nursing openly. I've never seen it done in a vulgar or offensive way.
Just cool it with the unnecessary and rude descriptions of boobs you didn't like. As if a Victoria's Secret Angel doing the same behavior is less "obnoxious." That's just ignorant.
Doesn't matter now because you're blocked :-SS (I'm pretty sure I am too so this comment won't be seen lol)
Uh oh! Lol What did you do?
Oh... You know.... Disagreed.
Shame shame on me. :-@
Definitely not allowed. Don't share any factual, scientific information either.
Reminds me of the good ole bump days.... My UO is I want to stop pumping, I hate it for a zillion reasons. And it's only a matter of time before I quit!
My UO - I found out my hospital doesn't even have a nursery, and we must room in with baby - there's no other option. I don't care if I sound like a horrible mother, but with DD1, the ONLY rest hubby and I got before leaving the hospital was when the nurses would take her for a few hours. Especially after we were both awake for roughly 30 hours straight, due to the time of day I went into labor and the hour drive at 2 am to the hospital. I'm sad we won't have that option at all.
My UO - I found out my hospital doesn't even have a nursery, and we must room in with baby - there's no other option. I don't care if I sound like a horrible mother, but with DD1, the ONLY rest hubby and I got before leaving the hospital was when the nurses would take her for a few hours. Especially after we were both awake for roughly 30 hours straight, due to the time of day I went into labor and the hour drive at 2 am to the hospital. I'm sad we won't have that option at all.
I've heard that in a lot of hospitals with these "baby friendly" policies, the nurses 'get it' and may take babe to the nurses station for a couple hours if you need rest. I'm nervous about my hospital, too. I'm having a C section and DH will not be spending the nights, so being alone in a room with my baby unable to move to get them and on narcotics doesn't seem to do anyone any good. They 'encourage' rooming in, but I'm told by pedi they do have a small nursery. So we'll see.
My UO - I found out my hospital doesn't even have a nursery, and we must room in with baby - there's no other option. I don't care if I sound like a horrible mother, but with DD1, the ONLY rest hubby and I got before leaving the hospital was when the nurses would take her for a few hours. Especially after we were both awake for roughly 30 hours straight, due to the time of day I went into labor and the hour drive at 2 am to the hospital. I'm sad we won't have that option at all.
You know what irritates me worse? Is my hospital HAS a nursery but they only allow baby in there when they take them for their first bath, shots, and such (which I'm pissed they're doing cause I wanted to do that in room :-w but it's hospital policy that they have to in the nursery and I can't even watch cause I'll be stuck in a damn bed!). The in room policy doesn't bother me that much cause I'd feel more comfortable making sure I can see LO all the time but I don't see the point in having a nursery if they won't allow mothers to utilize it.
@jbettles@JessicaS0914 we have the rooming in policy at our hospital and did last time too. I liked it because I never had to wonder where baby was. The first night after laboring all day and then c section, the nurses took baby and did their rounds with her since they weren't too busy. I got a full night sleep except to nurse. The second and third night they were too busy but still took her when they could. I think they get it and prioritize to the newest babies.
oh wow, ours does not take baby from room for ANYTHING (barring complications) - bath, measurements, first visit from pediatrician, etc - all happen in room unless you specifically ask it not to. Seems like a lot of hospitals are one extreme or the other!!
Re: UO Thursday
I totally agree, but I have to say with my first I was surprised and impressed with HOW MUCH DH stepped up. I had a rough labor and unplanned C section - I was a WRECK. Physically and emotionally. He pretty much cared for DD all day while I tried to recover and deal with breastfeeding going horribly, then went home from hospital at night to prep for our arrival home and sleep a little. Then once we went home, he was crazy attentive. God love this man.
See I agree, then I have a day like today... Took DD (2.5) to the playground, let her run the route from the stairs across the bridge to the "big kid slide" about 10 times while I hovered. Time 11 when I was too hot to chase and decided to give her a little freedom - she runs over the bridge and the big kids start wobbling it. Cue her falling beneath the rail and falling 3-4 feet into the ground, on her upper back/neck. I run over from the 5-10 feet away that I'm standing, and I get the mom or nanny above me going "it's her head, she fell on her neck". Thanks, B, I saw. I could feel all the eyes on me seething "where were you?" Luckily a good cry, some juice box, and a snack solved everything. I just hate feeling like a hoverer, but when I don't, my baby chooses THAT MOMENT to hurt herself
Goodness guys, you see nipple for two seconds before it goes in the babies mouth and some of us well endowed ladies need a minute to adjust. It's the same damn thing you would be seeing with the skimpy clothes or bikini, side and top boob. [-X
See I agree, then I have a day like today... Took DD (2.5) to the playground, let her run the route from the stairs across the bridge to the "big kid slide" about 10 times while I hovered. Time 11 when I was too hot to chase and decided to give her a little freedom - she runs over the bridge and the big kids start wobbling it. Cue her falling beneath the rail and falling 3-4 feet into the ground, on her upper back/neck. I run over from the 5-10 feet away that I'm standing, and I get the mom or nanny above me going "it's her head, she fell on her neck". Thanks, B, I saw. I could feel all the eyes on me seething "where were you?" Luckily a good cry, some juice box, and a snack solved everything. I just hate feeling like a hoverer, but when I don't, my baby chooses THAT MOMENT to hurt herself
Those bigger kids probably would've been a$$'s whether you were watching or not!
To clarify, I don't think they did it on purpose to knock her down - I think it was just bad timing/not paying attention to other kids. They were 6/7 year olds being 6/7 year olds on a playground - just ones who weren't being cautious of others around them. They sure looked frightened when she hit the ground! It was more the idea that I was getting stares for not being RIGHT THERE. Even if the bridge wasn't wobbling and she slipped and fell...at what point are we allowed to stop running around with our arms under them constantly? The part where she fell was in the middle of the structure and you have to duck to about waist level to get to that section. Even if I had been hovering, I would have been on other side of the bridge.
I, like I previously said, was 7 or 8 and this lady was just leaving it out and not even ready to start feeding. She probably had it out for a good 5 minutes beforehand and 3-4 afterwards. I get that nip slips are going to happen and I probably won't even notice (since I'm not one to stare).
Seriously? Why are you on an Internet forum asking a medical question like its 911 or your doctor's answering service? This is concerning to me and insane. How about you call your doctor first and then tell us all about it.
Coming from someone with 36EE breasts sometimes things are a little harder and end up seeming more sexual. I can't wear any type of tank or even some tee shirts because they show my cleveage so much, I got branded a skank for it and was shamed pretty badly but it was just something I couldn't control and happened, so I see how your post could have been offense, but I understood what you meant beyond that.
Also, I wish someone would just tell Peppa Pig to stuff it ... but shhh, don't tell my DD1!
I don't even think I disagree that much about her original point except I think it's no big deal if a little bit of boob or nipple is visible momentarily while you're latching. I find it hard to believe someone is truly exposing two entire breasts at Friendly's. If that's the case, I agree, that's unnecessary. I've spent a LOT of time around nursing moms, in public too, and went to countless La Leche League meetings where an entire room of women are nursing openly. I've never seen it done in a vulgar or offensive way.
Just cool it with the unnecessary and rude descriptions of boobs you didn't like. As if a Victoria's Secret Angel doing the same behavior is less "obnoxious." That's just ignorant.
My UO is I want to stop pumping, I hate it for a zillion reasons. And it's only a matter of time before I quit!
I've heard that in a lot of hospitals with these "baby friendly" policies, the nurses 'get it' and may take babe to the nurses station for a couple hours if you need rest. I'm nervous about my hospital, too. I'm having a C section and DH will not be spending the nights, so being alone in a room with my baby unable to move to get them and on narcotics doesn't seem to do anyone any good. They 'encourage' rooming in, but I'm told by pedi they do have a small nursery. So we'll see.