Skinny women & pregnancy

Theliops

Hey guys, anybody else a fatty like me? Is anybody super tall? Or what about kinda average height but like, stocky? Short but also skinny with large boobs? Small boobs but big hips? A big nose? Brown hair and freckles, and also a hammer toe?

Sorry, I might have gone too far...

kemerson531

I used to cry in HS because people would always accuse me of having an eating disorder or being sick, even though I was a healthy eater and had an incredibly fast metabolism. Not trying to do the humble brag thing at all. Being underweight, despite what you are eating, can be harmful to ones self esteem just like being overweight. Telling an underweight person to "go eat a cheeseburger" is basically the same thing as telling an overweight person to "go eat a salad."

Paige6410

MommyHeid said:

sarah92544 said:

Not to be rude but thats why there is a search engine (i searched this same topic and found lots of results) and a daily symptoms and concerns thread....just saying.

To your thought then, why are any of us asking questions on this forum? Google is there for nearly any of these questions! I think the point of the forum is to connect with someone who is going through the same thing you are, hence asking if there were anyone other women out there like her.

And @RepeatPostPolice, there were some posts that if the roles were reversed and she was asking about an "undesirable" body type, there would be an uproar of people saying they were being bashed. Just my opinion.

"Undesirable" body type? That's the word you're going with here?

Snoopylovesbelle

MommyHeid said:

sarah92544 said:

@MommyHeid of course there are skinny women on here! Hence the search engine. You look up your question if it has been posted then connect with the person if it hasnt than ask away.

Sorry, I misread your post! Apologies!

But I do think it's overkill when every time a duplicate of something is posted people feel the need to "police" the board and scare them away. If you see a duplicate post, simply don't open it? Lol

Usually when someone posts a duplicate question it's because they don't know where look or are not interested in connecting...they want their own thread. If they wanted to connect they would look around before posting and get the feel of things. And for those that don't know where to look someone usually comes along and points them in the right direction.

This thread had no question it was a "bragplaint"
There have been tons of body image threads lately big and small.

And "undesirable body type" that's just ridiculous

MommyHeid

RepeatPostPolice said:

MommyHeid said:

sarah92544 said:

Not to be rude but thats why there is a search engine (i searched this same topic and found lots of results) and a daily symptoms and concerns thread....just saying.

And @RepeatPostPolice, there were some posts that if the roles were reversed and she was asking about an "undesirable" body type, there would be an uproar of people saying they were being bashed. Just my opinion.

Actually there have been quite a few threads on this particular board with plus-size mamas asking all kinds of questions. I'm sure that probably none of them feel like they have been bashed for asking if a certain pregnancy thing will be different for them because of their size.
I presume that is what you mean by "undesirable body type" for you, and if anything in this thread is offensive, it is certainly your poor word choice.
For asking why people are "bashing" the skinny girl you seem to be doing a good job of retaliating in kind to the opposite end of the spectrum. </blockquote

mrsgetz4000

Yay for feeling like she-hulk! 158 pre pregnancy, size 8 jeans athletic build. Already at 172

jodieHxx

Happy days ;-) xxxx

Paige6410

kemerson531 said:

I used to cry in HS because people would always accuse me of having an eating disorder or being sick, even though I was a healthy eater and had an incredibly fast metabolism. Not trying to do the humble brag thing at all. Being underweight, despite what you are eating, can be harmful to ones self esteem just like being overweight. Telling an underweight person to "go eat a cheeseburger" is basically the same thing as telling an overweight person to "go eat a salad."

While it's not ok to shame anyone on body type/size, you cannot say that it's just as hard to be naturally thin as it is to be naturally heavy. Victoria's Secret doesn't hire heavy models, there has never been a plus size Miss America, you know why? Because the stigma against people that are overweight is far, FAR worse than being thin. High school sucks for just about everyone, we are not in high school any more. Do you get laughed and pointed at in the grocery store for what is in your cart? I'll bet you don't, but overweight people are judged by all of society all the time.

MommyHeid

Snoopylovesbelle said:

MommyHeid said:

sarah92544 said:

@MommyHeid of course there are skinny women on here! Hence the search engine. You look up your question if it has been posted then connect with the person if it hasnt than ask away.

Sorry, I misread your post! Apologies!

But I do think it's overkill when every time a duplicate of something is posted people feel the need to "police" the board and scare them away. If you see a duplicate post, simply don't open it? Lol

Usually when someone posts a duplicate question it's because they don't know where look or are not interested in connecting...they want their own thread. If they wanted to connect they would look around before posting and get the feel of things. And for those that don't know where to look someone usually comes along and points them in the right direction.

This thread had no question it was a "bragplaint"
There have been tons of body image threads lately big and small.

MommyHeid

kemerson531 said:

I used to cry in HS because people would always accuse me of having an eating disorder or being sick, even though I was a healthy eater and had an incredibly fast metabolism. Not trying to do the humble brag thing at all. Being underweight, despite what you are eating, can be harmful to ones self esteem just like being overweight. Telling an underweight person to "go eat a cheeseburger" is basically the same thing as telling an overweight person to "go eat a salad."</

deaddahliah

If they were trying to connect with anyone they would've looked past the new discussion button. There is a post about this issue that has been on the front page regularly. Not to mention the numerous other posts regarding the same topic.

MommyHeid

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Snoopylovesbelle

MommyHeid said:

The ladies on this forum give good advice and look out for each other. When someone is being ridiculous they are going to get called out.

MommyHeid

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Paige6410

MommyHeid said:

Paige6410 said:

MommyHeid said:

sarah92544 said:

Not to be rude but thats why there is a search engine (i searched this same topic and found lots of results) and a daily symptoms and concerns thread....just saying.

To your thought then, why are any of us asking questions on this forum? Google is there for nearly any of these questions! I think the point of the forum is to connect with someone who is going through the same thing you are, hence asking if there were anyone other women out there like her.

And @RepeatPostPolice, there were some posts that if the roles were reversed and she was asking about an "undesirable" body type, there would be an uproar of people saying they were being bashed. Just my opinion.

"Undesirable" body type? That's the word you're going with here?

For everyone who took my "undesirable body type" quote the wrong way. Everyone was saying she was bragging because she has a "desirable" body type. What would be the opposite of that? UN-desirable. So that's the word I used, for lack of a better word. It was simply used to make a point-That just because someone has a smaller frame doesn't mean they couldn't possibly have self esteem issues.

You are the only one who specifically said desirable vs undesirable. Congratulations, I think you win at TWT.

RepeatPostPolice

Hm. The way I read it the first page of this thread was mainly people expressing confusion as to the purpose of her post. "Anyone still skinny?" and no other clarification leads to an open-ended guessing game as to what sort of response the OP is looking for.

And yeah I'm going to pick apart someone's post when they start using using offensive terminology such as "undesirable." You could just call it what it is, plus size or large, rather than taking a dig at people with a different body type than skinny. I understand your indignation on behalf of a stranger who's been receiving responses you personally are offended by, but there's really no need to intentionally use hurtful words to try and make your point.

kemerson531

Paige6410 said:

kemerson531 said:

I used to cry in HS because people would always accuse me of having an eating disorder or being sick, even though I was a healthy eater and had an incredibly fast metabolism. Not trying to do the humble brag thing at all. Being underweight, despite what you are eating, can be harmful to ones self esteem just like being overweight. Telling an underweight person to "go eat a cheeseburger" is basically the same thing as telling an overweight person to "go eat a salad."

While it's not ok to shame anyone on body type/size, you cannot say that it's just as hard to be naturally thin as it is to be naturally heavy. Victoria's Secret doesn't hire heavy models, there has never been a plus size Miss America, you know why? Because the stigma against people that are overweight is far, FAR worse than being thin. High school sucks for just about everyone, we are not in high school any more. Do you get laughed and pointed at in the grocery store for what is in your cart? I'll bet you don't, but overweight people are judged by all of society all the time.

I am not trying to say that the struggles of thin people are on the level of the struggles of overweight people at all, I know that's not the case. I just wanted to point out that they exist. Telling someone to "go eat food, you'll feel better," actually can be read as offensive if you've heard it your whole life. I still get comments all the time, from friends, family, and yes, strangers, about how "unhealthily" thin I am, but I don't cry about it anymore because I'm not in High School and have learned to accept my body for what it is.

I'm really not trying to White Knight it here, but if this girl really did come here from a place of concern (albeit a very poorly worded post), simply discrediting her and telling her to go away and go eat food is not very productive or helpful.

Lljbean

Im just going to point out (again) that this is the internet and some people need to pull up their BGPs. That's Big Girl Panties, if you're unfamiliar. 

Paige6410

MommyHeid said:

Paige6410 said:

kemerson531 said:

I used to cry in HS because people would always accuse me of having an eating disorder or being sick, even though I was a healthy eater and had an incredibly fast metabolism. Not trying to do the humble brag thing at all. Being underweight, despite what you are eating, can be harmful to ones self esteem just like being overweight. Telling an underweight person to "go eat a cheeseburger" is basically the same thing as telling an overweight person to "go eat a salad."

While it's not ok to shame anyone on body type/size, you cannot say that it's just as hard to be naturally thin as it is to be naturally heavy. Victoria's Secret doesn't hire heavy models, there has never been a plus size Miss America, you know why? Because the stigma against people that are overweight is far, FAR worse than being thin. High school sucks for just about everyone, we are not in high school any more. Do you get laughed and pointed at in the grocery store for what is in your cart? I'll bet you don't, but overweight people are judged by all of society all the time.

Just because someone is skinny doesn't mean they have a Victoria's Secret body. And yes, I STILL get pointed out for being petite. And laughed at. Hence why I think these comments are ridiculous. Walk a mile in another mans shoes before you judge next tim

Yeah, I've been on both sides. It's much, MUCH easier to be thin when it comes to the public's opinion. When I had an ED after being overweight in HS, I was actually underweight and got told all the time how great I looked and to "keep up whatever you're doing." Nice try though.

kemerson531

Actually @Lljbean I'm not wearing any panties right now Yoga pants and no undies FTW!

Lljbean

RepeatPostPolice

kemerson531 said:

Actually @Lljbean I'm not wearing any panties right now Yoga pants and no undies FTW!

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apinkpelican

Meh- let’s let it go.   I don’t think she meant to brag-post and that it was just poorly worded in a forum of sensitive ladies.  She’s not a regular obviously so doesn’t know better about searching.  I don’t think I’ve seen a skinny girl post though before?   Skinny girls have babies too.  How is this any different than a heavy set person expressing concern that they aren't showing and haven't gained weight asking if anyone else is like them?

So many of us during the HDBD threads complain that they aren’t showing yet so this girl probably wants to look like she’s actually pregnant and wants to know if anyone else is having the same “problem”.   That’s just how I read it but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt.  So I see this as just another annoying "Anyone Else" thread and not a brag post.

Does this make me a WK?  I hope not… just had to pipe in.

edited:  words

kemerson531

RepeatPostPolice

@apinkpelican she didn't really express concern though. She just said she's still skinny and mentioned the fetus measurement. Not enough clarification, and you know how this board gets on interpreting things their own way.
Even when she came back she didn't clarify. We're all just mean. And according to at least one WK up there, undesirable if not skinny.
It was just annoying until the WKs stepped in. Then it was offensive.
Eta I don't think you're a WK. I think you'd be classified as an interloper.

Snoopylovesbelle

When drive by posters don't come back...or contribute to the thread they started. I assume they don't really want to "connect"

apinkpelican

I'd agree Snoop.  But I wouldn't come back to this either!! RUNNN!!!!  She obviously didn't go about connecting in the right way if that was ever her intention!  

Well looks like some DDing is happening here.

Lljbean

Oh lord. 

Snoopylovesbelle

DDing!! Quote for proof

Paige6410

DDs don't work when people quote your offensive posts. Nice try though.

Snoopylovesbelle

@MommyHeid Dirty deleting is not cool. Everyone knows what was said. If you can't take the heat be more careful with your word choices next time and own up to what you contributed

Lljbean

Snoopylovesbelle said:

@MommyHeid Dirty deleting is not cool. Everyone knows what was said. If you can't take the heat be more careful with your word choices next time and own up to what you contributed

Which, If I am remembering correctly was kind of everyone's point with the OP....hm. Know your audience maybe? Be more clear on your intentions? I dunno. Maybe that was just me.  

Joellley

Thank you to some of you for the nice & helpful comments I really appreciate it! I had no idea about the search engine because I barely know how to use this app. I've dealt with too many comments in my life about being skinny to get it from other moms when I was just trying to connect. I still barely know how to use this app so with the "dding" I'm not sure what that is but I'm not going to delete this post.. I think all moms are beautiful, if I could choose to have a baby bump, I WOULD! Some of you bully moms on here need to lighten up.. You say this isn't high school anymore but reading these comments is giving me flashbacks to high school

jessielynn1

The end.

deaddahliah

apinkpelican said:

Well looks like some DDing is happening here.

Snoopylovesbelle

@Joellley okay so you are new that's cool glad you are here. When you post it's good to come back and check if you can to clarify and to participate in the thread you created.
Your post came across badly and needed to be explained by you.
Some of it got out of hand because of WKs (white knights) saying inappropriate things.

Please don't throw the word bully around here.

You posted on the internet which is not sunshine and rainbows you need to be prepared that the answers you get you may not always like

Paige6410

TinyDancer51510

apinkpelican said:

I'd agree Snoop.  But I wouldn't come back to this either!! RUNNN!!!!  She obviously didn't go about connecting in the right way if that was ever her intention!  

Well looks like some DDing is happening here.

Is that what all of the blank posts and quoted posts are?! I was so confused!

apinkpelican

Yes, but it was the WK who DD'd (I don't know how to use this in a sentence) not the OP.  

MommyHeid

Not sure what DDing is, but I'm surely the "offender" you're speaking of. I am SO SORRY if I'm not up to date on what these silly terms mean (DD, WK). I deleted my comments because you are BULLIES, yes I said it. You don't want anyone to post on here that is new, and the few above comments prove that is true. And who cares if I did delete what I wrote? You took everything I said and twisted it to be what you wanted it to say. Who cares??! You guys take this board way too seriously! It's sad when you see so many posts on here, people get bullied by a few of you, and then say they won't be posting again. I recognize your "names" because you're always the harsh ones that people run from. Maybe it's too hard to have real life friends?! And you have to bully people on the Internet. How freakin cool are you? And you'll all probably praise yourselves for (again) running someone off this board (me).

If you're trying to "educate" someone on how the board/community works, surely there is a better way to come across than some of you do. Shame on you.