My best friend is throwing me a shower and asked for an invite list. I gave her a list of my personal friends and a few close family members. My SIL is also throwing a shower for my husband's side of the family. They recently got together and decided to throw them together as one shower. Works for me. Well tonight my husband asked me about his friends (the women)...I didn't add them to either list, not because I didn't want them there, it just didn't really occur to me honestly. For our wedding, the groomsmen's mothers threw a shower that involved those girls, so I suppose it just didn't cross my mind. I think my husband kind of has his feelings hurt now that some of his close friends aren't involved but invites are already out and I don't want to ask my bestie and SIL to host any more people (the guest list is already at 50). These girls aren't really anyone who I would hang out with, unless it was a couple's thing, so I am not even sure if they would want to come to my shower. Anyways, I guess my question is what is the etiquette on this? I don't want any one to feel left out or have my husband's feelings hurt, but I don't want to inconvenience the two wonderful women going out of their way to throw me an already large shower either.
Re: Shower Question
My cousin got married last year and we decided the invite because of travel and she had a no kids wedding. After I declined the wedding I got the invite to the shower, I felt it was just a gift grab. Did I judge her too hardly?
I did not invites any cousins to either of my showers (wedding, baby) because we are not close and I knew they would not travel. Did I mess up?
In your case it is also possible she gave the shower invite list to the host prior to you declining, or they invited all the females to the wedding that were invited to the wedding. The hostn may have just been later getting the shower invites out. I probably wouldn't side eye her too much unless she has a history of similar behavior.
Op I would talk to your hosts. Let them know you totally forgot these people, but it is important to DH they are invited. See if you can squeezes them in.