Look... Not everyone likes these names. People are just being honest in their opinions. You don't want us to lie do you? I really loved the name Stryker but everyone shut it down fast. I was bummed but not offended. I don't want my kid having a name he'll be teased with. If you don't like or care about others opinions, just choose what you love. It's your child.
I hear Stryker and think of Airplane! And now I'm showing my age.
And I think that's a neat unique name! I'm all for the unique names. There's too many original names in the world. I wish people would start naming their kids unique. I say name your kid Stryker! I'd feel proud to have a different name.
I'm not offended I just don't like when I say I don't want to change the names because I really love these names and I just get replies to pick something else. Either way, I'm still excited about these names and still can't decide which one I like best.
I don't think people are trying to tell you that Calvary is TOO religious, but more what it signifies specifically to them, i.e. crucifiction. I am not religious so I didn't know this but that's the impression I got from PP. I think that starting your own post about this signifies to people that you really want opinions, rather than the general names thread where people are more casual about listing names and moving on with some discussion. I think that's why people were more candid here. I like unusual names too, these aren't my style, but overall the more "out there" names will always have some push back no matter the group
Not Calvary. I do think cats when I think Calico, I think every person on the planet is going to think of cats... but go with whatever you all like. I like Calico Sky the best, Calico Belle just doesn't sound good together for me.
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I'm not one to care what people think. Our families love both of the names and that's all that matters. I only posted on here hoping there would be a few open minded people that could help the decision.
Thank you to the few that didn't tell me to chose something else when I stated clearly that I do love these names and will not chose anything else. That means a lot. So thank you.
If you don't care what others think then there is no need to go around calling people disrespectful and thanking those who didn't disagree with you.
And people have been "open-minded" that's what it means. Maybe you need to be open minded.
I didn't think of cats when I heard Calico. I live near Knotts Berry Farm here in California. So when I hear Calico I think of The Calico Mines Ride. It made me remember how beautiful it is inside the ride. All the pretty colors! So I love the name Calico!
Maybe it's my hormones today @kevans2345 but Jeez lady, you can't solicit opinions and then get upset when you get some that don't line up with yours. You asked for the feedback so accept it gracefully and don't be defensive.
I'm still of the school of thought that you should name your kid whatever you want. However.... I would take in to consideration what impact that name may have on them the rest of their life. There are studies out there that prove what a negative impact it can have on your child's yet unlived life to name them things that most people have a hard time with....
That's not the reason I want to name my child calico. I didn't even know until I searched the name.
My husbands dad actually knew a girl named calico from his class a long time ago and they never spoke or anything and moved away. 60 years later his sister ran into a girl on a plain named calico and he remembered her just from her name.
There's nothing negative about either of the names. I'm sorry y'all disagree. And if people want to talk bad about it behind my bad then so be it. I'm not one to care what people think. Our families love both of the names and that's all that matters. I only posted on here hoping there would be a few open minded people that could help the decision.
Thank you to the few that didn't tell me to chose something else when I stated clearly that I do love these names and will not chose anything else. That means a lot. So thank you.
Then why did you post asking for opinions? If you just wanted people to agree with you, then you should have stated that. When you ask for opinions, people will give them.
In my honest opinion, I think they are all horrible choices. But, like you said, it doesn't matter what I think because it's not my child. But I do think you should care about how this will affect your child because he/she will have to deal with it for the rest of their life. Just because you love it doesn't mean it's the best choice for your kid. Up and changing his/her name when they are older isn't so simple and it's a headache to deal with.
These people don't seem to have a negative impact from their name......
So again, why are you asking for opinions? You seem pretty set in stone about your choices so why continue to defend them? Just name your kid what you want and be done with it.
I'm not meaning to be disrespectful but it's ridiculous to ask for thoughts on a name and then get all pissy when you don't get the positive responses you wanted. A good majority of people don't like your choices and it's a good indication of how others will feel, though they may never tell you to your face.
You like them so choose whichever one you like best.
I went to high school with a guy whose parents were total hippies and legally named him Sunshine...He went by his middle name and no one knew until he was in college. His fraternity brothers/football teammates found his ID when he was a freshman and saw what his name really was and ridiculed him for the rest of his college career. I didn't go to the same college, but my best friend did and was dating one of his brothers so we all hung out in the same circle of friends when I was home, so that's how I know the story. He still hasn't gotten over that, and it really affected his self esteem.
ETA: my point is that peers can be cruel. While it's a nice idea to have a unique name, just remember that what you love, someone can twist and make it hell for them.
I think what people are trying to get across to you is that there are going to be many bad associations with Calvary (much like me naming my child Auschwitz) and that OF the two names...your best bet is Calico. For what it's worth, my MIL's dogs name is Calico and they call her Calla (cal-ugh) and I think it's pretty.
And please don't take offense to me using the dog as a reference. Our girls name is Stella and so is my aunts dog...we're fine with it.
These people don't seem to have a negative impact from their name......
Because that is their own opinion of themselves... find me a CEO of a notable company named something completely off the wall. President? Prime Minister?... anyone of substance? I can guess that if there are any it is going to be a very small club. Just chew on that for a while.
1. My dad was a pastor my entire life growing up. Church and my spirituality is a big part of my identity. And yet I understand the implications of naming a child Cross or Calvary. They aren't names, they are very loaded words. There are so many beautiful names in the Bible and even names surrounding the event of the crucifixion that you could use. What about Simon, who helped Jesus carry the cross up the hill? If you like the sound of Calvary, why not Calvin?
2. Frank Zappa named his kids Dweezil and Moon Unit. Doesn't make them real names.
3. It seems like you believe "open minded" is synonymous only with "agrees with me." You seem to be the only one here not open enough to hear what people are respectfully telling you- that giving your kid one of these names has a lot of potential negative ramifications.
4. Anecdotally, most people I know with "out there" names absolutely despise them. Your child's name becomes part of their identity. You really want to saddle them with something that makes teachers, prospective employers, friends, and colleagues do a double take as soon as they hear it?
5. Disagreeing isn't disrespectful. No one has called you names or indicated that you should leave the board or been mean to you in any way. In fact, a lot of people have taken the time to try to help you see why these names may not be in your child's best interest, and offered great alternatives. Why post looking for opinions if you don't want them? Your OP should have said, "Please only respond if you agree with me" because that's what you want. If you're set in your decision, there's really no need to ask for input, is there?
Look... Not everyone likes these names. People are just being honest in their opinions. You don't want us to lie do you? I really loved the name Stryker but everyone shut it down fast. I was bummed but not offended. I don't want my kid having a name he'll be teased with. If you don't like or care about others opinions, just choose what you love. It's your child.
I hear Stryker and think of Airplane! And now I'm showing my age.
Lol, a lot of people associated it with baseball! Strikeeeee your out!! Haha
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Look... Not everyone likes these names. People are just being honest in their opinions. You don't want us to lie do you? I really loved the name Stryker but everyone shut it down fast. I was bummed but not offended. I don't want my kid having a name he'll be teased with. If you don't like or care about others opinions, just choose what you love. It's your child.
I hear Stryker and think of Airplane! And now I'm showing my age.
Lol, a lot of people associated it with baseball! Strikeeeee your out!! Haha
Now that you mention it, that would be a BA name for a pitcher..
I'm not religious and Calvary is about dudes on horses and war and war isn't something I would want associated with my kids name. Maybe for those of us that don't know the religious Calvary association you could explain what it reminds you of. Does it have a positive association with the crucifixion- like sacrifice? If it's violent or makes other people think of violence I really wouldn't want that.
Calico also makes me think of cats like a few others have said but i love cats and think it makes for a good unique name.
I vote Calico Sky because I don't think Calico Belle flows that well but without knowing your last name it's hard to know the flow of either. .
You can name your baby however you want to. With all names that are not common, there will be different opinions on the names. Just be mindful that as your child grow up, they will see similar reactions to their name. The name may not be ideal for a fortune 500 company, but then maybe your child will be a successful entrepreneur, that won't have to worry about that. When you post your name options and ask for advice online, inevitably, you will get many differing opinions. You are doing well, not being offended by them, but also at the same time, they are simply giving your their opinions, not being disrespectful. I personally think that Calico Sky is the pretties option of your suggestions. Good luck.
We're not going back to the drawing board. We like the two names we chose. It's going to be one or the other. Our families like both names. I was hoping for more open minded responses.
Just saw this. I would go with Calico because Calvary just doesn't sound like a name.
We're not going back to the drawing board. We like the two names we chose. It's going to be one or the other. Our families like both names. I was hoping for more open minded responses.
Just saw this. I would go with Calico because Calvary just doesn't sound like a name.
Also, please remember, if you post names on a public forum, you will get varying opinions. I think everyone was very respectful. Just because they don't have the same style as you doesn't make them open minded. Everyone is different.
Also, I wouldn't recommend posting this on the Baby Names board.
Edit to add that now I think my responses were too nice. You can't take constructive criticism and are now attacking people on this board and REAL names. Not such a Christian thing to do. Calvary and Calico are not names. I feel bad that your need to be unique and stubborn will probably mean future teasing for your child.
Honestly, I am "religious" (though I hate that word) and I appreciate the name Calvary. I get it. Yes it was where Jesus was crucified, but Jesus's crucifixion has a happy ending. I vote Calvary Belle.
However, here is an excerpt from a baby name book of mine:
"As a parent, the choice of a baby name is entirely up to you you. Why should you listen to what anybody else has to say, let alone your crazy friends and relatives?
Some food for thought: the choice may be yours, but you are making it for someone else. You are just a trustee in this matter, assigned to handle the affairs of another person who is unable to act because he or she has not yet been born. And those crazy friends and relatives? They are going to be your baby's friends and relatives before long. Don't let them bully you, but don't completely ignore them either. As a group, they represent society that's going to be hearing, and judging, your child's name for a lifetime. You don't have to flag down every passing car to ask for opinions, but it's worth choose a few level-headed confidantes to air out your ideas."
To me Calvary is too significant of a word to name a child. And as soon as I hear Calico - I think of Sheriff Callie on Disney Junior. She's a calico cat named Callie. You can thank my 16 mo old!
But! Out of your choices, I would pick: Calico Sky. To me it flows the best. and reminds me of a sunset!
A mothers privilege is to give her child a name. I'm going to name him or her whatever I want. I'm sorry if it isn't something you like.
I agree. However, if you don't want honest opinions then don't waste our time asking for them.
Yes, and don't post this as its own thread if you don't want people to honestly respond. This should have been put in one of the 50 other baby name threads.
So do you plan to follow your child through life and saying please be respectful when you introduce them to people? Or when they apply for jobs? Or meet their SO parents for the first time or anything else in life? Because I can ASSURE you people will have opinions on these names and they aren't going to be positive. There are PLENTY of underused unique names out there without using random words. That's just a fact and it's not mean or rude to tell you that. You are naming another person, not yourself. That person has to live with the name and if the awkward teen years aren't hard enough, try having your name be something like Calvary.
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And people have been "open-minded" that's what it means. Maybe you need to be open minded.
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My vote is for Calico Sky!
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I went to high school with a guy whose parents were total hippies and legally named him Sunshine...He went by his middle name and no one knew until he was in college. His fraternity brothers/football teammates found his ID when he was a freshman and saw what his name really was and ridiculed him for the rest of his college career. I didn't go to the same college, but my best friend did and was dating one of his brothers so we all hung out in the same circle of friends when I was home, so that's how I know the story. He still hasn't gotten over that, and it really affected his self esteem.
ETA: my point is that peers can be cruel. While it's a nice idea to have a unique name, just remember that what you love, someone can twist and make it hell for them.
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And please don't take offense to me using the dog as a reference. Our girls name is Stella and so is my aunts dog...we're fine with it.
1. My dad was a pastor my entire life growing up. Church and my spirituality is a big part of my identity. And yet I understand the implications of naming a child Cross or Calvary. They aren't names, they are very loaded words. There are so many beautiful names in the Bible and even names surrounding the event of the crucifixion that you could use. What about Simon, who helped Jesus carry the cross up the hill? If you like the sound of Calvary, why not Calvin?
2. Frank Zappa named his kids Dweezil and Moon Unit. Doesn't make them real names.
3. It seems like you believe "open minded" is synonymous only with "agrees with me." You seem to be the only one here not open enough to hear what people are respectfully telling you- that giving your kid one of these names has a lot of potential negative ramifications.
4. Anecdotally, most people I know with "out there" names absolutely despise them. Your child's name becomes part of their identity. You really want to saddle them with something that makes teachers, prospective employers, friends, and colleagues do a double take as soon as they hear it?
5. Disagreeing isn't disrespectful. No one has called you names or indicated that you should leave the board or been mean to you in any way. In fact, a lot of people have taken the time to try to help you see why these names may not be in your child's best interest, and offered great alternatives. Why post looking for opinions if you don't want them? Your OP should have said, "Please only respond if you agree with me" because that's what you want. If you're set in your decision, there's really no need to ask for input, is there?
Edited for a typo
Lol, a lot of people associated it with baseball! Strikeeeee your out!! Haha
Baby F.......02/02/2016
Calico also makes me think of cats like a few others have said but i love cats and think it makes for a good unique name.
I vote Calico Sky because I don't think Calico Belle flows that well but without knowing your last name it's hard to know the flow of either. .
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While your names are pretty, I immediate think religious or military for Calvary and cat for Calico.
And as soon as I hear Calico - I think of Sheriff Callie on Disney Junior. She's a calico cat named Callie.
But! Out of your choices, I would pick:
Calico Sky. To me it flows the best. and reminds me of a sunset!
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Also, the comment about horses made me giggle, because I used to get them mixed up all the time, but that's Cavalry. Haha.
Oh.... Wow I missed that.... Eeek no comment on that first name....