Can we get some positivity on here?

brushesnbrunch

Seems that tempers are flaring (thanks hormones) and there's a lot of ranting and just being all around negative. Anyone have anything good happen recently that we can celebrate?

RRC216

totally agree! I notice too many ppl get upset if you start a discussion that was started weeks ago. Seriously ppl, anyone can start whatever discussion they want. They don't always have to search. Ppl make too many rude comments. We need happiness on here!!

HBirdie

Haha, this is by far the nicest, tamest board (BMB) that I have ever seen. Honestly there are times I'm shocked people aren't ruder. It's the way of the bump.

My happy is that even though I've been sick, I haven't been AS sick as I was with my last pregnancy. And that is awesome.

Also we got a cute kitty and named him Dobby.

Cstrawn

Completely agree with the rudeness!! And I believe there is a guideline asking to NOT bring up old threads due to possible negative memories and thoughts. Ah, oh well.
My positive note is that I have not gained as much weight as I had thought! I am a little pudgy and want to be super cautious not to gain too much weight. Tonight I weighed myself and have only gained like 2 lbs!! I had totally convinced myself I had gained like 10 since I thought my pants were getting tighter already.
Also- HBirdie that is an adorable kitten!!

birdieMila

Its sad that people have to be rude, why oh why. Where is the freaking peace and happiness in this world!
If you dont have anything positive or useful to say, then just dont comment.
Dont react snarky just because you would feel better ( what is really wrong in the first place, would you teach your kids this?! )


Omg @HBirdie LOVE the kitty!!!!
He has like a batman mask

The positive note: have my second ultrasound today! Excited! Gonna see little peanut again! Yeeey

miritako

Omg!!! That cat is so cute!!!! I also feel like people put too many rules and guidelines... Peace and love people!!!

Jmsmith102

Very cute @HBirdie. This is my first time around and other then a slight aversion to meat and soar boobs and tiredness, at 9 weeks I have no weight gain, nausea!! Plus me and my husband are planning to tell family's over the 4th, first grandchild on both sides of the family! Yippee

camoxley

So very true @Bfavors! I was incredibly surprised at a site where mothers are thought to encourage and support one another through this difficult first 12 weeks, where differences would be enough encouraged and praised on diversity rather than people slamming their righteous ideals down everyone's throats! People are so quick to make hateful slanderous marks to people they don't even know, but are in just as vulnerable position as everyone else. I've refused to reply towards or acknowledge the multiple hateful reply to my comments because I refuse to spread the hate and give in to their negativity until now. Thank you for bringing light to a more positive light to these boards.

On a positive note I have officially made it longer with this pregnancy than my last! First only last 6 weeks and we are currently working towards week 8!! Woo hoo! Just 2 more days until we get an ultrasound picture of our sweet baby nugget!!!

raheckmann

Thank you for a positive board!  One reason I didn't want to get on message boards like this was because of ranting and negativite.  I finally got to tell my mom yesterday that I'm pregnant!  She tried to offer me her rare ahi at lunch and I couldn't hold it in any longer when I turned it down.  I wanted to wait until my first thorough appointment next week, but the cat is out of the bag...at least to her...and to all of you  I'm horrible at keeping secrets from my mom but I'm really happy she knows.  Only about a week to go until my appointment!

northstar13

CicchettiFamily said:

totally agree! I notice too many ppl get upset if you start a discussion that was started weeks ago. Seriously ppl, anyone can start whatever discussion they want. They don't always have to search. Ppl make too many rude comments. We need happiness on here!!

Using search is actually one of the bump guidelines. It cuts down on the same questions being asked over and over. With such a huge board, it can be frustrating to read the same question over and over. People are not going to take the time to carefully and thoughtfully answer the same question over and over. It feels like a waste of time. Not to mention that it buries the other threads that have new/interesting conversations.

Asking people to search is not asking them not to post, just to look for a few minutes first. Also, Google.

Twindling

This is going to be a great week, H took the girls to our summer home for the week which means I get 3 entire evenings to myself to do whatever I want! This is a big deal y'all.

Also, we have our first ultrasound on Thuraday morning which I've been very patiently waiting for. As much of a blessing my twins were, I'm kinda hoping there's just one this time. Ya know...to experience something different.

Life is Exciting

Love the idea of a positive thread
My positive for the day so far - the car in front of me paid for my breakfast at dunkin's this morning. And we only have a couple weeks left until we move into our dream home.

CuriousKiddosMama

If you think this board has been bad, you may all be better off on another site. This has been seriously tame so far.

CuriousKiddosMama

And I'm so sorry I seriously offended some of you. I can't stand that shit now, and I won't be able to tolerate it when you all start posting ultrasounds and saying, I know it's early, but what do you think my baby is? So far it's healthy, that's what matters, not what's between its legs

bookqueen

So this thread was supposed to be positive yet there's a bunch of complaining about how other people prefer to follow the guidelines?? Okay..

Twindling

CuriousKiddosMama said:

If you think this board has been bad, you may all be better off on another site. This has been seriously tame so far.

While I agree with this, I don't think there is anything wrong with a positive post thread.

wisco29

I'm taking dd to the park today if it's not too hot.

BabyHope2013

Thank goodness there are other people that feel the same way. Every time I log on here it is such a Debbie Downer lately. There's a "bi%^& post" for every single day. I realize that everyone needs to vent, but it seems like that is all that is happening on here lately. Hoping that this board makes a turn around soon and we become a more positive and supportive community. No need to be rude to each other and put others down when they post something or make a comment. 

shannoneke

Such a cute kitten @HBirdie!! But I may be biased..he looks a lot like mine hehe!:)

My happy this week is that yesterday we announced the pregnancy to my parents! I was nervous because it's still early, but they are my parent and I felt they should know ! They were super excited and happy for us! I'm excited to finally be able to talk about it a bit more!! Also excited for the first appointment on Friday, I already have a growing list of questions ^^

LMMama

It's a holiday weekend so I'm off on Friday! I made it through two weddings last weekend. We told one of my BF's best friends that I'm pregnant on Friday night and he got so excited and teary eyed. I get my ultrasound in a week!

BabySeaTurtles

My happy this week is that there is no work on Friday! Woohoo!!! Happy Birthday America! DH has to work all weekend (law enforcement officer) but DS and I are going to see fireworks and eat BBQ. Yum!

MrsJG3

bookqueen said:

So this thread was supposed to be positive yet there's a bunch of complaining about how other people prefer to follow the guidelines?? Okay..

Right?

jeggs14

Happy that it's a short work week and I just hit 8 weeks! Unfortunately the morning sickness has also hit me, I feel like I have a constant low grade hangover lol but I have already found the cure, a handful of granola once an hour a plus when it's mixed in my yogurt!

Staying positive!!!

charliegoldengirl

Toddler keeps putting toys and things into the wrong containers . It's so cute I feel he is learning about size and shape and what fits etc. I don't mind pulling play food out of his school bus when it gets stuck, or farm animals or of his clothes drawers. Also, he is playing independently which I feel like is a good milestone or something ! They are so fun at this age!

HBirdie

I think we need some clarification- no one is saying you can't post. No one is saying you need to go back weeks and weeks to make sure no one has talked about what you want to talk about. What's frustrating is having multiple posts on the first 2-3 pages with exactly the same questions and responses. Good examples from lately would be, "Exercising while pregnant?", "Pregnancy Announcement Ideas?", and "When are you telling people?". Just to name a few. It's silly to have multiple threads asking the exact same question- it just pushes down more interesting/important topics. And when someone is redirecting you to an existing thread, it's not to be rude, it's to point you toward answers that people have already given because it's unlikely people are going to keep typing out the same things over and over again.

stacelei13

I actually stopped coming here because the negative responses have been totally ridiculous. Is it that serious? It's a pregnancy site!

brushesnbrunch

 I'm all for venting, but it just seems like all this board is and reading everyone's gripes is kind of irritating when we have the weekly threads where it's supposed to go and new threads started to complain. I guess I'm of the mindset that if you throw out your annoyances into the world that's all you're going to get back. It just makes me a cranky person. I dunno. I just wanted to read something where someone wasn't bitching about something..

kayjay44

Bfavors said:

 I'm all for venting, but it just seems like all this board is and reading everyone's gripes is kind of irritating when we have the weekly threads where it's supposed to go and new threads started to complain. I guess I'm of the mindset that if you throw out your annoyances into the world that's all you're going to get back. It just makes me a cranky person. I dunno. I just wanted to read something where someone wasn't bitching about something..

This is kind of what TB is. If people don't believe me, visit any other BMB or any of the other popular boards.

No one is being mean by saying that this isn't the right forum for everyone - each online pregnancy community is different, just like social groups in the real world.

And if anyone thinks this board is negative, I wouldn't venture elsewhere on TB. This has been completely tame.

MWM0903

This board is MUCH different than my May 2012 board was. We all supported one another and listened when someone needed support but there wasn't a daily negative gripe fest. Pregnancy is supposed to be a great thing and I am here to enjoy it with all of you. I understand that we all will have complaints about this and that However, we don't need to share every time our feelings are hurt. Further more, we don't need to correct or redirect others 24/7, if there is already a board about that topic that is great but don't feel like you should police every post. 

On a happy note, I went to the doctor today and they confirmed what I already knew, I am in fact pregnant. I go back on July 9th for my nurse follow up and to schedule the first ultrasound. 

camusoh2011

I am almost 9 weeks. We leave for vacation in a week and a half and even though we opted out of fireworks this year (in favor of a family vacation), my parents just sent us money to get some anyway. We always have a big family get together for the 4th and my younger siblings birthday party. For the last 4 years my husband and I have supplied fireworks for a big display since they live in the country and the small town display gets crowded and isn't usually worth it. It made me feel good that my parents enjoy it so much they were willing to fund it this year just so it would still happen.

kelley&rowland

Thank you! I was thinking the same thing! It's almost as if some people really get off on being rude and hateful. If this board is tame then I feel sorry for some of the other ones. As far as saying it's just the way of the Bump!?! Well I think that's ridiculous and people should hold themselves to higher standards! Especially moms! We need to raise our kids to be loving and compassionate individuals. Thanks to all those who are supportive and positive.

g0lightly8706

my happy note is even though i have known for a month now, i still get to giddy at knowing i'm preggers. every time i see that sonogram with our little sweet pea in it, i get butterflies and a huge smile just appears, even if I'm in a crappy mood. we waited so long for this to happen that i'm still very much in awe of it all finally happening! and also since i was off on my tracking, I've been stuck at 6 weeks for two weeks now.. and finally am 7 weeks now!

Shatzegirl

No nausea yet today, thank goodness! I'm also excited for the 4th of July! My hubby will have 4 days off.

HBirdie

kelley&rowland said:

Thank you! I was thinking the same thing! It's almost as if some people really get off on being rude and hateful. If this board is tame then I feel sorry for some of the other ones. As far as saying it's just the way of the Bump!?! Well I think that's ridiculous and people should hold themselves to higher standards! Especially moms! We need to raise our kids to be loving and compassionate individuals. Thanks to all those who are supportive and positive.

This is really offensive. You don't know any of us in person, and I honestly haven't seen much unkindness at all here, let alone "rude and hatefulness". There is, however, honesty and bluntness. If you want something sugarcoated, this may not be the place for you (and I'm not saying that in a rude way. There are other pregnancy forums that are more puppies and rainbows that you may like more than The Bump). The reasons for redirecting posts have been stated multiple times. Want another one? Maybe we don't want someone's m/c post to get buried among ten thousand pregnancy annoucement and exercise posts. Because we genuinely want to support people.

You don't need to feel sorry for anyone's children. I'm sure they're all doing fine.

/bingo

kayjay44

HBirdie said:

kelley&rowland said:

Thank you! I was thinking the same thing! It's almost as if some people really get off on being rude and hateful. If this board is tame then I feel sorry for some of the other ones. As far as saying it's just the way of the Bump!?! Well I think that's ridiculous and people should hold themselves to higher standards! Especially moms! We need to raise our kids to be loving and compassionate individuals. Thanks to all those who are supportive and positive.

This is really offensive. You don't know any of us in person, and I honestly haven't seen much unkindness at all here, let alone "rude and hatefulness". There is, however, honesty and bluntness. If you want something sugarcoated, this may not be the place for you (and I'm not saying that in a rude way. There are other pregnancy forums that are more puppies and rainbows that you may like more than The Bump). The reasons for redirecting posts have been stated multiple times. Want another one? Maybe we don't want someone's m/c post to get buried among ten thousand pregnancy annoucement and exercise posts. Because we genuinely want to support people.

You don't need to feel sorry for anyone's children. I'm sure they're all doing fine.

/bingo

Totally agree. Have you f*cking seen the support that's been given to any woman with a M/C, actual, suspected or threatened? You'll have to go back pages and pages to see the evidence, because we have a million posts about completely normal symptoms that could easily be covered in a daily thread.

And my standards are just fine, thank you, and my child is thriving.

KaitM5

Not so nauseous this morning!!! My mom is coming out tomorrow and we're road tripping back to MN with my daughters and dogs. Great week

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