Marital problems- could really use all prayers I can get

Pink714

i am wondering if I can get some prayers sent up for my marriage tonight. I am pregnant with my fourth baby. My husband and I were done, so this one was a surprise. I was in shock, at first, but getting excited about it. I have a clotting disorder and can't take bc, but we were using condoms and the rhythm method.
My husband and I had some difficult issues last fall. I thought we had gotten past it and were happy. This past weekend he told me he doesn't know if he loves me anymore and doesn't want to be together. I am devastated beyond belief.
I would love some prayers if you're the praying kind. If he is just unsure, prayers for him to find clarity and prayers for my strength.
I never thought I'd be "that" woman...pregnant with three kids, alone. I always saw those women as so strong! I knew I could never make it through that.
Thank-you, in advance, from a super scared mama-to-be

winnie1122

Oh I am so very sorry, I can't even imagine what you're going through but I am definitely praying for you and your husband.

kaym6

Will definately be sending some prayers your way I hope everything works out for you

BabyRut2015

**sending good vibes and prayers**

Goof luck! Hopefully it's just stress! I'm sorry you're dealing with this!

apinkpelican

I'm sorry you are having to go through this. Have you been through or tried therapy together?

jem8407

Consider it done. I am so sorry you're going through this.

Pink714

Thank you! We tried therapy last winter. But we felt like it just kept things at the surface being brought up over and over again. It seemed to do more harm than good.

Pink714

Thank you, so much, ladies! It means a lot! There is power in prayer! I've seen it before!

ChrissyD1203

I will pray for you. Relationships are hard work geez- or at least mine is. So different than the movies.

cjd&k

I'll be keeping you in mind and hoping you see better days real soon. ❤️

Brittina113

I will keep u and your family in your prayers. I am going through something similar only first child n I see n understand your fear.

scblonde007

Definitely sending prayers. "All things are possible through God." Prayers that God touches his heart and open his heart and eyes to the woman he partnered him with through life. If you havent read it the Love Dare is amazing. Me and my husband wen through this with our first daughter, and now were expecting baby #2.

TinyDancer51510

I'm so sorry. Sending prayers for both of you.

Perhaps try a different therapist? If the same issues kept coming up and not being resolved, your counselor/therapist may not be any good. They are not all created equal, believe me. He/she should be giving you tools to communicate, helping you bring up problems, work through them, and then *let them go*. You guys can't move forward if you both aren't willing to let go of past hurts and work to do better for each other. (And pastors don't always = good therapists.) I hope you can find someone who helps you. The right counselor can do a world of good if you're both willing to do the work. :-)

Knottie28750268

Prayers for you. I reccommend the book "power of a praying wife" it's an outlook changer and along with God I feel it can heal any marriage. Don't give up!

Karenin

Praying for you- I'm so sorry about this. Marriage is hard and it's awful to be experiencing tough times when you are pregnant AND have 3 LO's. I agree maybe try another counselor? And tell that counselor what you didn't;t like about the first one to see if this person can avoid the same mistakes?

LoveShrimpy

Prayers sent up for you and your little ones

SparklesC

I am so very sorry you are going through this. I just said a prayer for you and will continue to do so. Try to be strong. Maybe with some time apart he will realize he doesn't want to be without you. Be strong and know that you will be okay no matter what happens. I also agree that trying a different counselor might help because they have worked wonders for many of my friends. Good Luck. Everything will work out in the end.

Blueyedsky

Praying for you daily. You got this

mamaclownface

I just sent up a prayer for you. Prayer is a powerful thing! Don't give up hope

sojorairie

I am very sorry to hear this, and my prayers are with you.. But at least you know you have quite the support system here.

No offense, but I am very happy you posted this. Just know you are not the only one going through these scary situations. I really wish the best for you and your family and your little one on the way.

leahabattle

Praying for you.  Relationships are hard work.

Knottie1452445632

Ahh bless you & don't give up hope. Men are simple and often need time to adjust the everything including marriage. I don't think my husband ever wanted to get married - he wanted to stay with me but doesn't see the point in marriage if you are commited to someone. We went through a similar thing and he said the same things to me just 6 months after our wedding - we already had a 3 year old. I was devastated - but I tried to remain calm and gave him time and understanding and most importantly space. He went off a lot to the pub with his mates and even had some time away on holiday with them which was hard for me etc but he remained faithful. Well a couple of months passed and he seemed to slowly come back to me and wanted to try for our marriage again. We conceived no.2 not shortly after. We now are pregnant with no.4 too and have a "normal" marriage with occasional bickering and usual arguments about household jobs etc but our marriage is far from perfect and that's ok. Marriage isn't easy and needs to be worked at. I once heard a quote "a strong marriage doesn't require two strobg people, it just needs one strong person to support the other when the are feeling weak". All I can say is try and stay strong and stand by him & have hope that he'll come through. It's hard through to not get upset and want to get your own feelings across but try (even harder with being pregnant) and men can feel suffocated by it all. I really feel for you and sending you a big hug and of course prayers xxxx

shaunahf

If you did counselling and it was all surface and just things brought up over and over again then you need a different therapist. He/she wasn't giving you the tools you need to go deeper and move past With the right tools it can be done. My husband and I got divorced, a nasty one and we're able to come back together with the tools from our counselor it's not always easy but we are so much stronger now.

lawrencejl09

Sometimes we don't realize just how strong we really are. I'm praying for you and your family. :0) congratulations on your fourth blessing!

ekysel

Sending positive thoughts your way!!

Pink714

Thank you all SO SO much! Your words are beyond comforting. I do think we should try a difference counselor because I always left saying exactly that all she did was listen and not give us any tools or tip on HOW to deal with our issues!
It's sad that this happens to anyone at this time in our lives. I appreciate the words of wisdom from those who have been there!

babyhardy13

Praying for you right now. Only God can heal wounds like these!

CBWifey

Sending prayers, I'm sorry you are having to face this right now, but this too shall pass. Hugs!