Insensitive husband when sick

Panda2879

Whenever I have a really rough day, my husband seems so harsh with me. I know I'm extra sensitive and emotional especially because I feel so crappy but it really gets to me. I try to tell him but he just said I'm the one that's mean.

We can be talking about anything and just the way he speaks to me is so harsh and short. Just not sure what to do. I get upset and sometimes cry and then he just ignores me.

Anyone else feel like this? It's so upsetting.

missphil

candacemahina said:

I felt like this a little during the first trimester when I was sick, but I don't think it was as bad as what you're saying you're going through.

My husband told me later in my pregnancy that sometimes he felt helpless and didn't understand or know how to help/comfort me.

Maybe your husband is just feeling lost or inadequate. Talk it out! I'm sure it will all work out just fine. Good luck

This. He is feeling helpless and his behavior is the way he copes. Talk to him and express to him what you expect from him. It will give him something more practical to do. For example, say "when I'm feeling sick or complaining, I just need you to...."

Panda2879

Thanks ladies! He does everything around the house so it seems like I shouldn't complain. However, I would rather him take care of me by just hugging me or being sympathetic instead of taking care of dishes for once. I said it once but he doesn't seem to get it.

stephaniearthurs

When my husband is being annoying I usually remind him that I'm growing a human being inside me!

ammnam14

My first tri was so rough. Hubby was insensitive and sarcastic about me being sick, but I've learned that's how he deals with stuff. I brought it up and he confessed to just being really scared about the pregnancy and very helpless since he is so far away.

Men never get the hint. They need to be told. If you want him to cuddle you, make the guy cuddle you! Maybe order pizza for him and just cuddle on the couch. Pizza is a mess free meal he wouldn't have to clean up anything. you both win!

lupita99

@panda2879 this happen to me with my husband with the second baby, my dad notice how he was so distant and told me I was having a boy..sure enough he was a boy. With the first it was the opposite, I couldn't stand this man and every thing he did was wrong. My dad told me it was a girl and yup it sure was. This around I would somewhat get nauseous the first couple weeks with just smelling him or even a kiss. Anyhow I know this my not be true but my dad believe male have pregnancy hormones as well lol so he may just be feeling the same way you feel at times.

Panda2879

I know men are clueless but seriously....he totally ignores me and even sleeps in the other room sometimes. I can only do so much when I'm trying to deal with all these emotions and pregnancy symptoms. All I want is some attention and respect from him. Thanks for support ladies.

leannecruz

My DH was was/is the same way. He has his pregnancy mood swings too. Being our first he said that he is mostly worried about me and seeing me change is scary for him. He knows later that he probably shouldn't had acted or said something but i just try to remember that he is trying to cope with things too. I'm let a lot of things slide off my back so not to stress and call my sister or girlfriend for some love. I would say give him a break sometimes because if I push my husband to sit with me , comfort me it typically pushes him further away. He will come around! >:D<