Has anyone had a glass of red wine?

audi681

I've been considering it lately. A friend of mine, who is soooo holistic, said that a small glass of red wine and a hot bath were her best friends towards the end of pregnancy. Part of me feels... just wait- it's about 2 weeks away. Part of me feels... I've waited this long and I am uncomfortable/not relaxed. I probably won't have one. Just wondering if my nerves about it are ridiculous!

crf4

Absolutely! My doctor is very "common sense" we'll say. Babies born with FAS are born to mothers who repeatedly got drunk, not from mothers who had a glass of wine at the end of a very long and exhausting day. Obviously I wouldn't order a drink at a bar because it's very taboo but ask your mothers - they probably had a beer with you

AlexandraMarcotte

I hope I don't get slammed for saying so, but I have. Obviously not regularly but for special occasions I've poured myself a half glass of wine (and enjoyed it immensely!)

And it's funny you say that about your friend, because my MIL said that even at the end of her pregnancy, when she was stressing about labor and getting everything in order, her OB told her to pour herself a glass of wine and take a hot bath to calm the nerves. The baby has a developed liver at this point, and my OB said its really early pregnancy that is the main concern (not that this is justification to go overboard but..) a small glass couldn't hurt.

celiadever

I've honestly been too scared to try, because God forbid something is wrong with my son I would second guess every move I made during my pregnancy. My family has told me to just relax and have a glass, but I opt for sparkling cider or non-alcoholic beer and pretend. I know a glass probably wouldn't hurt, but I'm my own worst enemy. I choose to wait... But I have been told to enjoy non-alcoholic beer in your last month because it's an old wives tale that it supports lactation.

gotdiesel2007

I have a glass of wine on occasion esp if stressed and just need to relax. Obv not getting drunk.

Barley in beer is known to help with milk supply. Not an old wives tale there.

ChristyM87

I have been having an occasional hard cider since mid second trimester. My midwife even told me to have a drink if I wake up in labor to help me get more sleep so I will have strength for when labor progresses

runswithscissors86

I am all for a serving of beer or wine. But an actual serving size. I like the experience of drinking wine for a longer period of time than one serving allows. I have always been a 2 glass wino. I might only drink it 2-4 times a month but I want 2 glasses dammit ha ha. So I switched to FRE by Sutter Home. It is alcohol removed wine. I actually like the taste of the alcohol free Merlot more so than regular merlot. Plus it has all the benefits of red wine just no booze.

kmode13

I'm definitely for a glass of wine! If you are concerned, it may help to make sure you recently had a meal and are hydrated so the wine isn't hitting an empty stomach/dehydrated system

zmombie

No way!! Not worth the risk for me. Some people say it's perfectly fine, but my babies health matters more then a little relaxation. You carry that child for 40 weeks.. Since no one knows 100% that it's not going to do anything at all to that baby, then your risking giving that child problems for the rest of its life.

I'll wait.

VToman

I haven't but only because my husband and I had a deal that if our OB said no wine, I would follow the Dr's orders. If she OK'ed it, one glass of red wine occasionally would be OK. My dr said no. So, I haven't had any... but, I cannot wait for my first glass!

ChristyM87

zmombie said:

No way!! Not worth the risk for me. Some people say it's perfectly fine, but my babies health matters more then a little relaxation. You carry that child for 40 weeks.. Since no one knows 100% that it's not going to do anything at all to that baby, then your risking giving that child problems for the rest of its life.

I'll wait.

Wow. A little harsh telling those of us in a thread that don't see the risk in an occasional drink that we could br "giving that child problems for life" Lots of European mom's drink during pregnancy with no issues. The key is an occasional drink and not binge drinking. Most of the big studies that have shown problems with drinking during pregnancy on a casual basis also has mom's that were using street drugs, not a good study sample at all.

e1223

Yes, I've probably had about 10 glasses total throughout my pregnancy - usually I don't even drink the whole glass, and I have it with a meal. It truly is not an issue. I also have coffee daily, and on occasion have had sushi, soft cheeses, etc. I was very cautious during my first pregnancy, but by the second and now the third, eh - basically the things I don't have are any of the drugs you aren't supposed to take (notably ibuprofen) or any sort of hard liquor. 

PreggerBarto

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jerseygirl227

I would LOVE to, but haven't.  Doc says no.  Plus, I did not know I was pregnant until 8 1/2 weeks and, prior to that time, I drank quite a bit (was on vacation three times during that time period).  I'd feel too guilty to have anything.

I don't fault anyone who does though.  Too each their own.  

LittleRue

Yes probably about 5 glasses total in the last 8 months with dinner. I might of had more but it doesn't really sound good. Only thing I want is fruit, ice and salt lol
I'm ready for a Margarita as soon as this little girl is out.
I think relaxing with a glass of wine is just fine and probably better than being stressed out.

irsam

I think it's totally selfish baby didn't choose a drink. We choose so when pregnant body belongs to baby. I think and know it's unsafe. Not all doctors will say that because they probably don't care. Say I'm harsh I'm just honest and for the baby 100%. Would you even breast feed and drink ? It's ridiculous you can't wait a few short weeks ? 40 weeks isn't long. It's not needed it's a negative want.

gotdiesel2007

irsam said:

I think it's totally selfish baby didn't choose a drink. We choose so when pregnant body belongs to baby. I think and know it's unsafe. Not all doctors will say that because they probably don't care. Say I'm harsh I'm just honest and for the baby 100%. Would you even breast feed and drink ? It's ridiculous you can't wait a few short weeks ? 40 weeks isn't long. It's not needed it's a negative want.

I copied this from the Second tri board bc well I love it.

groovylocks said:

BoomBarian said:

  I can't resist this thread!

 I think it's important to note that the reason women drink more freely, with less judgement and guilt, in other countries vs the US is due to litigation and our indulgent society. American doctors are so afraid that if they tell a woman that moderate alcohol consumption is okay, a woman wont know what 'moderate' means and will end up drinking a few glasses of wine a day, develop symptoms of FAS, and sue the doctor who told her it was 'okay'.

     Show me a study that links anything less than 3 glasses of wine a day to FAS. I'd be interested to see it. Alcohol is medicinal and a glass of wine daily is recommended for a heart-healthy lifestyle. Heavy drinking and binge drinking are the bad guys here-not the moms who wanna relax with a lovely glass of fermented red grapes.

     " The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) strongly urges women not to ignore the public health warnings associated with consuming alcohol while pregnant." 

  '...strongly urges women not to ignore the public health warnings...' is about as close to saying no as they get. 

https://www.webmd.com/food-recipes/wine-how-much-is-good-for-you

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/to-drink-or-not-to-drink/

And here is a good one about what other countries' OFFICIAL/PUBLIC stance is: https://iard.org/Policy/Policy-Resources/International-Guidelines-on-Drinking-and-Pregnancy

     JS, don't wanna drink? Cool, don't. But judging a mom who imbibes doesn't make that mom look like an ill-informed bad person.

melavalos

I'm not a huge wine drinker but have occasionally had a sip from my husband's glass of beer, maybe 2 or 3 times total since conception. Can't wait to be able to enjoy a nice cold one all for myself! \:D/

fghmama6701

irsam said:

I think it's totally selfish baby didn't choose a drink. We choose so when pregnant body belongs to baby. I think and know it's unsafe. Not all doctors will say that because they probably don't care. Say I'm harsh I'm just honest and for the baby 100%. Would you even breast feed and drink ? It's ridiculous you can't wait a few short weeks ? 40 weeks isn't long. It's not needed it's a negative want.

Right... our doctors probably don't care about our babies... makes lots of sense...

Yep, I drink the occasional glass of Cabernet. It's actually been something I've craved in the last month. My doctor has told me that nearly everything is okay in moderation, within reason - obviously no smoking and street drugs. I've also eaten sushi, soft cheese, unpasteurized honey, and cold lunch meat. I even took ibuprofen once - shocker. Guess my doctor and I don't care about my baby. Haha!!

taruuh

I had a couple glasses throughout my pregnancy.

irsam

Haha

irsam

Haha ! Back at ya !

bethanylynn456

My neighbor swears that a long walk and glass of wine set off her labor, as recommended by her doctor! I gave it a try the other night, no luck : ) I prob won't do it again but it was pretty darn good.

ktabs

Yep! I have had a glass probably every other week since second trimester. Well not lately but it doesn't sound good anymore. But I have no problem with a glass.

Numajawara

I never had a "drink" before (religious reasons) but I know people who did and their baby still came out healthy...

But from the looks of this thread, it looks like I'm 'missing out' on drinking oh well

daniellelea1985

An occasional glass of wine is fine. I've only had for special occasions... did last pregnancy too. And yes... I drink while breastfeeding too. No need to pump and dump as long as you're not buzzed (but I always keep some freezer stash on hand just in case)

Moderation....don't be a lush.

lovehorse77

No. I have not and would not consume any alcohol (amongst other things).

MrsJIsbell

jerseygirl227 said:

I would LOVE to, but haven't.  Doc says no.  Plus, I did not know I was pregnant until 8 1/2 weeks and, prior to that time, I drank quite a bit (was on vacation three times during that time period).  I'd feel too guilty to have anything.

I don't fault anyone who does though.  Too each their own.  

That's kinda where I am, we also found out pretty late, actually really late into our pregnancy. By the time I had my first OB appt he guessed I was about 12 weeks after doing a vaginal exam. We did an ultrasound at my following appointment to make sure, turns out I was 18 weeks already!! (I am irregular and it's not uncommon for me to skip periods, have short, or light ones) I had what I thought was a period in December. Anyway, not knowing I was pregnant I continued with life as usual which did involve drinking most weekends. I cried so much at that first appointment. My Dr asked how heavily/frequently I drank then said he would not recommend an abortion based on what I told him (I felt relieved & scared at the same time). He expects it won't be a big deal but honestly it's something that still stresses me out.

I've read that it's perfectly safe to have a beer or serving of alcohol during your pregnancy (especially late) but at this point, I just can't take that chance.
I have been tempted during those hot Texas days to take a sip out of hubs beer but I haven't done it.

audi681

Just to respond to a comment above, not sure by who... I do plan on drinking and breastfeeding! That might be a taboo thing to admit, that I am consciously planning to do it. Many women have told me that a low alcohol stout will help the secondary milk flow in easier, and there is such a minuscule amount of alcohol that reaches he baby, it is harmless. I even asked the lactation nurse at my Breastfeeding class about it, to be sure, and she said there is no harm.

KAR8706

I've had the occasional glass of wine, like PP's have said in moderation it is ok and recommended by some doctors. If you chose not to drink at all then I respect that. Everyone is different.

zmombie

ChristyM87 said:

zmombie said:

No way!! Not worth the risk for me. Some people say it's perfectly fine, but my babies health matters more then a little relaxation. You carry that child for 40 weeks.. Since no one knows 100% that it's not going to do anything at all to that baby, then your risking giving that child problems for the rest of its life.

I'll wait.

Wow. A little harsh telling those of us in a thread that don't see the risk in an occasional drink that we could br "giving that child problems for life" Lots of European mom's drink during pregnancy with no issues. The key is an occasional drink and not binge drinking. Most of the big studies that have shown problems with drinking during pregnancy on a casual basis also has mom's that were using street drugs, not a good study sample at all.

To each there own.. She asked, I said no and gave my reason why. I didn't attack anyone. So if you feel I did so, then that's on you.
Being pregnant we risk so much as it is. Doctors say yea zophran is safe. Sure Tylenol won't hurt. Yea antidepressants are okay... Now look? Years and years ago they thought it was okay to smoke while pregnant.. Turns out it's not.
All I said was IM not willing to risk it. Take it how you will.

wheresilenceismusic

At 34 weeks, DH and I asked our doctor for a restaurant recommendation after a checkup.  He suggested this great little spot -- farm-to-table foods, excellent wine selection.  He 100% told me that I should get a glass of wine and even recommended a certain type for us to try.

That dinner was by far the best that I've had all pregnancy (thanks to the wine)!  I haven't had another glass since, but I think I might tonight after reading this thread.  

ANGELAV310

I've had a glass of red wine once in a while as well. Doctor told me that after 11 weeks it would be safe. I've only had it with dinner on special occasions. I haven't had any beer or mixed drinks and can't wait to have a COLD beer as soon as the baby comes.

Savanna111911

I haven't but I don't really side eye anyone who has an occasional glass here and there. For me I think it's just been put in my head so long that it is not ok that I am just not ok with the minuscule risk. I know that there are a lot of things that can be wrong with babies when they are born and I know if I did drink (or really do anything else not recommended by a doctor) I would always second guess whether or not t was my fault.

But for those who are comfortable with it, I say live and let live.

jesicabrennan

irsam said:

I think it's totally selfish baby didn't choose a drink. We choose so when pregnant body belongs to baby. I think and know it's unsafe. Not all doctors will say that because they probably don't care. Say I'm harsh I'm just honest and for the baby 100%. Would you even breast feed and drink ? It's ridiculous you can't wait a few short weeks ? 40 weeks isn't long. It's not needed it's a negative want.

How very judgemental. Um yes. I breastfed for 2.5 years I definitely drank while breastfeeding. Do some research your milk is not a direct tap to your child, it's not like feeding them a glass of wine. I don't know any Dr who says it's not ok to drink while breastfeeding. I'm not talking about getting shitfaced and then immediately breastfeeding but nursing your baby to sleep, enjoying a few glasses of wine and nursing baby several hours later is fine!

sschwege

irsam said:

I think it's totally selfish baby didn't choose a drink. We choose so when pregnant body belongs to baby. I think and know it's unsafe. Not all doctors will say that because they probably don't care. Say I'm harsh I'm just honest and for the baby 100%. Would you even breast feed and drink ? It's ridiculous you can't wait a few short weeks ? 40 weeks isn't long. It's not needed it's a negative want.

@irsam

I have been pregnant and/or BFing for the last 5 1/2 years straight, are you telling me you wouldn't have had a single drink for half a decade if you were me?  Added to the fact that I will probably BF until about 2, so by the time I am done BFing this baby we are talking more like 7 1/2 years.  I am not a huge drinker by any means, maybe one a month when not pregnant, but even for someone like me, 7 1/2 years without a drink...not going to happen!

OPer: With my first I had half a glass of champagne at a wedding.  With my second 1/2 a glass of wine on our Babymoon and a Mimosa on Christmas morning.  With my third I have had one glass of red wine again on our Babymoon.  All after my first tri.

mirrenrue

Since late second trimester I will have a glass of red wine and maybe a few times before that; when I got pregnant I had to stop taking 60 mg of anxiety medicine. The times I would while pregnant were because it would soothe me- I was having an anxiety attack and hyperventilating. That episode felt ten times more damaging to my body and baby than one two or three glasses of red wine ever would. And not only that, I know a pregnant woman who smokes her whole pregnancy every pregnancy and has even had two premies. She chain smokes more than my husband who is not pregnant. Basically my point is, you can judge all you want but there is always something worse out there. Don't be that person.

irsam

I am having my 7 th child and I haven't ever had a drink with any. I understand if some people didn't know while carrying a child but knowing isn't fair to the baby . Would you smoke too ? Seriously it's your hold kit my problem but if one ones to relax and believes a glass of wine will help them then imagine how relaxed the baby feels. But it's ok have fun drink up.

gotdiesel2007

irsam said:

I am having my 7 th child and I haven't ever had a drink with any. I understand if some people didn't know while carrying a child but knowing isn't fair to the baby . Would you smoke too ? Seriously it's your hold kit my problem but if one ones to relax and believes a glass of wine will help them then imagine how relaxed the baby feels. But it's ok have fun drink up.

Couldn't understand most of that but I'm going to guess that you didn't care to read my post or the research attached to it. In that case all your saying is opinion and judgement. I also wonder after 7 kids how you don't know how the human body works. It's not like we are force feeding our  kids alcohol. It is processed by our body then the placenta.
And to answer your question would I smoke? No, I quit years ago. However I wouldn't judge a mother who does knowing how addictive it is and I also wouldn't come on here with and uneducated opinion, telling people their are bad mothers.

oneblessedmess

I haven't but I don't really drink at all. I don't like the taste of alcohol and I've only ever tried one wine that I've kinds liked. The only wine we ever have in the house is the wine I use to cook with. However I haven't completely abstained from other stuff that is supposed to be "bad" for us, like cold cuts and soft cheese, so I can't judge, nor would I want to. I don't believe an occasional glass of wine will hurt an unborn child.

jjames2014

I've had a a few glasses of prosecco during this pregnancy. Red wine is my life when not pregnant but it's to acidic for me now! I also breastfed and drank in moderation with my first. I am a nurse and a lot if my co-workers (nurses and doctors alike) have drank a few glasses during their pregnancies. It's better than taking anxiety or other meds in my opinion. I support other mommies with their choices and am not judgmental-it is sad that some women are so judge mental. Plus my doctor sad it was fine in moderation-and I know she cares about my baby and I!