I'm a FTM. My Sisters-in law are throwing me a baby shower and have asked me to send them a guest list. They told me upfront that it didn't matter how many people I invited. I'm not big on huge crowds and just want my family (which is actually pretty big anyway) and my 4 best friends to be there. I contacted my mother-in-law and asked for her list for my husband's family to be invited to the baby shower. And I literally said my husband's "family." However, her list also has a bunch of her neighbors and her friends that neither my husband or I have even met before. I have never even heard her talk about them by name. I know that these people will most likely not come (they live 3 hours away), but might feel obligated to send us a gift or something. I hate the thought of them thinking that I'm being gift grabby. Do you think they will know that it is my MIL's doings and not think I'm rude? Should I say something to my MIL? I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I also feel really weird having my SIL's send invitations to these women who don't know me or my husband at all.