TMI but I could use some help!

fithen13

I'm 21 weeks and have been restricted from having sex due to marginal placenta previa. My husband and I do some things still but its all really one sided. He doesn't want to touch me for fear of hurting me or the baby. Does anyone know what we could try to equally get relief? I know this is a personal problem but I can't find a solution.

FrozenMommy

Silver bullet...

amberrmariee20

Are you still aloud to orgasm ? Or is that restricted as well ? If your aloud, get a vibrator ?

bbiutmcph

Well the restriction from sex usually means no orgasms so sadly sex wise it is probably going to be one sided.  You could always have him give you a nice massage or foot rub.  When pregnant sometimes that is better than sex.  Otherwise I would just encourage intimacy with cuddling, enjoying things together like the movies, going out to eat, or whatever you two enjoy.

babealertz

Don't know how to help, just wanted to say I am in the same boat. I was told that, though they were not putting me on pelvic rest, nothing could go inside, but I could still fool around in other ways. The last time I got close to an orgasm, I ended up having Braxton Hicks for an hour, which really scared me because of the placenta previa. So now I am on self-imposed pelvic rest. It sucks. My next ultrasound to check on the position of the placenta isn't scheduled for another month. Another long, frustrating month.

fithen13

She just said nothing in the vagina. Which I took as I could still have orgasms.

orangeivy

Same boat here with placenta previa.
My midwife told me absolutely nothing in the vagina, no sex/toys/fingers... Nothing. Unfortunately no stimulation or orgasim's. (Sucks eh)

Trying not to think about it too much. Just getting a whole other side of intimacy with my man. I'm encouraging him to relief himself, and he's supporting me with cuddles and back/foot rubs.

It's going to be 20 weeks w/o sex, and then I hear from friends that if you have a vaginal birth, most women won't want to even try to have sex after birth for quite some time.,. Then the tiredness and stress from baby... So maybe we'll have sex again once baby leaves for college?? lol
Eek! Hope it's not that long!!

Kristyhana

I am on pelvic rest and my doc said I could try an orgasm but if it causes too many BH that I should refrain because those could also cause bleeding. I tried once and got severe BH. Even touching my nipples causes them for me. So I am SOL. Man a back rub sounds fantastic though. I'm going to request that next time.

amberrmariee20

@orangeivy I gave birth to my son vaginally, he was 9 lbs 7 oz, I had lots of stitches.. I had sex about 3 weeks after my son was born, but I was nervous as hell that it was going to hurt ... But it didn't hurt... And I didn't really feel anything for a few weeks after that... I don't know if that was because the fear of hurting or just because I was scared to get pregnant again. I just wasn't into it lol

mandala1107

Pelvic rest here. Complete placenta previa. However my doctor said just no sex. I'm still allowed to orgasm, she said to "get creative" just no vaginal penetration. If anything feels not right or cause cramps/bleeding, she said stop it all until next appointment (ultrasound). In my experiences reading these threads, everyone's doctor says something different. I was very thankful to read some of these before finding out about the placenta previa. I knew to ask the extra questions. I think it is perfectly fine to call your nurse's line to ask for clarification if you are concerned or curious.

J1D

If you are allowed to orgasm then I say get a good vibrator, and ask for a back/foot massage while you enjoy your electric buddy.