@BrooklynBroussard that is hardly disgusting!! I see your Costco pizza and I raise you McDonald's cheeseburger and Taco Bell crunchwrap supreme (both in the past week) ) My friends think I'm gross but when I'm hungry, I need to eat NOW!
@BrooklynBroussard I was in no way offended as i agree with your pov, but one slice of pizza?! Honey, i made my husband go to the store yesterday afternoon for a huge tomato and cheese foccacia bread. Ate that, still hungry, so sent him to Silvermine for a bigass sub sandwich which i devoured. We then had dinner about an hour later. Yesterday was baaad lol.
I'm so surprised at all the negative reactions! I think it's beautiful for a man to get a special gift for the woman who has his child! Big or small, cheap or expensive, it doesn't matter, it's the thought!
I'm so surprised at all the negative reactions! I think it's beautiful for a man to get a special gift for the woman who has his child! Big or small, cheap or expensive, it doesn't matter, it's the thought!
@paapsa The negative reaction is coming from the expectation that you should get a gift. If your SO (not always a man, just wanted to point that out) chooses to do that, good on him. But to expect or demand certain gifts is just kind of icky and really destroys the whole "it's the thought" argument.
Nobody talks about pregnacy and childbirth more than me, irl. But I'm still am adult woman and don't need cute names to express an idea or concept. Push present sounds like what happens after a rough week of not pooping if I'm really being honest. And i think the name/expectation is the real issue. We can afford a gift but i just think it cheapens what we both go through. Yeah, i physically labor, but he has to stand by with no control and very little say and watch me "suffer"(in quotes cause it doesn't really count as suffering imo). Partners don't have it easy. My last birth was so fast and intense that right after she was out and i was all blissed out on oxytocin he ran to the bathroom and threw up. Not out of disgust, just from the adrenaline. I felt bad for him.
Nobody talks about pregnacy and childbirth more than me, irl. But I'm still am adult woman and don't need cute names to express an idea or concept. Push present sounds like what happens after a rough week of not pooping if I'm really being honest. And i think the name/expectation is the real issue. We can afford a gift but i just think it cheapens what we both go through. Yeah, i physically labor, but he has to stand by with no control and very little say and watch me "suffer"(in quotes cause it doesn't really count as suffering imo). Partners don't have it easy. My last birth was so fast and intense that right after she was out and i was all blissed out on oxytocin he ran to the bathroom and threw up. Not out of disgust, just from the adrenaline. I felt bad for him.
@CaitLewis15 at least one of my friends keeps her finances separate from her husband, like they have mine, yours, and ours accounts. I thought this couldn't possibly continue once she had a baby and stopped working, but nope, still happening. I wanted to ask her WTF??? but didn't want to get into it. Apparently she is just eating up her own savings account to pay for "extras" like yoga classes. She actually did get a push present, a really nice cappuccino maker, which I imagine was paid for out of her husband's account. I guess. I don't really get it.
My husband and I also keep separate accounts, just mine and his, no ours. We split bills and certain purchases, but everything else is separate. It's what works for us. But still, the thought of a "push present" makes me gag.
Lurking from N15...
We have a joint account for bills and separate accounts for our own interests. This way, if I want to buy a handful of new nail polishes or if my husband wants to buy another R/C car, we can spend our own money on it. If we go out to dinner or buy groceries, it gets paid out of our joint account. If one of us wants to treat the other, we can. It works for us. That being said, I also have no interest in receiving a push present.
Nobody talks about pregnacy and childbirth more than me, irl. But I'm still am adult woman and don't need cute names to express an idea or concept. Push present sounds like what happens after a rough week of not pooping if I'm really being honest. And i think the name/expectation is the real issue. We can afford a gift but i just think it cheapens what we both go through. Yeah, i physically labor, but he has to stand by with no control and very little say and watch me "suffer"(in quotes cause it doesn't really count as suffering imo). Partners don't have it easy. My last birth was so fast and intense that right after she was out and i was all blissed out on oxytocin he ran to the bathroom and threw up. Not out of disgust, just from the adrenaline. I felt bad for him.
I've heard that first bowel movement after labor is a tough one. Can I ask for a push present after that? I'd probably have to show proof though, huh?
Haha brings me to a funny story ! So after I had my son, they gave me stool softeners to take. But I was still scared to go poop. Eventually I had to, and it wasn't bad at all, didn't even hurt. I was terrified though like trying to hold it in terrified.
My 4 yo is a poop holder. She turns into a monster and the second she goes she acts like she wasn't just acting like the chick from the exorcist. That first gif pretty much sums it up perfectly.
Re: Push presents
@paapsa The negative reaction is coming from the expectation that you should get a gift. If your SO (not always a man, just wanted to point that out) chooses to do that, good on him. But to expect or demand certain gifts is just kind of icky and really destroys the whole "it's the thought" argument.
We have a joint account for bills and separate accounts for our own interests. This way, if I want to buy a handful of new nail polishes or if my husband wants to buy another R/C car, we can spend our own money on it. If we go out to dinner or buy groceries, it gets paid out of our joint account. If one of us wants to treat the other, we can. It works for us. That being said, I also have no interest in receiving a push present.
Haha brings me to a funny story ! So after I had my son, they gave me stool softeners to take. But I was still scared to go poop. Eventually I had to, and it wasn't bad at all, didn't even hurt.
I was terrified though like trying to hold it in terrified.
I was all like ....
Then afterwards I was like ....