I am incredibly torn and thought it would be a good to post here to hear other mother's thoughts/feelings/experiences.
I have a smart, wonderful, very wild almost 3 year old daughter. I love her beyond what I ever thought possible. I have become a SAHM and love that I am able to watch her grow and flourish all day (although I am completely exhausted...lol. Work was so much easier...lol). I want to travel and show her the world and share every experience possible.
My mother passed away a few months ago which I am devastated about for many reasons but one main reason is she is not going to be able to do all things she wanted to do with my little girl. So I feel I need and want to make sure she has the experiences she would have had with my mother.
So here is where my issue lies. I always thought we would have 2 kids. My husband goes back and forth on having a second child for practical reasons i.e. We live in the city and have a very small 2 bedroom apt. But some days he says we will make it work, etc. But I am really struggling on deciding if we should have another child. For one it saddens me my mom will not be here to even meet my second. And can I devote enough time to 2 kids to share all life's experiences with them? I mean the cost of traveling with a family of four...yikes! Apart of me feels filled emotionally with my one little girl yet apart of me wonders if I am doing her an injustice by not giving her a sibling.
So I solicit your advice and experiences...Did having a 2nd child take away a lot of attention from your first? Do children really need a sibling? Does anyone have kids 4 years apart and did it help/hurt that your first was several years older? If you have an only child what are the positives/negatives? What was your aha moment when deciding not to have another child? And lastly I would really love anyone that has really struggled with the decision themselves and how they eventually decided.