We're planning on our baby coming any day now (FTM), and we live across the country from both sets of parents. Our plan was for our moms and some immediate family to come out to meet and help with the baby right away (not all at the same time), and then later this summer to take the baby to each of our hometowns for a meet the baby party (I didn't go back for showers or anything; this would be the only baby-related party). My mom is hosting in my hometown. She's rented a pavilion on the beach and will get some simple catering of some kind. The invitations will say something like "come and meet baby Last Name" and have the info.
Here's my problem. My MIL also offered to host a party for us/the baby at her house (different state), and we set the date and everything. I was hoping it would be very similar in style to what my mom is planning. Yesterday she sent out a draft of the invitation, and the baby wasn't even mentioned! It said "invitation to Last Name family gathering," and then it listed his parents' names and all of his siblings' names along with their children in descending birth order. She didn't even put "Baby Last Name" along with DH's and my names, she just put the two of us. So WTF? It's not a baby party after all, it's just a Minnesota summer garage party! She also didn't ask him/us if there were any friends that we wanted invited, which there are (just a few, it is mostly family).
DH says he doesn't care what it's called because the baby will still be there and people will still get to meet him. I feel pretty blindsided. I do want it to be explicitly about meeting my baby! I don't think that is unreasonable, especially since that's what his mom agreed to do. I wouldn't have agreed to go to his hometown with a two month old after just having seen his parents a month prior unless we were doing this.
What say you all? Am I being a brat and AW, or is she being weird? I don't want to push it with DH if it is just me, but he will stand up for us to his mom if I ask him to. Maybe it was all a misunderstanding? Should I just let it go?