2nd in a Row

alitria

I had my first miscarriage on Halloween of last year at 12 weeks, after having a normal ultrasound and hearing a healthy heartbeat at 8 weeks. 

 

A week and a half ago, I got a positive pregnancy test (three actually, I wanted to be sure, including a digital) and was cautiously optimistic.  Yesterday I started bleeding and after talking to the nurse this morning, she confirmed I'm almost certainly having another miscarriage.  In some ways, this is easier because at 5 weeks I hadn't heard a heartbeat, but in others it's so much harder because once is an unfortunate event, especially after you hear a heartbeat, but no reason to think it will happen again.  Everything I'm reading says it's extremely rare to have two in a row and I'm worried that I'm just too old.  I'm 37 and I have a son who will be three next month but that doesn't stop this from being incredibly painful.  I'm hoping to hear back from my doctor soon and find out what's next.  I know there's nothing they can do about this pregnancy but I'm wondering if they will decide to check and see if there's a cause or if they'll just say it's unfortunate but not much they can do.  I'm going in for a blood draw today and Wednesday, maybe she'll have more answers for me then.

kimey1

Will keep you in my thoughts.
I asked for tissue testing after my mmc but it bad been a while since the baby died so it was unsuccessful. I hope you can ask for yours and you get results. I think it cost us about $700 for that assessment (my share to pay with insurance covering the rest).

Hope you stay positive and see your beautiful son as hope. ❤️

valleric

I'm so sorry!

rachrobertson

I am so sorry for your losses. Are you rh negative and there is a chance you didn't get rhogam after your miscarriage last year? If so, your body may have antibodies that will cause you to miscarry. I hope you get the answers you need from your doctor.

Synnovus

I'm so sorry for your losses! I had 3 loss before I got tested, but talk with your doc and see what she says. If she want to wait with testing remember that to miscarriage 3 times on a row happens only to around 1% of couples who are ttc(in other words 99% have success) And with testing there is at least a 50% chance that they will not find any cause for why it is happening. I've recently gone through this and got the answer for mine and all test are fine - no cause identified. However, you should anyway expect to be more closely monitored through out your next pregnancy. FX for you and good luck!

MrsGargoyle

I am so sorry for your losses. While many doctors wait until the 3rd m/c to begin RPL testing, at 37 you have grounds to push for further testing. At the very least, basic blood work to check very common things such has thyroid and other endocrine levels that can falter and contribute to m/c. Best of luck moving forward, and never be afraid to be a strong advocate for yourself.

alitria

Thanks for your support and ideas.  I am Rh positive and I currently take thyroid medication and my levels are well within the normal range.  I had them checked last time when I found out I was pregnant and they were in the lower end of the normal range so she bumped me up slightly as a precaution (but still in the normal range.)  I'm also not having symptoms of my thyroid being low and I've always had symptoms before when there was a problem. 

They also checked all of my vitamin levels and found them to be normal.  I have a family history of my grandmother, aunt and cousins needing progesterone to maintain their pregnancies so I'm hoping she will consider that.  I was scheduled to begin progesterone at week 16 of the pregnancy with my first miscarriage because my first son was a preemie.  I'm hoping my doctor will be willing to consider that if I get pregnant again.  I had my hCG level checked yesterday and I'm supposed to go tomorrow at the same time for another blood draw.  After she gets those results she's going to call me and we can discuss more options then. 

jdubs0891

I'm so sorry for your losses.. I don't have much experience on your situation but I have had one mc recently (it was my first pregnancy) and I hope everything works out for you. Keeping you in my thoughts.

vmcmkb1

I'm 36 and have just had my second miscarriage in a row. The first was at 16 weeks now this one at 9w. My Dr is sending the tissue off. I to am rh negative and concerned about getting pregnant. With this baby I was on clomid after Ttc for over a year. I have two healthy children 10 & 6. It's scary to think about trying again.

alitria

That's the hardest part.  I'm not ready to give up on having two kids but the thought of going through this again makes my stomach hurt.  After the first time, I told myself it wasn't likely to happen again and I should just relax but I was so worried and when I saw I'd started bleeding, I wasn't even surprised, I just knew.  Now I feel like the unlikely can, and will, happen to me so I feel like I won't be able to be happy or excited until I am holding a healthy baby.  Even if I do get pregnant again, I'm resigned to the idea it won't last.

MrsCliffwood

I am 34 and am almost certain I am going through my 2nd m/c. Both around 6 weeks. Need to see the doc to confirm but it exactly the same as the last one so I am pretty sure. It's so hard to stay positive. We are trying for our first and sometimes it just feels like it will never happen. It took us over a year to conceive the first time and then only 3 months the 2nd so I am hoping (if this is confirmed mc as i suspect) that it won't take so long again.

A positive story which may give some hope - I have a good friend who m/c twice in a row, one at 9 weeks and the next at 16 weeks. she now has a beautiful baby daughter. Another friend m/c at 6 weeks then again at 8 weeks and also now has a beautiful baby daughter - followed by twin boys a few years after that.. So try not to feel disheartened. It really can have a positive outcome. SO sorry for your losses.

alitria

Best of luck to you as well, it's such a difficult process.  I have several women in my family who have had numerous miscarriages and also had successful pregnancies so I'm hoping I can eventually be successful as well.  I hope you will be too.