I could write a book on this, but from the top of my head:
1.) You're showing this much already, I didn't show unless I was 6-7 months! (Yes, I'm showing! I'm 5'1" and have a short torso, I'm going to be huge and I know it.)
2.) You guys aren't married and you're pregnant, what did your mother say? (No, but we've been together for almost 3 years and living together for 2. My mother isn't concerned because she knows I am a grown woman and capable of making my own decisions)
3.) Oh you're ___ many weeks, I (or my mother, sister, cousin, friend) had a miscarriage about this time. Are you worried? (Yes, I've been trying to have a baby for almost 6 years (4 with my ex and 2 with my current fiancé) and thought I was infertile (diagnosed with PCOS) I have been scared shitless since the day I found out I am pregnant. I'm not trying to be insensitive but I don't want to hear about your horrible miscarriage sorry when I'm ready terrified about losing this baby and pray everyday for a healthy baby)
Those are just a few, I'm always nice but after awhile it gets under my skin!
I have a coworker who is due next month and that is the response when people find out I am also pregnant. No, it is NOT in the water. It took us over four years to conceive, so I am pretty super the water had nothing to do with it. It grates my nerves when people trivialize conception and pregnancy in that way.
Me-33 DH-36.
Married 11/10 TTC 11/10
06/11- diagnosed with PCOS
7/11- D&C and benched for a year
9/12-4/13-6 rounds of 50 mg Clomid- no sucess
6/13- new doc
7/13-4/14- 6 more rounds of Clomid. 50 mg and then stepped up to 100mg- no success
5/14-7/14- took break waiting for new insurance
7/14-new insurance= new doc- actually a RE!!!!
7/14-HSG and blood test good-PCOS confirmed by new doc
Everything your feeling is all in your head or you need to eat more your not gaining weight you should be bigger (I'm just making 16 weeks) or your gonna be OK it can't be that bad well excuse me if I'm pregnant and work everyday oh and my favorite from my fiance all you do is sleep you can't be that tired ( sorry if I'm tired all the time from work and come home can't go to sleep have to stay up with you until almost 2 am then try to get comfortable toss and turn then get up cause you want me up and do it all over again everyday I shouldn't be tired and plus I'm a diabetic so all that is contributed) I don't try to complain I just want people to stop thinking they know how I feel or that I shouldn't feel how I do
I get irritated when people say that my puppy is going to be in for a surprise when the baby comes. Like no. My dog is wonderful with children and has been around kids since the day we got her. She will be fine.
Also, are you eating better? You should eat like that. All because I'm a picky eater. I eat just fine thank you. Baby gets all the nutrients it needs.
It's always awkward when people ask if it was planned and of hubby is excited. Just obvious questions.
I don't mind the innocent comments where people are just trying to be nice. But I really hate when a coworker finds out I'm expecting and is offended that I didn't tell them personally/earlier. I'm sorry, but it's my business and I don't have to go around with it written on my forehead.
Also, on that same subject, when people ask why I don't announce I say it's because I'm shy about it and they say 'oh, there's no reason to be shy!. Well obviously I don't want to talk about it in depth with you or I would have already.... Ugh!
I could write a book on this, but from the top of my head:
1.) You're showing this much already, I didn't show unless I was 6-7 months! (Yes, I'm showing! I'm 5'1" and have a short torso, I'm going to be huge and I know it.)
2.) You guys aren't married and you're pregnant, what did your mother say? (No, but we've been together for almost 3 years and living together for 2. My mother isn't concerned because she knows I am a grown woman and capable of making my own decisions)
3.) Oh you're ___ many weeks, I (or my mother, sister, cousin, friend) had a miscarriage about this time. Are you worried? (Yes, I've been trying to have a baby for almost 6 years (4 with my ex and 2 with my current fiancé) and thought I was infertile (diagnosed with PCOS) I have been scared shitless since the day I found out I am pregnant. I'm not trying to be insensitive but I don't want to hear about your horrible miscarriage sorry when I'm ready terrified about losing this baby and pray everyday for a healthy baby)
Those are just a few, I'm always nice but after awhile it gets under my skin!
"Do you want a boy this time". Actually no I want a girl but I am happy with whichever, I want a healthy baby. From coworkers " how much weight have you lost?" My doctor is not concerned, so why should you be. Yes I've lost a lot of weight this time but being overweight I can afford to do that and last time I lost weight too. "Are you showing yet, you always were baggy scrubs." When I start showing you will start seeing. Once again over weight and tall my babies have a lot of room to grow up before I start showing out. "Your not finding out what your having? Will you have the US tech write it down so you can give it to us?" Ummm...no. I didn't realize these bothered me until I started writting
Ugh. That's totally my mom! At least she's 2000 miles away. I'm one of the rare few who loves that my MIL is 6 miles away and very excited to meet my baby girl!
So over hearing " just wait". It's a response for everything. I tell someone I'm feeling fine " just wait til the last month" I tell someone I'm tired " just wait soon you will always be tired" I tell someone my back hurts " just wait that gets worst"
Like really ?!?!
Or the friend who has a young child who reminds me of when I'm doing something wrong. She recently told me I shouldn't have Gatorade and that by deciding on part time daycare for my child he will always be fussy ?!?!
I can say my patience is wearing thin and I understand all of the posts about throat punching lol..
I hate it when people tell me I HAVE to have a baby girl, or say "so hopefully you'll have a girl this time". If we have another boy we will be just as happy!
My grandfather called my children "an unnecessary distraction from my professional career." I was like "Glad to know how you felt about my dad when he was growing up." Asshole.
I get irritated of same coworkers asking me every single day... "how are you feeling?" I feel like crap everything hurts ,i cant poop, and i still feel sick when I eat. Ofcourse I won't say that... all i can say is "great" and smile
I get irritated of same coworkers asking me every single day... "how are you feeling?" I feel like crap everything hurts ,i cant poop, and i still feel sick when I eat. Ofcourse I won't say that... all i can say is "great" and smile
haha, this! then they're like, "oh you're so lucky that you're having such an easy pregnancy," and then you want to punch them in the face even more!!
I had someone try to take away my peanut butter crackers and tell me I shouldn't eat nuts. 1. No good evidence about that. At all. 2. Seriously? Taking food away from a hungry pregnant lady? Not smart.
I get irritated of same coworkers asking me every single day... "how are you feeling?" I feel like crap everything hurts ,i cant poop, and i still feel sick when I eat. Ofcourse I won't say that... all i can say is "great" and smile
haha, this! then they're like, "oh you're so lucky that you're having such an easy pregnancy," and then you want to punch them in the face even more!!
My blanket response to that question is "Still Pregnant!" Hoping they'll all stop asking soon when they don't get anything out of me.
Tired of being asked "are you going to have any more?" Or "is this your last one?" Why are you so preoccupied with how much unprotected sex my husband are planning on having? Also I really don't want to explain my plans on future birth control. I also get "are you excited?" What do I say to that? This is my 3rd and I'm not exactly rich or in a career I'm happy with so am I necessarily excited about another mouth to feed? Well no, and am I excited to be awake endlessly and have to constantly change diapers? No. I am happy to have another addition but I won't be prancing down the street to show tunes any time soon.
I had someone try to take away my peanut butter crackers and tell me I shouldn't eat nuts. 1. No good evidence about that. At all. 2. Seriously? Taking food away from a hungry pregnant lady? Not smart.
Actually I just read an article about how they think pregnant women avoiding peanuts is causing all of the nut allergies in children. So eat up!!
"You can't do that!" "Don't touch that! You're pregnant!" "Better get your rest now while you can because you won't get any once the baby is here." Ugh!!! I'm pregnant not broken! I can do things! I have been doing everything before and during my pregnancy thus far and all of a sudden I can't touch anything at work without someone yelling at me not to! And I am aware of the baby to come needs and I am very thrilled to be able to be there for my baby at any time! I wanted this and I know the responsibility and I don't need people telling me I'll be miserable and exhausted! Okay I'm done
So this isn't exactly annoying, just creepy- and thank goodness this type of thing has only happened once. I had a somewhat elderly gentleman study my belly for a minute and then looked up at me with a skeezy smile on his face and said, "I don't know who you are, but I know what you've been doing." Of course he topped it off with a wink. AWKWARD.
This guy I know has made it his mission to figure out how to stop my nausea...He sends me this article on why nausea happens and what to eat (crackers, etc) and then he's like "you should get plenty of rest".
Um... Hello!! I've been feeling exhausted and nauseous for almost 4 months, don't you think I kind of know by now what works best for my body? You don't think I've done my research by now?
Same with a girl at work who first seemed completely uninterested in my pregnancy. One day she randomly says: "you should drink ginger tea", To which I replied "yeah well if I don't crave ginger, then my body is not going to like it." (Meaning I can only eat the limited items that I crave or else I want to throw up)
I work in a large government building where quite a few women are pregnant. At the local coffee shop across the street some old man told me to "not drink the water. You know what's been happening over there." I wanted to reply, "was that all I needed to do? I could've skipped all the progesterone and Clomid pills!"
This guy I know has made it his mission to figure out how to stop my nausea...He sends me this article on why nausea happens and what to eat (crackers, etc) and then he's like "you should get plenty of rest".
Um... Hello!! I've been feeling exhausted and nauseous for almost 4 months, don't you think I kind of know by now what works best for my body? You don't think I've done my research by now?
Same with a girl at work who first seemed completely uninterested in my pregnancy. One day she randomly says: "you should drink ginger tea", To which I replied "yeah well if I don't crave ginger, then my body is not going to like it." (Meaning I can only eat the limited items that I crave or else I want to throw up)
Not trying to be one of those people but Bonine worked wonders for me. You may check with your doctor.
"You can't do that!"
"Don't touch that! You're pregnant!"
"Better get your rest now while you can because you won't get any once the baby is here."
Ugh!!! I'm pregnant not broken! I can do things! I have been doing everything before and during my pregnancy thus far and all of a sudden I can't touch anything at work without someone yelling at me not to!
And I am aware of the baby to come needs and I am very thrilled to be able to be there for my baby at any time! I wanted this and I know the responsibility and I don't need people telling me I'll be miserable and exhausted! Okay I'm done
I was bending over to pick up a couple of paper scraps at work, and one of the guys told me, "You shouldn't be doing that in your condition!" I just laughed it off.
I am so sick of hearing how much our life is going to change; how our home will never be as clean and organized as it is now; how we won't be able to go out and do what we want; how we don't know what we're getting ourselves in to; etc. People tell my husband all the time that he won't be able to golf, hunt or fish once the babies get here. I get offended b/c why wouldn't he be able to go do the things he enjoys? That's part of what makes him happy and de-stresses him from work.
We also get the comment a PP said about if we have 1 of each, we can be done. I guess I missed whatever rulebook it was in that 1 boy and 1 girl make a perfect family. I'd be thrilled with whatever we get - as long as they, and I, are healthy.
Oh, and another thing. "You don't look pregnant!" Well, that doesn't mean I'm not and believe me, I no longer have the flat stomach I used to have. I'm pregnant in my stomach, butt, love handles and boobs. I'm pregnant everywhere.
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
I just had a really weird interaction with a work friend. It's not worth it's own thread, so here is shall lie.
She asked me how many weeks (19) and then started rubbing my belly and was like "it's all happening here" (??) and then I was like, "well, it's mostly happening here" and pointed below my belly. And she was like, "The baby may be there, but everything is changing up here." And then continues to rub my belly? Ummmm, seriously. WHY are you massaging my fat and organs right now?
I just had a really weird interaction with a work friend. It's not worth it's own thread, so here is shall lie.
She asked me how many weeks (19) and then started rubbing my belly and was like "it's all happening here" (??) and then I was like, "well, it's mostly happening here" and pointed below my belly. And she was like, "The baby may be there, but everything is changing up here." And then continues to rub my belly? Ummmm, seriously. WHY are you massaging my fat and organs right now?
I wish someone would start rubbing the belly or breasts of the next person who does that to them and report back what the response was. It's not going to be me, but I wish I had that level of sass. lol.
I just had a really weird interaction with a work friend. It's not worth it's own thread, so here is shall lie.
She asked me how many weeks (19) and then started rubbing my belly and was like "it's all happening here" (??) and then I was like, "well, it's mostly happening here" and pointed below my belly. And she was like, "The baby may be there, but everything is changing up here." And then continues to rub my belly? Ummmm, seriously. WHY are you massaging my fat and organs right now?
I wish someone would start rubbing the belly or breasts of the next person who does that to them and report back what the response was. It's not going to be me, but I wish I had that level of sass. lol.
I actually did rub her belly back and mentioned that it was awkward having her rub my fat, but she just lol-ed and I am quite sure it will only be a few days before she does it again.
I just had a really weird interaction with a work friend. It's not worth it's own thread, so here is shall lie.
She asked me how many weeks (19) and then started rubbing my belly and was like "it's all happening here" (??) and then I was like, "well, it's mostly happening here" and pointed below my belly. And she was like, "The baby may be there, but everything is changing up here." And then continues to rub my belly? Ummmm, seriously. WHY are you massaging my fat and organs right now?
I wish someone would start rubbing the belly or breasts of the next person who does that to them and report back what the response was. It's not going to be me, but I wish I had that level of sass. lol.
I actually did rub her belly back and mentioned that it was awkward having her rub my fat, but she just lol-ed and I am quite sure it will only be a few days before she does it again.
I swear I will rub the belly of any man I work with if they muster the nerve to touch me. Work is not a place for touchy-feely. Ever.
My MIL keeps rubbing the organ blump and I'm not sure what to do about it. I don't hate it, but it seems really weird.
"Shouldn't you be eating more? You're eating for two" ...uh no. I didn't think being pregnant made it okay to eat 5,000 calories a day nor am I going to shove food down my throat when I'm full or not even hungry to begin with.
Also, I hate it when you're around other babies and something happens like the baby has poop all up its back or just spit up everywhere and someone goes "oh why don't you get Amber to clean it up she needs to practice" .... UH NO AGAIN! It's different when it's your own.
I just had a really weird interaction with a work friend. It's not worth it's own thread, so here is shall lie.
She asked me how many weeks (19) and then started rubbing my belly and was like "it's all happening here" (??) and then I was like, "well, it's mostly happening here" and pointed below my belly. And she was like, "The baby may be there, but everything is changing up here." And then continues to rub my belly? Ummmm, seriously. WHY are you massaging my fat and organs right now?
I wish someone would start rubbing the belly or breasts of the next person who does that to them and report back what the response was. It's not going to be me, but I wish I had that level of sass. lol.
I will definitelyyyyy be rubbing someone's belly back if they touch me. I don't like being touched, especially by strangers so you can bet I have enough sass for it! It hasn't happened yet but I'll keep you posted if and when it does.
This is something I have only heard once. But it freaked me out.
This past weekend at a wedding some strange women asked me where I was having my baby. I was so shocked I just told her the county and not the hospital or city.
1- did you guys have to try for a really long time?
2- did you need any medical intervention to conceive or it happened naturally?
Kay people I am not THAT old....but if you think I might be...STFU about it! Ha.
While those questions might certainly be uncouth, those (and others) are problems even younger people can face. My sister's last pregnancy was the result of a really bad situation, and she decided to opt for adoption. The couple she chose was in their late twenties and kept getting passed up because they were young, even though they had been on the waiting list much longer than others.
So, I've heard a lot of these before. Specifically the: "sleep now while you can" or, "you are gonna be in for a real wake up call when that baby comes!" -- I heard this from my brother and sister-in-law, who have two boys. They also like to tell me that my husband will have to give up all of his hobbies and "grow up" to be able to be a good dad. Honestly, he's a wonderful husband and he cares. I tell him when I need him to do something and he's really good about everything. They only see that he likes to keep busy and assume he'll keep doing all of it once baby is born. It's so offensive to me!
The biggest thing I hate right now though? "You don't look pregnant." or "At least you're not showing yet!" -- Of course, these are from men at my work but, quite honestly, how would they effing know?? Do they see me naked? Do they notice that I can't fit into any of my pants anymore? Do they even know my original shape??? I'm 18 weeks and I started at that job at like, 13 weeks. I'm normally very skinny and now I can't even get my normal khakis to fit, even with the zipper left open! My belly is OUT, my shape is super different than normal and it's offensive to me that they think they know my body in the slightest. I love that we're pregnant. I'm excited to get huge. I want to be a good weight for my baby (I'm generally underweight...) and I hate it when people ignorantly say that I'm not showing!!! UGH!
Being asked how I am feeling and then when I tell them they reply with "Well this is what you wanted" or when I say that I am feeling tired today and they reply that its only going to get worse. STFU! I just want to scream at them!!
Re: Annoying Things You're Tired of Hearing....
1.) You're showing this much already, I didn't show unless I was 6-7 months!
(Yes, I'm showing! I'm 5'1" and have a short torso, I'm going to be huge and I know it.)
2.) You guys aren't married and you're pregnant, what did your mother say?
(No, but we've been together for almost 3 years and living together for 2. My mother isn't concerned because she knows I am a grown woman and capable of making my own decisions)
3.) Oh you're ___ many weeks, I (or my mother, sister, cousin, friend) had a miscarriage about this time. Are you worried?
(Yes, I've been trying to have a baby for almost 6 years (4 with my ex and 2 with my current fiancé) and thought I was infertile (diagnosed with PCOS) I have been scared shitless since the day I found out I am pregnant. I'm not trying to be insensitive but I don't want to hear about your horrible miscarriage sorry when I'm ready terrified about losing this baby and pray everyday for a healthy baby)
Those are just a few, I'm always nice but after awhile it gets under my skin!
I have a coworker who is due next month and that is the response when people find out I am also pregnant. No, it is NOT in the water. It took us over four years to conceive, so I am pretty super the water had nothing to do with it. It grates my nerves when people trivialize conception and pregnancy in that way.
11/14- IUI #2 w/ Menopur- Blood Test= Negative
1/15- IUI # 3 w/ Menopur- Blood Test= Negative
2/15- Self Benched this cycle
3/15/15-Suprise BFP on natural cycle!!!! EDD-11/16/15
Also, are you eating better? You should eat like that. All because I'm a picky eater. I eat just fine thank you. Baby gets all the nutrients it needs.
It's always awkward when people ask if it was planned and of hubby is excited. Just obvious questions.
Also, on that same subject, when people ask why I don't announce I say it's because I'm shy about it and they say 'oh, there's no reason to be shy!. Well obviously I don't want to talk about it in depth with you or I would have already.... Ugh!
From coworkers " how much weight have you lost?" My doctor is not concerned, so why should you be. Yes I've lost a lot of weight this time but being overweight I can afford to do that and last time I lost weight too.
"Are you showing yet, you always were baggy scrubs." When I start showing you will start seeing. Once again over weight and tall my babies have a lot of room to grow up before I start showing out.
"Your not finding out what your having? Will you have the US tech write it down so you can give it to us?" Ummm...no.
I didn't realize these bothered me until I started writting
I tell someone I'm feeling fine " just wait til the last month"
I tell someone I'm tired " just wait soon you will always be tired"
I tell someone my back hurts " just wait that gets worst"
Like really ?!?!
Or the friend who has a young child who reminds me of when I'm doing something wrong. She recently told me I shouldn't have Gatorade and that by deciding on part time daycare for my child he will always be fussy ?!?!
I can say my patience is wearing thin and I understand all of the posts about throat punching lol..
Must I remind them there is a new organ and human in there? Goodness.
I was like "Glad to know how you felt about my dad when he was growing up."
Asshole.
1. No good evidence about that. At all.
2. Seriously? Taking food away from a hungry pregnant lady? Not smart.
My blanket response to that question is "Still Pregnant!" Hoping they'll all stop asking soon when they don't get anything out of me.
"Don't touch that! You're pregnant!"
"Better get your rest now while you can because you won't get any once the baby is here."
Ugh!!! I'm pregnant not broken! I can do things! I have been doing everything before and during my pregnancy thus far and all of a sudden I can't touch anything at work without someone yelling at me not to!
And I am aware of the baby to come needs and I am very thrilled to be able to be there for my baby at any time! I wanted this and I know the responsibility and I don't need people telling me I'll be miserable and exhausted! Okay I'm done
Um... Hello!! I've been feeling exhausted and nauseous for almost 4 months, don't you think I kind of know by now what works best for my body? You don't think I've done my research by now?
Same with a girl at work who first seemed completely uninterested in my pregnancy. One day she randomly says: "you should drink ginger tea", To which I replied "yeah well if I don't crave ginger, then my body is not going to like it." (Meaning I can only eat the limited items that I crave or else I want to throw up)
I work in a large government building where quite a few women are pregnant. At the local coffee shop across the street some old man told me to "not drink the water. You know what's been happening over there." I wanted to reply, "was that all I needed to do? I could've skipped all the progesterone and Clomid pills!"
I am so sick of hearing how much our life is going to change; how our home will never be as clean and organized as it is now; how we won't be able to go out and do what we want; how we don't know what we're getting ourselves in to; etc. People tell my husband all the time that he won't be able to golf, hunt or fish once the babies get here. I get offended b/c why wouldn't he be able to go do the things he enjoys? That's part of what makes him happy and de-stresses him from work.
We also get the comment a PP said about if we have 1 of each, we can be done. I guess I missed whatever rulebook it was in that 1 boy and 1 girl make a perfect family. I'd be thrilled with whatever we get - as long as they, and I, are healthy.
Oh, and another thing. "You don't look pregnant!" Well, that doesn't mean I'm not and believe me, I no longer have the flat stomach I used to have. I'm pregnant in my stomach, butt, love handles and boobs. I'm pregnant everywhere.
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
I swear I will rub the belly of any man I work with if they muster the nerve to touch me. Work is not a place for touchy-feely. Ever.
My MIL keeps rubbing the organ blump and I'm not sure what to do about it. I don't hate it, but it seems really weird.
Also, I hate it when you're around other babies and something happens like the baby has poop all up its back or just spit up everywhere and someone goes "oh why don't you get Amber to clean it up she needs to practice" .... UH NO AGAIN! It's different when it's your own.
I will definitelyyyyy be rubbing someone's belly back if they touch me. I don't like being touched, especially by strangers so you can bet I have enough sass for it! It hasn't happened yet but I'll keep you posted if and when it does.
This past weekend at a wedding some strange women asked me where I was having my baby. I was so shocked I just told her the county and not the hospital or city.
While those questions might certainly be uncouth, those (and others) are problems even younger people can face. My sister's last pregnancy was the result of a really bad situation, and she decided to opt for adoption. The couple she chose was in their late twenties and kept getting passed up because they were young, even though they had been on the waiting list much longer than others.