Dealing with family after birth

mims1228

My mother and in laws want to come down to visit us and the new baby after birth. We live 15 hours away from our home town. My concern is not wanting all 3-4 people in our one spare room house. My plan was to have the first week with baby just us two. Then have my mother here for a week and then the in-laws. My husband however says it's not fair and they should be here waiting for us after the hospital. This is our first child and to me it just seems too much all at once. Has anyone had a baby away from their home town and how did you schedule visitors? We're not due till the end of November.

Peach&Dan

I'm currently pregnant with my first daughter and I know that I don't want any visitors for a couple weeks after my daughter is born. The we'll being of my child, husband and I comes before anyone else. Do what's best for you and if family gets upset, too bad.

NoSugarCoating

Explain to your husband that you will be bleeding and leaking breastmilk all over the place. You and he will need to adjust to having a new baby, and learning how to care for your baby -- how often he/she wants to eat and sleep, what works best to soothe the baby, and learning a new routine. 

If your family absolutely insists on coming to help, I would require them to stay in a hotel. 

Vanessa226

My sister lives about 20 hours away from us and her hubby's family is even father. After they had their first baby my parents flew down and where there from day one. They stayed at their house for a week and it didn't go well. My sister and BIL were very overwhelmed. My parents felt like they weren't wanted. Feelings were hurt all around. I would advise you kindly ask them to wait a little while or stay at a hotel.

mims1228

Thank you everyone for the suggestions! Telling them to get a hotel would make things a lot easier hopefully they will understand. I know it's a long drive to where were stationed but it would be best. Thank goodness I have some time on my hands to think and talk to my husband more about it.

queenwog

If your husband doesn't think it's fair, he can carry and deliver the next baby and see how many visitors he's up for immediately after the birth.