FFFC - Flame Free Friday Confessions

KaLikeAWind

Confess. It's good for the soul. Plus, we all get a little thrill when we read each other's dirty little secrets

karaelaine1991

1. Up until part one of my prenatal class last week, I had absolutely no idea that catheters were involved in epidurals - clearly my research wasn't as thorough as I thought! Which leads me to...

2. The thought of having a catheter freaks me out more than labor does. Totally and completely irrational, I know. But I had some sort of urinary reflux condition when I was a little kid and examinations for it involved catheters, which was very traumatizing for me at the time. I'm sure that now it wouldn't be anywhere near as bad (at the time, shots also completely freaked me out and now I handle those without issue), but I still have a very real fear of catheters. Basically, @devyns2nd is super woman in my book for what she's been going through! But yeah, I'm seriously second guessing the epidural because of this. I'm hoping to sweet talk my doctor into letting me try nitrous oxide first even though it's highly unlikely that they'll agree since it's not something my hospital usually allows.

KaLikeAWind

This weekend that passed DH made an awesome dinner - steak, corn on the cob, baked potato. Super yummy. I went into my kitchen and got myself a taster glass from one of my many beer fest's, and had myself 2oz of a session IPA with my meal. The idea behind a session IPA is that you should be able to have a few of them without getting twisted. The abv is almost always lower than 5%. (This one was 4.5%) It was super yummy.

Sammy K

It weirds me out when people name their babies in utero and then broadcast it to the world. Like you're tempting fate. I know a lot of people do it, it just makes me uncomfortable. Even though we have been calling LO by her name to help DS understand she's a person. But we haven't told anyone else and don't use it outside the house. We never referred to DS by his name until he was born.

ksimo6

Sammy K said:

It weirds me out when people name their babies in utero and then broadcast it to the world. Like you're tempting fate. I know a lot of people do it, it just makes me uncomfortable. Even though we have been calling LO by her name to help DS understand she's a person. But we haven't told anyone else and don't use it outside the house. We never referred to DS by his name until he was born.

100% agree.  There is something weird about this that I can't get past.  

ElRuby

ksimo6 said:

Sammy K said:

It weirds me out when people name their babies in utero and then broadcast it to the world. Like you're tempting fate. I know a lot of people do it, it just makes me uncomfortable. Even though we have been calling LO by her name to help DS understand she's a person. But we haven't told anyone else and don't use it outside the house. We never referred to DS by his name until he was born.

100% agree.  There is something weird about this that I can't get past.  

When we finally told the name (mostly my 3 year old son who announced it everywhere he went...) people started calling her by her name.... I still say "the baby"... My MIL actuay wanted to know why we didn't include baby's name in her Mother's Day card and I was like ummmm because she isn't here yet! So even though I don't refer to her by name unless talking with DS other people do...

47923ang

Sammy K said:

It weirds me out when people name their babies in utero and then broadcast it to the world. Like you're tempting fate. I know a lot of people do it, it just makes me uncomfortable. Even though we have been calling LO by her name to help DS understand she's a person. But we haven't told anyone else and don't use it outside the house. We never referred to DS by his name until he was born.

My nephew gave his little sister's name away a bit too early because of that. My aunt heard him and made a comment on facebook with the name in it. So it was out to the world when my sister was 7 months along. Oops.

ElRuby

My FFFC is I have been way too lenient with DS and TV time because I want to rest with my feet up... I balance this by doing more park trips and pool time but sometimes I feel like a bum...

karaelaine1991

Sammy K said:

It weirds me out when people name their babies in utero and then broadcast it to the world. Like you're tempting fate. I know a lot of people do it, it just makes me uncomfortable. Even though we have been calling LO by her name to help DS understand she's a person. But we haven't told anyone else and don't use it outside the house. We never referred to DS by his name until he was born.

I go back and forth. When we talk about her together, DH and I always just call her baby, but on Facebook I call her Baby O, mainly to get other people in the habit of doing that because I don't want her name or pictures of her on social media. So far so good! Only problem is people now think that we're legit going to call her Baby O rather than her name... oh well. Lesser of two evils in my opinion!

lovethatcolosun

Im kinda the opposite when it comes to naming baby before they're born and telling others. I've done it with both my kids. People ask me all the time, "do you have a name picked out?" Yes, and I tell them. I probably equally refer to LO as she/her and her name. For me it creates a deeper connection for our family to our baby. What I think is funny is when people keep their name a secret BECAUSE they are afraid of people judging their choice. My sister did this, so all throughout pregnancy we were all coming up with funny possibilities of what it would be. Turns out it was a beautiful name that we all love anyway. It just seemed to add more drama than was necessary.

laurendutch

lovethatcolosun said:

Im kinda the opposite when it comes to naming baby before they're born and telling others. I've done it with both my kids. People ask me all the time, "do you have a name picked out?" Yes, and I tell them. I probably equally refer to LO as she/her and her name. For me it creates a deeper connection for our family to our baby. What I think is funny is when people keep their name a secret BECAUSE they are afraid of people judging their choice. My sister did this, so all throughout pregnancy we were all coming up with funny possibilities of what it would be. Turns out it was a beautiful name that we all love anyway. It just seemed to add more drama than was necessary.

I'm the same way! By naming her and calling her that we have developed a special connection. I think I do it a lot more with this pregnancy bc of my boys. I think it helps with them developing a connection with her. Plus, it's freakig adorable when your kids go up to your belly and shout "Hey Baby Blah Blah...I love you".

rrcameron21

This is really bad but I have to tell someone!

I got really (irrationally) upset at my fiancé this week for drinking. We just have SO much to do because we're moving and having a damn baby! He's useless when he drinks.

I decided I wanted to be really dramatic and pack a bag and stay at my moms the next night. I packed it and left it open so he would see in the morning. He didn't notice. I put it in the car dramatically before work. He didn't notice. I cried all the way to work. I didn't stay at my moms. The suitcase is still in my car because I'm too embarrassed to bring it in. =D>

mvargas12

@lovethatcolosun I agree with you. We have been calling baby by her name and telling everyone who asks. When people talk about her by name it just makes her more real to me, idk why.


My FFC is that I think new born babies are not that cute. I mean, once they're cleaned up, swaddled, and have a hat on or something to cover their little cone head, SOME are totally adorable. That being said, this girl I went to HS with just had a baby and put a picture up of the baby still covered in slime and people were like "omg so beautiful" "so cute" "omg omg omg" and I'm just like, really??? I'm totally aware that my newborn will be cute to me but I don't expect anyone else to think so. It bothers me so much when people see a baby that's not very cute and say "omg she/he's so beautiful", it's very hypocritical to me and I hate that. My go to is, "omg she's so teeny tiny!". I guess it's a matter of opinion though.

virginiaunicorn11

I have tried to cool down my baths or showers, but nothing relaxes me better. I am pretty sure it's not hurting LO because they're cooler than normal and I don't stay in long...but I do feel a little guilty.

And I agree: newborns can be unfortunate looking.

And I won't share our names. But not knowing sex and not sharing names does make it all feel more abstract. A confession I wouldn't have made maybe two months ago.

klkonwi

I take excessively hot showers/ nothing takes away rib/stomach pain better. Hope my kids ok!

Newborns look like potatoes and so will I after I give birth we will have that in common.

I absolutely took a Xanax the other day because I was freaking out. Guess what.... It didn't work. Must be pregnancy .... It did nothing!

klkonwi

Also since this is flame free....... I am jealous of those who get to even have their measurements of their babies.... Approximate weight etc.....
My doc is the only one in the practice who doesn't do this. I know they can be off and inaccurate so it's completely irrational (esp noting my profession) for me to be jealous. But.... Jealousy isn't a rational feeling........ And It's so stupid I know!!!! My friends are just constantly texting me telling me what their baby weighs and measures.... Logically I'm being so dumb!

ngaines27

karaelaine1991 said:

1. Up until part one of my prenatal class last week, I had absolutely no idea that catheters were involved in epidurals - clearly my research wasn't as thorough as I thought! Which leads me to...

2. The thought of having a catheter freaks me out more than labor does. Totally and completely irrational, I know. But I had some sort of urinary reflux condition when I was a little kid and examinations for it involved catheters, which was very traumatizing for me at the time. I'm sure that now it wouldn't be anywhere near as bad (at the time, shots also completely freaked me out and now I handle those without issue), but I still have a very real fear of catheters. Basically, @devyns2nd is super woman in my book for what she's been going through! But yeah, I'm seriously second guessing the epidural because of this. I'm hoping to sweet talk my doctor into letting me try nitrous oxide first even though it's highly unlikely that they'll agree since it's not something my hospital usually allows.

If it makes you feel any better, with my 1st 2, they catherized after the epidural and took it out before I completely got feeling back so I never even felt it.

I totally agree about @devyns2nd being superwoman.

upandbelow

karaelaine1991 said:

1. Up until part one of my prenatal class last week, I had absolutely no idea that catheters were involved in epidurals - clearly my research wasn't as thorough as I thought! Which leads me to...

2. The thought of having a catheter freaks me out more than labor does. Totally and completely irrational, I know. But I had some sort of urinary reflux condition when I was a little kid and examinations for it involved catheters, which was very traumatizing for me at the time. I'm sure that now it wouldn't be anywhere near as bad (at the time, shots also completely freaked me out and now I handle those without issue), but I still have a very real fear of catheters. Basically, @devyns2nd is super woman in my book for what she's been going through! But yeah, I'm seriously second guessing the epidural because of this. I'm hoping to sweet talk my doctor into letting me try nitrous oxide first even though it's highly unlikely that they'll agree since it's not something my hospital usually allows.

This!  My Nurse friend and 2nd support person thinks I'm crazy - "you're numb down there...you won't even know..." but the catheter has me very much decided to avoid the epidural at all costs.  We'll see if my fear outweighs my tolerance of the pain at the time though...

karaelaine1991

ngaines27 said:

karaelaine1991 said:

1. Up until part one of my prenatal class last week, I had absolutely no idea that catheters were involved in epidurals - clearly my research wasn't as thorough as I thought! Which leads me to...

2. The thought of having a catheter freaks me out more than labor does. Totally and completely irrational, I know. But I had some sort of urinary reflux condition when I was a little kid and examinations for it involved catheters, which was very traumatizing for me at the time. I'm sure that now it wouldn't be anywhere near as bad (at the time, shots also completely freaked me out and now I handle those without issue), but I still have a very real fear of catheters. Basically, @devyns2nd is super woman in my book for what she's been going through! But yeah, I'm seriously second guessing the epidural because of this. I'm hoping to sweet talk my doctor into letting me try nitrous oxide first even though it's highly unlikely that they'll agree since it's not something my hospital usually allows.

If it makes you feel any better, with my 1st 2, they catherized after the epidural and took it out before I completely got feeling back so I never even felt it.

I totally agree about @devyns2nd being superwoman.

I'll have to ask about that! If my hospital does things the same way it'll definitely ease my anxiety about it. thanks!

LolaMarley23

DH and I had our birthing class last night and they showed how an epidural is put in. NOPE. Just nope! I had no idea that's how it was done!! I always thought it was just like a quick shot and bam, done. I was never against having one until I saw that. Now I am freaking the eff out. hahaha

Mommaswizz

klkonwi said:

Also since this is flame free....... I am jealous of those who get to even have their measurements of their babies.... Approximate weight etc.....
My doc is the only one in the practice who doesn't do this. I know they can be off and inaccurate so it's completely irrational (esp noting my profession) for me to be jealous. But.... Jealousy isn't a rational feeling........ And It's so stupid I know!!!! My friends are just constantly texting me telling me what their baby weighs and measures.... Logically I'm being so dumb!

AGREED! Ugh i know they do it for my own good so i dont freak out if baby is measuring big or small or whatever but it makes me SO irrationally angry when i ask them how big my baby is and they respond "oh your 34 weeks, so probably around 4-5 lbs." Thaaaaaaaaaaanks I could have read that in just about any pregnancy book, app, or pamphlet. Or when i asked what position is she in and they tell me "Maybe head down but it doesn't matter as she's probably still moving". Seriously infuriating. i know i shouldnt want unnecessary ultrasounds but at least i'd get some real info about this kid. I just pray that I don't end up with a surprise 12lb breech baby with no warning.

klkonwi

@Mommaswizz exactly. I'm a control freak and I selfishly want to know If I'm pushing out a giant melon (8 + 9, 10 lb) or a more normal 6-7 lb.
Also I'm fat and jealous. Lol
Maybe that's why I avoided my 2 week appt. because I don't find out much new!

mvargas12

That's why I was SO happy when my doctor ordered an ultrasound to double check her position. My MIL was 12+lbs when she was born and my husband was 10.6lbs, I wanted an approximate weight so I could prepare myself mentally for a giant baby but I didn't want an unnecessary ultrasound. She's weighing in at 7.2lbs, give or take a pound. :-SS

Mommaswizz

everyday fatness and jealousy forever

SweetnessG

I've had growth scans, but my doctor has never discussed how much the baby weighs. She just says...he's probably going to be around 6ish pounds. I've gave birth to a wide range of weights.

We have told people the name we chose, but we never call him by his name. I think it's weird until he's actually living outside of my stomach. Until then, we just call him "the baby." No one in our families call him by his name either. On the rare occasion, my younger children will come up to my belly and say "I love you Braydon."

SammeMotley

I spent way to much money on a coming months home outfit for my little girl. But hey, it's my last child, and only girl.

Sammy K

I totally crop dusted the elevator right as I was leaving work today. And for how crappy everyone has been lately, I don't feel bad about it.

SammeMotley

Sammy K said:

I totally crop dusted the elevator right as I was leaving work today. And for how crappy everyone has been lately, I don't feel bad about it.

OMG!! Epic! Can't. Breathe.

Sundaygirl200

I am also suffering from my version of fatness and jealously.
I'm way too bothered about my 50lb weight gain than I like to let on, I spend far too much time staring at my swollen feet,
cankles, flabby thighs and these annoying little rolls of back fat that seem to have appeared from no where. I hate the loss of control over my body and appetite, how unsexy I feel and most of all the overwhelming guilt because I know my baby is worth it and I love that I'm pregnant.
I know I shouldn't be planning diets and exercise routines when I haven't even had the baby yet, but it seems to be the only thing that eases this stupid fear i have about being fat forever.
Jealous of all the mamas that have already met and are cuddling their babies... i want my baby!

Anjelyk2

Over the past couple of weeks, I've seen people here refer to 3rd world health care as though it is inferior. Each time I wondered if any of those persons have ever had health care in a 3rd world country. I have received health care in a 3rd world country and two 1st world countries ... I still keep contact with my 3rd world doctors because they are significantly more thorough!

virginiaunicorn11

I don't know who Felicia is or why people say bye to her. But I like the sound of it, so I use it too, now.

I could Google it but am too lazy and would rather post it here. ;-)

ETA: oops, just saw @mellymar got this covered on FFFQ. Always love that girl, Melly...

katyertl

amark11 said:

I don't know who Felicia is or why people say bye to her. But I like the sound of it, so I use it too, now.

I could Google it but am too lazy and would rather post it here. ;-)

ETA: oops, just saw @mellymar got this covered on FFFQ. Always love that girl, Melly...

What does it mean?!

KaLikeAWind

ashleynfields said:

mellymar said:

I have a question, not baby related. And I'm probably going to show my age / media disconnect here, but...
What is the whole "Bye Felicia" thing? The first time I saw it I thought someone was bitchily saying goodbye to someone named Felicia. Then I see it being used as a bitchy way to just say bye, eff off, get out of my face.
It must be some social / show / media thing I missed out on. And, just so y'all can laugh at me some more, I once asked a friend what 'FML' meant #-o Yeah, I feel old now

It's from the movie "Friday" It just got popular again for some reason after like 20 years, haha.

@katyertl
Once she said that I kind remember it a little bit, but I haven't seen the movie since back in the day so I don't remember the exact context

Westypet

mellymar said:

ashleynfields said:

mellymar said:

I have a question, not baby related. And I'm probably going to show my age / media disconnect here, but...
What is the whole "Bye Felicia" thing? The first time I saw it I thought someone was bitchily saying goodbye to someone named Felicia. Then I see it being used as a bitchy way to just say bye, eff off, get out of my face.
It must be some social / show / media thing I missed out on. And, just so y'all can laugh at me some more, I once asked a friend what 'FML' meant #-o Yeah, I feel old now

It's from the movie "Friday" It just got popular again for some reason after like 20 years, haha.

@katyertl
Once she said that I kind remember it a little bit, but I haven't seen the movie since back in the day so I don't remember the exact context

She's this annoying girl that bugs these guys and they don't even really respond to her except to say "uh.. Bye, Felicia."

It came back because one of the strong female leads on Empire said it to this younger chick on the show.

It's the equivalent of, like, swatting away a fly or calling someone insignificant and annoying but not really caring that they're leaving.
"Uh, kthnxbye."

Westypet

Confession:

Still love old school boy bands like *Nsync and BSB.

"Girlfriend" by Nelly and *Nsync just came on the radio and I'm so happy!!!

kbbtah

My FFC is that I'm really getting sick of all the BS threads that newer users are starting lately. It's one thing when it happens randomly, but COME ON. Nearly half of the first page is filled with junk right now. Check the Search function. Read the daily symptoms thread. Google it. Wondering if these are trolls? It's just become ridiculous.

lovethatcolosun

I am so curious what some of your profile pics are. @karaelaine1991 ...used to look like sunglasses, upon closer inspection...no clue.

@Mommaswizz is it an old TV?

Help my curiosity is out of control.

Mommaswizz

@lovethatcolosun I've said before I really wish we could see the default pics in a larger format! Mine is a Christmas ornament with our baby's 12 week ultrasound. It was how we announced we were expecting on Facebook back in December. I attached it for a better look

KaLikeAWind

lovethatcolosun said:

I am so curious what some of your profile pics are. @karaelaine1991 ...used to look like sunglasses, upon closer inspection...no clue.

@Mommaswizz is it an old TV?

Help my curiosity is out of control.

I think @karaelaine1991 has ballet shoes? And I love the frazzy looking TV of @Mommaswizz. It puts me in mind of like max headroom and early MTV. Speaking of which, @klkonwi threw me off when she changed her profile pic.

I have been turning over a profile pic change, myself. Maybe I'll go and do that, now that you've got me in a profile pic mood

klkonwi

Mine is a windmill it's out on our family farm! Sorry @mellymar

KaLikeAWind

Mommaswizz said:

@lovethatcolosun I've said before I really wish we could see the default pics in a larger format! Mine is a Christmas ornament with our baby's 12 week ultrasound. It was how we announced we were expecting on Facebook back in December. I attached it for a better look

Pshaw. See? I was totally wrong. Way cute, @Mommaswizz! But I'm still gonna think of a frazzy tv