The report button is in no way, shape, or form a dislike button.
Please don't use it as such and get valuable members of the community banned.
You should be ashamed of yourself - whoever did it.
I didn't report her but I am SO not surprised she got reported. She (and a few others who hang here on the regular) are SO rude. This is a very typical response, but not liking or agreeing with someone's comment and feeling like someone is unbelievably rude and disrespectful of you are two different things too. I think mocking gifs are incredibly rude (and a TOU violation), regardless of whether or not I agree with their intended meaning.
The report button should not be like, some type of taboo thing, its the community speaking its mind.
Yeah and the chick calling @catsareshady a bitch is a real sweetheart.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is in no way, shape, or form a dislike button.
Please don't use it as such and get valuable members of the community banned.
You should be ashamed of yourself - whoever did it.
I didn't report her but I am SO not surprised she got reported. She (and a few others who hang here on the regular) are SO rude. This is a very typical response, but not liking or agreeing with someone's comment and feeling like someone is unbelievably rude and disrespectful of you are two different things too. I think mocking gifs are incredibly rude (and a TOU violation), regardless of whether or not I agree with their intended meaning.
The report button should not be like, some type of taboo thing, its the community speaking its mind.
Yeah and the chick calling @catsareshady a bitch is a real sweetheart.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
But disagreeing with someone IS NOT grounds for reporting someone.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
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@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Go to your doctor with anything you're uncomfortable about. It's not an unreasonable request to have another screen done. You have reasons to think they may have missed something, go with your gut until you're comfortable, it's you're right as a mother and a pregnant woman!
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
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I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
So instead you just made a sweeping generalization without having all the facts. You're swell.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Google. That's the point. We are not Google & we are not doctors. When you read 15 questions a day that could easily be answered by Google or simply picking up the phone & calling your healthcare PROFESSIONAL, it's agitating.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
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@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Google. That's the point. We are not Google & we are not doctors. When you read 15 questions a day that could easily be answered by Google or simply picking up the phone & calling your healthcare PROFESSIONAL, it's agitating.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselves with self inflicted irritation? Like if it bothers you so much, why do you stay? Because to me this is a perfectly logical place to post those questions, to a bunch of other people in their 2nd tri who might be experiencing something similar. I agree this particular OP seemed a little hung up on something not particularly realistic, but pregnancy makes you crazy. It seems natural that if you're feeling crazy, you try to find other people going through the same crazy.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
So instead you just made a sweeping generalization without having all the facts. You're swell.
What? I am expressing my honest impression of my experience on the board. And attempting to not conflate it with any personal judgement of who anyone is IRL, because thats impossible to know. It wasn't a sweeping generalization, it was an accurate reflection of what I've seen, and I said that.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Google. That's the point. We are not Google & we are not doctors. When you read 15 questions a day that could easily be answered by Google or simply picking up the phone & calling your healthcare PROFESSIONAL, it's agitating.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselfs with self inflicted irritation? Like if it bothers you so much, why do you stay? Because to me this is a perfectly logical place to post those questions, to a bunch of other people in their 2nd tri who might be experiencing something similar. I agree this particular OP seemed a little hung up on something not particularly realistic, but pregnancy makes you crazy. It seems natural that if you're feeling crazy, you try to find other people going through the same crazy.
TTGP gets more crazy questions than any other board, so being here or there makes no never mind. And just because I'm not in my second trimester doesn't mean I can't offer valuable advice to those who are in it now. People have cloth diaper questions all the time but the CD board is dead (read why, above) so if I didn't lurk, I wouldn't see those questions & couldn't offer sage council.
I've been pregnant, it doesn't make you crazy, it gives you a great excuse to be crazy.
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@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Google. That's the point. We are not Google & we are not doctors. When you read 15 questions a day that could easily be answered by Google or simply picking up the phone & calling your healthcare PROFESSIONAL, it's agitating.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselves with self inflicted irritation? Like if it bothers you so much, why do you stay? Because to me this is a perfectly logical place to post those questions, to a bunch of other people in their 2nd tri who might be experiencing something similar. I agree this particular OP seemed a little hung up on something not particularly realistic, but pregnancy makes you crazy. It seems natural that if you're feeling crazy, you try to find other people going through the same crazy.
If our responses "bother you so much, why do you stay? Just to torture [yourself] with self inflicted irritation?"
These boards are for support; that is more than people coming and asking questions that could be answered with google, saying offensive things such as gender over sex, and generally acting naive. There is a reason that you have to lurk for three days prior to posting. It's an established community across the board with a certain feel. Those three days give you time to see if the board has the right fit for you. If it doesn't, there are a ton of other boards with different vibes. If you want to ask silly questions, be coddled, and take no responsibility for self learning, this just isn't the right community. Instead of complaining and trying to change an established community, why not go to one that's a better fit?
I think a lot of people need to put their big girl panties on. Life is not all rainbows and sunshine and people will not always hold your hand and tell you what you want to hear.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
Therefore, I justify using the report button to get someone banned, someone who was a valuable, contributing member of this community.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Google. That's the point. We are not Google & we are not doctors. When you read 15 questions a day that could easily be answered by Google or simply picking up the phone & calling your healthcare PROFESSIONAL, it's agitating.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselves with self inflicted irritation? Like if it bothers you so much, why do you stay? Because to me this is a perfectly logical place to post those questions, to a bunch of other people in their 2nd tri who might be experiencing something similar. I agree this particular OP seemed a little hung up on something not particularly realistic, but pregnancy makes you crazy. It seems natural that if you're feeling crazy, you try to find other people going through the same crazy.
If our responses "bother you so much, why do you stay? Just to torture [yourself] with self inflicted irritation?"
These boards are for support; that is more than people coming and asking questions that could be answered with google, saying offensive things such as gender over sex, and generally acting naive. There is a reason that you have to lurk for three days prior to posting. It's an established community across the board with a certain feel. Those three days give you time to see if the board has the right fit for you. If it doesn't, there are a ton of other boards with different vibes. If you want to ask silly questions, be coddled, and take no responsibility for self learning, this just isn't the right community. Instead of complaining and trying to change an established community, why not go to one that's a better fit?
I think a lot of people need to put their big girl panties on. Life is not all rainbows and sunshine and people will not always hold your hand and tell you what you want to hear.
Ha. That's fair. I suppose I have a little bit of xkcd syndrome lol. I've never really been able to keep my mouth shut when I thought people were being mean (call me a white knight if you want, but its something my friends IRL appreciate!). As for this specific beef, my introduction to @catsareshady was a long conversation about the gender/sex thing where I actually really was trying to have a real and meaningful conversation about it and felt she was extremely dismissive. She didn't like me either, and said so, there was no love lost there. I think I probably have more in common with you guys than not, but it just seems like if anyone dares to question the regulars, they are villified. A weird line in the sand for a public forum on one of the most popular baby sites on the internet.
@missteacherlady16 I didn't report her, as I have said multiple times. I've actually only reported one person on here and it was someone who seemed to be new and very obviously trolling and I posted openly on the thread that I had reported them. But if she had used those gifs at me again, I probably would have, so I don't know if that distinction is particularly valuable.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Google. That's the point. We are not Google & we are not doctors. When you read 15 questions a day that could easily be answered by Google or simply picking up the phone & calling your healthcare PROFESSIONAL, it's agitating.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselves with self inflicted irritation? Like if it bothers you so much, why do you stay? Because to me this is a perfectly logical place to post those questions, to a bunch of other people in their 2nd tri who might be experiencing something similar. I agree this particular OP seemed a little hung up on something not particularly realistic, but pregnancy makes you crazy. It seems natural that if you're feeling crazy, you try to find other people going through the same crazy.
If our responses "bother you so much, why do you stay? Just to torture [yourself] with self inflicted irritation?"
These boards are for support; that is more than people coming and asking questions that could be answered with google, saying offensive things such as gender over sex, and generally acting naive. There is a reason that you have to lurk for three days prior to posting. It's an established community across the board with a certain feel. Those three days give you time to see if the board has the right fit for you. If it doesn't, there are a ton of other boards with different vibes. If you want to ask silly questions, be coddled, and take no responsibility for self learning, this just isn't the right community. Instead of complaining and trying to change an established community, why not go to one that's a better fit?
I think a lot of people need to put their big girl panties on. Life is not all rainbows and sunshine and people will not always hold your hand and tell you what you want to hear.
Ha. That's fair. I suppose I have a little bit of xkcd syndrome lol. I've never really been able to keep my mouth shut when I thought people were being mean (call me a white knight if you want, but its something my friends IRL appreciate!). As for this specific beef, my introduction to @catsareshady was a long conversation about the gender/sex thing where I actually really was trying to have a real and meaningful conversation about it and felt she was extremely dismissive. She didn't like me either, and said so, there was no love lost there. I think I probably have more in common with you guys than not, but it just seems like if anyone dares to question the regulars, they are villified. A weird line in the sand for a public forum on one of the most popular baby sites on the internet.
*was the most popular baby site on the Internet.
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@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Google. That's the point. We are not Google & we are not doctors. When you read 15 questions a day that could easily be answered by Google or simply picking up the phone & calling your healthcare PROFESSIONAL, it's agitating.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselves with self inflicted irritation? Like if it bothers you so much, why do you stay? Because to me this is a perfectly logical place to post those questions, to a bunch of other people in their 2nd tri who might be experiencing something similar. I agree this particular OP seemed a little hung up on something not particularly realistic, but pregnancy makes you crazy. It seems natural that if you're feeling crazy, you try to find other people going through the same crazy.
If our responses "bother you so much, why do you stay? Just to torture [yourself] with self inflicted irritation?"
These boards are for support; that is more than people coming and asking questions that could be answered with google, saying offensive things such as gender over sex, and generally acting naive. There is a reason that you have to lurk for three days prior to posting. It's an established community across the board with a certain feel. Those three days give you time to see if the board has the right fit for you. If it doesn't, there are a ton of other boards with different vibes. If you want to ask silly questions, be coddled, and take no responsibility for self learning, this just isn't the right community. Instead of complaining and trying to change an established community, why not go to one that's a better fit?
I think a lot of people need to put their big girl panties on. Life is not all rainbows and sunshine and people will not always hold your hand and tell you what you want to hear.
Ha. That's fair. I suppose I have a little bit of xkcd syndrome lol. I've never really been able to keep my mouth shut when I thought people were being mean (call me a white knight if you want, but its something my friends IRL appreciate!). As for this specific beef, my introduction to @catsareshady was a long conversation about the gender/sex thing where I actually really was trying to have a real and meaningful conversation about it and felt she was extremely dismissive. She didn't like me either, and said so, there was no love lost there. I think I probably have more in common with you guys than not, but it just seems like if anyone dares to question the regulars, they are villified. A weird line in the sand for a public forum on one of the most popular baby sites on the internet.
@missteacherlady16 I didn't report her, as I have said multiple times. I've actually only reported one person on here and it was someone who seemed to be new and very obviously trolling and I posted openly on the thread that I had reported them. But if she had used those gifs at me again, I probably would have, so I don't know if that distinction is particularly valuable.
I know you didn't report her, but you have more or less justified her banning by everything you have said here. That's my point. It's that attitude that gets the wrong people banned. That's my issue.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Google. That's the point. We are not Google & we are not doctors. When you read 15 questions a day that could easily be answered by Google or simply picking up the phone & calling your healthcare PROFESSIONAL, it's agitating.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselves with self inflicted irritation? Like if it bothers you so much, why do you stay? Because to me this is a perfectly logical place to post those questions, to a bunch of other people in their 2nd tri who might be experiencing something similar. I agree this particular OP seemed a little hung up on something not particularly realistic, but pregnancy makes you crazy. It seems natural that if you're feeling crazy, you try to find other people going through the same crazy.
If our responses "bother you so much, why do you stay? Just to torture [yourself] with self inflicted irritation?"
These boards are for support; that is more than people coming and asking questions that could be answered with google, saying offensive things such as gender over sex, and generally acting naive. There is a reason that you have to lurk for three days prior to posting. It's an established community across the board with a certain feel. Those three days give you time to see if the board has the right fit for you. If it doesn't, there are a ton of other boards with different vibes. If you want to ask silly questions, be coddled, and take no responsibility for self learning, this just isn't the right community. Instead of complaining and trying to change an established community, why not go to one that's a better fit?
I think a lot of people need to put their big girl panties on. Life is not all rainbows and sunshine and people will not always hold your hand and tell you what you want to hear.
Ha. That's fair. I suppose I have a little bit of xkcd syndrome lol. I've never really been able to keep my mouth shut when I thought people were being mean (call me a white knight if you want, but its something my friends IRL appreciate!). As for this specific beef, my introduction to @catsareshady was a long conversation about the gender/sex thing where I actually really was trying to have a real and meaningful conversation about it and felt she was extremely dismissive. She didn't like me either, and said so, there was no love lost there. I think I probably have more in common with you guys than not, but it just seems like if anyone dares to question the regulars, they are villified. A weird line in the sand for a public forum on one of the most popular baby sites on the internet.
*was the most popular baby site on the Internet.
I said 'one of the most' actually
My bad. Well it's not one of the most popular anymore regardless. I'm trying to keep up with some fast moving threads at TTGP & misread.
Edit: see, I own it when I'm wrong just fine.
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@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
When I first joined, I'll admit I said some stupid things. I was slightly offended by the reactions I got, but I, in no way, shape, or form, regret staying on there. I firmly believe all of the knowledge that I got from those snarky people is what helped me get pregnant. Either you can handle the atmosphere or you can't, and if you can't, time to find a new board.
A lot of the ladies on there have been trying for quite some time and they've made that board their home, so yes, when people come on there asking things like "Does my boyfriend need to have sex with me to get pregnant?" they get an eye-roll. Tough. If you want real, factual information regarding the reproductive process, that is the place to be.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
I don't know it all. But I'm entitled to my opinion and if I want to express said opinion in the holy language of gif, so be it. If you notice the love tits, it goes to those who speak frankly, not in rainbows & unicorn farts. So clearly most people are thinking the same thing, the poster just is the one who said it. I never call anyone a name, unlike so many folks who "demand respect" but at the first sign of snark or sarcasm start picking fights & become degrading.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
@csy2947 people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I've seen you be quite argumentative and just as many people could call your posts rude.
I am argumentative. I have strong opinions. I never tell anyone they are stupid, I (attempt) to never belittle people or their opinions and I NEVER call people names or use gifs to do those things under the radar. There is a difference. Which is why I said that not liking what someone is saying and disagreeing with them is not the same as thinking someone is super rude. There are times I agreed with @catsareshady but disagreed with the way she said them. Apparently I'm not alone.
The report button is not a dislike button.
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I know there is a difference. But demeaning people via gif (and words) is actually spelled out in the TOU as a violation. That isn't me disagreeing, it's me thinking she's acted like a bully like all of you (the know it alls) tend to on occasion
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
Random question. Did you start on TTGP or just join your BMB?
I was on TTTGP at the beginning (I don't think I was super active but it was like a year ago) of my fertility treatments but eventually left because it was just contributing to how crazy the clomid was already making me. When I got pregnant I waited a bit then joined my BMB with a hope I wasn't jinxing anything.
A ton of people's feelings thinking people are mean and rude come from the fact that they didn't hang out with TTGP first.
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
It's funny how everyone finds TTGP so unwelcoming and yet we probably just had, hands down, the best, most informative thread in a long time. The TTGP ladies are real, they're honest, they don't take themselves to seriously (hence the gifs) and they have a zero tolerance for BS. These boards use to be full of honest, no BS women & they left because newcomers wanted to be cuddled and reassured then get real, straight to the point answers. There's a wealth of info you are all missing out on, and there's no one to blame but yourselves. Soon there will be no one left to give real answers and you will be inundated with silliness.
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Google. That's the point. We are not Google & we are not doctors. When you read 15 questions a day that could easily be answered by Google or simply picking up the phone & calling your healthcare PROFESSIONAL, it's agitating.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselves with self inflicted irritation?
But why should THEY leave? They are on there almost every day, for months and months (if not years) and know a lot of the posters and have shared experiences with them.
@nlwz123 I think you misunderstood what I wrote. I think people entering TTT get what they ask for making stupid comments as that is a very emotional board where people have generally been through quite a bit to get there. TTGP is where I felt like people were mean for no reason.
@nlwz123 I think you misunderstood what I wrote. I think people entering TTT get what they ask for making stupid comments as that is a very emotional board where people have generally been through quite a bit to get there. TTGP is where I felt like people were mean for no reason.
I beg to differ, there are lots of women with infertility struggles in TTGP.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
@nlwz123 I think you misunderstood what I wrote. I think people entering TTT get what they ask for making stupid comments as that is a very emotional board where people have generally been through quite a bit to get there. TTGP is where I felt like people were mean for no reason.
I beg to differ, there are lots of women with infertility struggles in TTGP.
@nlwz123 I think you misunderstood what I wrote. I think people entering TTT get what they ask for making stupid comments as that is a very emotional board where people have generally been through quite a bit to get there. TTGP is where I felt like people were mean for no reason.
I beg to differ, there are lots of women with infertility struggles in TTGP.
:-h like me.
I think its fine to be in TTGP if you're having trouble but it seems like thats the whole reason TTT exists. For me I couldn't handle the snark of TTGP when I was so emotionally fragile. I feel like we're just talking in circles because thats another example where I think people asking stupid questions and being all, 'grr, why has it been four months and nothing' makes sense when they are discussing with poeple who are just trying on the normal timeline and completely insensitive when discussing with people strugging with infertility. To me thats the reason to HAVE both boards. But whatever, none of us are going to convince anyone else's mind at this point.
@missteacherlady16 yes, that basically sums up my position. I think I said it explicitly when I first posted. Not sure what point you're trying to make.
Re: Am I crazy? I think I have a hidden twin.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
When you all (the butthurts) need a question answered and have reported every knowledgeable poster and they are gone, you (collectively) will feel it.
I actually think you personally aren't really like that. We've certainly clashed but you always in my recollection express yourself respectfully. Cats rarely ever said anything constructive, it was always snarky and critical.
To the OP, if you think you're having twins, get an elective ultrasound. The chances of a hidden twin in this day and age are slim to none. If your doctor is measuring your stomach & is not concerned, you are more than likely having a singleton. My RE has only missed a baby 1 time in his career and they counted 4 instead of 5.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
Well that is a very unfair thing to say.
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86964709/#Comment_86964709
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86959702/#Comment_86959702
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86959461/#Comment_86959461
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86959393/#Comment_86959393
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86943332/#Comment_86943332
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86940117/#Comment_86940117
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86940089/#Comment_86940089
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86939244/#Comment_86939244
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86939984/#Comment_86939984
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86939314/#Comment_86939314
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86933058/#Comment_86933058
And that's just the first page of post history. What a real meaniehead.
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Also, reference the thread were someone posted every time Cats gave genuine and helpful responses. I think you'll see her banning is a major and unwarranted loss to this community.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
That pretty much sums up what turns me personally off from you all. You think that your brand of information and honesty is inherently more valuable than people who go about it a little more respectfully. Like I hate to break it to you but in the age of google, there's not that much I can learn here that I couldn't learn somewhere else. Lots of people on lots of websites are mothers, and they can share their advice just as well as you all. I'm not sure why you think you all are the premiere experts on all things having to do with babies and motherhood. That isn't to say that you don't have something valuable to add to the conversation of course, just that like, the world isn't going to collapse if any few specific posters on the bump have to move on.
I get that you all feel like you have some type of special and unique community but the problem is that this isn't some obscure forum that you can do that in. Its 'The Bump.' Almost every woman I know who got married used The Knot, and so you have a site that will produce search results for almost ANY google search re: pregnancy. But you are militant about the type of person/post you all think is acceptable. I just don't get it.
Never said we were experts. I said we answered honestly. And tone is not construed via text so don't assume everything you read is in a rude or condescending tone.
"Am I crazy for thinking I'm having twins although all my sonograms show one baby & my doctor also measures one baby?"
"My opinion: Yep."
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselves with self inflicted irritation? Like if it bothers you so much, why do you stay? Because to me this is a perfectly logical place to post those questions, to a bunch of other people in their 2nd tri who might be experiencing something similar. I agree this particular OP seemed a little hung up on something not particularly realistic, but pregnancy makes you crazy. It seems natural that if you're feeling crazy, you try to find other people going through the same crazy.
I've been pregnant, it doesn't make you crazy, it gives you a great excuse to be crazy.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
These boards are for support; that is more than people coming and asking questions that could be answered with google, saying offensive things such as gender over sex, and generally acting naive. There is a reason that you have to lurk for three days prior to posting. It's an established community across the board with a certain feel. Those three days give you time to see if the board has the right fit for you. If it doesn't, there are a ton of other boards with different vibes. If you want to ask silly questions, be coddled, and take no responsibility for self learning, this just isn't the right community. Instead of complaining and trying to change an established community, why not go to one that's a better fit?
I think a lot of people need to put their big girl panties on. Life is not all rainbows and sunshine and people will not always hold your hand and tell you what you want to hear.
I came from trouble trying to get pregnant, not trying to get pregnant. I had a really negative experience in TTGP when I first came to the bump that almost turned me off from the whole site. TTT was a little nicer.
I'm glad to see she was helpful. I lurk here quick frequently and usually what I see is the rudeness. Calling people tacky, low class, ignorant, stupid and questioning people's rights to ask a question she thought was stupid. Maybe never outright, but via gif and sideways comments. I don't think showing me a collection of posts where she was helpful is going to erase my impression of her just being kind of mean. I did not know her very well though so obviously I could be wrong and I don't know her IRL so I have no idea what kind of person she really is. But I don't think you all really realize the impression you make on new people. For whatever that's worth to you.
Therefore, I justify using the report button to get someone banned, someone who was a valuable, contributing member of this community.TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Ha. That's fair. I suppose I have a little bit of xkcd syndrome lol. I've never really been able to keep my mouth shut when I thought people were being mean (call me a white knight if you want, but its something my friends IRL appreciate!). As for this specific beef, my introduction to @catsareshady was a long conversation about the gender/sex thing where I actually really was trying to have a real and meaningful conversation about it and felt she was extremely dismissive. She didn't like me either, and said so, there was no love lost there. I think I probably have more in common with you guys than not, but it just seems like if anyone dares to question the regulars, they are villified. A weird line in the sand for a public forum on one of the most popular baby sites on the internet.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
I know you didn't report her, but you have more or less justified her banning by everything you have said here. That's my point. It's that attitude that gets the wrong people banned. That's my issue.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Edit: see, I own it when I'm wrong just fine.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
So why hang out in the forums where you KNOW those 15 questions will be posted? Just to torture yourselves with self inflicted irritation?
But why should THEY leave? They are on there almost every day, for months and months (if not years) and know a lot of the posters and have shared experiences with them.
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
I think its fine to be in TTGP if you're having trouble but it seems like thats the whole reason TTT exists. For me I couldn't handle the snark of TTGP when I was so emotionally fragile. I feel like we're just talking in circles because thats another example where I think people asking stupid questions and being all, 'grr, why has it been four months and nothing' makes sense when they are discussing with poeple who are just trying on the normal timeline and completely insensitive when discussing with people strugging with infertility. To me thats the reason to HAVE both boards. But whatever, none of us are going to convince anyone else's mind at this point.
@missteacherlady16 yes, that basically sums up my position. I think I said it explicitly when I first posted. Not sure what point you're trying to make.
Really, 25 years ago is what you're comparing to? If there was another baby , they would know by now, really.