Thoughts on December babies..?

preggoandglowing

The few people I know who were born in December always complained that their birthday was overshadowed by the holidays so I always said I didn't want to have a December baby.. and look at me now ha!  DD 12/21. Hubby and I decided to travel the world before conceiving then when we were ready for a Fall baby.. I had to deal with medical stuff. When we finally got cleared, we decided to give it a try and sure enough, got pregnant at first attempt. I was so happy that I quickly got over the DD, but can't help but get bummed out that family (SOL) has made comments about possibly spending Xmas in the hospital this year and it being the worse time of the year to have a baby and birthday parties always being cold, etc, etc. (I really don't like her) Sigh... 

preggoandglowing

oopsie! meant SIL not SOL 

babytuck15

Frankly, what could be a better Christmas present? Once the baby comes, I'm sure they'll be singing a different tune!

koala1107

I was a Christmas baby myself and honestly I've never had any problem with it. I've always loved that my family and friends were always in my hometown for the holidays anyways and it gets to be like a little reunion for my birthday. My mom made a tradition growing up of going out shopping the day after Christmas to pick out my birthday gifts (so that there wouldn't be repeats of Christmas gifts) and I loved it. Plus if there was anything I really had to have come June I could always use the half birthday excuse I definitely lucked out as a kid because my parents tried so hard to overcompensate and I know other December babies who had similar experiences so definitely don't feel guilty about the DD, your LO will still feel plenty special! As for spending Christmas in the hospital, I think there are way worse ways to spend the holidays than meeting your precious child! The expenses will be hard but try to pace out getting gifts and stocking up through the year to make that easier. We have all of our family holidays (DH birthday, anniversary, Christmas etc) within a 2 month period so I've already had to start that the past few years. Hoped that helps reassure you a bit!

Capricornbaby4

My bday is December 27th so I know the feeling! I'm due 12/9 and I've gotten so many people telling me it would be great if it was closer to my bday. I say hell no!

CMDD

I'm sad that our child's bday will be overshadowed with holidays and traveling will be expensive and parties hard to plan. I think about it every day. But what can ya do now?

lalg28

I say it's absolutely beautiful and I wouldn't have it any other way.

redfallon

preggoandglowing said:

oopsie! meant SIL not SOL 

Maybe you did mean SOL? )

asmith40

I was bummed about it at first, DD 12/16/15. I always wanted a baby during summer or fall so I could throw fun outdoor parties. However the more I thought about it I see some positives. First thing was it gives us about 6 months to get in shape for next summer. Secondly we aren't in our third trimester during the hottest months of the yr. I know so many women who were miserable being 8-9 months pregnant in the summer. Lastly, since my husband's family lives out of town it will be nice that our child will get to see them for Christmas and birthdays.

SebastiansMommy04

I was born Dec 28th and always felt I got ripped off for my bday. It also sucks bc people are dumb enough to give you Christmas decorations for your bday. No thank you! And here I am with my due date as Dec 17th! I really hope I don't go late and this child may have a chance at a normal bday!

janma529

koala1107 said:

I was a Christmas baby myself and honestly I've never had any problem with it. I've always loved that my family and friends were always in my hometown for the holidays anyways and it gets to be like a little reunion for my birthday. My mom made a tradition growing up of going out shopping the day after Christmas to pick out my birthday gifts (so that there wouldn't be repeats of Christmas gifts) and I loved it. Plus if there was anything I really had to have come June I could always use the half birthday excuse I definitely lucked out as a kid because my parents tried so hard to overcompensate and I know other December babies who had similar experiences so definitely don't feel guilty about the DD, your LO will still feel plenty special! As for spending Christmas in the hospital, I think there are way worse ways to spend the holidays than meeting your precious child! The expenses will be hard but try to pace out getting gifts and stocking up through the year to make that easier. We have all of our family holidays (DH birthday, anniversary, Christmas etc) within a 2 month period so I've already had to start that the past few years. Hoped that helps reassure you a bit!

Like @preggoandglowing, I always said I would never want to have a baby in December.  I've been telling myself that a December baby is better than no baby.  I loved reading your thoughts on the matter!  Thank you for sharing your experiences :-)

apadilla414

I tried so hard for a summer then fall baby, it didn't happen. We took a 'break' from trying and now we have an edd of 12/21. Ha. God has his own plans. I'm a 12/12 birthday, my sister 12/18. My sis and I both have wished our birthdays were in different months, so it does bum me out just a little. It will make for a wonderful Christmas this year though. We will just have to work harder to make this LO birthday extra special every year.

Catherine1021

My dad was born 12/24, and my 2 best friends growing up had birthdays 12/25 and 12/26. They have all said that it sucks. Here are some things they have complained about. 

My dad said as a kid the only birthday party he ever had a good turn-out was at the end of January. Any other time, most of his friends were busy or out of town. Now he says he likes his birthday because it's pretty much the only time of year that all of his kids come home at the same time! 

One of my friend's said all of her birthday presents were always wrapped in Christmas paper, and her birthday cake was always Christmas themed, even when as a teenager she asked for something else.

My other friend said she always felt like her mom just held back some of her Christmas presents and gave them to her on her birthday. (She says her sister always had more Christmas presents.) 

I feel like these are all things that could easily be corrected with a little planning though. And I never forget their birthdays because they are so close to Christmas! 

I'm due on 12/14. I really didn't want a Dec baby...  but now I am just so excited that I don't really care anymore!

marikadevienne

I'm gonna make half birthday a REALLY big deal at our house. That way baby can have friends over for a summer bday party. I think my kid will be totally cool with 2 bdays:) spoiled but that way real bday isn't hard to deal with

cclove23

I know the feeling DH and I didn't want to have a baby too close to the holidays. We feared that it wouldn't be fair to the child but we are due on Christmas Day smh. Just hoping I'm either a few days early or late. But as long as it's a happy healthy baby that's all we can ask for.

vppittman

My bday is 2 weeks after Christmas and the only thing I hate is running out of things to ask for bc I have to tell people what I want for Xmas and then my bday. The struggle is real
I remember having fun sleepover parties and movie nights for my bday parties growing up. I don't think I ever felt slighted bc of the weather. And I ALWAYS had snow days on my bday and now I am a school administrator and still end up with my bday off for snow. Don't worry! We are all lucky to have babies on the way!

MegStark

My bday is the 19th and I love that it's around the Holidays! The only thing I remember being disappointed about one year when I was little is that I couldn't have a pool party for my bday in summer. My mom found an indoor pool that took care of that problem.

Melissadmag

I was really hoping for a November birthday because my mom and I were both born in November but it didn't work the first time we tried, but it did the next month so oh well. I do feel bad that it will be surrounded by all the holidays since I also have friends and family that complain about their December birthdays but I guess we will just have to make the extra effort to make sure LO always feels like it is his special day, have birthday wrapping paper, not holiday wrapping paper for his gifts, not make his parties holiday themed, or a two for one sort of thing where hey let's all get together for Christmas, and while we are here sing happy birthday to our LO. Also not skimp on the amount of birthday gifts he would have gotten in a different month. I dunno, I feel like yes it will take some extra effort on our parts as mommies but it will be okay as long as we always let them know that their birthday is their special day and just as exciting no matter when it is. 

MegStark

@melissadmag all good points. And also, do you already know you're having a boy? Or just saying he?? I ask because I keep calling mine a she! If you do already know, consider me jealous.

ketobaby

I'm just hoping for a healthy baby. Gifts for their birthday will be easy for me because I can just save one out of the Christmas pile. Hopefully I can teach my child how to be humble and thankful so it won't be an issue. Can't stand brats so here is to hoping.

preggoandglowing

Thanks all for sharing. It's great to be able to chat with other Dec mommies ;-)

katiejoern

I am/was anxious about being in the hospital for Christmas (due 12/21), but that's because I will have a 2 year old at home and would hate to miss her on Christmas morning. However, she is young and we will have Christmas another day if I end up in the hospital.
In regards to the baby having a birthday close to Christmas...I think it's terrible for those of you that didn't have a special birthday because of it being close to the holiday. My MIL complains about it all the time (hers is dec 27). I feel like I will make sure to go out of my way to make my child feel special on their birthday! Also, the half birthday party in the summer is an awesome idea!
We are all going to work with whatever we get, ladies! ☺️

JessK05

I had an end of August baby before and it was so hot, it was awful. Really looking forward to not having that problem this time.
I think if you make an effort to not combine the birthdays and holidays everything will work out.

Also we get the tax break for the whole year!

mattkrisjones

I am a December baby myself, December 30! Our baby is due December 26. My parents always made a big deal about Christmas and my birthday as separate occasions. I never had any problems growing up except the year I wanted a pool party LOL. As long as I have a healthy baby I do not care!

mfarglio

SO and I plan on celebrating the little one's half birthday in June. It's something my family has always done with Christmas babies and our due date is Dec. 26.

glovebug

I had always said I would never want a December baby since my Mom and MIL and myself all have December bdays. BUT...we are thrilled. I love the idea of celebrating on our half-birthday. I have one best friend who always sends me a card and present June 16th instead of December 16th. Love it!  I do request no christmas wrapping paper and no christmas themed cakes...but My MIL loves having a Christmas Bday cake. I guess we can wait and see what our LO want/like/need to feel celebrated!

Melissadmag

I have no idea what it is, and honestly don't know why he kept coming out since I think it's a girl lol. I am having my 3D gender ultrasound on June 14th so hopefully I'll know then  

Cnrwife

I havent posted with this DDC yet and just lurk - but I totally relate to this! I have my DD who's Birthday is December 8th and now this baby's due date is December 18th - should make for a real interestig month of December for us in the many years to come. My DD is 3.5, and this hasn't been an issue so far for the most part - we make it seperate and make a big deal for her birthday. There are of course some of "those" relatives that combine her bday with christmas but I think as long as you go that extra mile to celebrate them it won't be any matter. We've tried hard to space the months out for birthdays and such, but with 3 losses in the past year and a half, I'll take my two healthy December babes

duckinoven

Went in for our doc appt today and our date was moved a week later to 12/18, with a friendly reminder that FTM are 7 days late, so might be a Xmas baby. Doc was telling us about half birthday parties too .

Also, my mom has always been super serious about Christmas and isn't too keen on sharing holidays with my in laws, this seems like a natural way to shift the focus from her holiday expectations from when I was a kid to what is best for her grandbaby by being with all the family!

candicek15

My EDD is Dec. 26th and I'm kind of hoping to go late and have a New Year's baby! lol. I think that it can be tough but I agree with a PP who said that most of the annoyances can be avoided by a bit of planning ahead!

caseybeth1213

I have made this comment a few times on the board when people are worried about December bdays but my son and I both have a birthday around Christmas and I have never thought anything bad of it.  Everyone is in such a happy mood in December! This baby birthday will be just as special and unique as my son will be I couldn't be anymore excited about having another Christmas baby!

daylynj

I don't mind so much having a December baby!  We are due December 5th, my FIL's birthday is November 26th and my BIL is December 2nd, so we will have quite a few family birthdays around the same time, so lots of celebrating  

LeighPA

As the mother of a December baby already, I can assure you as surely it's just another reason to party and have cake. It's NOT the end of the world.

tewinkle27

daylynj said:

I don't mind so much having a December baby!  We are due December 5th, my FIL's birthday is November 26th and my BIL is December 2nd, so we will have quite a few family birthdays around the same time, so lots of celebrating  

We have the same DD!

RSB1982

I am kind of excited to have a December baby to be honest.  My DH is a college professor and has most of December and January off work.  His college doesn't start back up until late January.  This is pretty convenient for us this upcoming year! 

We travel for the holidays (our families live about 7 hours away) so this way the grandparents will be able to see the baby around his or her birthday (my DD is 12/28).  The only thing that worries me a little is when the baby get's older and would like a more traditional birthday party with friends.  I'm guessing we may try the whole 1/2 birthday thing and see how that goes. 

daylynj

tewinkle27 said:

daylynj said:

I don't mind so much having a December baby!  We are due December 5th, my FIL's birthday is November 26th and my BIL is December 2nd, so we will have quite a few family birthdays around the same time, so lots of celebrating  

We have the same DD!

yay for December 5th

Bubbz

Husband has a 12/23 birthday and he's always HATED it.

Since we're in an area where the winter is poopy, I think we'll go the "half birthday" route.

shantelwilson1988

the baby's anticipated due date is December 23rd which is me and my husband's wedding anniversary so we're pretty excited

juju0925

I thought the same thing at first but then thought, I'm having a baby. I got over it pretty quickly. We've been dealing with infertility for 3.5 years so I'll take that baby when ever the good Lord gives it to me.

awpreggers

My DD is Dec 31st, I have to say the holidays and extra expense right in the middle of holiday season doesn't have me as excited as I would like to be. I have a summer child and a fall child already, I was really hoping for a spring baby...but being infertile I'll take what I can get!

Rusty NailHer

My oldest was born two weeks before Christmas and everyone has been supportive to ensure his birthday was separate from holidays. My 5mo old was born three days before last thanksgiving. Again, everyone was supportive. I was even back in the hospital over thanksgiving with her. It was the best hospital care ever. I even got thanksgiving dinner, twice. It isn't bad.