As you deserve acknowledgement, and you are a mom, I think most men would agree that until the baby is born, mothers day is something to wait for! Its like waiting for your bday or Christmas. It will be very special next year when you have your baby! Don't sweat it! I talked about it with my hubby and he said it takes the fun out of waiting and I agree! I didn't expect anything but he did Clean and rearrange the apartment which was just as nice! Don't be upset all the fun of waiting!
Because my DH didn't even say happy mothers day after being instructed I wanted breakfast in bed, I dropped him at his mom's house, and took off to my own mom's house. Having WAAY more fun here than I would have had sitting in bed eating! Happy mothers day!
I can't even fathom treating my husband like this.
Maybe it will help us feel better to remember that we our definitely mommy to our unborn baby, and they would have told us and done something special for us if they could. I know it made me feel a little better when I thought of it that way.
I understand why you would be upset but I seen as it is more of a reason for him to spoil me next year on the "first official" Mother's Day.... My husband isn't home but I didn't get a text or anything, but I understand...
I had my son on Mother's Day in 2012 so I don't know if DH had anything special planned!
Personally I would have liked to have been acknowledged in some way so I understand your feelings. If guys need pushing, I'd rather them not do anything. You know should I orchestrate it so I can IG it? I leave it up to him. It usually works out in my favor.
I wasn't expecting much, because we don't really do the gift thing, but DH didn't even say Happy Mother's Day to me at first! We went over to his mom n dad's around supper time, and she and I kinda commiserated about how nothing special was done. She asked her other son (who is currently separated from his wife) over for lunch, and he said no, he'd just see her later. Her husband told her she "wasn't his mom" and that was that. I told her I hadn't even gotten a happy mothers day yet (my hubby had just walked in the room) and he goes, "Yes you did, you were still asleep though!" (Cop out!).
Anyway, when we got home he did pull me in close, tell me he loved me, and said happy mother's day real sweet. He proceeded to cook me a steak dinner, with pasta salad and roasted asparagus, and ran to the store n got some potato salad from the deli (I had been craving it all day). No idea if this was spur of the moment or planned, but at least I got SOMETHING.
Oh, I have to add - my 4-year old told me happy Mother's Day, then asked if we were going to have some birthday cake. Hubby swears he didn't tell her to say it, but it was pretty stinkin cute
While you're upset about a gift or card, you should really be upset if he's going to be the type of Husband/Dad who doesn't help in the middle of the night when baby cries, doesn't give you a day off to do whatever it is you need to do, doesn't help out around the house with cleaning and cooking. Those are the best gifts you can get once little one arrives.
My husband asked me if I wanted anything for mother's day this year (FTM here) and I said, "No... because then I'd have to do something for Father's Day!" Haha. So we didn't really celebrate me.
My mom sent me a card though and my mother-in-law got me flowers, which was nice, but I find it a little strange still. I don't feel like a mother yet... But I told everyone I was the best mom in the whole world because so far, I haven't done anything wrong. Haha.
You have the right to be upset if that is how you feel! I would let him know if you are upset though so he can at least have the opportunity to do something different on a future Mother's Day. I don't believe in telling my SO what to do, but I don't expect him to read my mind and magically know what I want either lol. We aren't huge into these kinds of holidays and I honestly didn't expect anything, but my SO gave me the sweetest card and wrote a cute little note in it that made me cry. I was just excited that he acknowledged me and made me feel special and expressed his love and joy for our child as well. Then he went golfing and I did laundry and the day went on like any other hahaa!
Like some of the PPs here, I don't feel like a mother yet. I told my husband I didn't think we should celebrate Mother's Day this year, and he doesn't want to celebrate Father's Day this year either. But we did have a conversation about how we would like to celebrate these holidays when our baby is here.
OP maybe you could talk to your husband about how you might celebrate Mother's Day next year? If he had no idea that you were expecting something for Mother's Day, I'd try to let this one slide. I think starting a conversation about Mother's Day and Father's Day traditions you'd like to start when your baby arrives would be a good way to avoid disappointment in the future.
I would not get mad. My 1st pregnancy I was pregnant during Mother's Day and felt until I actually have the baby I would not celebrate. But some sort of acknowledgment would have been nice though...
Mine told me happy mothers day but that's it. I wasn't really expecting much seeing as how he doesn't get me anything for valentines day, or any other holiday besides Christmas. It upsets me because I always get him something. At least a card, sometimes a box of chocolates or something.
We have always done just a little something for our dogs....so this year I REALLY wanted a prenatal massage. I about a week before told him that Boomer and Bella (our dogs) has thought of some things they could get mommy for Mothers Day and left it on the kitchen table. I got a homemade card with drawings of all of us and instructions to go get a massage on my next day off.
We have never made a big deal about Mother's or Father's Day. My kids make me something but I don't expect anyone else to do anything since I'm not their mother! I do things for MY mom but I'm not my husband's mother so why should he give me presents/flowers etc? I'd rather be appreciated for BEING a good Mother to our kids out of the blue, just by him telling me. Just my feeling I also don't like Valentine's Day, I'd MUCH rather get a random flower or note on any regular day than red roses, cards and chocolates on Valentine's Day just because it's expected!
I think it's very interesting to read everyone's perspectives on the subject. I personally didn't really expect anything. I've never been the type to expect gifts on holidays. (DH did get me a small gift, told me Happy Mother's Day, and my mother-in-law bought me a really sweet card.) So I can't complain. However, I don't see anything wrong with expecting, wanting, or needing acknowledgement, a gift, or just a little something extra on Mother's Day. Carrying a child is hard. Period. Even the "smoothest" pregnancies require effort. So, if your SO didn't do what you wanted, communicate that to them. Men do not read minds, and they only know what you tell them. I learned this the hard way. But thankfully I did. I really hope that everyone was still able to enjoying their Mother's Day. Material gifts, or not the biggest blessing and gift will be in our arms within a few short months!
I guess I'm really lucky to have such a thoughtful fiancé! We've been together for 8 years and he never misses an excuse to get me something like flowers or chocolates. He went all the way to the mall that's over 45 minutes away just to get me my favorite chocolates for mother's day. But he went on Saturday and said it was for "Early Mother's Day" lol. I love him so much. He really will make an amazing father. :x
I know my husband loves and appreciates me and everything I do as a mother and wife. I don't need gifts to feel appreciated. He's away and called to say happy Mother's Day and that is enough for me. I would never demand or instruct my husband to do certain things for me.
I wouldn't be too hard on him. It's probably just not something that struck him that he should do. My husband said he wanted to do a little something for me for Mother's Day and i told him I didn't want him to because for me NEXT year will really be my first Mother's Day. I know pregnancy can be hard but I don't consider myself a mother until that baby is in my arms.
I can see why you were disappointed, no shame in feeling what you feel. Perhaps for your DH, it just hasn't set in yet and you'll get the ballyhoo you deserve next year! I had a pretty quiet Mother's Day myself (not to worry, you weren't the only one!), but because it hasn't quite set in for me as I don't feel like a mom yet, it wasn't a conversation I had with my husband. I hadn't noticed. I was too worried about calling my mom and grandma who would slice me if I forgot! (We're Italian...)
Anyway, you're entitled to feel how you feel, but go easy on the guy...they can be slow sometimes.
Re: husband did nothing for mothers day. Am I wrong for being upset
Oh well..
Personally I would have liked to have been acknowledged in some way so I understand your feelings. If guys need pushing, I'd rather them not do anything. You know should I orchestrate it so I can IG it? I leave it up to him. It usually works out in my favor.
Anyway, when we got home he did pull me in close, tell me he loved me, and said happy mother's day real sweet. He proceeded to cook me a steak dinner, with pasta salad and roasted asparagus, and ran to the store n got some potato salad from the deli (I had been craving it all day). No idea if this was spur of the moment or planned, but at least I got SOMETHING.
My mom sent me a card though and my mother-in-law got me flowers, which was nice, but I find it a little strange still. I don't feel like a mother yet... But I told everyone I was the best mom in the whole world because so far, I haven't done anything wrong. Haha.
Anyway, you're entitled to feel how you feel, but go easy on the guy...they can be slow sometimes.
Happy belated Mother's Day, mama. : )