Bummed about husband's circumcision

MaddJay24567

I've been doing all this research on circumcision for our son and it's making me so sad to realize how much sexual sensation is lost in the penis. I had no idea how important the foreskin was to sexual pleasure. I put it together and I totally think that my husband suffers from a loss of penis sensitivity. He gets hard just fine but then often he just loses it after a while and I'm pretty sure it's because he's not feeling enough during sex. Dryness is also a problem for us, and I'm reading that losing the natural moisture from the penis and the gliding action of the foreskin is a big reason why. He's older: 46 and so that's why I think it's becoming a problem now. It's hard for me to talk about with him because I don't want to make him feel worse about it. It makes me sad to I realize I'll never get to experience sex as nature intended it. I'm sure I'm just feeling worse about it now because I'm emotional and pregnant but it still sucks.

bean8213

What's done is done. I suggest you get over it.

HOLLYSODEN

What a rude response! You chose to read the post...if you don't like it move on and "get over it" instead of being a brat! Women need to come together and support each other especially this late in pregnancy. Women like you are why I carefully choose my female friends. You are a hater of the worst kind!

Tabbi8486

I think that the benefits of circumcision far outweigh the negatives. I know guys who are uncircumcised and many of them struggled with infection and they say they wish they would've been circumcised at birth. Sorry your going through this but keep in mind there are a lot of reasons this is done.

lola2bee

Maybe you should have a doctor diagnose this as opposed to assuming that is the issue.

Bmore112

I know an uncircumcised man as a friend. I had the circumcision talk with him when we thought we were having a boy. He told me he had infections when he was younger and even had one recently! He wishes his parents would've had him circumcised as a baby. He told me it was extremely embarrassing to go to the Dr to be treated for an infection when he is std free and very clean. He also told me because most men are circumcised it put a damper on his sex life. He had many women turn him down because it looked different or was too much work to do oral. My boyfriend is circumcised and when we had the talk he said he would want his son to too because the health benefits. I just asked him if he felt like he was missing out and read your post to him, he disagrees and said " I would rather be circumcised and not have risk for infection or added personal hygiene to care for, besides I was circumcised before I knew about sex so if there is added pleasure I am missing out on then I am not missing what I never had". I hope man's response will help you feel better. The hormones are almost done, hang in there

Beth0011

I don't think it's right to assume it's because he is circumcised. There is no real evidence to support that.

Brieb33

Basically the whole circumcision std thing is this - you can get an std whether you have foreskin or not, so don't screw someone w an std. As for the whole reason this convo began maybe he could just see a doctor. It's totally normal for guys to lose erections - just like we aren't always turned on depending many factors, and while it may be "embarrassing" it's a topic of normal convo with doctors and patients. I chose to not circumcise my son, and I will teach him how to CLEAN his penis. Take a damn bath and wash your genitals people, it's not rocket science.

Additionally, I have been with circumcised and uncircumcised guys. It's not any more work and it looks different Bc IT IS, it has foreskin. Wow. But to choose to not be with a man Bc he has a penis God gave him, is pretty shallow and honestly I'm sure the females that don't want to be with a guy w an uncircumcised penis don't have some pristine beautiful vagina. If some woman doesn't want to marry my son Bc he isn't circumcised well thank God Bc she's a shallow ho! And that's all.

jessiemonkey

I would say any sexual problems a man over 40 has could just be due to being...over 40. When men hit that age it is more likely to expericance some form of ED.
And reading other comments on here about uncircumcised men...um my husband is uncircumcised and he has never had any infections so I don't feel like those who have problems with such have those problems due to not being circumcised, but prob not caring for themselves properly, just my experience!

soontobecapek

I doubt he is bummed about his circumcision, you shouldn't be. You shouldn't self diagnose, ever... Baby Daddy is circ'd and is actually the most sensitive I've ever been with. I have a friend who isn't circ'd and he said if/when he has a son he will be circumcising him. While he loves his penis as much as the next guy, he had infections growing up, which are quite common in uncircumcised boys. Don't assume it's his circumcision when it could be an actual medical problem, it also could be just aging.

tdart14

Seeing as he is close to 50, if he is concerned he should talk to his doctor. With his age it is unlikely it has anything to do with him being circumcised.

As women get older they hit menopause, are harder to become aroused, are drier. Similar thing for men.

It seriously feels like you are just trolling looking for women on here to start fighting about circumcision.

gatormom73

Its not just girls that will make fun of your son if you dont circumcise. Little kids are mean and ruthless will say his penis looks like a soft shell turtle. When the child grows up they dont feel confident even being with awoman. Its sad. I do agree with PP that he should probably go to the doctor. I dont understand the wetness part. I thought the vagina was suppose to get wet when turned on maybe your not getting wet enough?

Brieb33

@gatormom73 completely disagree - people will make fun of your kids for being a gator fan though. Btw, kids get made fun of for everything - big nose, big ears, small boobs, whatever. If some boy is making fun of my sons penis I will tell him to ask the boy why he is staring at his penis and is he a homo bc that's weird.

nicolebishop91

A past partner also hated his. He would tell me it caused him pain. And was looking into having his foreskin removed. I am having another boy and he will be circumcised. Its a decision for you and your partner to make together. And just a heads up most drs wont perform on an infant older than 3 months. So you don't have to decide at the hospital if your not ready, but don't wait too long.

gatormom73

@Brieb33 Lol its okay im fine to agree to disagree I just know that 15 years from now im sure your son will be asking why you didnt save him the extra teasing for a simple procedure he will not remember. I know a lot of women that agree with you, Im just not one of them. . Gator Bait
Sorry I had to!!

clarever

gatormom73 said:

@Brieb33 Lol its okay im fine to agree to disagree I just know that 15 years from now im sure your son will be asking why you didnt save him the extra teasing for a simple procedure he will not remember. I know a lot of women that agree with you, Im just not one of them. . Gator Bait
Sorry I had to!!

Considering many people are making the decision to not circumcised, I don't think teasing will be an issue. I had read somewhere (quite a while ago so unsure of how valid the information was ) that it's about half and half when it comes to boys who are/aren't circumcised.
We are choosing to circumcise but worrying about our son being teased did not weigh into our decision.

Tabbi8486

clarever said:

gatormom73 said:

@Brieb33 Lol its okay im fine to agree to disagree I just know that 15 years from now im sure your son will be asking why you didnt save him the extra teasing for a simple procedure he will not remember. I know a lot of women that agree with you, Im just not one of them. . Gator Bait
Sorry I had to!!

Considering many people are making the decision to not circumcised, I don't think teasing will be an issue. I had read somewhere (quite a while ago so unsure of how valid the information was ) that it's about half and half when it comes to boys who are/aren't circumcised.
We are choosing to circumcise but worrying about our son being teased did not weigh into our decision.

Half and half is not quite accurate. It's actually about 60% do and 40% don't but I see where you are coming from it is less of an issue. I will say though my husband has a friend who is uncircumcised and as soon as I brought this issue up he immediately told be about how his friend was constantly made fun of from the moment people found out. I've known a few uncircumcised men and all of them agree that they wish they would've been circumcised not only because of the bullying issue but also because of hygiene issues and infections.

MommaAlyx

I had my son circumsized because I thought it was healthier, plus My boyfriend is also circumsized and he pretty much insisted our son have it done too... I've been with a guy in the past who was uncircumsized, and I ended up with a yeast infection... That being said, it probably was one in a million that I got an infection, and I personally don't prefer one over the other, but in this case, I'd say your husband might just be suffering from a little erectile dysfunction. That happens to a lot of men. He should be talking to a doc.

saric83

Brieb33 said:

@gatormom73 completely disagree - people will make fun of your kids for being a gator fan though. Btw, kids get made fun of for everything - big nose, big ears, small boobs, whatever. If some boy is making fun of my sons penis I will tell him to ask the boy why he is staring at his penis and is he a homo bc that's weird.

Really?  People are super offended by someone saying to just get over it, but this is cool?  Awesome. 

I was totally onboard with your point until then because a decision to circumcise totally shouldn't be based on concerns of being made fun of given that kids will find whatever. But your response is just ridiculous.  I guess rock on if that helps your kid feel better for getting made fun of to make fun of someone else. 

Brieb33

@gatormom73 when and if my son comes to me or his father and asks why we didn't circumcise him, I'll say because we loved you so much we didn't think cutting off the most sensitive part of your body because "60% of parents" chose to is a good enough reason to strap your arms and legs down whether you remember it or not. And @saric83, yah if some boy is making fun of my sons penis he should check is sexual orientation. Have you ever had a female make fun of your vagina? Doubtful, if you did maybe you would wonder why she's staring at it. I absolutely will teach my son to stick up for himself.

gatormom73

@Brieb33 alright totally understandable. Every baby born its the mothers and fathers decision to make. No wrong or right answer here just opinions. . And to the part about boys making fun I should have said not really 'lil boys' but when girls and boys mess around at young ages the girls go around telling their friends of the experience they had with the boy, if the girl brought up the boy being uncircumcised it could potentially get back to a group of boys that could possibly tease him.

Brieb33

@gatormom73 I'm also going to teach son about waiting until marriage. I realize this is "far fetched" but I hope by the time he is sexually active the female would be mature enough that she's not running around joking about it.

saric83

Brieb33 said:

@gatormom73 when and if my son comes to me or his father and asks why we didn't circumcise him, I'll say because we loved you so much we didn't think cutting off the most sensitive part of your body because "60% of parents" chose to is a good enough reason to strap your arms and legs down whether you remember it or not. And @saric83, yah if some boy is making fun of my sons penis he should check is sexual orientation. Have you ever had a female make fun of your vagina? Doubtful, if you did maybe you would wonder why she's staring at it. I absolutely will teach my son to stick up for himself.

Let's just agree to disagree about how we would want our kids to stick up for themselves.

Brieb33

Hahaha ok @saric83

khaleesi123

I wasn't going to comment as I found this post a bit ridiculous to begin with and there has already been hundreds and hundreds of circumcision debates on bump may already but I would like to add... I never thought of it and didn't have a big opinion about it so I asked DH what he would want for his son as he is uncircumcised, he said he would wish the same for his son. He has never ever had infections and has never ever been teased by other people about it. Lucky I'm having a girl so I don't have to worry about this anymore.

trishadobel

I personally feel like someone starts this conversation at least once a week. I have to wonder if the only reason people keep bringing it up is to cause controversy. To each their own, but it really isn't worth bickering about. No one is going to change their mind about the topic...

vintagemom42

So glad I'm having a girl.

lola2bee

FYI I think this is our previous anti-circ poster reborn under a new handle and looking to stir things up. Troll Alert!

soontobecapek

saric83 said:

Brieb33 said:

@gatormom73 completely disagree - people will make fun of your kids for being a gator fan though. Btw, kids get made fun of for everything - big nose, big ears, small boobs, whatever. If some boy is making fun of my sons penis I will tell him to ask the boy why he is staring at his penis and is he a homo bc that's weird.

Really?  People are super offended by someone saying to just get over it, but this is cool?  Awesome. 

I was totally onboard with your point until then because a decision to circumcise totally shouldn't be based on concerns of being made fun of given that kids will find whatever. But your response is just ridiculous.  I guess rock on if that helps your kid feel better for getting made fun of to make fun of someone else. 

Yea I was definitely taken aback by this... Not cool...

Brieb33

Glad I could take you guys aback. I'm not raising a sissy boy who doesn't stick up for himself. Sorry not sorry.

lestes1121

Tabbi8486 said:

clarever said:

gatormom73 said:

@Brieb33 Lol its okay im fine to agree to disagree I just know that 15 years from now im sure your son will be asking why you didnt save him the extra teasing for a simple procedure he will not remember. I know a lot of women that agree with you, Im just not one of them. . Gator Bait
Sorry I had to!!

Considering many people are making the decision to not circumcised, I don't think teasing will be an issue. I had read somewhere (quite a while ago so unsure of how valid the information was ) that it's about half and half when it comes to boys who are/aren't circumcised.
We are choosing to circumcise but worrying about our son being teased did not weigh into our decision.

Half and half is not quite accurate. It's actually about 60% do and 40% don't but I see where you are coming from it is less of an issue. I will say though my husband has a friend who is uncircumcised and as soon as I brought this issue up he immediately told be about how his friend was constantly made fun of from the moment people found out. I've known a few uncircumcised men and all of them agree that they wish they would've been circumcised not only because of the bullying issue but also because of hygiene issues and infections.

Are these numbers all males in general. Or just at birth. I am a nurse so I see a lot of babies go uncircumcised at birth bc insurance will not pay for it but 2-3 years later the same babies are back in with a dr "claiming" the child has a medical need for it. But when you ask the mom they don't ever recall having a problem with it they just know insurance will cover it. I don't side either way as I am a mom to only girls I was just curious as to where the statistics came from. But after all it's your baby do what you feel is best and remember if he eve starts having problems with cleanliness you can get it done later on.

lestes1121

Tabbi8486 said:

clarever said:

gatormom73 said:

@Brieb33 Lol its okay im fine to agree to disagree I just know that 15 years from now im sure your son will be asking why you didnt save him the extra teasing for a simple procedure he will not remember. I know a lot of women that agree with you, Im just not one of them. . Gator Bait
Sorry I had to!!

Considering many people are making the decision to not circumcised, I don't think teasing will be an issue. I had read somewhere (quite a while ago so unsure of how valid the information was ) that it's about half and half when it comes to boys who are/aren't circumcised.
We are choosing to circumcise but worrying about our son being teased did not weigh into our decision.

Half and half is not quite accurate. It's actually about 60% do and 40% don't but I see where you are coming from it is less of an issue. I will say though my husband has a friend who is uncircumcised and as soon as I brought this issue up he immediately told be about how his friend was constantly made fun of from the moment people found out. I've known a few uncircumcised men and all of them agree that they wish they would've been circumcised not only because of the bullying issue but also because of hygiene issues and infections.

Are these numbers all males in general. Or just at birth. I am a nurse so I see a lot of babies go uncircumcised at birth bc insurance will not pay for it but 2-3 years later the same babies are back in with a dr "claiming" the child has a medical need for it. But when you ask the mom they don't ever recall having a problem with it they just know insurance will cover it. I don't side either way as I am a mom to only girls I was just curious as to where the statistics came from. But after all it's your baby do what you feel is best and remember if he eve starts having problems with cleanliness you can get it done later on.

lola2bee

Brieb33 said:

Glad I could take you guys aback. I'm not raising a sissy boy who doesn't stick up for himself. Sorry not sorry.

Ugh please don't teach him to call people "homos". Yuck!

MaddJay24567

Well, he is unhappy with it and wishes he wasn't circumcised, but it's true that there's nothing he can do about it now. He doesn't dwell on it. Typical guy, he won't go to a doctor, but I know he's tried the ED meds because a few times I found them in with his bathroom stuff. They're obviously not working enough and I don't know what else to try. I just wish I wasn't one of those pregnant women who wants sex even more that usual! Although at this point it's getting almost impossible :P

I don't think guys get made fun of for it any more. I don't know what the numbers are exactly, but leaving babies whole is way more common now. Besides, what kind of a sick person makes fun of a guy for his natural body? That's some messed up body shaming right there!

CanadaMom17

I'm never sure why this is a cleanliness issue.  I had a long time partner, uncircumcised, who knew how to bathe.  If your kid grows up not knowing how to bathe, that's a bigger issue that shouldn't need surgical intervention.  It's called soap and water.  Teach them that it needs to be done in that whole 10 second extra cleaning process.

Tabbi8486

lestes1121 said:

Tabbi8486 said:

clarever said:

gatormom73 said:

@Brieb33 Lol its okay im fine to agree to disagree I just know that 15 years from now im sure your son will be asking why you didnt save him the extra teasing for a simple procedure he will not remember. I know a lot of women that agree with you, Im just not one of them. . Gator Bait
Sorry I had to!!

Considering many people are making the decision to not circumcised, I don't think teasing will be an issue. I had read somewhere (quite a while ago so unsure of how valid the information was ) that it's about half and half when it comes to boys who are/aren't circumcised.
We are choosing to circumcise but worrying about our son being teased did not weigh into our decision.

Half and half is not quite accurate. It's actually about 60% do and 40% don't but I see where you are coming from it is less of an issue. I will say though my husband has a friend who is uncircumcised and as soon as I brought this issue up he immediately told be about how his friend was constantly made fun of from the moment people found out. I've known a few uncircumcised men and all of them agree that they wish they would've been circumcised not only because of the bullying issue but also because of hygiene issues and infections.

Are these numbers all males in general. Or just at birth. I am a nurse so I see a lot of babies go uncircumcised at birth bc insurance will not pay for it but 2-3 years later the same babies are back in with a dr "claiming" the child has a medical need for it. But when you ask the mom they don't ever recall having a problem with it they just know insurance will cover it. I don't side either way as I am a mom to only girls I was just curious as to where the statistics came from. But after all it's your baby do what you feel is best and remember if he eve starts having problems with cleanliness you can get it done later on.

It's at birth. I got it from several different websites. Some say 59% and some say 58% but it's not 50/50. If you do a simple Google search and make sure it's a realiable source like .edu site or something like that throes are the results you find. I personally don't care what other people do when it comes to this issue, I just know if I was having a boy he would be circumcised. It's not my business what any other couple does. I just simply was stating statistics and what I have heard from some guy friends.

Tabbi8486

Brieb33 said:

Glad I could take you guys aback. I'm not raising a sissy boy who doesn't stick up for himself. Sorry not sorry.

It's one thing to teach your child to stick up for themselves but to insult homosexuals is an entire different situation. That's promoting the very thing that you would be upset about in the first place... Bullying. At the end of the day if you don't want to circumcise your child... FANTASTIC! If you do FANTASTIC! No one else can make that decision for you but i really hope you reconsider telling your child that it is okay to call someone a homo because the person that will be offending probably won't be the person who made fun of your son. It will be the kid who is actually gay that gets his feeing hurt and he probably was just on the sidelines overhearing the conversation. I personally could care less if other parents circumcise their child or not because that's their business. I just know what I would do. The only thing that bothered me with what you said was when you would teach your child to insult someone based their life decisions. Typically the guy that make fun of another guys penis actually aren't gay so that means you wouldn't be insulting them you'd be insulting someone else. Just something to think about.