again, totally understand wanting a baby young, I wanted a baby since I was 18!
and liked i said before, I am so glade we waited.
I wouldn't have finished my degree
DH wouldn't have started his PhD
and as of recently since we kind of been TTC since June with no luck,I decided to go back for my masters...which I never thought I would want till a few months ago. And I do want! But I didn't know till I start looking at the different programs, which wouldn't have happened if I was pregnant at this time.
Do I wish I had a baby now? YES
would I have gone back to school if that was the case? Most likely not...
and again I am fairly young, will be turning 24!
but as PPs said, it seems like you are only taking in what you perceive as "bad" without look at the sound advice and example they give.
And once again it is your choice in the end so whatever you do decide I hope it works out
again, totally understand wanting a baby young, I wanted a baby since I was 18!
and liked i said before, I am so glade we waited.
I wouldn't have finished my degree
DH wouldn't have started his PhD
and as of recently since we kind of been TTC since June with no luck,I decided to go back for my masters...which I never thought I would want till a few months ago. And I do want! But I didn't know till I start looking at the different programs, which wouldn't have happened if I was pregnant at this time.
Do I wish I had a baby now? YES
would I have gone back to school if that was the case? Most likely not...
and again I am fairly young, will be turning 24!
but as PPs said, it seems like you are only taking in what you perceive as "bad" without look at the sound advice and example they give.
And once again it is your choice in the end so whatever you do decide I hope it works out
I am excited to go back to school... a bit scare and thinking I've gone crazy... But know that this is a good change for me.
and again a year ago I was planing on being a stay at home wife/mom, but then after trying for months was like " I should look into doing something else in case this whole 'mom' thing doesn't happen soon..." and DH was 10000% supported my decisions to applying for schools, even though some of my choice would have required me to move away. But I got into my top choice here in San Diego and can commute from home.
but now we have talked about TTC during the months we won't be in school for now at least (so march/april and sept-nov for dec/jan and june-aug babies) But again for us I feel like this is the best thing
I am excited to go back to school... a bit scare and thinking I've gone crazy... But know that this is a good change for me.
and again a year ago I was planing on being a stay at home wife/mom, but then after trying for months was like " I should look into doing something else in case this whole 'mom' thing doesn't happen soon..." and DH was 10000% supported my decisions to applying for schools, even though some of my choice would have required me to move away. But I got into my top choice here in San Diego and can commute from home.
but now we have talked about TTC during the months we won't be in school for now at least (so march/april and sept-nov for dec/jan and june-aug babies) But again for us I feel like this is the best thing
Well good luck! That's so awesome that you decided to go back to school. I thinking of getting my masters in literature but I'm not sure.
Well I wasn't sure not until i wasn't looking at programs and what were the benefits, if you haven't already I suggest look around and see what available
again, totally understand wanting a baby young, I wanted a baby since I was 18!
and liked i said before, I am so glade we waited.
I wouldn't have finished my degree
DH wouldn't have started his PhD
and as of recently since we kind of been TTC since June with no luck,I decided to go back for my masters...which I never thought I would want till a few months ago. And I do want! But I didn't know till I start looking at the different programs, which wouldn't have happened if I was pregnant at this time.
Do I wish I had a baby now? YES
would I have gone back to school if that was the case? Most likely not...
and again I am fairly young, will be turning 24!
but as PPs said, it seems like you are only taking in what you perceive as "bad" without look at the sound advice and example they give.
And once again it is your choice in the end so whatever you do decide I hope it works out
What frustrated me is I've said over and over that I understand what you are all saying but you can't expect to change my mind... We all live different lives. I have traveled and we are still traveling. I'm not saying any of this to start a argument but since this is my thread I wanted to have some input on what you said because I agree and God knows when we are ready for a child and it will happen when it happens but I'm not going to be naive and believe it will happen if we aren't trying. I plan on living my life like getting a little schooling done, getting a good job and if a baby comes in our life in the mix of it all we will be more than happy and I will not regret putting off something for myself to take care of our family. My mom done it. My MIL done it and they managed to raise their kids and get a career at the same time. We all have different paths we choose to take and this is the one we chose. Thank you for caring enough to comment. I do appreciate it and I have been thinking over it all. But in the end it is my choice. I hope y'all have had a good day and I really hope I haven't started another argument. Like I said this is just how I feel about the situation and I am not saying that what you all are saying is wrong.
I'm not arguing and I'm done talking to the people that are trying to start drama which means I'm done talking to you. Just thought I'd make that clear.
I'm not arguing and I'm done talking to the people that are trying to start drama which means I'm done talking to you. Just thought I'd make that clear.
These posts remind me of my 15 year old cousins Twitter minus all the mirror pic Monday.
Man, I took the weekend off and missed a bunch it seems. So it looks like I'm the old fart around here (I'm 35 & DH 30). @sunflower071913 - come a little closer so I can see you with my good eyes ( needed to throw in that old person humor -lol). I realize your mind is made up and you are going for that prize. Ha, I had the same mentality at your age. I was going to conquer the world. I too wanted a family. I thought having a child would be awesome!!!!!
However, like the previous posters did, I waited and got my stuff together. I too travelled ( not as much as I wanted) and went to school. I also now have a wonderful and beautiful 5 year old girl and DH and I are TTC. I mention these facts only to tell you the VERY harsh reality of real life with a child. However, I write this knowing that you will not fully "understand" this, but think you might. Because I didn't until I had my DD. A child changes EVERYTHING!!!!! No longer can you just run to the corner market for a soda. You now have to pack a bag with everything in it and the kitchen sink, dress a child, load them into a car seat and drive to the store. Lung a heavy car seat around, grab a coke and repeat going home. Traveling pretty much becomes a nightmare and don't get me started on what happens when they start crawling.
While your mind is made up at having a child at 20 ( and we aren't going to stop you), please enjoy this time you have now because once your bundle of joy comes, you will miss these days you're in now. I find my hour in the mornings to myself as precious as gold. Please enjoy the time you're in now because a child changes that forever!!!!
I have 5 nephews and a niece 3 of them being under 3, and one nephew on the way so soon to be 6 nephews! we have a big family lol I'm the youngest so I've seen what you are talking about with the going to the store and shopping really leaving at all is a big ordeal and I do understand it will be hard and a big change and we are enjoying our time together as husband and wife we feel ready. we have baby sat Our friends children and my nephews and niece and it really just made us want a baby that much more lol but everyone is different
I have 5 nephews and a niece 3 of them being under 3, and one nephew on the way so soon to be 6 nephews! we have a big family lol I'm the youngest so I've seen what you are talking about with the going to the store and shopping really leaving at all is a big ordeal and I do understand it will be hard and a big change and we are enjoying our time together as husband and wife we feel ready. we have baby sat Our friends children and my nephews and niece and it really just made us want a baby that much more lol but everyone is different
If you "understand" and blah blah blah and you are "enjoying yourself" until it happens, then what the hell was the point to your original post complaining about not being knocked up yet? You do understand how COMPLETELY contradictory you sound, right? And who the hell goes to talk to someone about their problems because that person is a pastor's daughter? That's like talking to someone about what is going on with their pregnancy because that person's mother is an OB/GYN.
I've been a nanny for 8 years working 5-6 days a week for up to 14 hours a day, and even after that I know I dont fully understand what it will be like when I have my own child, it is very different when you can't go home at night and decompress in a hot bath. Babysitting doesn't even come close to having your own, and babies aren't always happy and smiling. What if your child is colicky? What if your child requires special needs? Are you prepared to handle these types of situations?
I have 5 nephews and a niece 3 of them being under 3, and one nephew on the way so soon to be 6 nephews! we have a big family lol I'm the youngest so I've seen what you are talking about with the going to the store and shopping really leaving at all is a big ordeal and I do understand it will be hard and a big change and we are enjoying our time together as husband and wife we feel ready. we have baby sat Our friends children and my nephews and niece and it really just made us want a baby that much more lol but everyone is different
If you "understand" and blah blah blah and you are "enjoying yourself" until it happens, then what the hell was the point to your original post complaining about not being knocked up yet? You do understand how COMPLETELY contradictory you sound, right? And who the hell goes to talk to someone about their problems because that person is a pastor's daughter? That's like talking to someone about what is going on with their pregnancy because that person's mother is an OB/GYN.
I am aware of that. Just like someone said eaelier you dont know everyones situation And my DH and I would've been trying last year but he was deployed, we've wanted this for a while and it just makes me upset when people act like we just decided 7 months ago that we wanted to try. No we wasn't able to try before that. Apart of me feels like they should have been the ones to wait because two of them are going through a devorce, and one is living with her parents and has told me very bluntly that she did not want the baby right now but she's doing the right thing. But I understand everything happens for a reason. The other I am extremely happy for because she has wanted to be a mommy for years. My problem is I know their stories I guess. Who doesn't get frustrated once in a while.
This bolded right here kind of questions your maturity level a little IMO. It's not your call to make who and who should be able to get pregnant right away. I understand your upset and you admitted you're getting a little bitter, but don't let that get in the way of your life. You are 20. 20!! Do you know how personal growth an average person goes through between the ages of 20 and 25?? The world is your oyster. Take advantage of that.
I've been a nanny for 8 years working 5-6 days a week for up to 14 hours a day, and even after that I know I dont fully understand what it will be like when I have my own child, it is very different when you can't go home at night and decompress in a hot bath. Babysitting doesn't even come close to having your own, and babies aren't always happy and smiling. What if your child is colicky? What if your child requires special needs? Are you prepared to handle these types of situations?
Like I said I won't completely know until I am a mother but yes I am willing to do this. I dont care how prepared you thing you are nothing will prepare you for everything And when I posted this I was frustrated I have had time to calm down and realize I was over thinking it a lot.
I really don't know what else to say to you at this point. So, good luck and hopefully everything works out the way you want it to, and you are prepared for when it doesn't.
I've been a nanny for 8 years working 5-6 days a week for up to 14 hours a day, and even after that I know I dont fully understand what it will be like when I have my own child, it is very different when you can't go home at night and decompress in a hot bath. Babysitting doesn't even come close to having your own, and babies aren't always happy and smiling. What if your child is colicky? What if your child requires special needs? Are you prepared to handle these types of situations?
Like I said I won't completely know until I am a mother but yes I am willing to do this. I dont care how prepared you thing you are nothing will prepare you for everything And when I posted this I was frustrated I have had time to calm down and realize I was over thinking it a lot.
Didn't you say you were done posting on here...? Like 7 different times in the past 3 days...?
I've been a nanny for 8 years working 5-6 days a week for up to 14 hours a day, and even after that I know I dont fully understand what it will be like when I have my own child, it is very different when you can't go home at night and decompress in a hot bath. Babysitting doesn't even come close to having your own, and babies aren't always happy and smiling. What if your child is colicky? What if your child requires special needs? Are you prepared to handle these types of situations?
Like I said I won't completely know until I am a mother but yes I am willing to do this. I dont care how prepared you thing you are nothing will prepare you for everything And when I posted this I was frustrated I have had time to calm down and realize I was over thinking it a lot.
Didn't you say you were done posting on here...? Like 7 different times in the past 3 days...?
I'll repeat it again. I am done talking to argumentive people like you. You're making it hard because you refuse to freaking let it go.geez!
I've been a nanny for 8 years working 5-6 days a week for up to 14 hours a day, and even after that I know I dont fully understand what it will be like when I have my own child, it is very different when you can't go home at night and decompress in a hot bath. Babysitting doesn't even come close to having your own, and babies aren't always happy and smiling. What if your child is colicky? What if your child requires special needs? Are you prepared to handle these types of situations?
Like I said I won't completely know until I am a mother but yes I am willing to do this. I dont care how prepared you thing you are nothing will prepare you for everything And when I posted this I was frustrated I have had time to calm down and realize I was over thinking it a lot.
Didn't you say you were done posting on here...? Like 7 different times in the past 3 days...?
I'll repeat it again. I am done talking to argumentive people like you. You're making it hard because you refuse to freaking let it go.geez!
Then why respond to her this time? Someone clearly has to have the last word.
I've refrained from posting on here throughout the weekend (though I've been enjoying a lot of popcorn and lurking in the shadows) and all I have to say is this.
1. You've made up your mind about wanting kids now ... RIGHT NOW. Awesome, nothing we say is going to change that.
2. Most of the women on here have made it clear that they think there still some life to live before you start trying. Whether you agree with it or not, that's what the community has put forth to you.
3. Because of that, you haven't received the comments/support you were looking for when you originally posted. Sorry I'm not sorry for thinking you're really young.
4. No one on this board is going to magically change their opinion or magically stop posting their opinions in response to your posts.
5. That means you're going to have to either continue dealing with the people you so adamantly want to be done with (yet still keep replying to which I just don't understand) or leave. There are many other sites out there that will most likely fulfill your needs but this isn't one of them. And it isn't going to change because you want it to or because you keep fighting your point. It just isn't. So you can stick around and continue to get what you're getting or you can move along and find what you need somewhere else.
I've refrained from posting on here throughout the weekend (though I've been enjoying a lot of popcorn and lurking in the shadows) and all I have to say is this.
1. You've made up your mind about wanting kids now ... RIGHT NOW. Awesome, nothing we say is going to change that.
2. Most of the women on here have made it clear that they think there still some life to live before you start trying. Whether you agree with it or not, that's what the community has put forth to you.
3. Because of that, you haven't received the comments/support you were looking for when you originally posted. Sorry I'm not sorry for thinking you're really young.
4. No one on this board is going to magically change their opinion or magically stop posting their opinions in response to your posts.
5. That means you're going to have to either continue dealing with the people you so adamantly want to be done with (yet still keep replying to which I just don't understand) or leave. There are many other sites out there that will most likely fulfill your needs but this isn't one of them. And it isn't going to change because you want it to or because you keep fighting your point. It just isn't. So you can stick around and continue to get what you're getting or you can move along and find what you need somewhere else.
This. The reason we all assumed you were leaving (beyond the fact that you did say at one point you were) is because you stated you were done arguing with us. The people on this board. And yet you are still on this board. Doesn't make sense to me.
Me: 28, DH: 28 Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007 Married: July 2013 Began TTC: June 2015
I've been a nanny for 8 years working 5-6 days a week for up to 14 hours a day, and even after that I know I dont fully understand what it will be like when I have my own child, it is very different when you can't go home at night and decompress in a hot bath. Babysitting doesn't even come close to having your own, and babies aren't always happy and smiling. What if your child is colicky? What if your child requires special needs? Are you prepared to handle these types of situations?
Like I said I won't completely know until I am a mother but yes I am willing to do this. I dont care how prepared you thing you are nothing will prepare you for everything And when I posted this I was frustrated I have had time to calm down and realize I was over thinking it a lot.
Didn't you say you were done posting on here...? Like 7 different times in the past 3 days...?
I'll repeat it again. I am done talking to argumentive people like you. You're making it hard because you refuse to freaking let it go.geez!
Stating facts =/= argumentative (argumentive is not a grammaticly accepted word, fact)
Facts I've stated: 1. You've gone on multiple threads and antagonized people to argue with you -- both threads you've started and other posters. 2. You've said multiple times you were not going to continue posting on this thread and or to people you consider 'argumentive', and yet you continue to do so.
I've refrained from posting on here throughout the weekend (though I've been enjoying a lot of popcorn and lurking in the shadows) and all I have to say is this.
1. You've made up your mind about wanting kids now ... RIGHT NOW. Awesome, nothing we say is going to change that.
2. Most of the women on here have made it clear that they think there still some life to live before you start trying. Whether you agree with it or not, that's what the community has put forth to you.
3. Because of that, you haven't received the comments/support you were looking for when you originally posted. Sorry I'm not sorry for thinking you're really young.
4. No one on this board is going to magically change their opinion or magically stop posting their opinions in response to your posts.
5. That means you're going to have to either continue dealing with the people you so adamantly want to be done with (yet still keep replying to which I just don't understand) or leave. There are many other sites out there that will most likely fulfill your needs but this isn't one of them. And it isn't going to change because you want it to or because you keep fighting your point. It just isn't. So you can stick around and continue to get what you're getting or you can move along and find what you need somewhere else.
This. The reason we all assumed you were leaving (beyond the fact that you did say at one point you were) is because you stated you were done arguing with us. The people on this board. And yet you are still on this board. Doesn't make sense to me.
I don't mind talking to the lady's that aren't trying to start another argument. This board is for descussions not arguments and I'm just tired of the conflict.
I've refrained from posting on here throughout the weekend (though I've been enjoying a lot of popcorn and lurking in the shadows) and all I have to say is this.
1. You've made up your mind about wanting kids now ... RIGHT NOW. Awesome, nothing we say is going to change that.
2. Most of the women on here have made it clear that they think there still some life to live before you start trying. Whether you agree with it or not, that's what the community has put forth to you.
3. Because of that, you haven't received the comments/support you were looking for when you originally posted. Sorry I'm not sorry for thinking you're really young.
4. No one on this board is going to magically change their opinion or magically stop posting their opinions in response to your posts.
5. That means you're going to have to either continue dealing with the people you so adamantly want to be done with (yet still keep replying to which I just don't understand) or leave. There are many other sites out there that will most likely fulfill your needs but this isn't one of them. And it isn't going to change because you want it to or because you keep fighting your point. It just isn't. So you can stick around and continue to get what you're getting or you can move along and find what you need somewhere else.
This. The reason we all assumed you were leaving (beyond the fact that you did say at one point you were) is because you stated you were done arguing with us. The people on this board. And yet you are still on this board. Doesn't make sense to me.
I don't mind talking to the lady's that aren't trying to start another argument. This board is for descussions not arguments and I'm just tired of the conflict.
I've refrained from posting on here throughout the weekend (though I've been enjoying a lot of popcorn and lurking in the shadows) and all I have to say is this.
1. You've made up your mind about wanting kids now ... RIGHT NOW. Awesome, nothing we say is going to change that.
2. Most of the women on here have made it clear that they think there still some life to live before you start trying. Whether you agree with it or not, that's what the community has put forth to you.
3. Because of that, you haven't received the comments/support you were looking for when you originally posted. Sorry I'm not sorry for thinking you're really young.
4. No one on this board is going to magically change their opinion or magically stop posting their opinions in response to your posts.
5. That means you're going to have to either continue dealing with the people you so adamantly want to be done with (yet still keep replying to which I just don't understand) or leave. There are many other sites out there that will most likely fulfill your needs but this isn't one of them. And it isn't going to change because you want it to or because you keep fighting your point. It just isn't. So you can stick around and continue to get what you're getting or you can move along and find what you need somewhere else.
This. The reason we all assumed you were leaving (beyond the fact that you did say at one point you were) is because you stated you were done arguing with us. The people on this board. And yet you are still on this board. Doesn't make sense to me.
I don't mind talking to the lady's that aren't trying to start another argument. This board is for descussions not arguments and I'm just tired of the conflict.
@missteacherlady16 is your red pen running out of ink yet..? I'll help you out on this one.
I've refrained from posting on here throughout the weekend (though I've been enjoying a lot of popcorn and lurking in the shadows) and all I have to say is this.
1. You've made up your mind about wanting kids now ... RIGHT NOW. Awesome, nothing we say is going to change that.
2. Most of the women on here have made it clear that they think there still some life to live before you start trying. Whether you agree with it or not, that's what the community has put forth to you.
3. Because of that, you haven't received the comments/support you were looking for when you originally posted. Sorry I'm not sorry for thinking you're really young.
4. No one on this board is going to magically change their opinion or magically stop posting their opinions in response to your posts.
5. That means you're going to have to either continue dealing with the people you so adamantly want to be done with (yet still keep replying to which I just don't understand) or leave. There are many other sites out there that will most likely fulfill your needs but this isn't one of them. And it isn't going to change because you want it to or because you keep fighting your point. It just isn't. So you can stick around and continue to get what you're getting or you can move along and find what you need somewhere else.
This. The reason we all assumed you were leaving (beyond the fact that you did say at one point you were) is because you stated you were done arguing with us. The people on this board. And yet you are still on this board. Doesn't make sense to me.
I don't mind talking to the lady's that aren't trying to start another argument. This board is for descussions not arguments and I'm just tired of the conflict.
DISCUSSIONS.
You just have last word syndrome. Every day I think this thread is going to die, and then YOU make it relevant again to get your last little point across and we all respond because it's like a train wreck that you have to watch.
Just stop like you said you were going to 5 pages ago.
I've refrained from posting on here throughout the weekend (though I've been enjoying a lot of popcorn and lurking in the shadows) and all I have to say is this.
1. You've made up your mind about wanting kids now ... RIGHT NOW. Awesome, nothing we say is going to change that.
2. Most of the women on here have made it clear that they think there still some life to live before you start trying. Whether you agree with it or not, that's what the community has put forth to you.
3. Because of that, you haven't received the comments/support you were looking for when you originally posted. Sorry I'm not sorry for thinking you're really young.
4. No one on this board is going to magically change their opinion or magically stop posting their opinions in response to your posts.
5. That means you're going to have to either continue dealing with the people you so adamantly want to be done with (yet still keep replying to which I just don't understand) or leave. There are many other sites out there that will most likely fulfill your needs but this isn't one of them. And it isn't going to change because you want it to or because you keep fighting your point. It just isn't. So you can stick around and continue to get what you're getting or you can move along and find what you need somewhere else.
This. The reason we all assumed you were leaving (beyond the fact that you did say at one point you were) is because you stated you were done arguing with us. The people on this board. And yet you are still on this board. Doesn't make sense to me.
I don't mind talking to the lady's that aren't trying to start another argument. This board is for descussions not arguments and I'm just tired of the conflict.
These ladies* are having a discussion with you. Disagreeing does not always equal arguing. You are choosing to assign tone to a very tame discussion.
The things folks have shared with you are logical & actually, quite nice despite the fact that you've not been particularly pleasant in your responses.
This method you have devised is yet another sign that you have some emotional & logical growth to do. It's not a huge deal, calm yourself.
I was reading through this post, and I see a lot of well intentioned "advice", your young, go to school, live life, get your feet under you ect.
I knew I wanted children young, I was in a committed relationship at 21 and we were planning on starting a family, and I was given the same well intentioned advice. I lived their advice, I traveled the world, went to school, built a career, and yes, left that relationship. And yes I am a very very different person than I was at 20. But looking back, I know I would have been just as good if not a better mom at 20, than now, and now after gone through 2 years of not trying but not not trying, and 8 months of trying with everything short of medical intervention, I have days that I wish I hadn't been "responsible" and waited. I want to throat punch people who give me the "your still young" speech, and my heart breaks a little with every announcement. And I understand bitter, I have had a cousin, who at 20, changes her mind on who the baby daddy is every time that the Dr adjusts her due date, a brother (who has knock up 3 girlfriends throughout the years which all had abortions) but who again get chance #4 at parenthood, and a best friend who had an affair on his wife & knocked up his girlfriend, plus all of the normal FB announcements, so I understand how bitter can come in. But to answer your original question, I personally make it through with faith. Sure I always sit down & have a good cry on the tough ones, then usually vent at my sister, who is very good at not feeding me all of BS of time, and being young, and it will happen, and she helps me to find my faith. Faith that everything happens for a reason, and when/if I am supposed to be a mom it will happen, and if not, well then I get to just enjoy my husband and the life we are building, and all of my nieces & nephews that I have been blessed with.
Do what is right in your heart in regards to "the right time".
My only "two cents" I am going to put in is once you make the decision, and become a parent, that is your priority, that if you do go through the "I never got to be young so I am going to now stage" that so many of us older ladies have seen time and time again. To be a good parent you give up the rights to that, your family must be priority over being young, living life, and all the "fun stuff" that comes with being young & care free.
I've refrained from posting on here throughout the weekend (though I've been enjoying a lot of popcorn and lurking in the shadows) and all I have to say is this.
1. You've made up your mind about wanting kids now ... RIGHT NOW. Awesome, nothing we say is going to change that.
2. Most of the women on here have made it clear that they think there still some life to live before you start trying. Whether you agree with it or not, that's what the community has put forth to you.
3. Because of that, you haven't received the comments/support you were looking for when you originally posted. Sorry I'm not sorry for thinking you're really young.
4. No one on this board is going to magically change their opinion or magically stop posting their opinions in response to your posts.
5. That means you're going to have to either continue dealing with the people you so adamantly want to be done with (yet still keep replying to which I just don't understand) or leave. There are many other sites out there that will most likely fulfill your needs but this isn't one of them. And it isn't going to change because you want it to or because you keep fighting your point. It just isn't. So you can stick around and continue to get what you're getting or you can move along and find what you need somewhere else.
This. The reason we all assumed you were leaving (beyond the fact that you did say at one point you were) is because you stated you were done arguing with us. The people on this board. And yet you are still on this board. Doesn't make sense to me.
I don't mind talking to the lady's that aren't trying to start another argument. This board is for descussions not arguments and I'm just tired of the conflict.
Re: how do you handle this every month over and over?
Edit: stuck in box
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/58d258
Edit: grammar
However, like the previous posters did, I waited and got my stuff together. I too travelled ( not as much as I wanted) and went to school. I also now have a wonderful and beautiful 5 year old girl and DH and I are TTC. I mention these facts only to tell you the VERY harsh reality of real life with a child. However, I write this knowing that you will not fully "understand" this, but think you might. Because I didn't until I had my DD. A child changes EVERYTHING!!!!! No longer can you just run to the corner market for a soda. You now have to pack a bag with everything in it and the kitchen sink, dress a child, load them into a car seat and drive to the store. Lung a heavy car seat around, grab a coke and repeat going home. Traveling pretty much becomes a nightmare and don't get me started on what happens when they start crawling.
While your mind is made up at having a child at 20 ( and we aren't going to stop you), please enjoy this time you have now because once your bundle of joy comes, you will miss these days you're in now. I find my hour in the mornings to myself as precious as gold. Please enjoy the time you're in now because a child changes that forever!!!!
If you "understand" and blah blah blah and you are "enjoying yourself" until it happens, then what the hell was the point to your original post complaining about not being knocked up yet? You do understand how COMPLETELY contradictory you sound, right? And who the hell goes to talk to someone about their problems because that person is a pastor's daughter? That's like talking to someone about what is going on with their pregnancy because that person's mother is an OB/GYN.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
This thread makes me want to throw many shoes.
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Then why respond to her this time? Someone clearly has to have the last word.
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
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Facts I've stated:
1. You've gone on multiple threads and antagonized people to argue with you -- both threads you've started and other posters.
2. You've said multiple times you were not going to continue posting on this thread and or to people you consider 'argumentive', and yet you continue to do so.
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Baby boy born 01/2016
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You just have last word syndrome. Every day I think this thread is going to die, and then YOU make it relevant again to get your last little point across and we all respond because it's like a train wreck that you have to watch.
Just stop like you said you were going to 5 pages ago.
The things folks have shared with you are logical & actually, quite nice despite the fact that you've not been particularly pleasant in your responses.
This method you have devised is yet another sign that you have some emotional & logical growth to do. It's not a huge deal, calm yourself.
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I knew I wanted children young, I was in a committed relationship at 21 and we were planning on starting a family, and I was given the same well intentioned advice. I lived their advice, I traveled the world, went to school, built a career, and yes, left that relationship. And yes I am a very very different person than I was at 20.
But looking back, I know I would have been just as good if not a better mom at 20, than now, and now after gone through 2 years of not trying but not not trying, and 8 months of trying with everything short of medical intervention, I have days that I wish I hadn't been "responsible" and waited.
I want to throat punch people who give me the "your still young" speech, and my heart breaks a little with every announcement.
And I understand bitter,
I have had a cousin, who at 20, changes her mind on who the baby daddy is every time that the Dr adjusts her due date, a brother (who has knock up 3 girlfriends throughout the years which all had abortions) but who again get chance #4 at parenthood, and a best friend who had an affair on his wife & knocked up his girlfriend, plus all of the normal FB announcements, so I understand how bitter can come in.
But to answer your original question,
I personally make it through with faith.
Sure I always sit down & have a good cry on the tough ones, then usually vent at my sister, who is very good at not feeding me all of BS of time, and being young, and it will happen, and she helps me to find my faith. Faith that everything happens for a reason, and when/if I am supposed to be a mom it will happen, and if not, well then I get to just enjoy my husband and the life we are building, and all of my nieces & nephews that I have been blessed with.
Do what is right in your heart in regards to "the right time".
My only "two cents" I am going to put in is once you make the decision, and become a parent, that is your priority, that if you do go through the "I never got to be young so I am going to now stage" that so many of us older ladies have seen time and time again. To be a good parent you give up the rights to that, your family must be priority over being young, living life, and all the "fun stuff" that comes with being young & care free.
Good luck to you
I don't mind talking to the lady's that aren't trying to start another argument. This board is for descussions not arguments and I'm just tired of the conflict.
I can't take it anymore ...
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