BFP!!!!!

laurenhenry14

Woohoo! And good luck to the rest of y'all!

27alex

Drive by...
Congrats and all but this slightly in poor taste.

nlwz123

^agreed. 

TheBorg7of9

JFC, Congrats.

We'll miss all the support you provided. lol.

CharmBombExplosion

Yeah this was unnecessary. We really didn't need the update.

jnnfrrose6

27alex said:

Drive by...
Congrats and all but this slightly in poor taste.

There's no "slightly" about it.

27alex

jnnfrrose6 said:

27alex said:

Drive by...
Congrats and all but this slightly in poor taste.

There's no "slightly" about it.

I'm the mean one, so I was trying to tone it down! Lol

VesperLove

^that.

Knottie95848356

Congratulations!!!

jnnfrrose6

27alex said:

jnnfrrose6 said:

27alex said:

Drive by...
Congrats and all but this slightly in poor taste.

There's no "slightly" about it.

I'm the mean one, so I was trying to tone it down! Lol

Are you wearing your pink?

27alex

kyleneum13 said:

^that.

I've been very nice and helpful to you. If you'd like to discuss an issue feel free to PM me.

I'm not going to sugar coat. You also don't know my tone based on what I'm writing.

27alex

jnnfrrose6 said:

27alex said:

jnnfrrose6 said:

27alex said:

Drive by...
Congrats and all but this slightly in poor taste.

There's no "slightly" about it.

I'm the mean one, so I was trying to tone it down! Lol

Are you wearing your pink?

Apparently! Lol I'm just going to stop being helpful an write "YOURE TOTEZ PREGNANT!!!!" On every post.

PrimRoseMama

I don't know you, and you've not made any effort to contribute here. So have fun on your birth month board.

concreteayngel

You might get a better reaction from people if you had at the very least posted this on a TWW thread. I get the impression that most ladies who get pissed about DB-BFPs don't spend too much time commiserating with the symptom spotters.

laurenhenry14

I did post on the TWW. I have only been had the app for about a month so I didn't have a whole lot of time for contribution.

I was very excited to share this. And y'all have kind of ruined my experience.

But thanks to the one sincere congratulations I got. Way to be supportive you guys. I joined this because I needed a support system, not to get a snarky or rude comment when I posted something. Especially one that I'm extremely excited about. Hopefully the birth board is more supportive than y'all. Goodbye and God bless.

TheBorg7of9

laurenhenry14 said:

I did post on the TWW. I have only been had the app for about a month so I didn't have a whole lot of time for contribution.

But thanks to the one sincere congratulations I got. Way to be supportive you guys. I joined this because I needed a support system, not to get a snarky or rude comment when I posted something. Especially one that I'm extremely excited about. Hopefully the birth board is more supportive than y'all. Goodbye and God bless.

God bless you too and thank you for all the support you've given to nobody.

PrimRoseMama

laurenhenry14 said:

so I didn't have a whole lot of time for contribution.
-- so please explain why I am required to make the time to express congratulations to someone that didn't take any time to support me?

I was very excited to share this. And y'all have kind of ruined my experience.
--I promise that internet strangers not squeeing for your loin fruit does not have the power to ruin your excitement. If it does then that is a personal problem.

What about other people's experiences? Don't you think you are potentially ruining those other posters' experiences with a drive-by? Your feelings are not the only ones that matter. It's a shock to you, I know.

Way to be supportive you guys. I joined this because I needed a support system, not to get a snarky or rude comment...
-- you didn't support anyone here. Why do you feel so entitled to congrats from strangers you've not invested any time in?

If you participated & support folks on your BMB then you should be fine. However, everyone can read post history. Just FYI.

CharmBombExplosion

If some snarky comments ruined your entire pregnancy experience for you then you have serious other issues.

missteacherlady16

laurenhenry14 said:

I did post on the TWW. I have only been had the app for about a month so I didn't have a whole lot of time for contribution.

I was very excited to share this. And y'all have kind of ruined my experience.

But thanks to the one sincere congratulations I got. Way to be supportive you guys. I joined this because I needed a support system, not to get a snarky or rude comment when I posted something. Especially one that I'm extremely excited about. Hopefully the birth board is more supportive than y'all. Goodbye and God bless.

Your contributions were mostly in response to discussions you started yourself...

VesperLove

mmmk, so please correct me if I'm wrong ... but ...

This board is called "Trying to Get Pregnant" ... as in, putting in the effort and looking for support in that area. The ups, the downs, the journey itself...

It is not called "Already Pregnant".

It is not about showing up in the middle of your TWW, wondering if it's time to test, and the testing and realizing you are pregnant, and asking for a yay!

It's just not.

CharmBombExplosion

I also wanted to add that your BMB should be excited for you because that is exactly where this post should be. It does not belong here and it was extremely rude. So how about apologizing and moving on instead of complaining that people you don't know weren't supportive enough.

Knottie62164906

congrats. ...

Jessie42613

laurenhenry14 said:

I did post on the TWW. I have only been had the app for about a month so I didn't have a whole lot of time for contribution.

I was very excited to share this. And y'all have kind of ruined my experience.

But thanks to the one sincere congratulations I got. Way to be supportive you guys. I joined this because I needed a support system, not to get a snarky or rude comment when I posted something. Especially one that I'm extremely excited about. Hopefully the birth board is more supportive than y'all. Goodbye and God bless.

Lol

Waaaaaaa

lilp2015

Congrats!

MrsN092714

It's the TTC board! Isn't everyone here trying to get pregnant? Shouldn't you all be happy for the ones to do! I have read countless times on this board that one persons fertility has no effect on someone else's, so why not help the people that do get that bfp celebrate!

Congrats to you on your exciting news! Go check out your birth month club! Hopefully you end up with a wonderful and supportive group of ladies in your group! I am very thankful for the ones in mine!
Hooray babies!

TheBorg7of9

MrsN102714 said:

It's the TTC board! Isn't everyone here trying to get pregnant? Shouldn't you all be happy for the ones to do! I have read countless times on this board that one persons fertility has no effect on someone else's, so why not help the people that do get that bfp celebrate!

Congrats to you on your exciting news! Go check out your birth month club! Hopefully you end up with a wonderful and supportive group of ladies in your group! I am very thankful for the ones in mine!
Hooray babies!

People generally don't like to congratulate people who have been rude in prior posts...

PrimRoseMama

MrsN102714 said:

It's the TTC board! Isn't everyone here trying to get pregnant? Shouldn't you all be happy for the ones to do! I have read countless times on this board that one persons fertility has no effect on someone else's, so why not help the people that do get that bfp celebrate!

I celebrate with my friends and/or acquaintances that make an effort to support people around me. Just because we are all trying to get knocked up doesn't mean I have to squee for a stranger who never seemed to "have time" to interact with me.

Thousands of people get pregnant every day. They are strangers to me. I mean, yay for all the pregnants, but I would feel the same if another stranger was like "hey I'm pregnant."

"Cool story, bro. Do I know you?"

It's way different for the girls I get to know here on the board (and on other forums) that commiserate with me about phantom symptoms, and other things throughout my cycles.

I don't think it's unreasonable to ask for a little bit of familiarity for me to break out my squees & claps. :-??

firebaby688

I'm on mobile and can't see history, but I think I saw, like, two posts from her? I've seen people give genuine congrats to women who post their BFP after being on this journey with everyone, not someone that asked if they should pee on a stick once or something. Everyone needs to remember that in addition to those of us who are new to trying (or not yet trying), there are also those who have been trying for years and it's pretty rude to post a BFP after no prior involvement.

Monicabumb

I was raised that if you don't have anything nice/use full don't say anything at all. So Congratulations

PrimRoseMama

Monicabumb said:

I was raised that if you don't have anything nice/use full don't say anything at all. So Congratulations

It is terribly useful to advise someone on general message board etiquette.

The same is true for the posters on BMBs who post a handful of times at the beginning of pregnancy. Then they return towards the end to AW their birth story.

Most posters that spent time investing into friendships & supporting each other get mighty annoyed at them getting pissy that we don't give a shit.

So I think I'm doing OP a solid here. She needs to learn that give is just as good as take with online relationships. If she only shows up when she needs something then that is annoying. Supporting others is just as important as just asking for congrats.

So, better to inform her than let her go on her way believing that the way she's acted is ok. It's not.

MagicMikki

laurenhenry14 said:

Woohoo! And good luck to the rest of y'all!

Yes. Woohoo.

Louser2be

Congrats!!!!!!

jnnfrrose6

MrsN102714 said:

It's the TTC board! Isn't everyone here trying to get pregnant? Shouldn't you all be happy for the ones to do! I have read countless times on this board that one persons fertility has no effect on someone else's, so why not help the people that do get that bfp celebrate!

Congrats to you on your exciting news! Go check out your birth month club! Hopefully you end up with a wonderful and supportive group of ladies in your group! I am very thankful for the ones in mine!
Hooray babies!

False. Not everyone on here is actively trying (for various reasons).

BlueWaffleSpeshul

Monicabumb said:

I was raised that if you don't have anything nice/use full don't say anything at all. So Congratulations

How were you raised in regards to chastising complete strangers? Does it fall under the same etiquette?

mrsmzimmerman

I'm new(only a few comments and one post) my first reaction was I was completely happy for her. I didn't track her previous convos and no nothing of her but if you didn't like her, or felt like she didn't support enough to warrant a congrats why comment anything at all, why not just roll your eyes and keep scrolling?

CharmBombExplosion

mrsmzimmerman said:

I'm new(only a few comments and one post) my first reaction was I was completely happy for her. I didn't track her previous convos and no nothing of her but if you didn't like her, or felt like she didn't support enough to warrant a congrats why comment anything at all, why not just roll your eyes and keep scrolling?

Because soon every single post will be a drive by BFP, or "omg am I preggo?" or "omg this tww is the worst thing ever!!!!!!!!" Or a dear diary about symptoms and any actual questions people have get lost in all the other bullshit.

If you want this to be a supportive community then people have to actually start showing support instead of only commenting on their own posts. I don't know the op, so I don't care that she got her BFP. Commenting and telling her that it was rude and unnessecary to post will hopefully stop someone else from doing the exact same thing.

nlwz123

Yes, I'm going to have to agree with @walbs here @mrsmzimmerman.  It's not very nice of someone to basically join a forum (a forum where many people, including myself, are struggling with TTC), post one thing, and then let everyone know they got a BFP on their first try.  That's not very good manners.  That's awesome for her and congratulations to anyone that gets a BFP so quickly, but there's no need to advertise in such an insensitive way.

PrimRoseMama

mrsmzimmerman said:

I'm new(only a few comments and one post) my first reaction was I was completely happy for her. I didn't track her previous convos and no nothing of her but if you didn't like her, or felt like she didn't support enough to warrant a congrats why comment anything at all, why not just roll your eyes and keep scrolling?

I think you are confused, dear. It's not that I don't like her. It's that I don't know who she is & she never bothered to be very active.

Honestly, how is this such a hard concept...

Participate & support other people = awesome for you & congrats on your BFP.

Show up to only ask for help, not support anyone & attention-grab with your BFP = side eye.

27alex

mrsmzimmerman said:

I'm new(only a few comments and one post) my first reaction was I was completely happy for her. I didn't track her previous convos and no nothing of her but if you didn't like her, or felt like she didn't support enough to warrant a congrats why comment anything at all, why not just roll your eyes and keep scrolling?

You really need to lurk.

missteacherlady16

mrsmzimmerman said:

I'm new(only a few comments and one post) my first reaction was I was completely happy for her. I didn't track her previous convos and no nothing of her but if you didn't like her, or felt like she didn't support enough to warrant a congrats why comment anything at all, why not just roll your eyes and keep scrolling?

 

VesperLove

I'm just waiting for the moment that we stop commenting on this post so it will drift off onto page 2 and away forever ... 

I guess I'm not helping with this post :P