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laurendutch

amark11 said:

Nah. I live in Germany, and it sadly seems like a lot of the strippers and prostitutes are likely victims of human trafficking. Lots of Eastern European women, with skeevy Eastern European men (pimps) hanging around.

I'm from the Midwest, too, and promise the Ick factor is just as high here!

I'll have to let him know this

Also, what are some great souvenirs that he can spoil me with? Haha!

Mommaswizz

@mellymar that is so effed up. I seriously would have wanted to flip out. You're a good person for not losing your cool! If they came back I would not hesitate to hock a loogie in their food. They had two chances, they don't deserve a third.

KarasTwin

Serenamarr said:

Let me start by saying I haven't been emotional at all this pregnancy. I'm 28 wks and have been putting off announcing on Facebook or having any pictures taken of me because I feel insecure. My fiancé is wonderful of course and constantly tells me I am the most beautiful woman in the world. So I finally got all done up so hubby and I could take a nice picture to announce. It was a little tough seeing a picture of myself looking like two of myself, but I posted it and got a very loving, positive response. So feeling good, and not even 24 hours later my SIL announces her pregnancy on FB at 13 weeks (same SIL who threw a fit when we told the family we were pregnant because it "wasn't our turn" and we were "stealing her thunder"). I'm not the type to care about Facebook stuff and I figured it makes her look bad, not me, so I just brushed it off. Then for some reason my fiance's ex, who he was in love with and broke his heart, liked our announcement on Facebook. And she is an absolutely gorgeous model- I'm not exaggerating, she is on par with Victoria's Secret angels. This set me over the edge. I want to crawl in a hole and just be ready for him to look at her pictures and think "why am I with this fat whale?" So yeah I feel ridiculous for getting upset over Facebook but hey I get one emotional breakdown don't I?

Ps. I don't like to use profanity but what kind of bitch thinks I want her liking anything of mine????
Rant over.

Ugh, the ex thing. I can relate DH'S ex from HS (his "first") "likes" anything I post on Facebook and tag him in. I would hate if she was model material, even though she must think she is cause she posts all these provocative pictures. She wished him a happy birthday on Facebook at like 5:30 am before I was even up and I had a total meltdown. I asked him to unfriend her but he thinks I'm being ridiculous because he rarely gets on and doesn't talk to her. She also slept with one of his best friends a couple years ago and I just think she's a nasty skank. She has a kid and I think she's engaged so I don't get why she's so concerned with what's going on in our lives

virginiaunicorn11

KarasTwin said:

Serenamarr said:

Let me start by saying I haven't been emotional at all this pregnancy. I'm 28 wks and have been putting off announcing on Facebook or having any pictures taken of me because I feel insecure. My fiancé is wonderful of course and constantly tells me I am the most beautiful woman in the world. So I finally got all done up so hubby and I could take a nice picture to announce. It was a little tough seeing a picture of myself looking like two of myself, but I posted it and got a very loving, positive response. So feeling good, and not even 24 hours later my SIL announces her pregnancy on FB at 13 weeks (same SIL who threw a fit when we told the family we were pregnant because it "wasn't our turn" and we were "stealing her thunder"). I'm not the type to care about Facebook stuff and I figured it makes her look bad, not me, so I just brushed it off. Then for some reason my fiance's ex, who he was in love with and broke his heart, liked our announcement on Facebook. And she is an absolutely gorgeous model- I'm not exaggerating, she is on par with Victoria's Secret angels. This set me over the edge. I want to crawl in a hole and just be ready for him to look at her pictures and think "why am I with this fat whale?" So yeah I feel ridiculous for getting upset over Facebook but hey I get one emotional breakdown don't I?

Ps. I don't like to use profanity but what kind of bitch thinks I want her liking anything of mine????
Rant over.

Ugh, the ex thing. I can relate DH'S ex from HS (his "first") "likes" anything I post on Facebook and tag him in. I would hate if she was model material, even though she must think she is cause she posts all these provocative pictures. She wished him a happy birthday on Facebook at like 5:30 am before I was even up and I had a total meltdown. I asked him to unfriend her but he thinks I'm being ridiculous because he rarely gets on and doesn't talk to her. She also slept with one of his best friends a couple years ago and I just think she's a nasty skank. She has a kid and I think she's engaged so I don't get why she's so concerned with what's going on in our lives

Block. Her.

Westypet

Gripe:

Step-MIL (no children of her own) is wanting to create a nursery and overbuy for baby things to keep at their house.

They are kind, generous, and we love being around them. First grand-baby on both sides and everyone is extremely happy and excited for our little man. However, she has made repeated comments (3-4x each), about overbuying things for herself, that have started to make me cringe, such as:

"I am making a nursery at our house for the little guy!"
(Whenever asked about how we're doing the nursery.)

"I guess you're breastfeeding? Well, that wasn't really en vogue when my sister had her child."
(It's the question that almost always gets asked at dinner. I never bring it up.)

"You're really breastfeeding huh? I saw that you still have x and x breastfeeding items on your registry..."
(Anytime anything registry-related comes up.)

"I saw the best co-sleeper thing that hooks right onto our bed. I need to get one of those..."
(Um...huh? What?)

When anything baby gear-related comes up, she says with a pout, "I need a baby registry!"

Hubby says to ignore. I just... I can't even. SMH.

ElRuby

Westypet said:

Gripe:

Step-MIL (no children of her own) is wanting to create a nursery and overbuy for baby things to keep at their house.

They are kind, generous, and we love being around them. First grand-baby on both sides and everyone is extremely happy and excited for our little man. However, she has made repeated comments (3-4x each), about overbuying things for herself, that have started to make me cringe, such as:

"I am making a nursery at our house for the little guy!"
(Whenever asked about how we're doing the nursery.)

"I guess you're breastfeeding? Well, that wasn't really en vogue when my sister had her child."
(It's the question that almost always gets asked at dinner. I never bring it up.)

"You're really breastfeeding huh? I saw that you still have x and x breastfeeding items on your registry..."
(Anytime anything registry-related comes up.)

"I saw the best co-sleeper thing that hooks right onto our bed. I need to get one of those..."
(Um...huh? What?)

When anything baby gear-related comes up, she says with a pout, "I need a baby registry!"

Hubby says to ignore. I just... I can't even. SMH.

I love that she thinks she needs a co-sleeper for her own bed

Westypet

ElRuby said:

Westypet said:

Gripe:

Step-MIL (no children of her own) is wanting to create a nursery and overbuy for baby things to keep at their house.

They are kind, generous, and we love being around them. First grand-baby on both sides and everyone is extremely happy and excited for our little man. However, she has made repeated comments (3-4x each), about overbuying things for herself, that have started to make me cringe, such as:

"I am making a nursery at our house for the little guy!"
(Whenever asked about how we're doing the nursery.)

"I guess you're breastfeeding? Well, that wasn't really en vogue when my sister had her child."
(It's the question that almost always gets asked at dinner. I never bring it up.)

"You're really breastfeeding huh? I saw that you still have x and x breastfeeding items on your registry..."
(Anytime anything registry-related comes up.)

"I saw the best co-sleeper thing that hooks right onto our bed. I need to get one of those..."
(Um...huh? What?)

When anything baby gear-related comes up, she says with a pout, "I need a baby registry!"

Hubby says to ignore. I just... I can't even. SMH.

I love that she thinks she needs a co-sleeper for her own bed

@ElRuby - yeah, as of now, we're hoping to be putting our child to sleep in a bassinet, and we haven't mentioned DS spending the night at their place... so that comment keeps coming out of nowhere.

I'm trying not to read anything into it other than she's excited. But... can we get our nursery and our ish set up first? lol

PhoenixFrances

Addelie said:

I haven't been emotional much this pregnancy, but my DH is on way back from a boys' weekend in Hamburg, Germany where he ended up in a strip club (I could tell by his voice when he called that he had been). I'm feeling pretty low right now and this is just not what I need. He's so great in every other way and so I don't want to come down hard on him but it's made me feel like complete and utter crap and this is only the second time I've cried all pregnancy

Aww... I think I would have the meltdown of my life if that happened to me..

KaLikeAWind

@Serenamarr & @Mommaswizz - since I work at a bowling alley, in the bar, its a pretty laid back environment, and most of my regulars are people in leagues, so they tend to be my age or older. Most of them are actually cute about my pregnancy, or supportive, or excited. Also, its a small town, so eventually you end up knowing someone who knows someone, etc. These other dudes are guys who are in town temporarily while their boat is being worked on in the shipyards. The small town-ness of this place will work to their disadvantage. My coworker's best friend dates the cook / kitchen supervisor of another local grub / watering hole, a place that has music on Friday nights. So, a place they will probably end up visiting. In this town where it seems like half the people work in restaurants or bars, and all tend to intermingle, people like these guys will find small welcome quickly. They have no choice but to eat out, because they're only here temporary. In a few weeks they'll be gone, but the word has already started to spread around. Karma will get them.

aj1327

Another gripe! I'm irrationally freaking out because I laid my head on the back of our couch....right into dried cat puke. Help me out ladies! I don't need to be worried about cat throw up right?!?

KaLikeAWind

@amccoy129 I shouldn't think so. All cat puke is is cat food and stomach acid and maybe some hair. Maybe bacteria from their saliva. But I'm assuming you washed it off and didn't eat it, so I don't see how that could harm anything.

ETA if that were me I'd just wash it off and go back to my nap after cleaning up the offending puke spot

aj1327

@mellymar thanks for responding. I washed it and didn't eat any...lol. I also washed my hands and then took a shower...then I went back to my nap.

We need to be better about brushing him! He is throwing up hair balls!

KarasTwin

@amark11 can you block people you're not friends with?

martinezmlt

So this came at the worst time ever. Found out my company got bought out and I have 60 days to find a new job. Who's going to hire someone who is 6 months along or hold a job for someone for ~3 months to start? I just don't know what to do.

babynails

I asked my dh to spray paint some little yellow shelves that we got for the nursery. I wanted them pink because we are having a girl. Apparently spray painting and regular painting are not the same thing (should pray paint probably falls into the crafting category which my husband is totally incapable of) because he completely screwed them up. Now they are ruined (paint ran everywhere) and I have to try and fix them. I know there are things I cannot/should not do while preggo but sometimes it just feels like if you want something done right, do it yourself!!

KaLikeAWind

@KarasTwin I'm pretty sure you CAN block someone you aren't friends with, cause I was blocked by someone who I never gave the final 'OK let's be friends' approval to.

@martinezmlt that REALLY sucks. Good luck gal. I'm hopeful something will work out for you. Maybe after baby comes you'll find something you like much better anyway. Door closes and a window opens and all that. ❤

karaelaine1991

mellymar said:

@KarasTwin I'm pretty sure you CAN block someone you aren't friends with, cause I was blocked by someone who I never gave the final 'OK let's be friends' approval to.

@martinezmlt that REALLY sucks. Good luck gal. I'm hopeful something will work out for you. Maybe after baby comes you'll find something you like much better anyway. Door closes and a window opens and all that. ❤

You definitely can block without being friends with someone on Facebook - I've done it before!

HoosOnFirst

@martinezmlt that's terrible. I wish I had advice but just think, some places take so long to hire it might not be unreasonable to search now for a start date post-baby.

HoosOnFirst

My mom wants to come up (yay!) but for whole weekend (NOT yay). I had to ask if they could just do one day because I've been so tired and really need some downtime on weekends and it went over as well as could be expected. She wasn't mad but I know she feels hurt. But DH reminded me that I need to set boundaries before baby is born, and that I'm running myself ragged on weekends already and he's trying to help me protect myself.

knwilliams01

I got to have my first L&D trip tonight thanks to bleeding. I've been bleeding on and off all pregnancy and they have never been able to find an answer. Tonight it was more and bright red. It's just (1) extremely frustrating not knowing why it's happening (2) makes me feel crazy when my doctor tells me to go to L&D for any bright red bleeding from now on and the L&D nurses always look at me like I am crazy for being there.

Very thankful it's not anything serious at this point - just wish we knew what is going on.

PhoenixFrances

hoodoll82 said:

My mom wants to come up (yay!) but for whole weekend (NOT yay). I had to ask if they could just do one day because I've been so tired and really need some downtime on weekends and it went over as well as could be expected. She wasn't mad but I know she feels hurt. But DH reminded me that I need to set boundaries before baby is born, and that I'm running myself ragged on weekends already and he's trying to help me protect myself.

Lucky you! My hubby thinks I make up being tired. Doctor already told me to take it easy because of sporadic bleeding but this does not seem to phase him. He still expects me to do everything I did pre-pregnancy. That includes work/take care of kids/clean/cook everyday as well as pay bills, run errands, doctors appointments,ALL church activities and his weekend bbqs. Honestly I'm so tired by the weekend the last thing I want to do is be social... I'm not sure if I'm just being a grump but sometimes I just want to lock myself in the bathroom and cry because he doesn't seem to understand

MamaBish

knwilliams01 said:

I got to have my first L&D trip tonight thanks to bleeding. I've been bleeding on and off all pregnancy and they have never been able to find an answer. Tonight it was more and bright red. It's just (1) extremely frustrating not knowing why it's happening (2) makes me feel crazy when my doctor tells me to go to L&D for any bright red bleeding from now on and the L&D nurses always look at me like I am crazy for being there.

Very thankful it's not anything serious at this point - just wish we knew what is going on.

That sounds scary and frustrating! Hopefully it's just one of those weird things.

KarasTwin

I just want to freak out on the receptionists at my work. They are both older (one is 75 today) and either don't pay attention to what callers want/need or just don't care. I get a ridiculous amount of calls that should go to a different department all together and interrupt me from getting my work done. My supervisor has spoken with them countless times but it doesn't help. Now I have heartburn and I just want to hide under my desk and cry

KaLikeAWind

Those guys I ranted about from Saturday night? The guys who ordered food and mixed drinks and shots and didn't tip and pretended that they didn't order the food and blamed it on the other guy so they didn't have to pay... those guys? It's suspected that they went to another bar after leaving my work on Saturday night / early Sunday am (it was almost 1am when they left us) and got into a fight at this other bar. The owner of that bar tried to break it up got hurt bad. He's currently in a coma with brain bleeding. My coworker had to watch a surveillance video to try to ID them yesterday. The whole situation is still developing, its not known if those guys were arrested or not yet, but hey, at least now we have the official OK from the owner to refuse them service.

Mommaswizz

@mellymar That's INSANE!!! Thank god they didn't get into the fight at your job but still, they're clearly lowlifes! So sad to hear about the bar owner who got hurt if those assholes had any sense, they'd stop going out in your town since they're making a name for themselves in the area. It's good you'll be able to refuse service but hopefully it wont come to that and you won't have to see them again. So crazy!

KaLikeAWind

Yeah hopefully they all got arrested or have hightailed it back down South where they came from before they could get arrested and we'll never see them again. I'm not so much looking forward to me and my coworker (me, a 3rd trimester pregnant lady and my coworker, a 23 year old woman who is tough and can pack a punch but is smaller in build than me) facing down these guys with only the bowling pit guy as backup.

Serenamarr

Terrible that someone got hurt- thank goodness they didn't try to take their aggression out at your establishment. Please tell me they paid with credit cards so you have names and they can be prosecuted!!

karaelaine1991

DH decided to wait until literally 5 minutes ago to tell me that we have a potluck to go to in 2 hours... seriously?! He's lucky I love him!

KaLikeAWind

@Serenamarr I'm honestly not sure how they paid, I was cleaning up while my coworker and manager were dealing with them. I was actually planning to go hang out with my coworker in a little bit and see if she knows more. And we're *pretty sure* it was the same guys, but she said you couldn't see their faces in the video, but it was the same clothes. This is such a small town that it is likely the same guys. Just, really bizarre, and I'm grateful the problems we had with them are small by comparison

virginiaunicorn11

KarasTwin said:

@amark11 can you block people you're not friends with?

Yep. Blocked DH's crazy ex and blocked my former "friend" who thought it was ok to date a neo-nazi. Blocking means even when they are tagged in things, it doesn't show up as a clickable thing for you - and you don't show up to them. It's a beautiful thing.

angelak126

Yes! I am so mad at my husband at the moment! (Total pregnancy hormone-related type of mad, lol) He turned on our a/c in the house tonight for the first time since we moved in a few months ago just to test it (yes, sorry east coasters, it is starting to warm up here in New Mexico!) Anyways, it was SO loud and it sounds like there is a loud jacuzzi tub or a washing machine running right above our head in the master bath/bed!!! The reason I am so pissed is because we had a choice of a/c contractors to go with when we built our house. I was adamantly against going with the absolute cheapest one because of this exact concern - I was worried about it being loud in our house. Bottom line I was worried that we would get what we paid for and it would be worth spending one our two extra thousand dollars for a little bit higher grade product. A/c is expensive as it is, so it should definitely work the way you want it to! Well I was reassured many times by my hubby that all would be fine and so we went with the least expensive contractor, and here we are 4 months later and I am hearing it for the first time and it is doing exactly what I was afraid of!!!!!! Gah! Hubby and I just got in an argument over it and I booted him into the guest room for tonight! I said "I am going to go sleep in the other room, no, wait! YOU can go sleep in the other room!" Lol! I'm sure tomorrow I will be over it, and he is really the best hubby so I know I am overreacting, but I just had to come here to vent! Blah! Thank you :-)

JessHeppell

one thing im finding really frustrating is how hesitant im becoming when it comes to telling DH about things that bother me, or if im upset then what the reason is. everybody is always like "oh those pregnancy horomones are getting to you" and even DH has joked about hoping things are better for me when baby is out. its stupid to me that suddenly when youre pregnant your feelings arent viable anymore. youre just horomonal.

another thing that bugged me is i always jokingly tell DH to wait for me while we're going down the stairs of our building or basically anywhere. and one day when i already had 0 energy, he made a comment about how it was going to be really hard for me in a few months. im sure he ment nothing by it (he is honestly terrible with words when it comes to stuff like that) but to me it was just him telling me im fat and out of shape.

TheEA

@JessHeppell my husband is the same about my emotions. I know I'm extra sensitive but that doesn't mean my feelings should be discounted or ignored. I get upset about the same things as I did when I wasn't pregnant, I just have stronger reactions. I admit that I cry a lot but I want him to hug me when I cry, not roll his eyes.

I also get asked when I'm due quite often. When I say June 3rd people are always surprised. I want to say "yes, I know I'm huge. I'm short and this is my 2nd so I look much further along than I am. I also know that I will get much bigger before the baby comes so please don't point that out."

stsanders15

I am not sure that I am doing this right, but my biggest thing for the past couple months is my Mother-in-law! She is driving me crazy! Everytime I post seething on FB, she likes it or comments on it. Whether or not it is about the babies or not! My mom bought something for the twins, and I happened to be on the phone with her, and she turned around and bought something for them as well. It is like a battle for her. Let's see how much crap she can buy. She is always on my business too! And she calls my daughters, "her girls!" And she called my nursery, "our nursery!"
She also asked me who all could go in the delivery room with me, and I said I wasn't sure, but the only person that would be in there is my fiancé. She just looked at me and said, aww really??? Like I'm going to let her be in the delivery room.
I'm not sure if I am overreacting, she is driving me nuts!
She gets upset when I tell her I don't like something! Seriously!
Anybody have someone like this??

mamahawk12

I love a gripe thread as much as the next person... but can I suggest we close this thread for the day? Out of respect for a dear member of our group who is losing her baby today - it seems a bit distasteful in light of what she is going through. We've all got plenty of gripes (myself included) but perhaps we try to reflect on the positive for today, as we send our love to MamaBish.

Just a suggestion.

sblaze11

I walk into work today, and the lady (who works under me) at the front was like "well you dressed up today" I didn't. Well this is the only creaking sweater that fits me now and it was freaking cold outside!!! Ugh who says that to a pregnant lady?? My cute scarf and work clothes were under my sweatshirt. Now I'm in my office with the door closed.

ElRuby

mamahawk12 said:

I love a gripe thread as much as the next person... but can I suggest we close this thread for the day? Out of respect for a dear member of our group who is losing her baby today - it seems a bit distasteful in light of what she is going through. We've all got plenty of gripes (myself included) but perhaps we try to reflect on the positive for today, as we send our love to MamaBish.

Just a suggestion.

I agree completely.

devyns2nd

ElRuby said:

mamahawk12 said:

I love a gripe thread as much as the next person... but can I suggest we close this thread for the day? Out of respect for a dear member of our group who is losing her baby today - it seems a bit distasteful in light of what she is going through. We've all got plenty of gripes (myself included) but perhaps we try to reflect on the positive for today, as we send our love to MamaBish.

Just a suggestion.

I agree completely.

I agree! I don't feel like commenting much at all. These things are extremely unfortunate and are getting harder and harder. it's feels like a close friend is experiencing this today and I think we can all agree its heartbreaking. I'm also afraid of bringing up a thread she has commented on so I think I'm going to take a bump break for now

laurendutch

mamahawk12 said:

I love a gripe thread as much as the next person... but can I suggest we close this thread for the day? Out of respect for a dear member of our group who is losing her baby today - it seems a bit distasteful in light of what she is going through. We've all got plenty of gripes (myself included) but perhaps we try to reflect on the positive for today, as we send our love to MamaBish.

Just a suggestion.

Agree!

mamahawk12

@laurendutch - would you mind updating the thread title to indicate it's been closed?