New to community (not new to The Bump)

lowens119

Good morning!

I am 26 wks pregnant with my first. I have had this app/ site since 4 wks but just decided to post here in the community.

As I was reading other post in hopes to find some answers to similar issues, I realized how rude and offensive some of these mothers are to others.
I must say that it's disappointing how some of you treat others who comment on a question you have asked and just because the person made a comment, you jump their case for not reading other threads. Maybe refer to said thread?


Anyways, off my soap box...
was just tired of seeing some newbies get ripped a new one.

raptorteaparty

Wow, I can't think of a better way to introduce yourself into a community. Oh, wait, yes I can.

Mommaswizz

Well... hello to you too.  Welcome to the group. Remember the best way to say "Hi" might not be "Hi, I see many of you are nasty bitches" lol many of us are very nice. Yes we've gotten to know eachother for a while but we're always happy to "meet" new mommas going through the same things as us. So welcome aboard. I hope you find we're not the meanies that you might have thought

katyertl

Wowza

Mommaswizz

raptorteaparty said:

Wow, I can't think of a better way to introduce yourself into a community. Oh, wait, yes I can.

lol well said.

MamaBish

Good morning to you and welcome to the community and j15!

I find the best way to create change when you don't like something is to just be yourself and behave the way you think you should.  

KaLikeAWind

Yeah... I am normally like "Helllllooo! And welcome!" But I feel like someone walked up to shake my hand and called me ugly after giving their name. :-O
Keep in mind that I'm currently sitting thru my 3 hour glucose test so I'm very hungry, high on sugar, and hormonally pregnant to boot so don't think I'm coming right out swinging with that statement, but... I'm, well, I just don't know what to say. Hi. I guess. And you got some ugly shoes on.

Edited, spelling

katester91

That's not the best way to introduce yourself. It's also kind of "rude" to come into a community and call everyone else rude...

karaelaine1991

Really not sure what the point of this was other than to call the most frequent posters in this community bitches... thanks? If you lurk as often as you say you do, you should have been able to see that while, yes, we're not afraid to flame certain posts, we're also very supportive of people 90% of the time, and the 10% of the time that we aren't, it's because 1) the topic's already been addressed elsewhere, and in that case, we point the poster to the thread that will be useful to them, or 2) the thread is offensive/pointless, as is the case here. So, yeah, thanks for "joining" our community... I don't think you're going to have much luck with that after this post though. 

finchfeeder80

There's nothing more refreshing than starting my morning off being called a bitch. 

Were you bored this morning, OP, and just needed to stir the pot a little to see what you could get going? Consider yourself officially, permanently, side-eyed. 

aj1327

I actually woke up in a good mood today. I slept the whole night!!! Is it wrong this whole post made me laugh?

@mellymar I hope your tests goes okay and that you get something good to eat after!

Edited because I posted too soon....

frankengibbs

As I often ask the children I care for: Why? What possessed you to think that was really and truly the best way to go about introducing yourself? I'm baffled, OP.
Also there's totes a newbie thread for this exact thing.

rrcameron21

Well, that wasn't very nice.

iheartpancake

Dramatitis: the inflaming need to begin/continue/encourage drama without a real purpose other than to stir the pot amongst people who were doing just fine before hearing from the person afflicted.

Used in a sentence(s):

"Oh snap, my dramatitis is really acting up today! I should get on the Bump and try and make people feel like asshats before it clears up."


I do not normally comment on such posts because I think it just encourages the poster, but this is just absurd. We are all either in, or close to being in, our third trimester. Lurking on the bump as long as you have without starting a thread, why in the world would you post something to offend the people who you've been getting advice from for this long? Maybe just saying hi would've been a better opening? Irritating. You just insulted most people on this board, so yes I'll be a little insulting back.

ksimo6

I would suggest going back to lurker status. You don't even know what rude is... You should have been here before the mass banning. Then you *might* have something to whine about.

alfnaround

@lowens119 Alf thinks your rude and only hears blah blah blah........

devyns2nd

Well I'm so glad we know how you feel. We will most defiantly consider changing for you and your needs as a lurker/non contributor. I can't believe we have looked over our own bitchiness for this long. Thank goodness you pointed it out.

dancegurl1118

If you think the current state of this board is bitchy, I question how you make it through life without being butt hurt every time someone doesn't tell you how great you are. Girl, this is nothing.

KaLikeAWind

@amccoy129 thank you! I've had some lunch and are feeling much better, but still annoyed with basically being called an asshole. So it wasn't the sugar and lack of food after all. Huh... Whaddaya know?

AnAdult

@lowens119 please consider what @ksimo6 said in her comment and do "lurk back" at least to the beginning of January posts! You'll see what she meant.

ngaines27

Bitches, eh??? Takes one to know one, I suppose?? ;;)

taboullio84

lowens119 said:

Good morning!

I am 26 wks pregnant with my first. I have had this app/ site since 4 wks but just decided to post here in the community.

As I was reading other post in hopes to find some answers to similar issues, I realized how rude and offensive some of these mothers are to others.
I must say that it's disappointing how some of you treat others who comment on a question you have asked and just because the person made a comment, you jump their case for not reading other threads. Maybe refer to said thread?


Anyways, off my soap box...
was just tired of seeing some newbies get ripped a new one.

Well, that's one way to join a group .

Katerina&Baby

lowens119 said:

Good morning!

I am 26 wks pregnant with my first. I have had this app/ site since 4 wks but just decided to post here in the community.

As I was reading other post in hopes to find some answers to similar issues, I realized how rude and offensive some of these mothers are to others.
I must say that it's disappointing how some of you treat others who comment on a question you have asked and just because the person made a comment, you jump their case for not reading other threads. Maybe refer to said thread?


Anyways, off my soap box...
was just tired of seeing some newbies get ripped a new one.

QFP (just in case of a DD).

OP - wait, seriously? So you've been lurking since you were 4 weeks along and you decide to make your very first post about bashing the people who actually contribute to this board? How exactly did you see this going - did you think everyone would be like "yeah man, there are totes some rude ladies here, thanks for pointing it out"? Do you have any self awareness at all? I mean, YOUR post was the rudest one I've seen in weeks.

Feel free to take your soapbox and slink back into lurker mode because I, for one, will not be responding to a SINGLE question/concern you post here after this DramaLlama demonstration.

HoosOnFirst

Oh good, I needed a laugh today!

MrsWiggleWaggle

OP I understand your instinct towards many of the posts here but...
1. The culture of the board really has changed since bumPgate, and I hope you noticed as I had. I don't mind that the first posts to oft repeated questions are now links and referrals to previous good information and suggestions about labeling correctly or posting to established threads. not "omg this b*tch" , or "who does she think she is". Which is actually what it used to be.
2. I don't think referring moms to recent posts where topics are extensively debated is a bad thing. I think some newbies immediately go on the defensive when they see this. But if you've been around im sure you've noticed the same banal topics come up as nauseum.

3. Generally no...being nasty for the sake of being nasty is not something I like to see other women do either. I try to keep a "don't be an asshole policy". I will never call someone a special snowflake or any of that. But when someone is offended you tell them to ask their doctor as in they say "omg duh I'll ask my doctor you are so mean" I get annoyed. Literally for many of those questions that is the ONLY correct response.

4. Many women who get super flamed do so because they go on the defensive and resort to name calling themselves when responders say "this is just silly" and it NEVER works out. Usually the flaming gets worse. I did this once and learned my lesson.

So um...welcome? I promise not to side eye you...but maybe give a shot to you know ordering a drink at the bar instead of kicking in the saloon doors with guns blazing.

lovethatcolosun

I just read this post to my hubby and he was like, "oh this should be good!" It was totally worth the read. I laughed the whole way through.

To the OP welcome! You've just been baptized by fire. Not the way I would have chosen to introduce myself, but something tells me you like to do things a little differently. You wear that crown proudly drama mama!

ElRuby

OK which one of you guys made this user name and threw in this post for fun?? Because there is just no way it is real!

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