My DD is 5 years old. When she was little we lived with my parents for about a year and a half and my mother grew a very strong bond with her. (I have since gotten married and had another child.) She picks up DD almost every friday after school and then brings her back home Saturday morning/afternoon (DS is still too little for sleep overs at grandma's). I love how much my mother loves my child but I am starting to feel as though she thinks DD is hers. She is constantly questioning my parenting style and pushing advice even if it is not asked for. And if I do not follow said advice she takes offence. Serious offence, like asking if i thought she was a bad mother. Mind you, she was a great mom.
DD started Kindergarten back in August, gained a new brother and has now developed a horrible attitude. So, things have been rough at home as I am trying to find the most effective way to parent MY CHILD. Since I am very close to my mom and I do not have very many girlfriends I call my mom to vent...about DD, work, DH, housework, etc. My mother has called me a Drill Sargent, thinks I am too hard on her, and says I am too critical. She says I never have positive things to say about DD, but I do not feel this is true. I call and tell her everything exciting/good going on in DD's life. I love my DD with everything I am. I just feel my mother should be there as a listening ear, as she is still my parent.
Also, when my mother is around and DD is misbehaving or snapping at/disrespecting my mom, I immediately try to correct her and my mother does one of two things, she will either roll her eyes while making comments under her breath or she will tell me to stop it so she can handle it. I believe that I am the parent and should not have to bite my tongue when it comes to my child, NO MATTER WHAT.
Am I wrong for feeling that way? Should my mother be my supporter and remember that she is still my parent? How would you handle this?
Ps. DD is not being abused or neglected in any way (has been spanked 2 times ever) and she is a very loved and cared for little girl