when is it no longer CIO?

crazynervous

or is it always cio?  DS is 2.5 and he is really giving us a hard time at nap and bedtime.  The routine has been the same since he was six months old. Now though he will kick off his blanket, refuse hugs and kisses, and then when we leave the room he cries for his blanket, hugs and kisses and anything else he can imagine up.  His bedtime is 7:30 but the last few nights he has stayed awake until 10 and 11 asking for stuff.  I finally decided tonight enough is enough.  I explained to him I wasn't coming back in after I tucked him in. As soon as I left though he started asking for stuff and when we didn't come back in he started crying.   He was quiet and asleep in about a 1/2 hour but it still broke my heart hearing him cry for me. 

Anyone else having this issue with their 2 yr old?

squishywife

noel takes an hour or so to go to sleep. usually we lay with her or just let her sleep with us. 

KrisBriMcBunny

would you consider maybe putting him to bed at 8pm?....sometimes Michelle just isnt ready for bed and we would go get her snuggle in front of the tv and she is usually ready to go back in 15-30 minutes.  Her normal bed time is 8pm.

crazynervous

I totally understand not falling asleep right away.  He started about a month ago asking for a book to read, which I was fine with but it has just gotten out of control and basically a power struggle.  Sleeping with us isn't an option anymore. He moves so much I don't sleep at all when he is in bed with us and I need the space to bring the baby into bed if necessary. 

crazynervous

He was waking up pretty early around 6:30 so I hate pushing his bedtime later.  I am going to limit his nap time. He will have to start getting up by 3.  I am hoping that is part of the problem.

KrisBriMcBunny

at this point I think its more of a behavior and a power trip with him.  CIO is probably the best thing you can do at this point!  God these 2 yr olds are so damn tough lol

bubu

Yes. My dd has been very good about going to bed until recently. For instance today for her nap I heard her crying so I went in to check on her and she said she wanted to put on her shoes. I told her it was time to take a nap and she could not put on her shoes. I told her we could put on her socks instead and so I did and she still cried for the shoes. I offered to put on her slippers and she did not want those either she wanted her tennis shoes so I put them on to see if she would at least stop crying and she did. She climbed back into bed and went to sleep...with shoes on. lol.

We have been finding ourselves going back in every night after we initially put her down to put her back into the bed whereas before we never had to do that. We did CIO when she was less than a year old and it was the most horrible three days but I swear it worked and I'm glad we did it but i'm not sure what's going on now. I think my dh and I are doing the wrong thing by going in the room repeatedly now so I think I'll put an end to that and see if she'll go back to her old routine. I keep telling myself she's regressing because she's either going to start talking in longer sentences or be ready for potty training. Giving myself something positive to look forward to I guess.

Ciarrai

Yup!  Depending on her mood, DD#1 will cry and yell for anything she can think of to stall or quietly play with her puppies.  In her best moods, she wakes her sister up to play with her (my favorite b/c eventually they are both crying).  Other than pulling my hair out (I think I might be bald soon), I haven't figured out what else to do except ignore it.  We do, of course, get DD if she says she has to go potty,.  Other than that after the first five minutes or so of water, blankets, etc., we ignore her.  If nothing else, they both get to sleep a lot faster than if we go in and keep playing her game. 

CTFandme

as I sit here and listen to ds cry...so far he's asked for water, milk, a sandwich, his grave digger truck, to blow his nose, you name it.  We gave in to the food because he didn't eat much dinner and thought he might not be sleeping because he's starving.  phase?