My opinion- bc everyone else has one...

Capella99

there have been so many posts from women who have had their feelings hurt by the snark because their questions were "too dumb" according to us women on the bump board. Most of the time the things that were said about the atmosphere here were a little extreme but all in all- for the board to generate at least a few posts a week from women who felt the need to tell us that we are rude says something. We laugh it off, we make funny snarky comments about their whining but at the end of the day we are creating an atmosphere here and it seems like it's obviously not working. I love this board, but being asked to not snark and be rude to someone for asking an innocent question is not that big of a deal. I have noticed that there are really not that many posts anymore and any time there is one that is directly pregnancy related it's usually met with snark.., for example- I saw a question about what to pack in the hospital bag. The very first reply was "oh great this already!" And other just non helpful comments (there were also helpful comments as there should have been). I am not meaning to ramble I'm just saying I get this. These rules are needed. Women shouldn't feel uncomfortable or scared to post because some other woman on here thinks her question is stupid. Plus, it makes the board a whole lot less informative. I am sure you ladies have noticed that the posts here have slowed way down and basically any new thread posted has at least one person saying something asinine in the responses. It is not necessary to post on every single thread. If the most helpful thing you can think of is "call your doctor" or "Google it" then how hard is it to just keep scrolling... Obviously there is a problem here. The reviews on this app call us a bunch of bullies and comment about how women are uncomfortable to post here- this is a business... Someone's job is to keep this place a spot where women want to come and of course they are going to do something about it when we all gang up on posters who we think have stupid questions. I'm not calling anyone out, I'm just saying that obviously the creators of the bump have something else in mind other than a clique on a message board calling other women stupid for asking questions that we think are obvious. There's my unpopular opinion, because everyone else has one... I do hope these new rules open up the message boards and we see a whole lot more posts and whole lot less of women getting rude with other women over their posts.

Capella99

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alexeleni

I don't think anyone was upset at the new guidelines for content as much as they were with the wholesale ban hammer. I mean, many people to whom I've spoken have been perfectly ok, if skeptical, about the new guidelines for nice-being.

Capella99

alexeleni said:

I don't think anyone was upset at the new guidelines for content as much as they were with the wholesale ban hammer. I mean, many people to whom I've spoken have been perfectly ok, if skeptical, about the new guidelines for nice-being.

I do get that. I love sharkfarts and felt she was a great mod. I have no idea what happened or why she was banned but in the other forums it seemed like it was a technical issue... I don't know though? I guess we will find out later. But this 24 hours of silence thing is ridiculous to me when we have women who are going through real life situations with their pregnancies and could possibly be reaching out for support on here.

marigold32

I wonder how people survived "real life situations with their pregnancies" pre-Internet. It must have really sucked to have to ask strangers to their faces what is up with your knotty vagina. Thank goodness for The Bump.

Capella99

marigold32 said:

I wonder how people survived "real life situations with their pregnancies" pre-Internet. It must have really sucked to have to ask strangers to their faces what is up with your knotty vagina. Thank goodness for The Bump.

I'm sure that you realize I wasn't saying there was no other place to turn to for support...but this is a message board for women due in the same month. Women here have bonded and use this board for support. I love that about the bump. Also, the knotty vagina question wasn't mine, but pregnancy isn't always the prettiest and I am glad that people feel comfortable posting even the hard to talk about things on here.

Pastrypixie3

I love your opinion!  I never come on here any more, and if I do, I've started lurking in the March 2015 group.  I started using the site so I'd be able to ask questions and hear what's going on with women in the same place as I am, and every time I get on here I end up getting pissed off 'cause some girl asked a question about discharge, and 30 people scolded her for being gross instead of even attempting to be helpful or supportive.  Like nobody else is having weird, gross discharge?  Seriously.  If people want to get snarky to my comment, that's fine, but as long as at least one girl out there can read this and feel better or agree with it then it's worth it.  We all have enough stress and hormones going on, you'd hope that a place like this would be helpful or useful instead of frustrating and defeating.  

specialsn0wflake

Capella99 said:

I don't think anyone was upset at the new guidelines for content as much as they were with the wholesale ban hammer. I mean, many people to whom I've spoken have been perfectly ok, if skeptical, about the new guidelines for nice-being.

I do get that. I love sharkfarts and felt she was a great mod. I have no idea what happened or why she was banned but in the other forums it seemed like it was a technical issue... I don't know though? I guess we will find out later. But this 24 hours of silence thing is ridiculous to me when we have women who are going through real life situations with their pregnancies and could possibly be reaching out for support on here.

If you looked at the posts made today, no part of anything posted actually needed responses from non medial professionals.  It was useless, common sense dribble.  

marigold32

Capella99 said:

I wonder how people survived "real life situations with their pregnancies" pre-Internet. It must have really sucked to have to ask strangers to their faces what is up with your knotty vagina. Thank goodness for The Bump.

I'm sure that you realize I wasn't saying there was no other place to turn to for support...but this is a message board for women due in the same month. Women here have bonded and use this board for support. I love that about the bump. Also, the knotty vagina question wasn't mine, but pregnancy isn't always the prettiest and I am glad that people feel comfortable posting even the hard to talk about things on here.

I'm sure you realize that I didn't mean YOU. I actually almost clarified that in my post but then I thought that would be patronizing because a general "you" would surely be understood. 

Capella99

marigold32 said:

Capella99 said:

marigold32 said:

I wonder how people survived "real life situations with their pregnancies" pre-Internet. It must have really sucked to have to ask strangers to their faces what is up with your knotty vagina. Thank goodness for The Bump.

I'm sure that you realize I wasn't saying there was no other place to turn to for support...but this is a message board for women due in the same month. Women here have bonded and use this board for support. I love that about the bump. Also, the knotty vagina question wasn't mine, but pregnancy isn't always the prettiest and I am glad that people feel comfortable posting even the hard to talk about things on here.

I'm sure you realize that I didn't mean YOU. I actually almost clarified that in my post but then I thought that would be patronizing because a general "you" would surely be understood. 

Alright... Well glad that is figured out then...

marigold32

Capella99

rsaj0807 said:

Opinions are like assholes. Everybody has one, and most of them smell like shit.

Lol! Everyone does have one but I can honestly say I have never smelled an opinion...

Capella99

rsaj0807 said:

Capella99 said:

rsaj0807 said:

Opinions are like assholes. Everybody has one, and most of them smell like shit.

Lol! Everyone does have one but I can honestly say I have never smelled an opinion...

I can smell a pretty shitty one in this thread. They say a nose becomes accustomed to smells after about two minutes of being around the scent. Maybe, there's some of that going on.

Clever... Just not productive...

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klingspwn said:

I don't understand how the comment on the hospital bag question was rude and or snarky. At all. So you're saying if we don't have something to say that directly shoots glitter up the OP's ass (meaning exactly what the OP wants to hear) then we shouldn't comment at all? This isn't Yahoo Answers or google. We are real people, not doctors. If in our opinion calling your doctor is the best option in your case, why should we be faulted for that?

And if people are scared to post on an Internet forum because people behind keyboards scare them then they need to grow up.

Honestly I'm not saying that we should shoot glitter up anyone's ass... And I think saying someone is scared to post was the wrong word to use. I think maybe women are opting out of posting to just avoid drama... There's obviously a problem with the way the board has been going or TB wouldn't be stepping in in such a big way.

Capella99

rsaj0807 said:

Capella99 said:

rsaj0807 said:

Capella99 said:

rsaj0807 said:

Opinions are like assholes. Everybody has one, and most of them smell like shit.

Lol! Everyone does have one but I can honestly say I have never smelled an opinion...

I can smell a pretty shitty one in this thread. They say a nose becomes accustomed to smells after about two minutes of being around the scent. Maybe, there's some of that going on.

Clever... Just not productive...

I totally agree with you, but clearly, not about the same things.

Alrighty.

ally3242

rsaj0807 said:

Capella99 said:

rsaj0807 said:

Opinions are like assholes. Everybody has one, and most of them smell like shit.

Lol! Everyone does have one but I can honestly say I have never smelled an opinion...

I can smell a pretty shitty one in this thread. They say a nose becomes accustomed to smells after about two minutes of being around the scent. Maybe, there's some of that going on.

This about sums it up for me.

Capella99

klingspwn said:

Capella99 said:

klingspwn said:

I don't understand how the comment on the hospital bag question was rude and or snarky. At all. So you're saying if we don't have something to say that directly shoots glitter up the OP's ass (meaning exactly what the OP wants to hear) then we shouldn't comment at all? This isn't Yahoo Answers or google. We are real people, not doctors. If in our opinion calling your doctor is the best option in your case, why should we be faulted for that?

And if people are scared to post on an Internet forum because people behind keyboards scare them then they need to grow up.

Honestly I'm not saying that we should shoot glitter up anyone's ass... And I think saying someone is scared to post was the wrong word to use. I think maybe women are opting out of posting to just avoid drama... There's obviously a problem with the way the board has been going or TB wouldn't be stepping in in such a big way.

It's been going great for those of us who actually make up the board.

I enjoy this board too.. But I can also see the other side of things and I can see why TB is wanting to change some things to salvage their ratings.. If
you have ever read their ratings you may start to see things from the other side. It's not a lot to ask to bring the snark down a few notches so that women don't feel attacked if they ask a question they shouldn't ask because they "don't go here".

doxiemom415

TL;DR

Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

Capella99

doxiemom415 said:

TL;DR

Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post....
It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

crichter18

Capella99 said:

there have been so many posts from women who have had their feelings hurt by the snark because their questions were "too dumb" according to us women on the bump board. Most of the time the things that were said about the atmosphere here were a little extreme but all in all- for the board to generate at least a few posts a week from women who felt the need to tell us that we are rude says something. We laugh it off, we make funny snarky comments about their whining but at the end of the day we are creating an atmosphere here and it seems like it's obviously not working. I love this board, but being asked to not snark and be rude to someone for asking an innocent question is not that big of a deal. I have noticed that there are really not that many posts anymore and any time there is one that is directly pregnancy related it's usually met with snark.., for example- I saw a question about what to pack in the hospital bag. The very first reply was "oh great this already!" And other just non helpful comments (there were also helpful comments as there should have been). I am not meaning to ramble I'm just saying I get this. These rules are needed. Women shouldn't feel uncomfortable or scared to post because some other woman on here thinks her question is stupid. Plus, it makes the board a whole lot less informative. I am sure you ladies have noticed that the posts here have slowed way down and basically any new thread posted has at least one person saying something asinine in the responses. It is not necessary to post on every single thread. If the most helpful thing you can think of is "call your doctor" or "Google it" then how hard is it to just keep scrolling... Obviously there is a problem here. The reviews on this app call us a bunch of bullies and comment about how women are uncomfortable to post here- this is a business... Someone's job is to keep this place a spot where women want to come and of course they are going to do something about it when we all gang up on posters who we think have stupid questions. I'm not calling anyone out, I'm just saying that obviously the creators of the bump have something else in mind other than a clique on a message board calling other women stupid for asking questions that we think are obvious. There's my unpopular opinion, because everyone else has one... I do hope these new rules open up the message boards and we see a whole lot more posts and whole lot less of women getting rude with other women over their posts.

You took the words right out of my mouth. I look at this board at least once a day but I rarely ever say anything. The few times I posted were met with rude comments and that's more than half of what I see on others posts. If it bothers you that an excited first time mom comes on a PREGNANCY BOARD with questions such as packing the hospital bag how hard is it to keep scrolling?!? If I see something I don't like or I think is dumb I don't sit there and post rude, unhelpful comments because IT'S NOT THAT HARD NOT TO. I keep scrolling and move on with my life. And why the hell is it such a big deal when somebody does a name post?! AGAIN if you don't like it, KEEP SCROLLING! Just because I come on here and ask "a bunch of internet strangers" what they think goes good with the first name I picked out doesn't mean I'm going to use them! I may use a name I saw but not because any one person posted it, but because it was brought to my attention and I liked it. Sorry not everyone has their child's name picked ahead of time or has people to name their kids after. What's so wrong with asking for ideas??

sks306

I agree with the OP on this one. There are reasons that they felt a change was needed...but until things settle down, there will be quite a few regulars who disagree with that sentiment. I am sure many others want to share their opinions, but still won't out of wanting to avoid increasing the drama. I just want things to move on, but I don't know how long that will take for everyone who is left to join in on that.

marigold32

 

Capella99 said:

TL;DR Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post.... It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

If GOOGLE "says it's a lot of things"... why should she care what anyone here thinks it "might" be? Why would we have more answers than Google?

 Have lump, ask doctor. Pretty sure that's standard protocol no matter where the lump is located.

doxiemom415

Capella99 said:

doxiemom415 said:

TL;DR

Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post....
It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

@bumpmay is that you??? I don't know what you're trying to accomplish here but you can go ahead step right down off of your soap box about puppies and rainbows. I'm sorry that you're offended because it's clear you've also experienced knotty vagina. #knottyvaginasunite

Capella99

marigold32 said:

 

Capella99 said:

doxiemom415 said:

TL;DR

Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post....
It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

If GOOGLE "says it's a lot of things"... why should she care what anyone here thinks it "might" be? Why would we have more answers than Google?

 Have lump, ask doctor. Pretty sure that's standard protocol no matter where the lump is located.

Okay, you are just trying to miss my point here... She is here on an Internet forum about pregnancy- asking other women who are due the same month as her a question about her vagina...yes, she could google...yes, I'm sure she will ask her doctor... But besides the snarky responses what she got was other women who experienced it and had some insight. THAT was the purpose of the post. I am sure not one person who has ever posted a question here is assuming they are asking a panel of doctors. I am sure they realize they are asking a group of women who may or may not have experienced what they are experiencing.

Capella99

doxiemom415 said:

Capella99 said:

doxiemom415 said:

TL;DR

Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post....
It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

@bumpmay is that you??? I don't know what you're trying to accomplish here but you can go ahead step right down off of your soap box about puppies and rainbows. I'm sorry that you're offended because it's clear you've also experienced knotty vagina. #knottyvaginasunite

How old are you that you need to make fun of another women's vagina and medical issue? Knotty vaginas unite? Seriously... I am certain that you personally will experience lots of things more unpleasant than a knot on your vagina during pregnancy. Are we
going to mean girl it up and have a group message with our friends and giggle about discharge next or can we be supportive women and stop the ridiculousness?

doxiemom415

Capella99 said:

doxiemom415 said:

Capella99 said:

doxiemom415 said:

TL;DR

Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post....
It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

@bumpmay is that you??? I don't know what you're trying to accomplish here but you can go ahead step right down off of your soap box about puppies and rainbows. I'm sorry that you're offended because it's clear you've also experienced knotty vagina. #knottyvaginasunite

How old are you that you need to make fun of another women's vagina and medical issue? Knotty vaginas unite? Seriously... I am certain that you personally will experience lots of things more unpleasant than a knot on your vagina during pregnancy. Are we
going to mean girl it up and have a group message with our friends and giggle about discharge next or can we be supportive women and stop the ridiculousness?

I just really still don't understand what you're trying to accomplish in this thread, all mighty leader of the puppies and rainbows flock. When this shit show of a board turns into a constant Google and Yahoo questions and you have to sort through the million name posts or OMGISTHISMYMUCOUSPLUGSEEPICTURE or just the piles of bullshit that a quick Google search or a common sense call to your doctor would solve, you'll see why the board ran the way it did. But good luck with that. And your knotty vagina with its discharge. I fully support that. I also fully support you fucking right off.

marigold32

Capella99 said:

 

Capella99 said:

TL;DR Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post.... It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

If GOOGLE "says it's a lot of things"... why should she care what anyone here thinks it "might" be? Why would we have more answers than Google?

 Have lump, ask doctor. Pretty sure that's standard protocol no matter where the lump is located.

Okay, you are just trying to miss my point here... She is here on an Internet forum about pregnancy- asking other women who are due the same month as her a question about her vagina...yes, she could google...yes, I'm sure she will ask her doctor... But besides the snarky responses what she got was other women who experienced it and had some insight. THAT was the purpose of the post. I am sure not one person who has ever posted a question here is assuming they are asking a panel of doctors. I am sure they realize they are asking a group of women who may or may not have experienced what they are experiencing.

Um, no. Let me be more clear. There is a difference between asking other pregnant women about their stretch marks, and asking about a LUMP. What would be gained from someone assuring her that this is perfectly normal and she shouldn't worry about it, only to find out months down the road that this was something she definitely should have mentioned to her doctor? And if you think that everyone here plans to ask their doctor some of the things they ask on this board, that is seriously laughable.

carter604

I vote @Capella99‌ for new moderator! Thank you for your leadership. I'm confident that there are a number of less-active A15 members who are looking forward to a lot less snark around here. We'll pick up the slack and rebuild this community after this drama dies down.

marigold32

carter604 said:

I vote @Capella99‌ for new moderator! Thank you for your leadership. I'm confident that there are a number of less-active A15 members who are looking forward to a lot less snark around here. We'll pick up the slack and rebuild this community after this drama dies down.

abc829

Is this real life?

Capella99

carter604 said:

I vote @Capella99‌ for new moderator! Thank you for your leadership. I'm confident that there are a number of less-active A15 members who are looking forward to a lot less snark around here. We'll pick up the slack and rebuild this community after this drama dies down.

I knew I would catch some hell for this opinion but I also knew there were plenty of women who feel like I do!

abc829

I have never seen you people here. You've never supported a member when there was a loss, participated in any discussions. So who exactly do you think you are?

Capella99

marigold32 said:

Capella99 said:

 

Capella99 said:

doxiemom415 said:

TL;DR

Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post....
It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

If GOOGLE "says it's a lot of things"... why should she care what anyone here thinks it "might" be? Why would we have more answers than Google?

 Have lump, ask doctor. Pretty sure that's standard protocol no matter where the lump is located.

Okay, you are just trying to miss my point here... She is here on an Internet forum about pregnancy- asking other women who are due the same month as her a question about her vagina...yes, she could google...yes, I'm sure she will ask her doctor... But besides the snarky responses what she got was other women who experienced it and had some insight. THAT was the purpose of the post. I am sure not one person who has ever posted a question here is assuming they are asking a panel of doctors. I am sure they realize they are asking a group of women who may or may not have experienced what they are experiencing.


Um, no. Let me be more clear. There is a difference between asking other pregnant women about their stretch marks, and asking about a LUMP. What would be gained from someone assuring her that this is perfectly normal and she shouldn't worry about it, only to find out months down the road that this was something she definitely should have mentioned to her doctor? And if you think that everyone here plans to ask their doctor some of the things they ask on this board, that is seriously laughable.

I'm not going to keep repeating myself...

doxiemom415

Capella99 said:

marigold32 said:

Capella99 said:

 

Capella99 said:

doxiemom415 said:

TL;DR

Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post....
It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

If GOOGLE "says it's a lot of things"... why should she care what anyone here thinks it "might" be? Why would we have more answers than Google?

 Have lump, ask doctor. Pretty sure that's standard protocol no matter where the lump is located.

Okay, you are just trying to miss my point here... She is here on an Internet forum about pregnancy- asking other women who are due the same month as her a question about her vagina...yes, she could google...yes, I'm sure she will ask her doctor... But besides the snarky responses what she got was other women who experienced it and had some insight. THAT was the purpose of the post. I am sure not one person who has ever posted a question here is assuming they are asking a panel of doctors. I am sure they realize they are asking a group of women who may or may not have experienced what they are experiencing.

Um, no. Let me be more clear. There is a difference between asking other pregnant women about their stretch marks, and asking about a LUMP. What would be gained from someone assuring her that this is perfectly normal and she shouldn't worry about it, only to find out months down the road that this was something she definitely should have mentioned to her doctor? And if you think that everyone here plans to ask their doctor some of the things they ask on this board, that is seriously laughable.

I'm not going to keep repeating myself...

Thank God.

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getoffmyballs said:

I love it when people simultaneously complain about what's being commented, or better yet what bothers them, and tell you to just keep scrolling if something bothers you. If this place has been so horrible for you guys why have you been lurking for so long? Hypocrites be hypocritical.

Btw, if you think Google doesn't also bring up links with other women giving their experiences/stories concerning pregnancy issues (knotty vaginas included) you haven't used Google. You (aka lurkers aka nonmembers) think you're getting a better "community" but what you're getting is ChaCha.

I like this message board... I believe it's filled with great women and I like to be a part of it. The bad snark and rudeness isn't going to run me off... I just know that more women would participate if it wasn't for the drama that ensues if someone says the wrong thing

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smilesallaround

Yes, this board was filled with snark and I loved it. I was sad to see so many people leave/be banned for unknown reasons. But I'm willing to wait and see what this board becomes without constantly putting it down. We don't know that it will become yahoo answers or baby center... well I don't.... maybe you can see the future? In which case I'm totally jealous because I don't always like the unknown.

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qwanda2013 said:

I am going to try to break this down as simply as possible although I know it might fall of deaf ears. I am having a hard time with OP's whole train of thought for a lot of reasons starting with, but not limited to the fact that the very mod that was permanently IP banned (deliberately, this was not a fanciful glitch like you stated) has been around for NINE years offering her time, support and knowledge to all who passed through. Weeks ago this very mod, remember she's the one who got deliberately, permanently IP banned, posted a big thread about answering questions as politely as possible so we could keep the board running smoothly. We all got behind that idea (kinda... she wasn't saying we needed to be souless drones just that the tone could change a bit). She was the most level headed, reasonable mod around and guess what... Even Shark got annoyed with the takers, the drive bys, the ruthless trolls, and the crazy beasts who crossed so many unfathomable social boundaries. Somehow, by some whacked out rationale XO group decided they didn't need her hours of volunteer work anymore and they banned her and others like her. It was a ridiculous power play on their part and it reeked. It was totally crappy.

This isn't about swearing in posts, though I would argue that we are all adults and can speak how we choose. I, personally, don't swear a lot on these forums but dammit, what they did was wrong. This isn't about snarky gifs, this is about XO appealing to the lowest common denominator and frankly, if you believe so wholeheartedly in what they did that denominator just might be where you are at.

I don't know what happened to shark... Has anyone here even talked to her? Banning her for no good reason is wrong, yes... But we just want a pregnancy board that we can talk pregnancy on without a bunch of snark and pettiness. I can't say that I disagree with you but I think my post and your post are about 2 different things...