My opinion- bc everyone else has one...

smilesallaround

@getoffmyballs‌ Unfortunately, I have seen the consequences that drunk driving has on innocent bystanders. It is devastating. This is a community message board. It is very different than an innocent person being killed because some idiot decided to drive drunk.

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snowbigdeal said:

Capella99 said:

qwanda2013 said:

I am going to try to break this down as simply as possible although I know it might fall of deaf ears. I am having a hard time with OP's whole train of thought for a lot of reasons starting with, but not limited to the fact that the very mod that was permanently IP banned (deliberately, this was not a fanciful glitch like you stated) has been around for NINE years offering her time, support and knowledge to all who passed through. Weeks ago this very mod, remember she's the one who got deliberately, permanently IP banned, posted a big thread about answering questions as politely as possible so we could keep the board running smoothly. We all got behind that idea (kinda... she wasn't saying we needed to be souless drones just that the tone could change a bit). She was the most level headed, reasonable mod around and guess what... Even Shark got annoyed with the takers, the drive bys, the ruthless trolls, and the crazy beasts who crossed so many unfathomable social boundaries. Somehow, by some whacked out rationale XO group decided they didn't need her hours of volunteer work anymore and they banned her and others like her. It was a ridiculous power play on their part and it reeked. It was totally crappy.

This isn't about swearing in posts, though I would argue that we are all adults and can speak how we choose. I, personally, don't swear a lot on these forums but dammit, what they did was wrong. This isn't about snarky gifs, this is about XO appealing to the lowest common denominator and frankly, if you believe so wholeheartedly in what they did that denominator just might be where you are at.

I don't know what happened to shark... Has anyone here even talked to her? Banning her for no good reason is wrong, yes... But we just want a pregnancy board that we can talk pregnancy on without a bunch of snark and pettiness. I can't say that I disagree with you but I think my post and your post are about 2 different things...

Respectfully, yeah, we've pretty much all heard her story from her. She got no warning and no explanation.

You and @qwanda2013 are not talking about two different things. She just disagrees with you. And you really can't decouple the change in TOUs (or "guidelines") and the mod banning. They are all part of the same institutional maneuver.


Right, what I should have said was that I don't disagree with her about what happened to shark... My other opinions I sure as hell still stand by and if she doesn't or you don't agree with me, there are plenty of people who do. We are tired of the snark and mean girls and immaturity.

ewilson74

Remember the good ole' days when there would be 5 threads on heartburn, 6 name my baby (but it must include an x or a y), and at least 4 guess the sex of my fetus. No? Oh, that's right. You, @Capella99, weren't here. For that last one, I am going to need a crotch shot. That cute button nose isn't really going to help me out. 

I often thought we needed a sticky with all our collective wisdom, so that drive-bys wouldn't burst into the room demanding answers. But then that would require using the search function. 

My parting wisdom will be apple cider vinegar (heartburn, and vagina rinse- don't want collard greens). Coconut oil: for stretch marks and so much more. That one is for Souptin. Diet: Protein and healthy fats. Try eggs. Answering those questions once, was fine. A lot of wisdom was shared, and for that I am thankful. But seriously, there is currently a new thread on fucking heartburn. Use the god damn search function. Community does not get built on answering the same question again and again. 

@getoffmyballs, was wondering where you were. Thought maybe you had changed your name again. Glad to see you - assuming you will be making your way over to PB. 

@carter604, I have to ask, was that tongue in cheek? If so, you beat me to it. 

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No one made me miserable. I like the board. I've stated that several times. I just do believe there's room for improvement and I don't disagree with the new tou.

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getoffmyballs said:

Capella99 said:

No one made me miserable. I like the board. I've stated that several times. I just do believe there's room for improvement and I don't disagree with the new tou.

A second ago you and others were tired of it and your cohorts were too afraid to post. Which is it?

Maybe go back and re read? I like this board... The TOUs will make it even better... I'm not back peddling I am being consistent here. Just read my comments. I like the board. Not going anywhere...looking forward to a few changes. That is all. I'm going to bed now. Too tired to keep repeating myself. Goodnight.

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ericalanier23

Loved your post op. Much needed I think.

ZeeLsh

Internet thug cliques are hilarious! ! Especially pregger ones lmao. Don't stoop to their level stay above the mess!!Just my 2cents ;);)

SuperFudge00

When the hair pets and glitter spewing takes over, the intelligence, accountability and productivity go down. I left other sites and found a nice home here because entitled bullshit and lack of thought wasn't tolerated here. I don't have time to hand hold someone through the Internet, pregnancy or life. Honestly, I consider myself an intelligent person and want to play with likeminded individuals. This does not include those people who elicit the WK and/or hurt feeling responses.

Everyone needs to put their big girl panties on and learn how to navigate through life.

I'm upset because I like this place. I could find creative ways to "encourage" people to be accountable for their own pregnancies without violating the TOU, once I read it. But I refuse to patronize a company (yes that's what this is, a company with the sole purpose of making money) that doesn't value me as a customer and will treat its other customers so unfairly.

My loss, their loss, a little of both, who knows. I started with TK in 2010 and still connect with those members today. I came here because of that experience. I stayed for what I found here. I'm contemplating leaving because of what TB and @BumpMay‌ have done. I'm waiting to hear from XO tomorrow/today to see if there is any explanation they can offer that I can swallow before I GBCB. If they offer an acceptable plan of action, I'll stay.

SuperFudge00

Capella99 said:

marigold32 said:

 

Capella99 said:

doxiemom415 said:

TL;DR

Too busy laughing at the knotty vagina post. And that people are actually responding to it. And that someone posted about their knotty vagina. AND BECAUSE GOOGLE. THIS IS NOT FUCKING GOOGLE.

A pregnant woman... Due in the same birth month that all the other women are due in has a question about her vagina during pregnancy and she isn't allowed to post that question here? Google says it's lots of things... But the forum has generated a few women who are giving her advice about their experiences- which is the whole idea of the post....
It is honestly ridiculous that women can not post on this forum without comments like this and being made fun of.

If GOOGLE "says it's a lot of things"... why should she care what anyone here thinks it "might" be? Why would we have more answers than Google?

 Have lump, ask doctor. Pretty sure that's standard protocol no matter where the lump is located.

Okay, you are just trying to miss my point here... She is here on an Internet forum about pregnancy- asking other women who are due the same month as her a question about her vagina...yes, she could google...yes, I'm sure she will ask her doctor... But besides the snarky responses what she got was other women who experienced it and had some insight. THAT was the purpose of the post. I am sure not one person who has ever posted a question here is assuming they are asking a panel of doctors. I am sure they realize they are asking a group of women who may or may not have experienced what they are experiencing.

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Are you sure? Are you new here? Because I'm sure that women who ask if they should go to the hospital when (fill in the blank) happens, ask if we can tell the sex of their fetus, ask if they should trust their doctor's opinion/advice aren't using this forum for anecdotal experiences.

Amandysergio

It's funny that now all these posters are coming out of the wood work like they grew a pair of balls since things have changed....


I was a scared, FTM-to-be once but I never asked about any weird discharge on here or for people to name my baby or what to pack in my hospital bag or to guess the "gender" of my baby. The questions ARE stupid... There is such a thing. Ask your fucking doctor. Or use google. That's what I did and I survived just fine.


And for people to say ladies here on TB are not supportive pisses me the fuck off, especially with the losses that happened recently. Or when T&Ps are needed.


Women just need to grow the fuck up and not be so sensitive.

Jerrica2

This thread is perfect for proving your point Capella99.. Since "They" have been here for x-amount of time, they can all have an opinion about anything they want, but if your new, u must keep your mouth shut. LoL OBVIOUSLY if half the mods got banned like u said.. then it was for a reason.. we do not control who gets banned.. do we? Everyone seems to be taking it out on everyone else for banning this sharkfarts person. Yes she was a great person with great answers and advice and spent a lot of time answering peoples questions over the years.. but do we have control? NO.. its not like Capella99 banned her.. My opinion.. since everyone else has one, you all sound like a bunch of little kids... we all love sharkfarts.. but there is NOTHING we can do about it now? Im not beating around the bush like some of these other ladies that have opionions... Grow Up people.. if you dont like it keep scrolling.. good god.. this is the internet, people are going to ask stupid questions.. get over it! Yes it is sad when people ask about their Vagina.. get over it! Keep scrolling! Keep the peace, rather than having a big dramitic uproar bcs someone asked about their Vagina. Its more annoying to come on here and see snarky comments from the assholes that have nothing better to do than it is to see a question about a Vagina. Honestly people, I have seen some degrading answers to women who are just asking simple questions... maybe they dont want to google it! Maybe they know lots of ppl in this "community" and would rather have an answer from them. Im sure ill get some pretty snarky comments from posting my opinion on here.. but w/e.. im just gonna "keep scrolling"

dana1047

Jerrica2 said:

This thread is perfect for proving your point Capella99.. Since "They" have been here for x-amount of time, they can all have an opinion about anything they want, but if your new, u must keep your mouth shut. LoL OBVIOUSLY if half the mods got banned like u said.. then it was for a reason.. we do not control who gets banned.. do we? Everyone seems to be taking it out on everyone else for banning this sharkfarts person. Yes she was a great person with great answers and advice and spent a lot of time answering peoples questions over the years.. but do we have control? NO.. its not like Capella99 banned her.. My opinion.. since everyone else has one, you all sound like a bunch of little kids... we all love sharkfarts.. but there is NOTHING we can do about it now? Im not beating around the bush like some of these other ladies that have opionions... Grow Up people.. if you dont like it keep scrolling.. good god.. this is the internet, people are going to ask stupid questions.. get over it! Yes it is sad when people ask about their Vagina.. get over it! Keep scrolling! Keep the peace, rather than having a big dramitic uproar bcs someone asked about their Vagina. Its more annoying to come on here and see snarky comments from the assholes that have nothing better to do than it is to see a question about a Vagina. Honestly people, I have seen some degrading answers to women who are just asking simple questions... maybe they dont want to google it! Maybe they know lots of ppl in this "community" and would rather have an answer from them. Im sure ill get some pretty snarky comments from posting my opinion on here.. but w/e.. im just gonna "keep scrolling"

I believe you called me an "asshole". I was just here reading and clearly everyone who reads will think you are calling them names.

I'm pretty certain that in the new guideline that is considered bullying. That is a personal attack when you call posters names.

You also mentioned god and I could easily say that offended me too. See how this plays out?


Read the guideline. Know the guideline.

redneckmomma25

These people are fake old med being paid $5 bucks a day to push the bumps new agenda. Not real. Not one name is recognizable.

If you do not like how the bump boards are then find a different one. That simple.

Why is it OK and not rude to hop into a random group of people and ask your question? Do you do that in a mall? That's called being selfish and self centered. "Hey everyone, don't care about your community but I have this ridiculously stupid question to ask. I'm going to ask it and demand only hair pets and glitter and when I get truth instead I will call you rude. Even though I am being rude for assuming the bump is yahoo answers which clearly it is not as any person could see with a quick glance. I only want answers to MY questions. I don't want to answer your questions. I don't want to participate in your GTKYs. I don't want to offer support to those going through difficult times. I may not even check my post again and when I can't find it in 2 days I'll post another. But you still need to answer the question again in hair pets and glitter."

What is wrong with you people? It is too early for this. I need to drink some coffee and hope this is a bad dream.

redneckmomma25

frownyface said:

redneckmomma25 said:

These people are fake old med being paid $5 bucks a day to push the bumps new agenda. Not real. Not one name is recognizable.

If you do not like how the bump boards are then find a different one. That simple.

Why is it OK and not rude to hop into a random group of people and ask your question? Do you do that in a mall? That's called being selfish and self centered. "Hey everyone, don't care about your community but I have this ridiculously stupid question to ask. I'm going to ask it and demand only hair pets and glitter and when I get truth instead I will call you rude. Even though I am being rude for assuming the bump is yahoo answers which clearly it is not as any person could see with a quick glance. I only want answers to MY questions. I don't want to answer your questions. I don't want to participate in your GTKYs. I don't want to offer support to those going through difficult times. I may not even check my post again and when I can't find it in 2 days I'll post another. But you still need to answer the question again in hair pets and glitter."

What is wrong with you people? It is too early for this. I need to drink some coffee and hope this is a bad dream.

You know what I miss? Copious amounts of espresso.

My 1 full strength cup a day is just not enough.

be888

Ohh hello stranger! I'm the one who answered the hospital bag question with absolutely no snark! Pointing out the fact that this was the first of a trillion of those is not snarky. I simply redirected the poster to our Stupid Question Sunday that was going on at the same time. Thanks for your opinion...

codeeodee

I am glad you took the time to post this. I agree with you completely. There have been plenty of times that I have refrained from posting my questions because some of the responce I've seen on other posts. Thank you for taking the time to express this opinion.

sks306

For those who are upset at the new people for not posting on the threads about early deliveries, or losses, I can only speak for myself...
I have not had the time until recently to look at the boards regularly. When I was able to look back at previous threads, I saw one that made me shed the same tears that many of you probably did. A loss is hard, especially to see one here. But if that post had no responses for a week, is it really the best thing to respond and put it at the starting line again? I didn't think it would be, so I didn't.

dana1047

I think OP's opinion would have been great for the weekly UO thread instead of posting a SS post.

Then again, what do I know?

codeeodee

Mooreamanda11 said:

codeeodee said:

I am glad you took the time to post this. I agree with you completely. There have been plenty of times that I have refrained from posting my questions because some of the responce I've seen on other posts. Thank you for taking the time to express this opinion.

You didnt post why? Because you are scared of responses from internet strangers? Thats ridiculous. Suck it up and put a pair of big girl panties on.

This is exactly the kind of comment that is so umhelpful. When people just shoot you down for no reason it makes you afraid to post anything.

redheaded14

I had all the feelings typed up, but I just can't. 

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codeeodee said:

I am glad you took the time to post this. I agree with you completely. There have been plenty of times that I have refrained from posting my questions because some of the responce I've seen on other posts. Thank you for taking the time to express this opinion.

I joined this board back in July. Prior to that I was on TTC for awhile but I mainly lurked to learn the atmosphere.

Before that, I was on the knot.

While I will agree that women are always the hardest on other women, I think this community goes well for those who lurk first, then jump in & comment. Don't start by posting a slew of questions that google or a pregnancy book could answer.

You'll know the questions to ask when the time comes.

How will I know what to post you may ask?

Well if you search and you only find super old posts that don't help, or there's no posts concerning your question, or you've figured out the community. It's actually a super supportive place to get REAL answers or to even get some hair pets when it's obvious that what you're experiencing is frightening & painful.

The ladies here don't hair pet because you can't name your own baby or you have swamp vagina. We are ALL experiencing that. It's called pregnancy.

If it's not something you'd ask a group of total strange women you don't know....then try to join the community first before posting. There are of course "emergency" situations where this isn't possible. Most of the time those newbies do get great answers and guess what?? They stick around and become regulars. Try it out by joining & posting on the weekly threads like the check in, UO, FFFC. You'll learn a lot about the other ladies here just by joining in on those at first.

If you stick around and comment on posts, you'll find many posters who only care about themselves. They post their question, get some answers, then never read any of them. Others simply don't like the answer and attack the community. Either way, it's not going to go well.

Women may be the hardest on other women but they're also the first to stand up for a girlfriend in need & be there when the real "crap" hits the fan.

Try it out! It's no different than making friends in real life. Some you are never going to agree with but you learn to respect, others you instantly feel a kindred spirit in.

redneckmomma25

sks306 said:

For those who are upset at the new people for not posting on the threads about early deliveries, or losses, I can only speak for myself...
I have not had the time until recently to look at the boards regularly. When I was able to look back at previous threads, I saw one that made me shed the same tears that many of you probably did. A loss is hard, especially to see one here. But if that post had no responses for a week, is it really the best thing to respond and put it at the starting line again? I didn't think it would be, so I didn't.

When you are here do you participate in threads that aren't your own? Or do you just ask your question and leave?

ally3242

codeeodee said:

I am glad you took the time to post this. I agree with you completely. There have been plenty of times that I have refrained from posting my questions because some of the responce I've seen on other posts. Thank you for taking the time to express this opinion.

So do you not speak IRL for fear of how individuals may respond to you? Especially if your question has already been answered in front of you, or is kind of a silly/common sense question? That's a sad life to live......

Amandysergio

Mooreamanda11 said:

Its funny how you people just pop up out of nowhere. Lets save everyone from the "mean girls!" Where were you all during the losses? During the times when women were in preterm labour? Where where you when we offered all our support and cried real tears over some of the stuff thats happened? Oh thats right. You were sitting under a rock, because the fucking big bad internet has you too scared to post.

News flash. I was new a few months ago. Got met with some snark. Guess what? I put my big girl panties on and kept on contributing. These women are some of the nicest, most knowledgable people that I have ever encountered.

Every single post today, coming from you lurkers, was jibberish. You all are using this place as your own personal Yahoo answers or Google. TB will turn into a shit show. Mark my words. It already has.

THANK YOU!

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doxiemom415

I just really don't understand how those that are using the excuse of "I was too scared to voice anything before for fear of opinions/comments/views from strangers" have survived this long in the real world. Are you that unsure of yourself or your opinions that you just walk around silent for fear of judgement or difference of opinion? Because if that's the case, I feel sorry for you, sincerely sorry for you. But to sit back and call out a community that has been built on support of one another (AFTER taking the time to get to know on another, not just jumping right in and expecting to be welcomed with open arms) and tear down that community that people have spent YEARS being apart of is sad. It's disgusting. And it's taking away support that may be the only outlet for some women. The friendships that women have spent years growing on this site, might be their only means of support, and to tear that down and take that away is pathetic and sickening. 

So all of the randoms now coming out of the woodwork with a new found voice, good luck. You'll need it. Where were you when the women of this board needed support? Or when we had huge losses? Or our regulars, or even randoms that learned to become regulars, got devastating news or needed prayers? NO WHERE. Because it didn't benefit you. You were too busy asking internet strangers to name your baby for you. But guess who was right there backing all of those members up? The regulars. The ones who have been there all along. The ones that are just "so awful"... so like I said, good luck with that. 

doxiemom415

souptin said:

doxiemom415 said:

I just really don't understand how those that are using the excuse of "I was too scared to voice anything before for fear of opinions/comments/views from strangers" have survived this long in the real world. Are you that unsure of yourself or your opinions that you just walk around silent for fear of judgement or difference of opinion? Because if that's the case, I feel sorry for you, sincerely sorry for you. But to sit back and call out a community that has been built on support of one another (AFTER taking the time to get to know on another, not just jumping right in and expecting to be welcomed with open arms) and tear down that community that people have spent YEARS being apart of is sad. It's disgusting. And it's taking away support that may be the only outlet for some women. The friendships that women have spent years growing on this site, might be their only means of support, and to tear that down and take that away is pathetic and sickening. 

So all of the randoms now coming out of the woodwork with a new found voice, good luck. You'll need it. Where were you when the women of this board needed support? Or when we had huge losses? Or our regulars, or even randoms that learned to become regulars, got devastating news or needed prayers? NO WHERE. Because it didn't benefit you. You were too busy asking internet strangers to name your baby for you. But guess who was right there backing all of those members up? The regulars. The ones who have been there all along. The ones that are just "so awful"... so like I said, good luck with that. 

You are so sassy and on point lately, I LOVE IT.

you have a permanent spot on my postit of love.

xoxo

jk3610

frownyface said:

I agree @souptin. I love that little spitfire.

So jeals.

laceytravis25

dana1047 said:

codeeodee said:

I am glad you took the time to post this. I agree with you completely. There have been plenty of times that I have refrained from posting my questions because some of the responce I've seen on other posts. Thank you for taking the time to express this opinion.

I joined this board back in July. Prior to that I was on TTC for awhile but I mainly lurked to learn the atmosphere.

Before that, I was on the knot.

While I will agree that women are always the hardest on other women, I think this community goes well for those who lurk first, then jump in & comment. Don't start by posting a slew of questions that google or a pregnancy book could answer.

You'll know the questions to ask when the time comes.

How will I know what to post you may ask?

Well if you search and you only find super old posts that don't help, or there's no posts concerning your question, or you've figured out the community. It's actually a super supportive place to get REAL answers or to even get some hair pets when it's obvious that what you're experiencing is frightening & painful.

The ladies here don't hair pet because you can't name your own baby or you have swamp vagina. We are ALL experiencing that. It's called pregnancy.

If it's not something you'd ask a group of total strange women you don't know....then try to join the community first before posting. There are of course "emergency" situations where this isn't possible. Most of the time those newbies do get great answers and guess what?? They stick around and become regulars. Try it out by joining & posting on the weekly threads like the check in, UO, FFFC. You'll learn a lot about the other ladies here just by joining in on those at first.

If you stick around and comment on posts, you'll find many posters who only care about themselves. They post their question, get some answers, then never read any of them. Others simply don't like the answer and attack the community. Either way, it's not going to go well.

Women may be the hardest on other women but they're also the first to stand up for a girlfriend in need & be there when the real "crap" hits the fan.

Try it out! It's no different than making friends in real life. Some you are never going to agree with but you learn to respect, others you instantly feel a kindred spirit in.

I'm sorry all I could get out of this was SWAMP VAGINA! I'm crying laughing. Thank you!

doxiemom415

laceytravis25 said:

I am glad you took the time to post this. I agree with you completely. There have been plenty of times that I have refrained from posting my questions because some of the responce I've seen on other posts. Thank you for taking the time to express this opinion.

I joined this board back in July. Prior to that I was on TTC for awhile but I mainly lurked to learn the atmosphere. Before that, I was on the knot. While I will agree that women are always the hardest on other women, I think this community goes well for those who lurk first, then jump in & comment. Don't start by posting a slew of questions that google or a pregnancy book could answer. You'll know the questions to ask when the time comes. How will I know what to post you may ask? Well if you search and you only find super old posts that don't help, or there's no posts concerning your question, or you've figured out the community. It's actually a super supportive place to get REAL answers or to even get some hair pets when it's obvious that what you're experiencing is frightening & painful. The ladies here don't hair pet because you can't name your own baby or you have swamp vagina. We are ALL experiencing that. It's called pregnancy. If it's not something you'd ask a group of total strange women you don't know....then try to join the community first before posting. There are of course "emergency" situations where this isn't possible. Most of the time those newbies do get great answers and guess what?? They stick around and become regulars. Try it out by joining & posting on the weekly threads like the check in, UO, FFFC. You'll learn a lot about the other ladies here just by joining in on those at first. If you stick around and comment on posts, you'll find many posters who only care about themselves. They post their question, get some answers, then never read any of them. Others simply don't like the answer and attack the community. Either way, it's not going to go well. Women may be the hardest on other women but they're also the first to stand up for a girlfriend in need & be there when the real "crap" hits the fan. Try it out! It's no different than making friends in real life. Some you are never going to agree with but you learn to respect, others you instantly feel a kindred spirit in.

I'm sorry all I could get out of this was SWAMP VAGINA! I'm crying laughing. Thank you!

DogsDogsDogs

"Where were YOU when so and so was dealing with the loss of their baby?!?!"

We weren't posting threads asking for 24 hours of silence for former members of an internet thread.

Because that was really appropriate.

doxiemom415

DogsDogsDogs said:

"Where were YOU when so and so was dealing with the loss of their baby?!?!" We weren't posting threads asking for 24 hours of silence for former members of an internet thread. Because that was really appropriate.

Who are you, again? If you had any fucking idea what was going on with this board you would realize what an ignorant comment you just made. But since you clearly have no clue what you're typing and have just decided to grace us with your bullshit presence, I'll try not to hold it against you. But, your ignorance is mind-blowing, it really is. Almost to the point of being laughable.

DogsDogsDogs

Yeah, you don't really have much of an argument so I figured you would dismiss me as being "ignorant". Another overused word, BTW.
Now, what's laughable is that 'do you're rocking. Are you serious with that?