Stupid Question Sunday

bowman958

Stupid question free-for-all goes here! Happy Sunday!

Shadeauxe

This might be somewhat incendiary, but when someone posts a dramatic "I'm leaving!" Post, which is admittedly a stupid thing to do, why not just ignore them. Same with trolls. All they want is attention and ignoring them denies them what they want the most.

If that post had 0 replies, it would have been a lot more embarrassing to the OP, I think.

letina09

Is there a way to prevent nosebleeds?? I've never had one in my life, until I got pregnant. Now it's almost everyday! I've tried a humidifier, I'm drinking a ton of water. I live in Oklahoma, so the air is typically not very dry to begin with.

I feel like I need to invest in this. Or tampons.

ktplusbby

@Shadeauxe‌ she most likely wanted someone to step in and tell her to stick it out and that she's awesome etc and so on.. personally I think that thread is awesome. She left us knowing no one appreciated her bullshit and now most likely won't come back. Unless she pulls a "kuchick" and comes back to tell us to be nice and WK all the other bullshit. I think we handled her beautifully.

Shadeauxe

letina09 said:

Is there a way to prevent nosebleeds?? I've never had one in my life, until I got pregnant. Now it's almost everyday! I've tried a humidifier, I'm drinking a ton of water. I live in Oklahoma, so the air is typically not very dry to begin with. I feel like I need to invest in this. Or tampons.

I love the picture! That is so bizarre.

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specialsn0wflake

letina09 said:

Is there a way to prevent nosebleeds?? I've never had one in my life, until I got pregnant. Now it's almost everyday! I've tried a humidifier, I'm drinking a ton of water. I live in Oklahoma, so the air is typically not very dry to begin with.

I feel like I need to invest in this. Or tampons.

Same here. I also live in OK and get nosebleeds frequently. I figured it was the change in weather since I lived in KY until last year.

Shadeauxe

ktplusbby said:

@Shadeauxe‌ she most likely wanted someone to step in and tell her to stick it out and that she's awesome etc and so on.. personally I think that thread is awesome. She left us knowing no one appreciated her bullshit and now most likely won't come back. Unless she pulls a "kuchick" and comes back to tell us to be nice and WK all the other bullshit. I think we handled her beautifully.

I didn't see her posts that caused everyone to dislike her. The last thing I read from her was the "Lyra" stuff. Either way my preference is always to ignore dumb attention posts, but I see where you're coming from.

ETA: plus, obstetrically, I am a senior citizen, so it could just be my age. I just don't feel like dealing with those people.

letina09

specialsn0wflake said:

letina09 said:

Is there a way to prevent nosebleeds?? I've never had one in my life, until I got pregnant. Now it's almost everyday! I've tried a humidifier, I'm drinking a ton of water. I live in Oklahoma, so the air is typically not very dry to begin with.

I feel like I need to invest in this. Or tampons.

Same here. I also live in OK and get nosebleeds frequently. I figured it was the change in weather since I lived in KY until last year.

Maybe it's the state. Feeling more doomed lol

redneckmomma25

This is a toddler question. DD has always had constipation problems. Mostly really dry hard poop. I really want to get it under control before potty training. I've tried upping liquids, probiotic, upping fiber intake. She eats yogurt daily. I'm at the point of miralax I think. Any recommendations?

ktplusbby

@Shadeauxe‌ she had another thread going about c-section that turned into her saying doctors get a bad rap.. she's in psychology or something and seemed to be claiming that she was an expert on c-sections. Search it.. it was pretty ricdiculous.

letina09

tstewart86 said:

@letina09‌ My OB recommended swabbing neosporine and it really helped.

I've actually been trying that!! And no such luck so far.

Shadeauxe

redneckmomma25 said:

This is a toddler question. DD has always had constipation problems. Mostly really dry hard poop. I really want to get it under control before potty training. I've tried upping liquids, probiotic, upping fiber intake. She eats yogurt daily. I'm at the point of miralax I think. Any recommendations?

You've done everything I would do. I would call the pediatrician in case it's just a symptom of something else.

codeeodee

I am with you on the nosebleeds. My doctor says it is completely normal because of extra blood flow. Everytime I blow my nose because it feels runny there is blood on my tissues and not any snot. Unfortunate pregnancy symptom but one that will go away after baby. Hope yours is mostly contained because it is so irritating to have blood running down your face and on your clothes.

redneckmomma25

Shadeauxe said:

redneckmomma25 said:

This is a toddler question. DD has always had constipation problems. Mostly really dry hard poop. I really want to get it under control before potty training. I've tried upping liquids, probiotic, upping fiber intake. She eats yogurt daily. I'm at the point of miralax I think. Any recommendations?

You've done everything I would do. I would call the pediatrician in case it's just a symptom of something else.

We discussed at her 2 year appointment and she said to do a half a cap of miralax. I may call again just to verify. This has been since a baby. I've limited dairy.

tif5596

Will my nipples go back to normal after pregnancy? They have turned into these hideous bologna looking things that I don't recognize anymore. DH says they look just fine to him (of course, because he's a man). For some reason it bothers me a little. Please someone that isn't a FTM tell me these are not mine for the rest of my life!

redneckmomma25

mrsslushie said:

redneckmomma25 said:

This is a toddler question. DD has always had constipation problems. Mostly really dry hard poop. I really want to get it under control before potty training. I've tried upping liquids, probiotic, upping fiber intake. She eats yogurt daily. I'm at the point of miralax I think. Any recommendations?

You're on the right track, @redneckmomma25. DS has the same issue. Dr prescribed him miralax, which helps. We have a slight complication to our situation though since DS holds his in. I don't see how or why he does it. Maybe someone has advice for me on that one.

My friends son would hold it in for days and go in his diaper since he's not night trained.

DD has always had this issue. I feel like it will hinder potty training so I'd like to get her regular.

bowman958

redneckmomma25 said:

This is a toddler question. DD has always had constipation problems. Mostly really dry hard poop. I really want to get it under control before potty training. I've tried upping liquids, probiotic, upping fiber intake. She eats yogurt daily. I'm at the point of miralax I think. Any recommendations?

Check in with your pedi. I think the Miralax rec might have just changed and it shouldn't be used under age 4. That said, I don't think there are prescription alternatives and it may be a risk/benefit thing. Have you tried daily apple juice? That can get things moving over time.

redneckmomma25

She goes a little every day or every other day. Very rarely 2 days in between. But they are rabbit pellets most times. Blah. I'll call her doctor and see what they want to do. I'd like to at least try before 2.0 is here.

fiscally3

tif5596 Mine got lighter pp, but not smaller with both pregnancies.  My mom told me that's one of those things that don't go back (so maybe check with your family to see what you're likely to have to happen.)  

starshollow

My nipples got darker and bigger when I got pregnant the first time. They did not go back to how they were after I weaned DS. Sorry. I've gotten used to them though.

jk3610

klingspwn said:

This isn't really a stupid question but more like how do I handle this question. (NPR) Today I woke up to both SD1 (5) and SD2 (2) already awake with their uncle (remember drug addict from Monday bitchfest?) Downstairs watching cartoons. Normally no big deal, but I wish they would have just woken up me instead so that their uncle won't come up to me later and tell me I owe him this and this for watching the girls this morning or use it for leverage. Anyways then SD1 tells me she and SD2 have coffee in their sippy cups..... SD1 has had coffee since before I was around and there's nothing I can about it but with SD2 I've been very adamant that she does not get coffee since the beginning. She's a two year old and does not need coffee (neither does a 5 year old, but again I can't do anything about it) so I tell her you know you're not suppose to have coffee and tell her uncle that we do not give SD2 coffee... ever. At that point their grandma happens to be upstairs getting coffee and tells me that she sometimes gives SD2 coffee too when she KNOWS SD2 doesn't get coffee. With their uncle he might not have known but grandma KNOWS. I told their grandma that no we don't give SD2 coffee and she just walked away without saying anything. I know that their grandma doesn't give a shit what I say because I'm not their mom and will most likely still give them coffee when I'm not around anyways. How do I handle this? I'm so serious about SD2 not having coffee, but how do I make sure that everyone else takes it as seriosuly as I do? If I was their mom it would just be a no and end of story but since I'm not their mom I feel like no one gives a shit what I say.

I would say there is no conceivable reason a 5 year old or 2 year old need to drink coffee.  I find that very strange.

tif5596

I'm not really concerned with what my boobs look like. I lost a lot of weight before getting pregnant and it was sag city. They have filled out a good bit which is a plus but I got used to them Not being perky anymore. But the nipples?! I can see these things through my shirt! And they just look so weird! I'd be fine if this is what I've got to look forward to from now on but it is a bit of a relief to know there's a chance they may reduce in bolgnaness after I'm done BFing. Thanks ladies!

Shadeauxe

klingspwn said:

This isn't really a stupid question but more like how do I handle this question. (NPR) Today I woke up to both SD1 (5) and SD2 (2) already awake with their uncle (remember drug addict from Monday bitchfest?) Downstairs watching cartoons. Normally no big deal, but I wish they would have just woken up me instead so that their uncle won't come up to me later and tell me I owe him this and this for watching the girls this morning or use it for leverage. Anyways then SD1 tells me she and SD2 have coffee in their sippy cups..... SD1 has had coffee since before I was around and there's nothing I can about it but with SD2 I've been very adamant that she does not get coffee since the beginning. She's a two year old and does not need coffee (neither does a 5 year old, but again I can't do anything about it) so I tell her you know you're not suppose to have coffee and tell her uncle that we do not give SD2 coffee... ever. At that point their grandma happens to be upstairs getting coffee and tells me that she sometimes gives SD2 coffee too when she KNOWS SD2 doesn't get coffee. With their uncle he might not have known but grandma KNOWS. I told their grandma that no we don't give SD2 coffee and she just walked away without saying anything. I know that their grandma doesn't give a shit what I say because I'm not their mom and will most likely still give them coffee when I'm not around anyways. How do I handle this? I'm so serious about SD2 not having coffee, but how do I make sure that everyone else takes it as seriosuly as I do? If I was their mom it would just be a no and end of story but since I'm not their mom I feel like no one gives a shit what I say.

I would say get their father involved. Maybe you don't have a say in their eyes, but he certainly does.

lexyraejay

redneckmomma25 said:

This is a toddler question. DD has always had constipation problems. Mostly really dry hard poop. I really want to get it under control before potty training. I've tried upping liquids, probiotic, upping fiber intake. She eats yogurt daily. I'm at the point of miralax I think. Any recommendations?

I have a friend whose daughter struggled with constipation and was on Miralax for a long time. She discovered some sort of fiber supplement from Melaluca and swears it fixed the problem. Good luck!

acrotzer

At this point in pregnancy, what should I have ready to go? I'm worried about PTL, when I have no car seat or PNP. Everyone tells me to wait to buy anything until my shower (I'm having 3), but I don't really expect people to buy car seats and necessities. We are also doing some renovations and the nursery is definitely not close to being ready. I have a crib and a dresser but they're still in the box.

Shadeauxe

acrotzer said:

At this point in pregnancy, what should I have ready to go? I'm worried about PTL, when I have no car seat or PNP. Everyone tells me to wait to buy anything until my shower (I'm having 3), but I don't really expect people to buy car seats and necessities. We are also doing some renovations and the nursery is definitely not close to being ready. I have a crib and a dresser but they're still in the box.

This is my third and I have not done anything other than order the cord blood kit. If you have the baby this early, you'd have time to go but the stuff you're missing because the baby would most definitely spend at least a few days in NICU. If you are planning on banking cord blood though, you only have one shot.

ktplusbby

My questions is about growth spurts.. after her quiet periods, my stomach seems to have grown overnight. I think I read that after a baby goes through a growth spurt inside they sleep for a bit.. has anyone noticed that if LO hasn't been quite as active that their stomach seems noticably bigger? It would explain quiet times, growing has to be exhausting to these little beans.

be888

mrsblissed said:

acrotzer said:

At this point in pregnancy, what should I have ready to go? I'm worried about PTL, when I have no car seat or PNP. Everyone tells me to wait to buy anything until my shower (I'm having 3), but I don't really expect people to buy car seats and necessities. We are also doing some renovations and the nursery is definitely not close to being ready. I have a crib and a dresser but they're still in the box.

I wonder about this too...

If you were to give birth right now, your child would unfortunately be in the NICU for a while, and you would have time to buy, prepare whatever is not ready. I started a hospital bag at 35 weeks, we had the carseat around that time too. I think we put the base in the car around 39 weeks or so. Don't stress too much about it.

acrotzer

Shadeauxe said:

acrotzer said:

At this point in pregnancy, what should I have ready to go? I'm worried about PTL, when I have no car seat or PNP. Everyone tells me to wait to buy anything until my shower (I'm having 3), but I don't really expect people to buy car seats and necessities. We are also doing some renovations and the nursery is definitely not close to being ready. I have a crib and a dresser but they're still in the box.

This is my third and I have not done anything other than order the cord blood kit. If you have the baby this early, you'd have time to go but the stuff you're missing because the baby would most definitely spend at least a few days in NICU. If you are planning on banking cord blood though, you only have one shot.

That's a whole new question! I have done a lot of research on it, but friend who's an oncologist advised me against it. But I had a brother with leukemia... Thank you for your advice though.

ETA: this sounds like I'm being sarcastic. I genuinely appreciate the advice. It didn't dawn on me that it's a decision to be made pronto.

be888

mrsblissed said:

Have any STMs had hernias with their first? I was just diagnosed with one, and am wondering how it might affect delivery - all I can think of is how extra painful it will be to push!

@mrsblissed

I have an umbilical hernia from my first pregnancy. It was pretty painful at the end with all the stretching that was going on. I did not feel anything while pushing (I had an epidural), but you push like you do for a BM so if that is not painful to you, you shouldn't have pain from it.

ASCrosby

I swear I can smell my vagina. I shower but then 2 hours later, I'm sitting on my couch and the smell hits me. I have to shower, change underwear, and pants to get the smell to go away. But then it just comes back! I tried panty liners, different underwear, using wipes to freshen up in between showers. Is this just the way it is going to be?

Shadeauxe

@acrotzer I didn't read it as being sarcastic. I know that I am probably in the minority. I think the general negative reason is that if your child gets sick from something it's their stem cells so the stem cells might have the same problem as the child. Also, not a lot of medicine supports using them.

But a child has a 50% chance of being a match to me and a 25% chance to being a match to a sibling. So there's a chance that if I or my husband get something that their stem cells could help.

Then again, it could all be for nothing. I know that it's expensive too but nothing compared to what I would spend to help someone in my family or a friend if it could help. So I do it.

Either way, it's great if you donate the cord blood to a national bank because it can be used for research or to help someone else.

Ginja85

@klingspwn‌ my opinion is in the minority but, pick & choose your battles. Should kids be having coffee, no fucking way but, the habit was established before you were around. A sugar & caffeine high on a weekend morning is occasionally acceptable. When you guys aren't all living under the same roof you can make all the rules & choices for SD12 that you'd like, until then.... Decide if its REALLY worth a fight.

missab

Shadeauxe said:

@acrotzer I didn't read it as being sarcastic. I know that I am probably in the minority. I think the general negative reason is that if your child gets sick from something it's their stem cells so the stem cells might have the same problem as the child. Also, not a lot of medicine supports using them.

But a child has a 50% chance of being a match to me and a 25% chance to being a match to a sibling. So there's a chance that if I or my husband get something that their stem cells could help.

Then again, it could all be for nothing. I know that it's expensive too but nothing compared to what I would spend to help someone in my family or a friend if it could help. So I do it.

Either way, it's great if you donate the cord blood to a national bank because theft can be used for research or to help someone else.

just wanted to add that the other factor that's been reported as of late is that, even if the cord blood was a match to you/ a family adult or possibly even a sibling, it's highly unlikely that there would be enough of a volume of cells in the cord blood to be helpful.

I received a Lucie's List email on this topic earlier this week, if helpful. https://us7.campaign-archive1.com/?u=12377e23671e94a1a47460ebd&id=2d90c1f1fa

kjuryfl

tif5596 said:

Will my nipples go back to normal after pregnancy? They have turned into these hideous bologna looking things that I don't recognize anymore. DH says they look just fine to him (of course, because he's a man). For some reason it bothers me a little. Please someone that isn't a FTM tell me these are not mine for the rest of my life!

Yup, but it took awhile. I nursed for 13m so it took until after I weaned for them to go back to normal.

epidemic

mrsjack53 said:

I'm not sure if this is a stupid question, but pre-pregnancy I had mild carpel tunnel in my wrist (meaning it would hurt once in a blue moon). Now during pregnancy it seems to flare up quite a bit. Has anyone else been dealing with this and/or found a remedy? I've been sleeping with a brace on and that seems to help a little, I also take Tylenol when it gets unbearable. Any advice would be lovely!

@mrsjack53 I also had wrist issues prepregnancy, caused by ganglion cysts. I have noticed the symptoms flaring more, but everything I've read online says it's normal bc of extra fluid and blood flow during pregnancy. Be sure you are stretching your hands and wrists frequently, wear your brace as often as you need, and try not to sleep with your arms under your head. Elevating them at your side is a better option. Hope you feel better, I know it's uncomfortable!

kjuryfl

acrotzer said:

At this point in pregnancy, what should I have ready to go? I'm worried about PTL, when I have no car seat or PNP. Everyone tells me to wait to buy anything until my shower (I'm having 3), but I don't really expect people to buy car seats and necessities. We are also doing some renovations and the nursery is definitely not close to being ready. I have a crib and a dresser but they're still in the box.

I was 100% ready by 37wks. with my first I wanted everything to be done ASAP. I ended up buying so much before my showers and therefore got a lot of duplicates (read:spent money when I didn't have to). If you can wait I would see what you get at your shower. I will add though that I am having a shower for this baby and have purchased some of the bigger things already. Since this is baby #2 I am not expecting for people to purchase the bigger items.

bmblebea

Ok So here's my stupid question- for those who have breastfed, when you have sex and you are breastfeeding, does the milk just squirt out everywhere? I watched the documentary Breastmilk on Netflix yesterday and they mentioned that. Breasts are a big part of sex for me and I suspect a giant milk squirting boob fountain in bed will freak my husband out as he's squimish with bodily fluids. (Not that this would deter me from breastfeeding, but just like to know if this happens a lot and if there are any suggestions for dealing with it)

Edit: spelling

kjuryfl

ktplusbby said:

My questions is about growth spurts.. after her quiet periods, my stomach seems to have grown overnight. I think I read that after a baby goes through a growth spurt inside they sleep for a bit.. has anyone noticed that if LO hasn't been quite as active that their stomach seems noticably bigger? It would explain quiet times, growing has to be exhausting to these little beans.

During 3rd trimester your belly will grow at an astonishing rate. The difference between a 30wk belly and a 39wk belly is crazy. The also have sleep/wake cycles at this stage.

kjuryfl

bmblebea said:

Ok So here's my stupid question- for those who have breastfed, when you have sex and you are breastfeeding, does the milk just squirt out everywhere? I watched the documentary Breastmilk on Netflix yesterday and they mentioned that. Breasts are a big part of sex for me and I suspect a giant milk squirting boob fountain in bed will freak my husband out as he's squimish with bodily fluids. (Not that this would deter me from breastfeeding, but just like to know if this happens a lot and if there are any suggestions for dealing with it)

Edit: spelling

During the first few months after I was cleared for sex I wore a sexy bra because I did leak. After a couple months though my milk was regulated and I didn't have to worry about it. If you (or your SO) squeeze your breast/nipple hard enough it will spray