Sharing custody

ashbee1119

Long story short.... When I was eight months pregnant with my little boy, my husband started having an affair. Needless to say, he is now my ex-husband. It has been a very hard two years, but I am so very thankful to have my son. Having to share custody, and split my time with our child is heartbreaking and the most difficult struggle of my life. If you are in the same boat as me or if you have ever gone through this, I would love some advice. What kind of schedule to you follow, and does it ever get any easier?  Thank you

 

jjdillie

I'm a single mom too. We split when I was pregnant but were never married.  Right now DS's dad gets 1 overnight a month but that will soon change to 2 overnights a month after his birthday (but not consecutive, so 1 overnight with each visit, every other weekend).

It was very hard at first but it has gotten easier. I know his dad loves him and will take care of him. I just try not to think about it too much. When DS is with his dad I try to focus on myself and do things I can't do when DS is around...like get a pedicure, or a day of shopping, or sleep late. I don't get much help with DS so it's a nice break when he's with his dad. Sure, I miss him like crazy but I need a break to keep my sanity and be a good mom.

I remember when DS was young and just the thought of being away from him made me cry. Other single mom's told me it got easier and in time I would actually look forward to my time alone. Guess what? They were right! It does get easier, just hang in there!