Anyone else feel like they are getting PTSD at the RE? The smell of the building, the long walk down the hallway...I feel like this is how it must feel to go to jail or something. I have such a feeling of loathing and unease whenever I go there. I have to go back for my d&c and then I think I'll have to go for a follow-up blood test or u/s. I'm going to see if I can go to a satellite location or something. Or labcorp if it is just a blood test. We are cycling next with a new RE and I hope to make better memories there. Anyone else feel this way?
Hugs, I def feel this way I can never go into my OBs u/s room without having a mini panic attack. I have so many bad memories dating back 4 years. I had all my IF scans there.
Natural cycle Dec 2010 BFP M/C 6 1/2 Weeks, D&E Jan 2011 1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011 Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks 1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
DQ ALPHA HLA MATCH, High NK Cells Diagnosed Dec 2011 IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone) IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone) Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone) Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
Nov/Dec 2012 LIT Treatment
Dec 12 Humira Jan 2013 BFP Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin Miracle Born August 2013 Premature
yes, I think we all have our areas of PTSD thanks to IF & loss. I thought mine was confined to the Petri dish (the time from ER to freeze/transfer) but after this cycle, I'd say it also extends to POAS & doctor phone calls. I literally answer the doctor's phone calls by saying, "Hello, is everything alright?" Oh, and pregnancy announcements. Let's not forget those have been ruined too.
Add me to the list of those with IF PTSD. I hate it and I don't know how to stop it.
I think you have a great idea about getting lab orders and going to lab corp for blood draws because your clinic will probably want draws until hug is 0
TTC#1 since April 2011 IVF#1 July 2012 5R, 3 made it to blast, sET c/p FET#1 Aug 2012 2 blasts transferred BFN IVF#2 Oct 2012 16R/6M/6F/2-8 cell grade 1 transfer Beta 1-237.9, Beta 2-566, Beta 3-8657 US 6w3d shows one baby w/ HB 115 US 7w1d no more heartbeat/ D&C 11/30/12 normal karyotype IVF#3 Mar 2013 6R/4M/4F 1 compacting and 2-8 cell transfer ectopic pg MTX given 3 month break from TTC
IVF#4 Sept 2013--BFN IVF#5-7 Apr 2014, Jun 2014 and Aug 2014 banking embryos for CCS testing. Praying for normals!
@RunCC37 If I don't get a phone call precisely when I think I should, I literally fall apart. I will be on the verge of tears until the phone call comes. And I usually just watch it ring and then listen to the voicemail. @luvboston I actually had a physical scheduled for this morning (I canceled, too invasive and too raw to discuss with him). But I was going to ask for a mild blood pressure medication because all doctor's visits make my BP soar. My PCP insists that my BP is fine (and it is in his office). It just adds stress to a stressful situation.
Not PTSD, but I don't know if I can ever go back to my last RE. I just associate his office (at his private practice) with so much failure and negative feelings, especially after he pretty much gave up on us. He flat out told me that he would only provide local monitoring if I need it, but he would not do anymore treatments for us. I really don't have the same feelings about the clinic itself though. Which is funny since he uses the same clinic I am at now for his IVFs. I love the staff and nurses and my current RE who is the medical director at the clinic.
I really hope that if we do end up moving on to donor eggs out of town, that my current RE will provide local monitoring. I know my last RE would, but I just really never want to go back to his office again.
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
At the end I was going to several different offices (same re) just because I couldn't go back to the office where all the nurses knew me anymore. I also fell to pieces when they didn't call on time. It's so hard. I'm sorry you have to feel this way
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@Twinkie0612 I hear you. I can do my next baseline at my current clinic, but unless I can get in at a satellite clinic, I may drive 3 hours each way to do it at my new clinic. I also have this feeling of being judged or pitied. My surprise pregnancy was a bit of a hot topic at my clinic b/c of the id twins. I felt like everyone was watching us and knew what was going on. I wasn't charged for either of our no-heartbeat appts. You pay at the end, so this means that while I was getting dressed someone had to run out to the front to tell the girl not to charge us. It's a very nice gesture, but I keep thinking about it. I'm definitely ready for a change of scenery.
@sorrellam30 It only recently occurred to me that most women only spend a few months or a few cycles at the RE. But I feel like all of the nurses and techs and assistants know my name. It's just not the place where you want to be Norm from Cheers.
I was trying to explain to my friend that my first ivf the nurses all talked to me and told me how successful I'd be, by the 5th-we literally didn't even make eye contact, just in and out. Idk why but it also felt like it added pressure to be done there so I didnt have to see pity eyes. It sucks. I'm really sorry
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@sorrellam30 It only recently occurred to me that most women only spend a few months or a few cycles at the RE. But I feel like all of the nurses and techs and assistants know my name. It's just not the place where you want to be Norm from Cheers.
I definitely understand everyone knowing your name. This is my fifth cycle with this clinic (2nd with this RE) and all of the nurses and office staff know my name. It doesn't help that I have also had a 2 SHGs, a hysteroscopy, and a endometrial biopsy in the last 4 months and they do all of my immune blood draws there. I am in the office nearly once a week, sometimes multiple times in a week.
I am lucky that they are all really supportive and I never feel like they pity me. My nurse has told me I should get a job there since I am so on top of all the infertility stuff. When the girl in the front office commented on how fast my baseline was, I joked that I am a professional.
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
I definitely have IF PTSD. I wrote a blog post about it in August. I think only those of us who have been on this journey for an extended period of time with failed cycle after failed had loss after loss experience it.
IF is so freaking hard!! (((Huge hugs))
::: Married June 2003::: TTC #1 since: Aug. 2008 Me: 34, DOR, MTHFR-A1298C (heterozygous), decreased blood flow to uterus, Mild Endo DH: 38, Balanced translocation 5&10, unexplained MFI, normal SA and SCSA Tx History: IUI 1&2= BFN IVF# 1 W/ICSI= BFN IVF# 2: cancelled d/t no response IVF# 3= 1 egg retrieved=immature/not viable IVF# 4= c/p ***CCRM ODWU*** Found DHs BT and Me-decreased blood flow to uterus Recommended DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. Decided to cycle locally ***New RE*** DE IVF# 1(cycle #6) w/pgd, (freeze all): 30R, 23M, 15F, slow/poor embryo development, 4 biopsied, 1 Normal "Norm"; DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. IVF# 6: (OE/DS) cancelled IVF# 7: (OE/DS) 1R, 1M, 1F, arrested day 5 Plan-DE IVF# 2 (cycle #8): DE/DS in May 2015
If you decided to have labs drawn at LabCorp, they have a patient portal. Oftentimes I'd be able to get results on there before hearing from my RE's nurse. Of course that meant I was checking the portal a million times a day, but it was better than waiting a few extra hours. Hugs.
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Me: 30 ~ Stage IV Endo ~ AMH .38 ~ AFC 8 AMH .97 as of 4/2012! ~ AMH 1.63 as of 4/2013!?! Him: 29 ~ perfect swimmers Laparotomy w/partial oophorectomy 8/2009 to remove cysts/endo. Stopped BCP 4/2010. Multiple clomid rounds from 11/2010 to 6/2011. ~ All BFN IUI w/clomid 7/2011. IUI w/clomid & injectables 11/2011 & 1/2012. ~ All BFN IVF:EPP 5/2012 ~ (4R, 3M, 2F w/ICSI). Both embryos txfrd. ~ BFN BCP to manage endo from 10/2012 to 12/2012. FET w/donor embryos #1: 10/2013 Cancelled FET w/donor embryos #1.2: 11/2013 ~ ET of 2 beautiful blasts on 11/27. Beta 1: 503(12dp5dt) Beta 2: 1035(14dpt) Beta 3: 3001(16dpt) Beta 4: 8503(19dpt) Twins with an EDD of 8/15/14! Team Purple G&B born 6/30/14 at 33w3d via emergency c/s. If you're wondering about my avatar...it's a fried pickle chip shaped like a fetus!
ME ME ME!! It it is crazy. I start to panic when I pull up. I can't sit in certain chairs, because I was sitting in "that chair" on X day I got bad news. It's crazy! But I'm so glad to know I am not alone.
TTC since 11/09
me: 39 DH: 36 dx: unexplained (ugh)
January 2011 - December 2012: 4 cycles w/Clomid; 9 IUIs w/Follistim & Menopur; two IVF cycles converted to IUI (poor response/dominant follicle)
Re: PTSD at the RE (loss mentioned)
Anovulatory cycles, increased Synthroid Diagnosed Sep 2010
1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011
Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks
1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks
Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone)
IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone)
Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells
Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone)
Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
Jan 2013 BFP
Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin
Miracle Born August 2013 Premature
Yours doesn't have to be a sad story
I think you have a great idea about getting lab orders and going to lab corp for blood draws because your clinic will probably want draws until hug is 0
TTC#1 since April 2011
IVF#1 July 2012 5R, 3 made it to blast, sET c/p
FET#1 Aug 2012 2 blasts transferred BFN
IVF#2 Oct 2012
16R/6M/6F/2-8 cell grade 1 transfer
Beta 1-237.9, Beta 2-566, Beta 3-8657
US 6w3d shows one baby w/ HB 115
US 7w1d no more heartbeat/ D&C 11/30/12 normal karyotype
IVF#3 Mar 2013
6R/4M/4F 1 compacting and 2-8 cell transfer
ectopic pg MTX given 3 month break from TTC
IVF#4 Sept 2013--BFN
http://i61.tinypic.com/34zll06IVF#5-7 Apr 2014, Jun 2014 and Aug 2014 banking embryos for CCS testing. Praying for normals!
TTC since 08/2012
DX: DOR
Not PTSD, but I don't know if I can ever go back to my last RE. I just associate his office (at his private practice) with so much failure and negative feelings, especially after he pretty much gave up on us. He flat out told me that he would only provide local monitoring if I need it, but he would not do anymore treatments for us. I really don't have the same feelings about the clinic itself though. Which is funny since he uses the same clinic I am at now for his IVFs. I love the staff and nurses and my current RE who is the medical director at the clinic.
I really hope that if we do end up moving on to donor eggs out of town, that my current RE will provide local monitoring. I know my last RE would, but I just really never want to go back to his office again.
TTC #1 since August 2011
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September 2012: Start IF testing
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
April 2015: FET #2.1
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Me(31). DH (31)
DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN
IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN
FET 10/4/13 Chemical
IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days
IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15
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DX: DOR
TTC since 08/2012
DX: DOR
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Me(31). DH (31)
DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN
IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN
FET 10/4/13 Chemical
IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days
IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15
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I definitely understand everyone knowing your name. This is my fifth cycle with this clinic (2nd with this RE) and all of the nurses and office staff know my name. It doesn't help that I have also had a 2 SHGs, a hysteroscopy, and a endometrial biopsy in the last 4 months and they do all of my immune blood draws there. I am in the office nearly once a week, sometimes multiple times in a week.
I am lucky that they are all really supportive and I never feel like they pity me. My nurse has told me I should get a job there since I am so on top of all the infertility stuff. When the girl in the front office commented on how fast my baseline was, I joked that I am a professional.
TTC #1 since August 2011
My Blog
September 2012: Start IF testing
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
April 2015: FET #2.1
PAIF/SAIF Welcome!
::: Married June 2003:::
TTC #1 since: Aug. 2008
Me: 34, DOR, MTHFR-A1298C (heterozygous), decreased blood flow to uterus, Mild Endo
DH: 38, Balanced translocation 5&10, unexplained MFI, normal SA and SCSA
Tx History: IUI 1&2= BFN
IVF# 1 W/ICSI= BFN
IVF# 2: cancelled d/t no response
IVF# 3= 1 egg retrieved=immature/not viable
IVF# 4= c/p
***CCRM ODWU***
Found DHs BT and Me-decreased blood flow to uterus
Recommended DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. Decided to cycle locally
***New RE***
DE IVF# 1(cycle #6) w/pgd, (freeze all): 30R, 23M, 15F, slow/poor embryo development, 4 biopsied, 1 Normal "Norm"; DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture.
IVF# 6: (OE/DS) cancelled
IVF# 7: (OE/DS) 1R, 1M, 1F, arrested day 5
Plan-DE IVF# 2 (cycle #8): DE/DS in May 2015
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Me: 30 ~ Stage IV Endo ~ AMH .38 ~ AFC 8
AMH .97 as of 4/2012! ~ AMH 1.63 as of 4/2013!?!
Him: 29 ~ perfect swimmers
Laparotomy w/partial oophorectomy 8/2009 to remove cysts/endo.
Stopped BCP 4/2010.
Multiple clomid rounds from 11/2010 to 6/2011. ~ All BFN
IUI w/clomid 7/2011. IUI w/clomid & injectables 11/2011 & 1/2012. ~ All BFN
IVF:EPP 5/2012 ~ (4R, 3M, 2F w/ICSI). Both embryos txfrd. ~ BFN
BCP to manage endo from 10/2012 to 12/2012.
FET w/donor embryos #1: 10/2013 Cancelled
FET w/donor embryos #1.2: 11/2013 ~ ET of 2 beautiful blasts on 11/27.
Beta 1: 503(12dp5dt) Beta 2: 1035(14dpt) Beta 3: 3001(16dpt) Beta 4: 8503(19dpt)
Twins with an EDD of 8/15/14! Team Purple
G&B born 6/30/14 at 33w3d via emergency c/s.
If you're wondering about my avatar...it's a fried pickle chip shaped like a fetus!
me: 39 DH: 36 dx: unexplained (ugh)