This might be confusing so bear with me.
I have a child from an abusive relationship. He was physically and mental abusive to both myself and our child. I was able to get out and we have a protection from abuse. He is wanted because of skipping his court date for being behind of child support.
Now, I am with my boyfriend. We recently had another baby and we bought a house together. My child sees my boyfriend as dad since he hasn't had a father figure in his life. We plan on one day getting married. But we want to have an engagement and a formal wedding.
Here's what we've been debating on. In our state, we have to be married for at least a year for my boyfriend to adopt my child. We have been going back and forth on getting legally married now and not telling anyone so we will be able to get engaged in due time. He has a ring on payments and is waiting for the right moment so it's romantic.
Is it right of us to do that? We want to get the year wait over with just in case anything should happen to me.