So when discussing boy names with my boyfriend we agreed we both want the middle name to be Frederick. It's his dad's FN and my dad's MN. We couldn't decide on a first name. I ran through the list of biblical FNs I liked and he wasn't crazy about any of them. Then I remembered his mother's maiden name is Gray. So I suggested Grayson Frederick. All of the sudden he bursts out in tears and can't speak. Once he calmed down he told me his cousin was pregnant a few years ago and was in a bad car accident. She was 34 weeks pregnant with a baby boy they had planned on naming Grayson and lost him due to the accident. I had NO clue...and felt terrible. It's eating at me though, I really REALLY like the name. I'm wondering if it would be okay to use the name and somehow it'd be in honor of her lost baby? On a side note, she lives two states away and he is not really close with her, but we would ask her first if she was okay with it...not that I have any clue how I would ask her. TIA for your opinions.