Anyone else going to be sharing a room with their baby? Hubby and I live in a one bedroom and don't plan on moving anytime soon (saving for buying a home in a couple years). Our one bedroom is large enough for our queen bed, a dresser, side tables, and has plenty of extra room for a crib. Just wondering if any one else has shared a room or is planning on sharing a room with their little one.
Re: Sharing a room with baby
This LO will also be with us for a min of 9 months. Not sure if we'll bedshare this time, but we will definitely co sleep.
It does not increase SIDS risk, it actually has been shown to reduce it. Some people who keep fluffy blankets and pillows around LOs are increasing the risk of suffocation, which is completely different. That's also a risk with using things such as bumpers in a crib.
https://commonhealth.wbur.org/2014/12/dire-warnings-against-infant-bed-sharing-backfired
We are getting a co-sleeper for the twins just to make MOTN feedings easier (I can only assume when one cries the other will wake as well, so might as well have them both there so I can hand one to DH and take one myself haha). But once they're starting to either sleep through the night, or growing out of the co-sleeper they will get moved to their nursery. I'd like to see them in their nursery by 4 months at the latest.
DD slept in a bassinet next to me for the first 3 weeks or so because I had a C-section and had trouble getting around for a bit, so I was able to just scoop her up and bring her over to my bed without getting fully up, but then she went in to her crib in her nursery next door. She also slept through the night from a week old on though, so that may be the difference. We'll see what kind of sleepers these two will be.
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We started DD out in a crib in the same room with us then started bed sharing at about 3 months to help us all get sleep. It is a little stressful to make sure you are doing it right (and I was always cold at night because you can't have blankets or sheets near the baby!), but if you read up on it and follow the rules for safety (especially being careful about blankets and pillows and not allowing baby in bed with parents who are under the influence of alcohol or drugs and might sleep too deeply to be aware of where the baby is and roll over on them), it can be a lifesaver for the sleep-deprived family.
That being said DD then stayed in bed with us for way too long and didn't STTN for a long time so I am going to see if we can avoid it and just use the co sleeper for a shorter amount of time with this one.
I think the idea behind room sharing (not bed sharing) is that the baby takes cues from the mother's breathing and is less likely to stop breathing/ experience SIDS. That benefit is in place if the baby is in a bassinet or crib or pack n play, they don't have to be in bed with you. I'd be very nervous about having an infant in bed with me because I like my pillows and sheets and it would be hard to keep them away from the baby if we were sharing a bed.
My hospital does the whole "back to sleep" program with everyone, but it just doesn't work for every baby. DD was a stomach sleeper when on her own, but a back sleeper when cosleeping.
And sorry, I didn't mean to come off quite as argumentative. Tone is hard to convey in text.
But this time, it may be a little longer because DD#2 is still in the nursery and will be moving into DD#1's room. I would like to delay that transition for as long as possible, so I am not sure what we will do as far as exact timing of moving the kids around.
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Only we're waiting because our 3rd bedroom is downstairs, and I don't want a toddler running a muck on stairs!
This time around, planning to let the baby stay in our room until we think it'll sleep well enough to move into DS room. Who knows how long that'll take.
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We'll likely bedshare, but I'll have a sidecarred crib there. The Safe sleep 7 is a good start for researching safe bedsharing, which everyone should do because many parents will do it at least once even if only for a few hours.
We purposely coslept with both of them for their first 12+ months to make MOTN feedings easier. And now they seem to love crawling in with us! We put them to bed in their own rooms but wake up with at least one of them who has crawled in with us in the middle of the night. We will cosleep with this one for at least a year while I breast feed - just makes life easier for everyone!
People think we are crazy for letting them come into our bed still - but the way we see it is they won't be climbing in forever so we are enjoying the snuggles (and the feet in the face) while we can!
ETA: I'm too scared to co sleep because dh and I are both very heavy sleepers. I did take some naps with ds in bed, and I miss the cuddly stage! I also like having the newborn in our room because I'm such a heavy sleeper I'm paranoid I wouldn't hear baby!