July 2015 Moms

Sharing a room with baby

Anyone else going to be sharing a room with their baby? Hubby and I live in a one bedroom and don't plan on moving anytime soon (saving for buying a home in a couple years). Our one bedroom is large enough for our queen bed, a dresser, side tables, and has plenty of extra room for a crib. Just wondering if any one else has shared a room or is planning on sharing a room with their little one.
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  • Yes and yes. It's actually recommended to reduce likelihood of SIDS. My first two were spaced pretty close together and we actually had both of them in there for a while.
  • We shared a room with my dd from the time she was born until she was about 9 months and then we got a two bedroom. It wasn't bad but she did like to sleep with me until 11 months or so
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  • DD bed shared with us until she was 9 months old. It was harder on me than her to move her away to her crib.
    This LO will also be with us for a min of 9 months. Not sure if we'll bedshare this time, but we will definitely co sleep.
     
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  • We did this with DD until she was 10.5 months old. It was nice to have her right there for motn feedings.
  • We live in a 1 bedroom as well. I'm thinking of getting one of those cosleeper things that attach to the side of the bed.
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  • We room shared with DS for a year and DD bed shared for 6 months. I EBFed DD, bed sharing was much easier.
  • We will be. By the time LO gets here, we will be living with my mother to try to save money to buy a house instead of renting and blowing away our money. I'm a little sad/bitter/whatever about it, but its the best choice, financially, for us at this point.
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  • We live in a one bedroom as well. We have plans to add another bedroom in the basement or the attic in the future, but baby will be sharing with us for the first year for sure. It's nice to know that we are not the only family living small.

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  • DS was only in our room for 3 weeks. No one got any sleep so I moved him to his room about 10 steps away and we all slept much better. I could see his crib from our bed so I was close still. 

    I'll just see how it goes with this baby on whether we room share or s/he goes to the crib early again. 
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  • Don't roast me, but just FYI to people considering bed sharing (actual bed sharing, not having something like a Halo Bassinest next the bed) - it's been known to increase the risk of SIDS and is not recommended. Just putting that out there.

    That is not true.
     
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  • ELauren88 said:
    Don't roast me, but just FYI to people considering bed sharing (actual bed sharing, not having something like a Halo Bassinest next the bed) - it's been known to increase the risk of SIDS and is not recommended. Just putting that out there.
    That is not true.
    Well, depends on who you ask: https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/Pages/Bed-Sharing-Remains-Greatest-Risk-Factor-for-Sleep-Related-Infant-Deaths.aspx 
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  • Don't roast me, but just FYI to people considering bed sharing (actual bed sharing, not having something like a Halo Bassinest next the bed) - it's been known to increase the risk of SIDS and is not recommended. Just putting that out there.

    This is an article that was floating around recently that implies the risks of bedsharing were overstated and perhaps backfired. I admit i havent done my research due dilligence on the sources (been busy) but it seems straight forward.

    https://commonhealth.wbur.org/2014/12/dire-warnings-against-infant-bed-sharing-backfired
  • Dcwtada said:
    Don't roast me, but just FYI to people considering bed sharing (actual bed sharing, not having something like a Halo Bassinest next the bed) - it's been known to increase the risk of SIDS and is not recommended. Just putting that out there.
    This is an article that was floating around recently that implies the risks of bedsharing were overstated and perhaps backfired. I admit i havent done my research due dilligence on the sources (been busy) but it seems straight forward. https://commonhealth.wbur.org/2014/12/dire-warnings-against-infant-bed-sharing-backfired
    Exactly. Depends on who you ask :) 
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  • We are getting a co-sleeper for the twins just to make MOTN feedings easier (I can only assume when one cries the other will wake as well, so might as well have them both there so I can hand one to DH and take one myself haha). But once they're starting to either sleep through the night, or growing out of the co-sleeper they will get moved to their nursery. I'd like to see them in their nursery by 4 months at the latest.

    DD slept in a bassinet next to me for the first 3 weeks or so because I had a C-section and had trouble getting around for a bit, so I was able to just scoop her up and bring her over to my bed without getting fully up, but then she went in to her crib in her nursery next door. She also slept through the night from a week old on though, so that may be the difference. We'll see what kind of sleepers these two will be.

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  • What we know for sure is that it is unsafe to fall asleep with your baby on a sofa or recliner. Do your own research, make the best choices for your family, and stay safe! :))
  • Gw3nnyGw3nny member
    edited December 2014
  • Yup! We did it with the other two, DD until 6 months, DS until 7 months.  I loved it!  It was so comforting to be able to just peak over and know they were OK.  NBs tend to be noisy sleepers, so we always have a white noise maker going.  I really enjoyed being able to nurse in bed and just lay the baby right back in the bassinette.  DH always changed the diapers, so I never had to leave the bed,it was great!  And as pp said it is room sharing is recommended by the AAP because it reduces the risk of SIDS.
  • ELauren88 said:
    If you correctly bed share, it is perfectly safe for baby. No loose blankets keep pillows away, etc. It does not increase SIDS risk, it actually has been shown to reduce it. Some people who keep fluffy blankets and pillows around LOs are increasing the risk of suffocation, which is completely different. That's also a risk with using things such as bumpers in a crib.
    Also the parents should not be under the influence of drugs or be intoxicated as that can be a danger of the parent unknowingly rolling on the baby.
  • We will room share and likely get a co-sleeper to attach to our bed to use until LO can STTN and share a room with DD.

    We started DD out in a crib in the same room with us then started bed sharing at about 3 months to help us all get sleep. It is a little stressful to make sure you are doing it right (and I was always cold at night because you can't have blankets or sheets near the baby!), but if you read up on it and follow the rules for safety (especially being careful about blankets and pillows and not allowing baby in bed with parents who are under the influence of alcohol or drugs and might sleep too deeply to be aware of where the baby is and roll over on them), it can be a lifesaver for the sleep-deprived family.

    That being said DD then stayed in bed with us for way too long and didn't STTN for a long time so I am going to see if we can avoid it and just use the co sleeper for a shorter amount of time with this one.


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  • DD slept in her pack n play in my room until her first birthday (long time, I know) despite having her own room and crib. She napped in the crib some so the transition wasn't hard when she turned one.
    I think the idea behind room sharing (not bed sharing) is that the baby takes cues from the mother's breathing and is less likely to stop breathing/ experience SIDS. That benefit is in place if the baby is in a bassinet or crib or pack n play, they don't have to be in bed with you. I'd be very nervous about having an infant in bed with me because I like my pillows and sheets and it would be hard to keep them away from the baby if we were sharing a bed.
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  • We have considered putting the baby in our room. This LO is child #3 for us, and we have a three bedroom home. Someone is going to have to share their room. Our room is large enough that we can fit the crib and rocker in there without any issues. If we have a boy I really want to do a nursery, so we will most likely have our girls share a room, and he will have his own room. If we have a girl, she may end up in our room and get her own room when we move in a couple of years.
  • ELauren88 said:

    Don't roast me, but just FYI to people considering bed sharing (actual bed sharing, not having something like a Halo Bassinest next the bed) - it's been known to increase the risk of SIDS and is not recommended. Just putting that out there.

    That is not true.
    Eh. It's not my hill to die on. That's what I was taught in my medical training and if I'm not mistaken it was part of the "back to sleep" campaign. And I'm pretty sure I ran across a study recently that discussed it as a higher risk, especially with other factors (I think some of them were smoking, low birth weight, or a certain type or amount of bedding, etc). I'll try to find it when I get off work.
    Please do! I would love to read it.
    My hospital does the whole "back to sleep" program with everyone, but it just doesn't work for every baby. DD was a stomach sleeper when on her own, but a back sleeper when cosleeping.

    And sorry, I didn't mean to come off quite as argumentative. Tone is hard to convey in text.
     
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  • When I had my son we shared a small 2 bedroom apartment with some family members. We slept in the same (very tiny) bedroom until right before his 2nd birthday when we were finally able to afford a bigger place and he got his own room. I'm planning to have this baby in the room with hubby and I until at least 3 months.. we'll see after that!
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  • We will have LO in our room in a bassinet for the first few months, at least. With my other 2, we moved them into the nursery when they were around 3 months, about the time I go back to work so that my alarm in the morning doesn't wake LO up and I sleep better when LO is in own room so I don't hear every little sound he/she makes.

    But this time, it may be a little longer because DD#2 is still in the nursery and will be moving into DD#1's room. I would like to delay that transition for as long as possible, so I am not sure what we will do as far as exact timing of moving the kids around.
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  • I had DD in a pack and play next to my bed until she was 3 months old, then she went to her crib in her room. I didn't sleep worth a crap the whole time she was in my room, every peep she made woke me up. Going to have this baby in my room at least 3 months and then go from there.
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  • We're planning on room sharing until LO sleeps through the night, because we're going to try to keep LO and DD in the same room for the first few years so we can hopefully maintain a guest room, because 100% of our family lives out of state. Oy.

    Samesies!
    Only we're waiting because our 3rd bedroom is downstairs, and I don't want a toddler running a muck on stairs!
     
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  • My son stayed in our room until he was about 9 months.
    This time around, planning to let the baby stay in our room until we think it'll sleep well enough to move into DS room. Who knows how long that'll take.
  • I'd like our LO in his/her own room asap. I don't want to go through the transition later- would just rather have them used to it from day 1.
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  • We will have the baby in our room as well. We are going to take the side off of a crib and attach it to our bed so the baby has its own space beside me. I need pillows and blankets so this is our safest option. We coslept with our 2nd child for a couple years.
  • We have a two bedroom, but we plan on moving our bed over a bit and putting the crib (with one side off of it) against the bed on my side that way they're super close but I can't roll on them or anything. (we'll attach it to the bed somehow so it can't move and the baby fall out between the bed and the crib)  Once the baby's a bit older, we'll move the crib into the nursery.

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  • I never felt comfortable bed sharing. Every time I tried, I would stay up most of the night scared I would roll on her. She didn't get sleep either, because she would stay up trying to breast feed. I did roomshare for the first four months. It was easier for night time feedings. I got better sleep when I moved her because I wouldn't wake up at every little sound.

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  • This one will be staying with us for awhile, probably. My older two share a room, and the baby will eventually join them. We have three bedrooms, but the third is our play/school room.

    We'll likely bedshare, but I'll have a sidecarred crib there. The Safe sleep 7 is a good start for researching safe bedsharing, which everyone should do because many parents will do it at least once even if only for a few hours.
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  • We live in a 5 bedroom house and most nights wake up with a 5yr old and 2yr old in our bed!
    We purposely coslept with both of them for their first 12+ months to make MOTN feedings easier. And now they seem to love crawling in with us! We put them to bed in their own rooms but wake up with at least one of them who has crawled in with us in the middle of the night. We will cosleep with this one for at least a year while I breast feed - just makes life easier for everyone!

    People think we are crazy for letting them come into our bed still - but the way we see it is they won't be climbing in forever so we are enjoying the snuggles (and the feet in the face) while we can!
  • We have to share our room with baby. Our house is two bedrooms & our daughters are in the other room. We hope to add on to our house eventually. Otherwise we'll have to move.
  • soccsm13soccsm13 member
    edited December 2014
    DS slept in our room In a pack n play for the first few months until he was on a good schedule of 1-2 wake ups a night. We are planning on keeping this baby in our room until we move to a bigger house. We have a third bedroom but we would want to move ds there and put baby in ds's current room and that's just too much work when we are planning on moving in 1-1.5 years anyways.

    ETA: I'm too scared to co sleep because dh and I are both very heavy sleepers. I did take some naps with ds in bed, and I miss the cuddly stage! I also like having the newborn in our room because I'm such a heavy sleeper I'm paranoid I wouldn't hear baby!
  • @Marlee8‌ - my kids (6&8) love sleeping with us, too. I think nighttime attachment parenting has really helped us build a strong trusting bond as a family. I can't wait to sleep beside my new LO.
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