Auld Lang Spam!

hellooldfriend

Also, I am at work today... we have court Monday and I am just sllloooowwwwllly looking at these files. I should be memoing files for when I am on maternity leave, but that would involve actual work.

Cricket81

OMeffingG! Seriously? The day after I start the weaning process AF decides to show up for the first time in 27 months?!? This just sucks.

riansmommie

@mcbush‌ I still won't leave my 8 yo almost 9 in the car alone! Let alone with it running, that just seems like an open invite for someone to steal your car with your kids inside still. With that said I think it also depends on where you live. If we were in my hubbies hometown down in GA I would totally let her stay in the car when I ran in somewhere.

Here though if you leave your children unattended in a vehicle they will arrest you for child endangerment.

cynthia2007

@mcbush‌, I've left A in the car when I'm running into the gas station real quick or somewhere where I can still see the vehicle. Especially if it's cold or raining. I have a car starter so I can have the car running without the keys inside so she stays warm and can still lock it. I wouldn't leave her in the car if it's going to be more than a few minutes though.

ColieAnn31

For the Taylor Swift fans... 

https://www.faithit.com/taylor-swifts-gift-giving-was-all-caught-on-camera-but-its-what-happens-on-the-other-end-thatll-drive-you-to-tears/

hellooldfriend

@limabeanmom Don't feel bad about B being at daycare. He is happy there and you need time to adjust to being a momma to Little Lady. You are a good mom for even recognizing that maybe there is an issue. Keep your head up and reach out to a consultant. Even if you go there and leave more frustrated, you'll know that you did everything you could. My other thought is, the longer you last, the more you can shove it in your mom's face.

cynthia2007

@LimaBeanMOM‌ ,hugs. I remember those first days of breastfeeding as they were very stressful. Formula is 100% ok and do it so you get a break. I hope your H can find a way to soothe her so you get your "you" time.

lioness13

@limabeanmom - ((hugs)) Its really hard in the beginning. I think I cried for myself every day until Kori was 6+ months. It got easier but it was a huge adjustment. I don't want to tell you how to feel but it sounds like you are trying to rush things into getting back to normal. Taking a shower, eating on a "regular" schedule and being up and about probably won't happen for a while. What helped me was staying in bed a lot and nursing lying down. I was able to sleep with her more so I didn't feel as worn out.  I didn't push myself to get up by a certain time and shower or get dressed. I remember feeling bad if I stayed in the bed past 10am. I have no idea why! Looking back that was crazy! Finally about 3 weeks in it clicked that I needed to stay in bed more to rest more so I only got up to eat (when I couldn't get food brought to me by someone around) and go to the bathroom. And when I wanted/needed to get up my moby wrap and baby carrier helped me a lot so I could move around with the baby attached to me. It will get easier. It will get easier. One day at a time. You can make it!

lioness13

I had a really good conversation with my boss at work today. It looks like some big things might be happening for me in my career in 2015

ColieAnn31

@34blondie‌ I love love love those photos!!! Thank you for sharing and you really do have such an adorable little family!

And you are looking great by the way!!!

ColieAnn31

Grayson has spent the last hour whining and wanting to go to bed but I was wanting to keep him awake for a bit longer so he didn't wake up at 5 am. Now that it's an ok time to go to bed he doesn't want to...

ColieAnn31

Whoops

Cricket81

Rabbit, is that the one you knit?? I love it! Do you have a link to the pattern?

lioness13

Great job @subliminalrabbit‌! Love the details!

lioness13

What's everyone drinking tonight?

Ryanswifey619

So what do you do if your LO starts hitting you? J smacked my face a few times when I pulled her off a chair and took her shampoo bottle away after her bath. Usually, we will give her a little pat and say no hitting, but I'm not sure what else we should do. She's getting bad with throwing a fit and hitting when she doesn't get her way.

Cricket81

subliminalrabbit said:

@Cricket81 said:

Rabbit, is that the one you knit?? I love it! Do you have a link to the pattern?

Yep!  https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/limepop-sweater

Runs a little small (I checked my gauge) but it's a pretty quick knit and I love the vintagey vibe!  E wore it out and about today and he got lots of compliments and even a few inquiries in random stores about where we bought it.    I can't take too much credit though -- I didn't design it, and E picked the color!

Thanks! I love it and am adding it to my queue immediately!

cynthia2007

@subliminalrabbit‌ , nice work!

cynthia2007

A is asleep and I'm enjoying a glass of apothic white...and it's only Friday night

ColieAnn31

CL8badB said:

I skimmed the last 2 pages. And by skimmed i mean looked at the photos. (Or non photos)
@34blondie‌ i missed the pics!!

I took a screen shot to show Alex (yes I'm a creep but whatevs haha) I wish PMing allowed you to attach photos!

Cricket81

@LimaBeanMOM  BIG HUGS!!

I totally felt the same way.  I don't think I showered more than once the entire first week.  A was literally attached to my body all the time.  I did take a couple baths with him, doing skin to skin.  Dh would then grab him for a minute and I would flip on the shower and wash my hair.  He nursed every 90 minutes (or more often) 24/7 and the sessions usually lasted at least 45 minutes.  The other 45 minutes, he still wanted to be held and snuggled.  I set myself up in our recliner in the living room.  I piled snacks on a table next to me and DH's only job was to open packages when I didn't have the hands to do it and keep my water bottle full.  Occasionally, he would hold a sleeping LO for maybe 10 minutes before I had to take over.  It was hard, but it got better and easier as we went.  I'm still nursing, at 18 months, and we are just now slowly weaning.  

If you want to pump, I am going to echo what PPs said about using a manual pump.  I was able to get much more milk from it (but got very very little from any pump in the first week) and I felt a lot less like a dairy cow because I felt more in control.  

Also think about where you are nursing and if it's a comfy place for you.  Lots of ladies on here nursed in bed, but I found that really hard on my back and I hated being away from the main part of my house.  It felt very secluded, even if no one else was home. 

ColieAnn31

CL8badB said:

You can PM a pic. Maybe blondie will PM me?

You basically attach it here (dont hit reply) and then copy the link and paste it into the PM.

Then you just delete it from here.

Lol look at you go! I can do it if she doesn't care!

nikel13

I had a dream last night that I had a baby boy and gave Lily a little brother. I dreamt that I was trying to nurse him. I have had nursing feeling boobs all day. I don't get it. Lily hasn't nursed in 10 months!

numbersgirl08

Hi yall! I'm enjoying my real break to recover from my holiday vacation! Reading the words when I can. And I worked out tonight for the first time in a few months!!! I got Jillian Michaels Body Revolution 90day workout video set so I'm gonna try to stick with it!

@LimaBeanMOM‌ lots and lots of good advice already given. Just another voice to say - that's how it was the first few weeks for me with N too. It's HARD. But two things I've heard that stuck with me during that time - 1) as was already mentioned, don't quit on a bad day, and 2) give it 2-3 weeks if you can. It might be a looooooong 3 weeks, but it changes a lot at that point and starts to get so so much easier.

And do what is best for you and your family!

ColieAnn31

I'm partying hard over here tonight!

nikel13

@LimaBeanMOM‌ Big creepy internet ((hugs))! I remember Lily nursing every two hours over night and all day. It sucked. I thought I would never sleep and had feelings of being a milk cow. I hated having people do things for me. But, when I just got used to the constant nursings, she slowed down. She wouldn't let H feed her until she was almost 4 months old. I would get calls at work because she was screaming hungry, but wouldn't eat until she could nurse. It all gets better. I will say, I miss the cuddles and the fact that my baby used to only want me. I get jealous sometimes when she will go to H over me.

If you ever need to vent or feel the need for extra support, we're all here for you.

ColieAnn31

So much for getting Grayson back on track...he's been awake for almost an hour. Why are these walls/floors so thin and why must my dad be so loud in the room above us?!?!? I am tired. I want my child to go to sleep so I can sleep.

daffy2k

@megsw85‌ I know this was pages ago, but I'm just catching up. I think there's an additional monthly charge plus the cost of the unit. So you probably couldn't attach it to your H's (I'm assuming his is paid for by the company?). Also, if you are looking into it, check out both XM and Sirius. They are joint in the U.S. But still totally separate up here. Tyson prefers that we have XM because Sirius doesn't air the hockey games. We lucked out that both our vehicles have XM built in, so no decisions there really. I got a super sweet deal on a lifetime subscription for my pathfinder, basically as long as I keep the car past this spring (3years) it will be free for the rest of the time I have it. Our new truck has it free right now, but I'm hoping to get an equally good deal when it comes time to pay for that one,

Cricket81

Last night DH did LO's wake ups since we are trying to stop motn nursing. I heard LO start to wimper but that was it. Apparently he was crying on and off for over an hour while DH tried to get him back down, including crying "mommy" over and over and I slept through it all. I feel like the world's worst mom and couldn't stop crying. How could I sleep through my LO crying for me?!?

bumpuser7846882

@Cricket81‌ exhaustion. And trusting that your DH is handling it. You're a great mom!

ColieAnn31

34blondie said:

ColieAnn31 said:

CL8badB said:

You can PM a pic. Maybe blondie will PM me?

You basically attach it here (dont hit reply) and then copy the link and paste it into the PM.

Then you just delete it from here.

Lol look at you go! I can do it if she doesn't care!

Do it

Ok!!!!

ColieAnn31

@CL8badB‌ you've got a message dear

ColieAnn31

CL8badB said:

ColieAnn31 said:

@CL8badB‌ you've got a message dear

Got it!
Oh my gosh! So so cute!!

Isn't it??? My heart melted when I saw the pictures!!!

ColieAnn31

What is everyone doing this weekend??

ColieAnn31

ColieAnn31 said:

What is everyone doing this weekend??

This morning I'm supposed to meet my friend to look at wedding dresses and bridesmaid dresses. Should be fun! This the rest of my day and tomorrow will be doing laundry, hanging out with Grayson, and cleaning up the house from the left over Christmas mess.

Cricket81

Thanks for all the support, ladies.

@heelibrarian‌
He has made it until about 5:30 after being up for one epic meltdown each night. While I would love him to sleep later, I feel like 1 battle per night is the best we can do right now. If it was before 5, either DH or I would probably try to get him back down again without nursing. I also haven't been nursing when he wakes up. We hadn't been anyways because he had been nursing between 3-4 AM, but now he wakes up fussier and I've been kin of forcing a sippy of milk on him. I am hoping he adjusts a little better in the next couple nights so that we aren't all screwed when work starts back up.

ColieAnn31

@34blondie‌ have you all gotten a chance to use those finger paints yet? I want to know how they are before I buy Grayson some. I am in love with all the color wonder stuff lol

lioness13

@heelibrarian‌ @Cricket81‌ -You are good moms! Try again tonight. It will get better. Remind your DHs that you can't nurse until the baby goes to college so they better get involved and help! Hearing/seeing your baby cry for you sucks but totally normal during the weaning process. When I did it KJ was already STTN so I just had to sit and watch her cry during the day. I had a song that I hummed to myself to help me get through it. The song reminded me how strong I am and that everything was ok.

Are you doing any CIO or just daddy comforting?

PS- FFSC: I am a crazy mom because I actually took a pic of KJ crying for me to nurse one of the last times. I just had to remember it...

ColieAnn31

Well this looks like it's going to be a fun day. Grayson has been whining since he woke up.

musicalsilver

LO keeps sneezing, and then after he's done with the one or two sneezes, says "achoo".  It's too adorable.

DH went and tried to comfort LO when he woke up at 10:30ish last night.  He gave up after a minute, maybe two. 

I agree with @Cricket81 - it's definitely so much harder now that they can tell you what they want!  I could just hear LO saying "mama mama".  Definitely doesn't help DH's confidence.