How much have you gained?

sandybean

I'm at 20 lbs!! And I eat totally normally, lol. Hope it's just a big baby!! You?

specialsn0wflake

Be honest.  Do you REALLY care what complete strangers have gained?  

Stucas

NO!

somewheresublime86

Sorry, we don't play this game.

Everyone is doing their best to have a healthy pregnancy, whether they've gained 5 or 75 pounds. We don't judge, and we don't play the comparison game.

CivilMommy

-20 + 4 back on...but what does it matter really?

This can vary widely from woman to woman and without their medical history the numbers mean nothing.

I had weight loss surgery this year, was in the process of losing 100+, and am still obese, and should technically not gain anything...but my health story has nothing to do with your body and should not be used to make you feel better or worse about what your body is doing to nourish your fetus.

dana1047

Instead of text weight gain posts every day...could we at least give some variety? Maybe even a bump progression photo guess how much I've gained poll would be better.

Related to after birth, but anyone considering doing one of the post partum girdles?

Yep I'm hi-jacking. Sorry not sorry.

MitoRachel

I'm eating well for pregnancy and exercising well (for the most part). That's all I can tell you because my midwife doesn't weigh her patients and my scale broke a couple of weeks ago. It's awesome!

taahira

:-q

kamomo1

Why does this question keep getting asked? On here and by friends and family. Does it really matter how much other people are gaining?

RNmama2b

trollsniper said:

Omg I gained 20 lbs too!!!! Let's hug and be best friends!! >:D<

This... has made my day!

somewheresublime86

kamomo1 said:

Why does this question keep getting asked? On here and by friends and family. Does it really matter how much other people are gaining?

I get it - kinda. Ladies are looking for reassurance, because they're not used to it being 'okay' to gain weight.

My issue is the whole 'I'm kinda ashamed' or 'tell me your weight so I'll feel better about myself' vibe in these posts. Nuh uh. Not helpful and not productive.

Shadeauxe

Oh let's see....I have gained:

• a new house (rental) in a new state
• a new driver's license and license plates
• a new level of appreciation for how difficult it is to move 26,000 lbs of stuff long distance
• a new understanding of how annoying it is to sell a house during the winter and how stupid some buyers are
• a new place to come to discuss being pregnant
• a lot of free time since I had to quit my job when I moved

Probably more, but that's the best I could come up with in a short time.

SunnyBeachBum

specialsn0wflake

dana1047 said:

Instead of text weight gain posts every day...could we at least give some variety? Maybe even a bump progression photo guess how much I've gained poll would be better. Related to after birth, but anyone considering doing one of the post partum girdles? Yep I'm hi-jacking. Sorry not sorry.

Not even remotely surprised OP hasn't returned.

And to answer your question, I plan on it.  I haven't decided which yet though.  If you are, have you decided which?

caryann17

I don't understand why people are so upset by this question. Seems like a natural question to have when your not used to wanting to gain weight . It's nice to see how everyone else is progressing. I am afraid to answer like I might get yelled at. I've gained 12 lbs since my first appointment so probably more like 14 total lbs

meganbethg

Edited to clarify: not my weight gain..these posts.

knjzacher

Nopesville: population, me.

khan08

Hmmm I'll play. It's not like I will meet anybody is person, so who gives a crap. At 22 weeks I have gained 4 pounds. Doctors aren't happy, but I think I am healthy. Wasn't skinny to start with so I am figuring that's part of the low weight gain. Oh well. Happy weekend everybody \:D/

jk3610

I've gained a new perspective:  I hate when people post inflammatory shit.  Oh wait, that's not new.

kurban627

The sooner we quit responding the faster this thread will drop. ......

Sorry I didn't head my own advice. I don't want to see this for days though. The last thread was around a long time.

Rowsdower85

khan08 said:

Hmmm I'll play. It's not like I will meet anybody is person, so who gives a crap. At 22 weeks I have gained 4 pounds. Doctors aren't happy, but I think I am healthy. Wasn't skinny to start with so I am figuring that's part of the low weight gain. Oh well. Happy weekend everybody \:D/

I think my left boob alone gained 4 pounds.

These posts make me want to bang my head against a wall.

khan08

The dancing emoji was for weekend girls, not for the weight gain. And yes I am a little heavier than most, so that's why I haven't gained much. So like I said, doctors think I should be pushing 200 by now and I am content with what I am sitting at. Again happy weekend all

mindala31

Nope nope nope. Why is this a bad question? Because it makes women compare themselves to each other. What I gain is right for my body and baby and it might not be for yours. I know "about" what I've gained, but as a woman with 15 years of ED (+3 in recovery) hearing about someone's 4lbs puts some really negative and judgemental thoughts in my head. Currently I have the right tools to combat these thoughts, but many people don't. It's a horrible question at a very self conscious time.

Now that I've got that off my chest. I will use as much will power as possible avoiding this post.

arlinar

mindala31 said:

Nope nope nope. Why is this a bad question? Because it makes women compare themselves to each other. What I gain is right for my body and baby and it might not be for yours. I know "about" what I've gained, but as a woman with 15 years of ED (+3 in recovery) hearing about someone's 4lbs puts some really negative and judgemental thoughts in my head. Currently I have the right tools to combat these thoughts, but many people don't. It's a horrible question at a very self conscious time. Now that I've got that off my chest. I will use as much will power as possible avoiding this post.

I see it as it not being anyone's business but me and my doctors about how much weight I gained. All of us and our doctors know if our weight gain is normal and fine and will guide us on the right track if its not. Every body is different and thats the beauty of being an individual. 

redneckmomma25

khan08 said:

The dancing emoji was for weekend girls, not for the weight gain. And yes I am a little heavier than most, so that's why I haven't gained much. So like I said, doctors think I should be pushing 200 by now and I am content with what I am sitting at. Again happy weekend all

I am 70 lbs over weight. It sucks to see the scale go up but I've placed mine and my baby's care in capable hands I trust and when they re assure me that I am healthy and it is good for baby, I trust them. If you don't trust your Dr I would suggest finding a different one.

jk3610

I will admit when we first started trying, the whole weight gain thing kind of messed with my head.  (I was a little vain, not gonna lie.)  But now that I've reached this point, I've come to believe like many PP's said that it's not about the number on the scale as long as doctor says you're fine and baby/you are healthy.  Having that attitude has helped me in a lot of ways.  Wish the drive-by posters would just keep driving.

khan08

snowbigdeal said:

khan08 said:

The dancing emoji was for weekend girls, not for the weight gain. And yes I am a little heavier than most, so that's why I haven't gained much. So like I said, doctors think I should be pushing 200 by now and I am content with what I am sitting at. Again happy weekend all

So you are basically saying that you value the aesthetics of your body over the health of your child.


No my child is actually really healthy!! She's in the 80th percentile and actually nearing a pound now!! She's kicking away!

khan08

redneckmomma25 said:

khan08 said:

The dancing emoji was for weekend girls, not for the weight gain. And yes I am a little heavier than most, so that's why I haven't gained much. So like I said, doctors think I should be pushing 200 by now and I am content with what I am sitting at. Again happy weekend all

I am 70 lbs over weight. It sucks to see the scale go up but I've placed mine and my baby's care in capable hands I trust and when they re assure me that I am healthy and it is good for baby, I trust them. If you don't trust your Dr I would suggest finding a different one.

In my last pregnancy I lost 15 pounds and then gained 25. I personally feel that not losing any this time and just slowly gaining the pounds is just the way my body is doing it. I eat like a cow, don't get me wrong.

Knottie27891342

I'm new here, I was surprised at how angry everyone was at this post. I understand you might think its a rude question or maybe insensitive but as a first time mom I often wonder (right or wrong) if my weight gain is normal. No one seems to mind when someone asks if anyone else is farting and other very personal questions. I just feel bad, I know I would feel embarrassed if I asked a question and everyone made me feel like an insensitive jerk. Couldn't it just been said no comment and we prefer not to discuss weight on this bored instead of all the "none of ur fing business" etc comments. I'm sure this mommy to be feels mortified, I know I would.

Knottie27891342

Apologies in advance for typo of bored vs board

ktplusbby

Knottie27891342 said:

I'm new here, I was surprised at how angry everyone was at this post. I understand you might think its a rude question or maybe insensitive but as a first time mom I often wonder (right or wrong) if my weight gain is normal. No one seems to mind when someone asks if anyone else is farting and other very personal questions. I just feel bad, I know I would feel embarrassed if I asked a question and everyone made me feel like an insensitive jerk. Couldn't it just been said no comment and we prefer not to discuss weight on this bored instead of all the "none of ur fing business" etc comments. I'm sure this mommy to be feels mortified, I know I would.

the reason said people are commenting like that is because they've had numerous drive by posters asking the same loaded question. it's a shitty question. it hurts some and it annoys all. it's a topic that should just be left alone and everyone here has said that. in so many threads it's ridiculous to still be bringing it up. "this mommy" isn't mortified. she hasn't said anything. hence the drive by annoyance.

Denise91980

snegde said:

The best thing about this thread is all the amazing women in it who get it and don't play. My doctor has me stressed out about weight (I believe unjustifiably) and yesterday it had me in tears. This was the last thing I needed today but reading all these comments from such incredible women who "get it" makes my heart overjoyed. Thanks for being the super, awesome, incredibly smart April mommas that I already knew you were. :-*

I feel the same @snegde‌. My last appointment was the day after Thanksgiving and the doctor said,"Well, it is the day after Thanksgiving so we won't talk about your weight gain." Totally made me feel awful. Since then I have been trying my best to avoid indulging in any temptations because I feel pretty bad about my weight. I am not even going to respond to the..."I only gained 4lbs...poor me" shenanigans!

somewheresublime86

Knottie27891342 said:

I'm new here, I was surprised at how angry everyone was at this post. I understand you might think its a rude question or maybe insensitive but as a first time mom I often wonder (right or wrong) if my weight gain is normal. No one seems to mind when someone asks if anyone else is farting and other very personal questions. I just feel bad, I know I would feel embarrassed if I asked a question and everyone made me feel like an insensitive jerk. Couldn't it just been said no comment and we prefer not to discuss weight on this bored instead of all the "none of ur fing business" etc comments. I'm sure this mommy to be feels mortified, I know I would.

I think there are ways that these conversations could be less hurtfIf say, someone said their doctor had asked them to incorporate more protein into their diet and they were looking for good recipe ideas.

Denise91980 said:

snegde said:

The best thing about this thread is all the amazing women in it who get it and don't play. My doctor has me stressed out about weight (I believe unjustifiably) and yesterday it had me in tears. This was the last thing I needed today but reading all these comments from such incredible women who "get it" makes my heart overjoyed. Thanks for being the super, awesome, incredibly smart April mommas that I already knew you were. :-*

I feel the same @snegde‌. My last appointment was the day after Thanksgiving and the doctor said,"Well, it is the day after Thanksgiving so we won't talk about your weight gain." Totally made me feel awful. Since then I have been trying my best to avoid indulging in any temptations because I feel pretty bad about my weight. I am not even going to respond to the..."I only gained 4lbs...poor me" shenanigans!

My doc and I have a weight policy. She's only supposed to mention it if she's concerned for baby or I. Otherwise, we're both operating under the assumption that I'm a grown ass woman who is capable of making good decisions and doesn't find critical weight comments the least bit helpful. Plus, I can read the number on the scale and do basic math

caramia1234

16 pounds

MelP4

Denise91980 said:

snegde said:

The best thing about this thread is all the amazing women in it who get it and don't play. My doctor has me stressed out about weight (I believe unjustifiably) and yesterday it had me in tears. This was the last thing I needed today but reading all these comments from such incredible women who "get it" makes my heart overjoyed. Thanks for being the super, awesome, incredibly smart April mommas that I already knew you were. :-*

I feel the same @snegde‌. My last appointment was the day after Thanksgiving and the doctor said,"Well, it is the day after Thanksgiving so we won't talk about your weight gain." Totally made me feel awful. Since then I have been trying my best to avoid indulging in any temptations because I feel pretty bad about my weight. I am not even going to respond to the..."I only gained 4lbs...poor me" shenanigans!

It makes me feel stressed and anxious when my doctor has had to talk to me about my weight. Weight is just such a touchy topic for so many women. As someone who has suffered from ED, later had a health disorder that caused me to almost double in size, then with the help of proper treatment was able to get to a more reasonable size, I am so thankful this is not a group who focuses heavily on weight topics.

meganbethg

caramia1234 said:

16 pounds

I love the drive bys that just say fuck reading.

Ps @snowbigdeal‌ THANK YOU! beautifully put.

amystan

I have gained enough weight that I fell backwards in bed and ended up rolling like Sonic the Hedgehog. I lol'd to myself. On a more serious note, my doctor isn't obsessed with my weight so neither am I. Jessica Simpson and Kim Kardashian gained tons of weight and had happy, healthy babies. Then there's other celebs and fitness freaks I recently unfollowed on instagram who gained like 2 ounces and had happy, healthy babies. 

specialsn0wflake

caramia1234 said:

16 pounds

Seriously?! Almost everyone noped the fuck out of this question. Newsflash! We don't care about weight around here. This is one of the few places in life were weight is not judged, let it be. Also, honestly, no one cares!

lailasage

If you don't like the question. Why comment? Lots of growing up to do for mothers to be it seems

Pix3lle

Audrey1787 said:

I've gained about 10,000 xp, +11 armour, +5 magic, and +8 agility.

Damn, do you have an xp boost? I've only gained 7000 xp!

meganbethg

lailasage said:

If you don't like the question. Why comment? Lots of growing up to do for mothers to be it seems

1. This question has been asked WAYY too many times now and it's not helpful to anyone because every woman is different, every pregnancy is different. We all started at different weights, there is no "standard weight gain" for pregnancy. So this question is pointless.
2. The only person that should be concerned with your weight is your doctor THAT'S it!
3. As someone who's battled having an eating disorder in the past these posts are like a dagger in my back, even though I no longer let my ED control my life there was a time when food and weight did.
There have been several other mothers who have admitted on this board to dealing with ED too, so excuse me if I'm a bad mother or if I need to "grow up" for wanting to protect them from crappy posts like this turning into another 5 page thread about everyone's weight.