i have a 12 year old stepson and he just started being interested in girls more so now. last week he said a girl told him another girl liked him, then this tuesday he gets a note from another girl saying she likes him does he like her. and he told me when i picked him up that he didn't know what to say. i thought he should just not say anything and there should just be boys and girls that he will be friends with and nothing more with girls. saying yes would only make her think he is wanting to date as a couple(i have heard of many kids dating at this age and things will progress to bigger things. not what we want. so my husband told him if he likes her and could say yes but totally just keep it friendly you are not allowed to date until you are 16. so to keep the long story short. his mother is ok with it and the girl gave him a braclet on wednesday so without clearing it with his dad she bought a braclet from him to give the girl today. we also are finding out my stepson is telling his mother more about the things that are going on at school with the girl and not his father and i. last night was what concerned us a great deal. they have laptops for each student which we are not happy with, especially being his mother has not cares in the world about all her children. she doesn't care what they do on tv, computers, video games and phones. so he can do what he wants and she doesnt' watch for what he is doing. so there is a big concern for us already with how he is being raised. she had said no dating till 16 until now, so to get back yesterday i pick him up and he says he has been chating with her on the computer in a special chat room. his mother told his father about it to so we asked him about it and wanted to see the chat room. we felt like what is really going on, so i watch while he did his homework and of course she gets on and starts trying to chat with him but i was just sitting there and not saying anything. she puts hi boyfriend, and are we going to the dance tomorrow together, and later on she starts saying how she had to go and i love you. what is your address . i feel like this girl is way beyond her years and prbably has parents who don't care either, and i don't need him getting her pregant. my husband exwife is ok with all of this. she now says she dated a boy at this age. but hello kids are way different now. sex is tottally out there. and she should discuss how the father feels and figure something out. i can see her allowing him to spend time together at his house and not watching them and things will happen. this girl doesn't seem to shy..what should we do and what can we do? we have him tuesday/thursday 2-8 and every other weekend. and this weekend is ours. i want to take the laptop and say somthing to her and ask to talk to a parent. since my husband exwife won't talk to the parents. and tell them what she is saying and that the father is not allowing him to date and they need to be just friends.i am so sorry this is long and might be confusing. there is alot more i know about the two of them. and the other thing we are finding out he is keeping things that happened at s chool from us and telling his mother.