AW- RE appointment update that wasn't an RE appointment at all (so frustrated and ragey)

Nikolie93

First I want to say thank you to everyone who was thinking about me after my pity party post the other day.  :x

Second, I want to rage right now. I have been waiting for this appointment of 2 months. I go into the office and the Dr seems nice enough. He starts talking about what testing they would do throughout my pregnancy to ensure everything was ok, like a check at so many weeks to monitor the hearbeat, etc., etc. 

It took me a minute and then it clicked. I asked him what type of Dr he was and he said a high risk pregnancy Dr. I said "you aren't an RE?", and he said no. What. The. FUCK? 

He told me that, to be honest, he was a little confused as to why I was there. Yeah, you and me both buddy! He told me that normally you see an RE and THEN a high risk Dr. No shit, I am not pregnant and have had no tests done so why would I even need to see you right now?? 

He felt really bad for me, because I was so frustrated I started to cry. I could tell that MH was getting upset. Here we are, finally after 2 months, to get this show on the road and it was for nothing. 

I called my OBGYN office and they swore to me that they send you there first. I asked why in the hell would they do that if someone doesn't even know if they can have a viable pregnancy. Bah!

I called the RE that the high risk Dr. recommended and have an appointment for January 21st...so more waiting. Their office was also confused as to why my OB sent me to a high risk Dr before seeing an RE. 

On a side note, the Dr I saw was very nice but I felt there were a couple of red flags:

1. He told me that he really thinks this will work out for me and patients that come see him usually end up coming back with good news (wtf, really??) 

2. He sees no reason why I won't have a successful pregnancy (with no testing at all!?!?) 

3. He told me that since I got pregnant 3 times, he sees no reason why we need to wait to TTC again. Ummm, maybe because I have no idea if there is anything wrong with me or MH yet?? 

Sorry so long, and if you read this I really appreciate it. If you didn't I completely understand, I really just needed to get this off my chest because the couple of people I've talked to IRL don't seem to think this waiting game is a big deal. 

buggirl72

Oh, that is awful! So many (((hugs))).

TowerClimbersWife

(((HUGS))) to you lady!

What a shit thing to have happen. Sorry you are having to deal with this. Let us know how we can help.

katib77

The problem with needing an RE is it is so specialized other docs always play it off like "oh I'm sure you can have a successful pg" because they have NO CLUE all we go through before seeing them. I am so so sorry your OB was a buttmunchsending you there first.

catvaughn5002

I'm SO sorry that happened.  How awful! Someone needs to take responsibility for that mistake/mix up.  I will be thinking of you and your DH as you approach your next appointment. Many ((Hugs)) and I empathize with you being ragey.

EIsieMae

I am so, so sorry. That is horrible. That is a huge mistake on your OBs behalf. Huge, huge, huge ((hugs)) to you lady.

O2girl

(((((Hugs)))))

I'm a bit confused as to why you had to wait 2 months to see a high risk OB. If the only women he sees are already pregnant and having the potential for grave complications, why the actual fuck would it take them two months to be seen? :-/

ellebelle2384

I'm sorry. That is so incredibly frustrating. ((Hugs)) Can you get on a cancelation list at the RE's office so you can possibly get in sooner?

Littleowl913

WTF? I would be all types of pissed off at my OB. I'm sorry you have to wait another month to see an actual RE. ((hugs))

Ya know, my high risk doc said something very similar during my consult-probably even worse. He basically guaranteed that he can get me take home babies. I let it slide because I know better. Also I didn't feel like arguing with him. 

aswedishbee

Sending you all the ((hugs)) I have today! Gahhh, I totally understand your disappointment and frustration. A big FU to the peeps IRL who don't get the deal about waiting ... again. 

MrsOscarFelix

((HUGS)) I would be so angry!! Hope everything goes okay with your appointment in Jan.!

VaBarnet

Oh my!! I am so so sorry you had to go through this... It is so frustrating! I can understand your rage and I would probably be crying like crazy there too... Hate this waiting game... hang in there... Hugs

Km380

Wtf I am all sorts of ragey for you. I'm so sorry you are dealing with such a fuck up. I'm sorta questioning your ob right now too. (((Hugs))) Maybe the RE will have a cancellation and you can get in sooner?

PinkCamino

So many hugs. How frustrating.

flyoffeve

Rage! So mad this happened to you. Sorry you have to wait longer for the appointment you thought you were going to today.

nicnackmama

That's super shitty, I'm sorry hun.  ::hugs::  

kreardon11

Hugs, galore. I would be really pissed. 

Nikolie93

Thank you so much, ladies. Just hearing you're ragey with me or giving me hugs really helps. I felt like I was overreacting and I felt so dumb that I didn't catch this ahead of time. 

The thing that confuses me even more is that when I called my OB they swore that it what they typically do. I just don't get it. Even the RE's office said ummm...no, usually you see us first and then a high risk pregnancy Dr (if it comes down to that). 

For those asking if I can get in sooner if there is a cancellation? The office said that I would have to call them, they don't have a cancellation list. *sigh*  

I feel bad for MH, when we left the office I just started crying and when he told me to call the RE I snapped at him and told him that I didn't want to, I was giving up. Totally irrational. 

And my on the phone my mom just told me to "relax". That is a trigger word that makes me rage on a normal day!

mflowers929

Wow, super shitty of your OB to do that to you *squishy hugs* rage away sweetie!

TheAerialist

I know it's the thing around here is to give 8 million hugs, so you got that from me fo' sho, but immediately after that, I am going to give your OB a taco kick (or a dick punch, as appropriate, obvs.) and I am SO SORRY that you have to wait even longer!!!!  

Big huge booooooooooo to them, here's hoping your January appointment gets you right on the road to quick action.  Honestly, I'd be SO PISSED too. :-(

kittymeowbark

Oh hun I am so sorry you had to experience this fuckery! ...Your OB truley fucked up. I am so so sorry. LOTS AND LOTS of hugs. I can offer chocolate and liquor as well. Whatever makes you feel better.

NOBB14

Holy fucking shit! I'm so so sorry you had to go through that. I have no other words. Unbelievable. You rock based on the simple fact you didn't throttle every person at your OB office for the bullshit rec. Damn. Hugs.

rslh10

UGH. So many hugs lady!! I'm sorry that happened!!

[Deleted User]

Holy shit. I'm so sorry that it ridiculous! Huge ((hugs)). I'm sorry you have to wait again.

welly01

OMG, I would have been PISSED!!!!  I'm so sorry you waited all that time, wasted your time at the appt., and now have to wait until January now.

I can't believe your stupid OB did that to you!

Nikolie93

thanks @holdingouthope!

@McSarah1104 it would be a taco kick and it would be appreciated! I ended up calling them and by the end of it I was apologizing to them for being frustrated. I suck! 

@kittymeowbark..how about chocolate AND liquor?

Again, thank you all so much for the support!

BookishMomma

Grrrrrrr. How very irritating!

[Deleted User]

I'm sorry.  That is so frustrated.

SunshineShades

I am so sorry. I would be livid if I was in your position *hugs*

laurenleigh17

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry you had to deal with this disaster! I would have lost my shit and started sobbing in the middle of the exam room. I sincerely hope they didn't charge you for the office visit!!

kittymeowbark

@Nikolie93 -- SOLD!!!

Frenchteachermama

Shut the front door. I cannot believe this!!!!!!!!!! I am so so sorry!! How frustrating!!!!

meredithcarole

I am so very sorry. That is fucking ridiculous. Time for a new OB, perhaps?

schuebja

I'm so sorry you had to go through that today. How frustrating!

O2girl

furrypaws said:

Here is Pebs. She's got your back.

Haha
I saw this and thought about pebbles!

CC1017

That sounds horribly frustrating. Sorry you had to go through that today.

renegadewhit

This sucks so bad. I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this. 

ashlee113085

UGH. that is so frustrating. ((hugs))

stephy1221

Whoa! That is horrible. I can not believe you were blindsided like that. I am so sorry.

skategirl128

So many hugs! How incredibly frustrating!

TashaCN

This is absolutely horrible!! I am so sorry. I hope this next month and some goes by quickly. Ugh.