Hump day!

hmp1

Pokedot said:

BPer said:

Also, he sends harassing, nasty emails that I have been keeping a folder of.

He sounds like a real winner. How has he not been fired yet? Sorry you have to deal with that.

@hmp1 is she a friend or well known? Now I want to follow her.

She is not a friend but a friend of a friend. Her account is public so I stalk her. 

BPer

MarisaKathleen said:

Your boss sounds like a complete and total ass @bper.  Is he by chance a "good ole' boys" type of guy?  I only ask because it seems like men of a certain generation seem to think a lot of those things are ok things to say.

Nope, not a good ole boy.  There's already an HR investigation going on in our office that he's the target of.

He's a snobby Norwegian that has never been anywhere but Academia.  He's socially inept.

BPer

willy_gert said:

@BPer I had no idea it hadn't gotten that bad there!  Seriously I would be saying something and showing them all of those emails, because that is completely inappropriate!  I just can't believe some people!

He's already been confronted by the Chair of Equity and Diversity over the comments he made to me while pregnant, but his behavior doesn't change.

I don't want the guy to get fired...but he needs some serious HR counseling.

MarisaKathleen

BPer said:

willy_gert said:

@BPer I had no idea it hadn't gotten that bad there!  Seriously I would be saying something and showing them all of those emails, because that is completely inappropriate!  I just can't believe some people!

He's already been confronted by the Chair of Equity and Diversity over the comments he made to me while pregnant, but his behavior doesn't change.

I don't want the guy to get fired...but he needs some serious HR counseling

STUCK:

If he's already been talked to by HR, there's pretty much no hope left that counseling is going to help him.  He needs to be fired.  Especially from an HR standpoint.  With all the documentation you've been keeping, he's a liability.  You could sue them for hostile work environment and who knows what else.  That would not only be bad for the college, but for that guy.  My bet would be that if there's an investigation, he won't be there much longer.

BPer

Oh here's another good one.

He came behind my desk to look at something over my shoulder on my computer the other week.

My purse is on the second chair in my office next to my desk, so he glanced at it, and then walked over and straight up stared into my purse.

I am on quite a few meds right now, and had pill bottles in there and he announces in front of 3 others "What are you, on drugs?"

redneckmomma25

My dad gave me an awesome Christmas bonus. I mean, I work 1 day a week. I really don't deserve anything. I'd like to give a little more to the community. We did Angel tree and Operation Christmas child. Sent money to our sponsor child in Africa but really nothing local. I am on a real time crunch though. I'd love it to be something personal. Not that I want the people to know it's from me, but I want to know I personally touched a family vs just giving to an organization. 

I really wanted buffalo pizza for lunch but it's always so spicy! Takes me forever to eat. 

I am also hoping for a snowstorm on Sunday. I need more time home. Grace is supposed to be with the kids on stage at church Sunday night. So church 2x in one day. plus the hour round trip both times. But she LOVES signing (or trying to) with the kids. Ugh. 

hmp1

I got one of those recipe exchange emails where I reply to the top person with a recipe and then send to 20 people with the person that sent it to me as the top person. I don't mind providing a recipe to the people listed but I do not want to wrap 20 more people into this loop. And I really don't need 36 new recipes. But it is a work thing so I feel a little pressure to do it. Ugg, why!?! Just do simple recipe swap with friends like we do here.

melody921

BeebopandBuddy said:

Can I be stressed out and negative on here for a minute?  I have no one to stress out to in real life that is providing me any kind of encouragement.  I tried to talk to my mom and, as usual, she is the opposite of helpful or supportive.  Ok, here goes: 

We have to drive to NY this weekend for DH's family Christmas party.  5 hours up Saturday, 5 hours back Sunday.  Then, on Christmas day, 4 days later, we have to rush through the kids opening gifts so we can get back in the car and drive 5 hours back to NY to make a 5 p.m. dinner with SD's and stay there until Saturday to drive 5 hours back.

I knew this was happening for a while now, but it kind of hit me this week when I started making my mental to-do list.  I am not looking forward to any of it AT ALL.

That is a LOT of time in the car! Is there any way to combine the two gatherings, like move SDs dinner to that first weekend you're up there?

willy_gert

redneckmomma25 said:

My dad gave me an awesome Christmas bonus. I mean, I work 1 day a week. I really don't deserve anything. I'd like to give a little more to the community. We did Angel tree and Operation Christmas child. Sent money to our sponsor child in Africa but really nothing local. I am on a real time crunch though. I'd love it to be something personal. Not that I want the people to know it's from me, but I want to know I personally touched a family vs just giving to an organization. 

I really wanted buffalo pizza for lunch but it's always so spicy! Takes me forever to eat. 

I am also hoping for a snowstorm on Sunday. I need more time home. Grace is supposed to be with the kids on stage at church Sunday night. So church 2x in one day. plus the hour round trip both times. But she LOVES signing (or trying to) with the kids. Ugh. 

Does your church do food baskets?  Do you know of any foster families?  I will tell you that the food basket from our church and our friends was a God send and I don't know what we would have done without it.  I will also tell you that my company works with local businesses/ people to provide a gift for each child in foster care and then we did a food drive to give Christmas food baskets to our kinship families.  I think there are a lot of local things you could do.  

I think it is really great that you want to give back locally!  

redneckmomma25

I'm not sure what our church does. I can ask on Sunday. See about giving something extra. Or send our Pastor an email. 

kdsmith43

I am in my office ugly crying. Like, mascara everywhere trying to catch my breath. Over an internet story... a photo documentary of a lady who had to put her dog to sleep. Why am I so sensitive? The last time I did this was over a cat, and I was pregnant and didn't know it yet. Oh wait, is that a sign?

I'm losing it. For reals. 

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kelbel527

loislayn said:

hmp1 said:

MrsKipper said:

Baby shots can suck it!! Camden had his 6m shots plus half the flu shot yesterday and we're currently at 1.5 hours trying to get a morning nap in. It's been a screamfest all morning even with ibuprofen and constant nursing. Seriously, suck it.

James is getting his 4 year shot(s?) tomorrow. I thought it would be best to prep him and told him on Monday when I was going down the schedule for the week. He started to cry and asked to call DH. I felt terrible. Tomorrow should be fun.

I made this mistake too. It did not end well. Next time I'll go with the surprise method.

Surprise method all the way!  Though we showed up for Brody's 4 yr appointment and apparently we were good until he's 5.  Oh wait, that's next month.  I'm not telling him until the morning of.  

kelbel527

I'm LOL at a text my DH just sent me.

He sells plumbing products for a living.  We were able to provide a lot of the material for our house, but our builder didn't let us provide everything.

He texted me a picture of a huge truck in our driveway from his competitor.  I think he's going to have a heart attack.  The plumber has an account with his company as well but apparently ordered it from the other company this time.  We calc'd the commission he "lost" and it was only $45, but it's the irony that his competitor is making money off of us just kills my DH.  

Hyaline

redneckmomma25 said:

I'm not sure what our church does. I can ask on Sunday. See about giving something extra. Or send our Pastor an email. 

I would talk to your pastor.  They often have a discretionary fund that they use to help in emergencies that arise for congregants, but I bet he knows about plenty of needs in the church community that you could help with.

kelbel527

BPer said:

Oh here's another good one.

He came behind my desk to look at something over my shoulder on my computer the other week.

My purse is on the second chair in my office next to my desk, so he glanced at it, and then walked over and straight up stared into my purse.

I am on quite a few meds right now, and had pill bottles in there and he announces in front of 3 others "What are you, on drugs?"

That's ridiculous.  You're nicer than I am.  I would want him to be fired.

BeebopandBuddy

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

Can I be stressed out and negative on here for a minute?  I have no one to stress out to in real life that is providing me any kind of encouragement.  I tried to talk to my mom and, as usual, she is the opposite of helpful or supportive.  Ok, here goes: 

We have to drive to NY this weekend for DH's family Christmas party.  5 hours up Saturday, 5 hours back Sunday.  Then, on Christmas day, 4 days later, we have to rush through the kids opening gifts so we can get back in the car and drive 5 hours back to NY to make a 5 p.m. dinner with SD's and stay there until Saturday to drive 5 hours back.

I knew this was happening for a while now, but it kind of hit me this week when I started making my mental to-do list.  I am not looking forward to any of it AT ALL.

That is a LOT of time in the car! Is there any way to combine the two gatherings, like move SDs dinner to that first weekend you're up there?

No, DH insists that we all have to be together on Christmas.  This was the first year that I've been able to talk him into Christmas morning at home since SD's never get out of bed until noon anyway.  So he agreed that we could just see them for dinner.  I tried to get the family party moved to an earlier weekend but they wouldn't because the one kid that is in college won't be home yet.  No one wants to be flexible with us, and DH is the worst one.  SD's spend 2 hours with us tops.  I think we should all see eachother on Christmas too, but not move heaven and earth and torture two innocent kids in the process when SD's act like they would much rather be with their mom's family anyway. 

hmp1

2 randoms in 1 day. Looks like our happy love nest is being breached. 

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hmp1

loislayn said:

@hmp1 did you see this?

https://www.zulily.com/p/35-for-50-to-spend-at-bodenusacom-116816-22592134.html?pos=1&section=top

I didn't, thanks! I've never seen these on Zulily, they are usually on Plum.

tinyhumantoe

MarisaKathleen said:

Your boss sounds like a complete and total ass @bper.  Is he by chance a "good ole' boys" type of guy?  I only ask because it seems like men of a certain generation seem to think a lot of those things are ok things to say.

Like my father. 

tinyhumantoe

I get sick of people who ask me if I have a business plan I can give them.  Dude, if you're starting a business and can't make a business plan, that's the first sign you're totally fucked.  The end. 

pharmer78

@hmp1, time to re-read Berenstein Bears Go To the Doctor (I know you have it!).  Good luck with an uneventful appointment.

@redneckmomma25 That sounds soooo adorable having Grace sing with the other kids. Wish I could see it!

I'm relieved that I didn't have time to read yesterday's random post until this morning, or I would have lost a little sleep wondering if I'm the one @jenndub hates.  

MarisaKathleen

jenndub is going to sign in today and have 138 notifications.  or she's been lurking all day and not loving things just to mess with everyone...

hmp1

redneckmomma25 said:

I'm not sure what our church does. I can ask on Sunday. See about giving something extra. Or send our Pastor an email. 

I would email the pastor today and ask if there is a family in need that you can personally help (anonymously) through the church. I know from my line of work, I have seen a lot of families receive money from their church in order to help stay in their home.

tinyhumantoe

So the dude that just asked for a biz plan has been trying to come across as Mr. Sophisticated Entrepreneur looking to make an investment in a new business.  Maybe a biz plan from me could cut out some work for him, I get it.  I say I don't have one, explain that all of my customers would have different biz plans due to locale, model, etc.

Then he asks, "so what needs to be put in a business plan?" 
 
Dude...... Google!  Download a sample from sba.gov.  Think through it.  I'm sorry, I can't take these people seriously. 

((hugs and love))
Toe

redneckmomma25

hmp1 said:

redneckmomma25 said:

I'm not sure what our church does. I can ask on Sunday. See about giving something extra. Or send our Pastor an email. 

I would email the pastor today and ask if there is a family in need that you can personally help (anonymously) through the church. I know from my line of work, I have seen a lot of families receive money from their church in order to help stay in their home.

I actually called the local crisis pregnancy center. Hopefully they won't take too long to get back to me. See if there is a new mom struggling or a pregnant teen or something. If I don't hear anything back from them, I'll talk to my pastor. 

BPer

I did it.  I met with our VP of Ops.

I told him that this isn't a work environment that I feel comfortable in at this point, that I come into work with anxiety every day, and leave upset.

I gave specific examples of things that Per has said to me...and he was like shaking with anger.

I will kind of feel like shit if I cost him his job, but I was beyond my breaking point.

Flamingemu

Does anyone remember when I said I was adopting a kid and the mother only had really expensive items for herself on the wishlist? 

I had a bad feeling about it, but in the end DH & I decided it was for charity anyway, so however she chose to use the items was up to her. I went ahead and sent some cool hot wheels loopdy thing, extra cars, batteries to run it, a bunch of books, and a superhero hoodie through Amazon. Amazon of course sent 3 separate packages, all delivered within 2 days at the end of November.

I just got an email from the organizer asking if I ever sent anything. The mom is claiming 'it must have been stolen' and what is she supposed to do now. 

I feel terrible for this kid, but this woman is clearly trying to scam a charity. Is she serious? Give your son the presents I sent, put your name on the tag, and call it a day. I want to cry for this poor kid and then smack his mother. 

BPer

Flamingemu said:

Does anyone remember when I said I was adopting a kid and the mother only had really expensive items for herself on the wishlist? 

I had a bad feeling about it, but in the end DH & I decided it was for charity anyway, so however she chose to use the items was up to her. I went ahead and sent some cool hot wheels loopdy thing, extra cars, batteries to run it, a bunch of books, and a superhero hoodie through Amazon. Amazon of course sent 3 separate packages, all delivered within 2 days at the end of November.

I just got an email from the organizer asking if I ever sent anything. The mom is claiming 'it must have been stolen' and what is she supposed to do now. 

I feel terrible for this kid, but this woman is clearly trying to scam a charity. Is she serious? Give your son the presents I sent, put your name on the tag, and call it a day. I want to cry for this poor kid and then smack his mother. 

This breaks my heart.  Maybe I'm just feeling weepy today.  Can you screen shot the tracking info and show the charity?

tinyhumantoe

I'm sort of snobbing a facebook invite for a toddler's party.  It's DH's cousin, they live way out of state but will be in for the holidays.  I don't know why I'm being such a butt.

redneckmomma25

Flamingemu said:

Does anyone remember when I said I was adopting a kid and the mother only had really expensive items for herself on the wishlist? 

I had a bad feeling about it, but in the end DH & I decided it was for charity anyway, so however she chose to use the items was up to her. I went ahead and sent some cool hot wheels loopdy thing, extra cars, batteries to run it, a bunch of books, and a superhero hoodie through Amazon. Amazon of course sent 3 separate packages, all delivered within 2 days at the end of November.

I just got an email from the organizer asking if I ever sent anything. The mom is claiming 'it must have been stolen' and what is she supposed to do now. 

I feel terrible for this kid, but this woman is clearly trying to scam a charity. Is she serious? Give your son the presents I sent, put your name on the tag, and call it a day. I want to cry for this poor kid and then smack his mother. 

Ugh! That is awful! I don't get that. I feel like if you go through an organization there would be some sort of screening process. I know they have warned of increased theft this year and you really have no idea. 

kelbel527

Flamingemu said:

Does anyone remember when I said I was adopting a kid and the mother only had really expensive items for herself on the wishlist? 

I had a bad feeling about it, but in the end DH & I decided it was for charity anyway, so however she chose to use the items was up to her. I went ahead and sent some cool hot wheels loopdy thing, extra cars, batteries to run it, a bunch of books, and a superhero hoodie through Amazon. Amazon of course sent 3 separate packages, all delivered within 2 days at the end of November.

I just got an email from the organizer asking if I ever sent anything. The mom is claiming 'it must have been stolen' and what is she supposed to do now. 

I feel terrible for this kid, but this woman is clearly trying to scam a charity. Is she serious? Give your son the presents I sent, put your name on the tag, and call it a day. I want to cry for this poor kid and then smack his mother. 

Oh no!  That is so sad.  The poor kid.  

We just adopted families through a local organization and we able to hand-deliver the gifts, which first of all was amazing and we met some awesome families but also allowed us to make sure that they got their gifts.  

tinyhumantoe

jenndub

I'm here! It's been a busy morning.
@Flamingemu‌ That makes me so sad, I want to cunt punt that woman so hard. How can anyone be so fucked up? Her poor kid.

pharmer78

 

Flamingemu said:

Does anyone remember when I said I was adopting a kid and the mother only had really expensive items for herself on the wishlist? 

I just got an email from the organizer asking if I ever sent anything. The mom is claiming 'it must have been stolen' and what is she supposed to do now. 

WTF?!?!!?!?!?! This makes me livid. 

jenndub

Also, it made me feel kind of important that anyone cared if I didn't like them.

tinyhumantoe

FAWK MAN a friend's wife is now selling something called Nerium.  5 posts a day on FB about this shit, and DH just got a call that they want to stop by on their way through town next week..... they haven't stopped by in 3 years.  I smell a sales pitch. 

Pokedot

Flamingemu said:

Does anyone remember when I said I was adopting a kid and the mother only had really expensive items for herself on the wishlist? 

I had a bad feeling about it, but in the end DH & I decided it was for charity anyway, so however she chose to use the items was up to her. I went ahead and sent some cool hot wheels loopdy thing, extra cars, batteries to run it, a bunch of books, and a superhero hoodie through Amazon. Amazon of course sent 3 separate packages, all delivered within 2 days at the end of November.

I just got an email from the organizer asking if I ever sent anything. The mom is claiming 'it must have been stolen' and what is she supposed to do now. 

I feel terrible for this kid, but this woman is clearly trying to scam a charity. Is she serious? Give your son the presents I sent, put your name on the tag, and call it a day. I want to cry for this poor kid and then smack his mother. 

That poor kid. Can you just show the charity the delivery confirmations? My heart breaks for him.

I could see my exSIL doing something like this. It's all about them, not the kids.

tinyhumantoe

@flamingemu That is so disheartening

@willy_gert when are you scheduling your house cleaning?!

Flamingemu

BPer said:

Flamingemu said:

Does anyone remember when I said I was adopting a kid and the mother only had really expensive items for herself on the wishlist? 

I had a bad feeling about it, but in the end DH & I decided it was for charity anyway, so however she chose to use the items was up to her. I went ahead and sent some cool hot wheels loopdy thing, extra cars, batteries to run it, a bunch of books, and a superhero hoodie through Amazon. Amazon of course sent 3 separate packages, all delivered within 2 days at the end of November.

I just got an email from the organizer asking if I ever sent anything. The mom is claiming 'it must have been stolen' and what is she supposed to do now. 

I feel terrible for this kid, but this woman is clearly trying to scam a charity. Is she serious? Give your son the presents I sent, put your name on the tag, and call it a day. I want to cry for this poor kid and then smack his mother. 

This breaks my heart.  Maybe I'm just feeling weepy today.  Can you screen shot the tracking info and show the charity?

I did. I sent them the tracking numbers. I know between Amazon and FedEx we can see what happened, but it still sucks.