Dear Diary-Sunday Random Thread

be888

Good morning everyone!  Post your Dear Diaries and random ramblings here! 

KatyInNH

This might be better suited for Monday bitchfest but it's ircking me today so here goes...

My SIL is planning on stopping by our house to say hi today. I got a text from my stepMIL last night letting me know my SIL is sick with a cold and SIL mentioned to her that she is still deciding whether she wants to come by my house. Im sorry but when I'm pregnant, it's up to ME whether I will allow sick people in my house.

We're waiting to see if she brings it up before coming over. If not, we'll have to throw stepMIL under the bus and tell SIL that we know she's sick.

be888

Dear Diary, 

My DH started a new job in May, being the new guy this year he has to work on NYE. My family always has a big party every year, and I will be going with our son. We fly to visit DH's family for Christmas, so I really want to be present for the new year in my family. I thought we had discussed that he would take the train on the 1st, and spend a few days at my parents and celebrate my 30th Birthday with family and friends on the 3rd. He told me this morning that he will be working on my birthday. I have been crying about it for the past hour. I feel selfish to be upset about this, but I just needed to vent it out.

jk3610

Dear diary: This lady at work last night...  I was processing her return.  It was a cd/record player thing and the cd player part didn't work.  So i just apologized, etc. etc.  I was really fucking nice considering my hormones lately.  Anyway, as she's walking away, she turns around and says, "Can you put a sticker on it that says it's damaged so no one sees it on the shelf and buys it?"   @-)  Yes, because where I work (demonic bullseye land) it is policy to take a defective return and just put it back on the shelf.  ???  

jk3610

trollsniper said:

Dear diary: This lady at work last night...  I was processing her return.  It was a cd/record player thing and the cd player part didn't work.  So i just apologized, etc. etc.  I was really fucking nice considering my hormones lately.  Anyway, as she's walking away, she turns around and says, "Can you put a sticker on it that says it's damaged so no one sees it on the shelf and buys it?"   @-)  Yes, because where I work (demonic bullseye land) it is policy to take a defective return and just put it back on the shelf.  ???  

Haha. "Ooh, great idea! Why didn't I think of that?! Thanks lady!!" 8-| People are nuts.

My hormones are out of control!  It was hard to keep my mouth shut on that one...

picklesx

trollsniper said:

Random question: Where did the expression "lovetits" come from??

I've been wondering the same. I thought maybe someone read "love it" quickly and misread it as "love tit".

jc_twomamas

be888 said:

Dear Diary, 

My DH started a new job in May, being the new guy this year he has to work on NYE. My family always has a big party every year, and I will be going with our son. We fly to visit DH's family for Christmas, so I really want to be present for the new year in my family. I thought we had discussed that he would take the train on the 1st, and spend a few days at my parents and celebrate my 30th Birthday with family and friends on the 3rd. He told me this morning that he will be working on my birthday. I have been crying about it for the past hour. I feel selfish to be upset about this, but I just needed to vent it out.

I feel for you DH's work has a way of interrupting MANY of our plans. He just got back from a week in Canada and now has to go back again this coming week and stay through the weekend as they need him the following Monday/Tuesday. He's missing my parents and our family Christmas before they fly out to Tahoe for Christmas this year (FTW actual Christmas is with his side of the fam this year, we alternate.)
I totally understand the tears and disappointment. Get some QT in with him before New Years comes and maybe do something special together. Be sure to talk to keep an open dialogue about your feelings while still letting him know you understand and support him. I wish there was more we could do but there's just not! I wish you a very happy birthday and hope you can find something very special to do together sweetie!

be888

@trollsniper

@mrsblissed

Thank you for your kind words. Part of me feels like he just forgot it was my birthday.

ETA: @devow27 I'm sorry your DH will be missing out on holiday celebrations. We alternate holidays too (only Christmas for us, since my family doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving).

babynica

jk3610 said:

Dear diary: This lady at work last night...  I was processing her return.  It was a cd/record player thing and the cd player part didn't work.  So i just apologized, etc. etc.  I was really fucking nice considering my hormones lately.  Anyway, as she's walking away, she turns around and says, "Can you put a sticker on it that says it's damaged so no one sees it on the shelf and buys it?"   @-)  Yes, because where I work (demonic bullseye land) it is policy to take a defective return and just put it back on the shelf.  ???  

I used to work for that company, for about 7 yrs. I've seen and heard some crazy shit. Towards the end of my "career" there, I had no fucks left to give and just started telling people how it is. When that time comes, you know it's time to get out!!

babynica

Funny story: we've been telling DS that his baby sister is in my belly. He's started lifting my shirt in public and talking about baby sister. Last night, while getting ready for a Christmas party, he was standing in my bathroom looking in the mirror. He started patting his belly and I asked him what he was doing, to which he replied, "baby sister in there"

Just when I thought he was getting it

jk3610

babynica said:

Dear diary: This lady at work last night...  I was processing her return.  It was a cd/record player thing and the cd player part didn't work.  So i just apologized, etc. etc.  I was really fucking nice considering my hormones lately.  Anyway, as she's walking away, she turns around and says, "Can you put a sticker on it that says it's damaged so no one sees it on the shelf and buys it?"   @-)  Yes, because where I work (demonic bullseye land) it is policy to take a defective return and just put it back on the shelf.  ???  

I used to work for that company, for about 7 yrs. I've seen and heard some crazy shit. Towards the end of my "career" there, I had no fucks left to give and just started telling people how it is. When that time comes, you know it's time to get out!!

I am definitely getting there.  I was hoping to go part time when baby comes.  (I'm a GSA and I super super hate it.)  But now I have to keep my insurance through them, so I'm just reducing to 31/32 hours/wk.  Hopefully over the next couple years once DH has been in this new job longer I can get on his insurance and start reducing more/quit.

amanduhtm

Dear diary: my boyfriend has been SO mean to me lately I don't know if it's my hormones or what but I'm at the point I just want to walk away. He has me crying way more than I should be and is not supportive of anything I do whatsoever . I am the only one financially supporting us and I'm the only one taking care and providing for HIS 2 year old daughter. On top of taking care of a 2 year old I've been working 50+ hours a week at my job (7 days a week lately) and I am EXHAUSTED. It would just be nice to hear a thank you or you're doing a good job or I'm proud of you or SOMETHING to acknowledge how hard I'm working. On top of this 2 week straight work week my grandma asked me to bake cookies for her senior citiEn group. WHO CAN SAY NO TO GRANDMA. I absolutely cannot and I feel myself closer and closer to a breakdown. If I so much as come home from work and lay down or shed a tear or anything he just screams at me for being lazy and stupid for crying. I never ask for help. But this isy first child. I have no idea what I'm doing. I'm exhausted. I'm upset and I feel so alone that I might as well be. I just want some support ! Rant over sorry have a nice day ladies

be888

trollsniper said:

@trollsniper

@mrsblissed

Thank you for your kind words. Part of me feels like he just forgot it was my birthday.

Yeah I'd feel that way too if I were you. And 30 is a big one! Plus last one before this baby arrives. You definitely have the right to be upset. I hope your friends and family make your bday extra special, and I hope your H comes up with some awesome way to make it up to you!!

Thanks. Part of my frustration comes from the fact that we lived 3000 miles from my friends and family for 5 years, and this year is the first time I will be able to celebrate with them. Having your birthday anytime around the Holidays already suck, and this just add to it.

jc_twomamas

be888 said:

@trollsniper

@mrsblissed

Thank you for your kind words. Part of me feels like he just forgot it was my birthday.

ETA: @devow27 I'm sorry your DH will be missing out on holiday celebrations. We alternate holidays too (only Christmas for us, since my family doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving).

Ugh I hate that feeling.  Totally sucky. Keep us posted on your b-day plans..30 is a big one!  I agree with PP, hopefully family and friends (and DH in one way or another) can make your day super special. Sending hugs. 

ashleylane66

Idk what she is sick with... But maybe if it's like a nasal congestion thing where you can hear in her voice that she's sick over the phone you can just ask her then... Was just thinking that I would hate to have to throw step mil under the bus

ashleylane66

It's totally fine to be upset. We are all full of hormones. Sometimes it helps to vent it all out. Just try not to take it out on him. I'm sure he would much rather be with you than be at work anyways

tirola

My boyfriends two year old daughter lives with us. She has been in early intervention since May because she isn't walking. She's recently been diagnosed with a mild form of cerebral palsy and in addition to her weekly therapy, now has leg braces to wear as well. She's not a fan of them (can't say that I blame her!) and it is seriously stressing me out to get them on her and continue about our day with her fighting them every step of the way. I know they are absolutely necessary and will hopefully get her walking without needing surgery. I'm willing to do whatever I can to get this kid where she needs to be but sometimes I feel like an awful person for getting overwhelmed by all of the therapies/drs appointments/equipment/etc.

SuperFudge00

@trollsniper‌ I've seen it in other bump forums.

@be888‌ I'm sorry, work sucks and being away from family during the holidays sucks worse.

SuperFudge00

trollsniper said:

SuperFudge00 said:

@trollsniper‌ I've seen it in other bump forums.

@be888‌ I'm sorry, work sucks and being away from family during the holidays sucks worse.

Interesting. So where did it come from??!? Haha

I want to say somewhere along with "speshul" and "guise" but I would be guessing

amanduhtm

@trollsniper‌
Thanks for the feedback! Yea every day it's becoming more clear that maybe he isn't what's meant for me. And I'm OK with that. The only thing keeping me is the fact that then I wouldn't be there for his daughter. Her mom isn't fantastic and he sucks. And it would kill me to leave her with no one. As far as our son goes I'm not worried because I know he'll have me and my family. It's just her I can't bring myself to leave her

jc_twomamas

@tiffrnanny do not feel guilty about feeling overwhelmed because the fact is..it IS overwhelming!! Be sure to take care of yourself and your needs.  It's so good to know you're at least acknowledging your feelings about it. Talk to her therapist's and see if they know of any other parents out there who have kids with CP or other physical disability diagnosis. Many of my parents find it helpful to be able to talk to other families adjusting as well or families that have already been through an adjustment. Just always remember you ARE doing your best, even if you don't get those braces on her one day and then the next she actually wears them. It's OKAY!  Be easy on yourself.  Hugs.

jk3610

amanduhtm said:

@trollsniper‌ Thanks for the feedback! Yea every day it's becoming more clear that maybe he isn't what's meant for me. And I'm OK with that. The only thing keeping me is the fact that then I wouldn't be there for his daughter. Her mom isn't fantastic and he sucks. And it would kill me to leave her with no one. As far as our son goes I'm not worried because I know he'll have me and my family. It's just her I can't bring myself to leave her

Sounds like a rough situation.  Best of luck!  It is definitely not okay for a SO to talk to you like that.  

alleriya

amanduhtm said:

Dear diary: my boyfriend has been SO mean to me lately I don't know if it's my hormones or what but I'm at the point I just want to walk away. He has me crying way more than I should be and is not supportive of anything I do whatsoever . I am the only one financially supporting us and I'm the only one taking care and providing for HIS 2 year old daughter. On top of taking care of a 2 year old I've been working 50+ hours a week at my job (7 days a week lately) and I am EXHAUSTED. It would just be nice to hear a thank you or you're doing a good job or I'm proud of you or SOMETHING to acknowledge how hard I'm working. On top of this 2 week straight work week my grandma asked me to bake cookies for her senior citiEn group. WHO CAN SAY NO TO GRANDMA. I absolutely cannot and I feel myself closer and closer to a breakdown. If I so much as come home from work and lay down or shed a tear or anything he just screams at me for being lazy and stupid for crying. I never ask for help. But this isy first child. I have no idea what I'm doing. I'm exhausted. I'm upset and I feel so alone that I might as well be. I just want some support ! Rant over sorry have a nice day ladies

Honey, that's abuse. If your boyfriend isn't working why are you the one taking care of his child? I don't want to come off as judgmental but he needs to get help if he thinks treating you like that is acceptable. If he refuses to change his ways, get out as fast as you can. Lots of big creepy Internet hugs for you!

ETA: spelling is hard this morning...

theinvadermothership

@amanduhtm‌ I have to second what @trollsniper‌ said. I know everyone is in different relationships and I try not to judge when SO's who helped get us pregnant don't help... but this is beyond not helping. This is verbal abuse and you don't have to take it. You say you feel like walking away, bc YOU SHOULD. No one should have to hear they are lazy and stupid for any reasons. Name calling is abuse. Making you cry for no real reason is abuse. Idk if this is all, just starting or this has been going on for years, but put a stop to it now before it progresses.

You don't have to leave him, but you can certainly fight back and say you don't deserve to be talked to like that. And if he disagrees, you still don't have to take it. You can stay with someone. You can talk to someone. Don't be quiet about it. The more people who knows, the easier it can be to setup an exit when you need/want it.

Please take care and not take any more lies and abuse from him.

apperdoodles

I am going to use this thread as stupid question Sunday...

Is it unrealistic to expect baby to get diaper free time? I realize this means the blanket(s) will have to be washed but it seems almost unsanitary to have a diaper on 24/7. Gotta air out the bum and all. Or do people already do this and I just have absolutely no idea? 

be888

apperdoodles said:

I am going to use this thread as stupid question Sunday...

Is it unrealistic to expect baby to get diaper free time? I realize this means the blanket(s) will have to be washed but it seems almost unsanitary to have a diaper on 24/7. Gotta air out the bum and all. Or do people already do this and I just have absolutely no idea? 

I don't think it is unsanitary to have a diaper on 24/7 as long as it is a clean diaper. Whenever DS1 would get the beginning of a diaper rash, I would have him do diaper free tummy time on an old towel outside, and it would clear out really quick. 

jc_twomamas

Swoon13 said:

I bought a Xmas stocking. For my cat. Someone help me.

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Obie and Ady each have one too. And they hang right next to ours...and get filled.  No shame!

theinvadermothership

@Swoon13‌ 3 of my stockings are definitely not for humans...

taahira

Not only is it really difficult to sleep lately, due to all the great pregnancy symptoms. Now my DH has started to snore! Wtf this is a new thing. So on top of the forte i cocoon myself in each night, I now have to remember ear plugs.

amanduhtm

Thanks guys keep the creepy hugs coming I NEED them today hahaha
@trollsniper‌ I really wish that was an option but unfortunately both her pArents are narcissists and thy think they're gods gift to the parenting world so that would not be possible
I just wanna move to Florida and be warm and tan and happy all year round! Haha

theinvadermothership

amanduhtm said:

Thanks guys keep the creepy hugs coming I NEED them today hahaha
@trollsniper‌ I really wish that was an option but unfortunately both her pArents are narcissists and thy think they're gods gift to the parenting world so that would not be possible
I just wanna move to Florida and be warm and tan and happy all year round! Haha

You are not alone in your want to move to FL
Hahaha. DH and i have been talking about doing that for over a year now. Unfortunately we have a business to run in WI and no one is trained enough to take over quite yet.

But that sounds like a lovely place to exit to if things aren't going to work out with you bf. Why be cold and unhappy? Go get warm! My bff moved down there after her and her bf broke up and she's really happy now. Wishing you lots of luck!!

amanduhtm

@theinvadermothership‌ haha it's the PERFECT runaway. My parents own a house there that thy said I could rent out from there till I find my own place! It's just coming up with the money to hold over until I can find a job hahaha uhhhhh I wanna be warm again NY weather is NOT fun for me

theinvadermothership

Dear diary...

I am supposed to be leaving the house in 30 minutes and i am not showered or dressed. Luckily the gathering is lax and not a huge time issue, but the reason I'm still here bumping instead of showering is that I'm fighting to settle my stomach and keep the 3/4s of a piece of toast down. I don't know why my MS is back AGAIN and only striking me badly when i wake up. I try and eat right away but it only seems to help sometimes. Of course I'm sure, on the 2 days i have to be up early (for me), I'm going to be late do to this.

Stomach, why are you so rude?

SuperFudge00

I was so hungry twenty minutes ago, now I want to barf. Is this really happening again?

abc829

amanduhtm said:

Thanks guys keep the creepy hugs coming I NEED them today hahaha
@trollsniper‌ I really wish that was an option but unfortunately both her pArents are narcissists and thy think they're gods gift to the parenting world so that would not be possible
I just wanna move to Florida and be warm and tan and happy all year round! Haha

When you live in Florida there is no time to tan haha. Unless you're retired most of us who live here are pale pale ghosts.

mrsalvidrez

@amanduhtm‌ I'm sorry you're in such a sticky situation. I hope you are able to put you and LO first and do whatever makes you happy!

@souptin‌ are those peanut butter? They look like peanut butter and I think I just drooled a little bit.

mrsalvidrez

Dear diary...

I am so tired after working a very long day yesterday and not getting home till after 1 am. I want to lay down and go back to bed but I woke up with bad back pain and had to come out to the couch to prop myself up in sitting position and then I just sobbed for a good 3 minutes. I think I am seriously just so tired that today is going to be an emotional roller coaster. DH is still asleep and I don't want to ruin that for him but part of me wishes he was out here asking me what is wrong so I could at least have a shoulder to cry on.

mnharkcom

This is me today. One cranky lady. If one more customer at work asks me what half of $200 is im going to lose it. Hope everyone else has a great Sunday though!

picklesx

amanduhtm said:

Dear diary: my boyfriend has been SO mean to me lately I don't know if it's my hormones or what but I'm at the point I just want to walk away. He has me crying way more than I should be and is not supportive of anything I do whatsoever . I am the only one financially supporting us and I'm the only one taking care and providing for HIS 2 year old daughter. On top of taking care of a 2 year old I've been working 50+ hours a week at my job (7 days a week lately) and I am EXHAUSTED. It would just be nice to hear a thank you or you're doing a good job or I'm proud of you or SOMETHING to acknowledge how hard I'm working. On top of this 2 week straight work week my grandma asked me to bake cookies for her senior citiEn group. WHO CAN SAY NO TO GRANDMA. I absolutely cannot and I feel myself closer and closer to a breakdown. If I so much as come home from work and lay down or shed a tear or anything he just screams at me for being lazy and stupid for crying. I never ask for help. But this isy first child. I have no idea what I'm doing. I'm exhausted. I'm upset and I feel so alone that I might as well be. I just want some support ! Rant over sorry have a nice day ladies

There is no excuse for him calling you "lazy" for being exhausted or "stupid" for being emotional. Please do not let him continue this behavior - it never ends well. I know from personal experience, and it turns my stomach to know that I allowed it to go on for as long as it did, thinking that it would get better. It didn't.

I'm sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed. You are doing A LOT for one person, nevernind a pregnant woman. If you can afford to, take a mental health day for yourself. Go get a mani/pedi, a massage, or just treat yourself to lunch with a sister or close girlfriend that you can just talk to. Allow yourself to relax every once in a while.

Also, Why is he not providing financially and supporting HIS daughter? What about his daughter's mother, is she in the picture at all or does he have sole or residential custody?

picklesx

Lilzeezee said:

@amanduhtm I agree with PP that this sounds like abuse and also a sticky situation and I hope you're able to find you and baby a safe, calm, and caring space soon. Please keep us updated. 

Random fun fact from my weekend: 

1/4 cup butter + 3 cups chocolate chips + 1 can sweetened condensed milk + 4 minutes in the microwave = fudge. Chill in fridge while licking spoon. 

I am doing this right now. Thank you.

amanduhtm

@picklesx‌ mom is in the picture BUT would rather hang with friends or her boyfriend than her daughter on the nights/weekends she has her or she'll purposely accept double or weekend shifts at work those nights.
@Lilzeezee‌ now I want fudge ! Wah

At least I can eat cookies when they're being baked Wednesday right? That's always an up side