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TTC after 35
Jenniferk08
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Intro a little long. Child and recent loss mentioned
Jenniferk08
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in TTC after 35
Just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Jennifer (I know my sn made that hard to guess lol). I'm 36 from Ny. I have a wonderful h who I married 5 years ago. We have an almost 4 year old son and a 5 year old German shepherd mix.
2 months ago we started TTC #2. Lots of family comments how my son needs a sibling and not getting any younger, the usual crap. And if that's not enough I have a BRCA test I need to do hanging over my head. If positive they want breasts and ovaries removed by 40, no pressure here.
And now the loss.
I got a BFP first month out. According to the calendar my EDD would be a few days after my birthday this year. I was over the moon and since my first was so easy I got cocky. Didn't even have the OB confirmation and already ordered the T shirt for my son with images of a Christmas announcement in my head. Then the bleeding started a week after my BFP. Had blood work done and they inform me I'm not pregnant. I had a chemical pregnancy which they keep telling me was not a pregnancy and maybe it wasn't. But the sadness and loss feel real to me. Very confused and having issues processing it.
So we are cleared to start TTC again. But now I know not to be so cocky this time. And really want to gauge my eyes out every time I see a pregnancy announcement on FB. Wish I could just hide until the holidays are over.
Well that's my story. Thanks for reading
2 months ago we started TTC #2. Lots of family comments how my son needs a sibling and not getting any younger, the usual crap. And if that's not enough I have a BRCA test I need to do hanging over my head. If positive they want breasts and ovaries removed by 40, no pressure here.
And now the loss.
I got a BFP first month out. According to the calendar my EDD would be a few days after my birthday this year. I was over the moon and since my first was so easy I got cocky. Didn't even have the OB confirmation and already ordered the T shirt for my son with images of a Christmas announcement in my head. Then the bleeding started a week after my BFP. Had blood work done and they inform me I'm not pregnant. I had a chemical pregnancy which they keep telling me was not a pregnancy and maybe it wasn't. But the sadness and loss feel real to me. Very confused and having issues processing it.
So we are cleared to start TTC again. But now I know not to be so cocky this time. And really want to gauge my eyes out every time I see a pregnancy announcement on FB. Wish I could just hide until the holidays are over.
Well that's my story. Thanks for reading
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Re: Intro a little long. Child and recent loss mentioned
A loss is a loss, CP or not. I get so damn angry when people downplay early pregnancy losses. The minute you get that BFP, it's real.
It know it's so very hard but it does get a bit easier with time. There will always be triggers but they become less and less.
Don't forget that you have to think about you during this time. If you don't feel like doing something for the holidays, don't.
I hope YH is supportive for you
Good luck on your TTC journey!
A C/P is a loss and don't let anyone say otherwise. Like @Nikolie93 said once we get the positive it's real to us.
Have you tested positive for the BRCA gene. I'm just being nosy because I have one friend who did and got elective mast. I also have two friends who had breast cancer under the age of 40. It's crazy and scary shit to go through. I wish you well with all of that.
Me:39, DH:40
DD born 8/96, DS born 8/04
TTC#3
NTNP since 2006, active trying 1/13
Natural M/C 3/13 at 7 weeks
CP 2/14
All welcome
When I went in to the place they wanted me to have life insurance in place first because once you test positive you have to disclose it. They also freaked me out with talks of surgery. Removing my ovaries, possibly uterus as well and my breasts. I was only 31/32 and recently married. Freaked me out. But I know it needs to be done. My mom had breast cancer at 47. My aunt had a mass at 47 but not cancerous. My grandmother died of uterine cancer and was first diagnosed at 47.
I'm sorry for your loss. No matter how early, you still have your own grief and disappointment to work through.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
TTC #1 with IUI and donor sperm
First IUI May, 2014, Clomid + Trigger = BFN
Second IUI July, 2014, Clomid + Trigger = BFN
Third IUI Dec, 2014, Femara + Follistim + Trigger = BFN
Fourth IUI Feb 2015, Femara + Follistim + Trigger = C/P
Me: 41, DH: 45
DD, 6/15/2013
TTC #2 beginning January 2014
AMH 1.05; FSH range 7-11
July 2014: IUI #1. Follistim + Pregnyl. 2 follicles--BFN
September 2014: IUI #2. Follistim + Pregnyl + Ganirelix + Crinone. 4(?) follicles--BFN
October 2014: IUI #3. More Follistim + More Ganirelix + Pregnyl + Crinone. 4 follicles--BFP! Beta #1=10 Beta #2=33 Beta #3=97 Beta #4=158. M/C 11/1/14
December 2014: IVF #1. Microdose Lupron protocol. 9R, 9M, 9F. 3 5-day blasts transferred 12/15. BFFN.
August 2015: IVF #3. 14R, 13M, 11F. Froze 5 blasts for CCS testing. 3 normals. FET planned for 10/2015.
My Ovulation Chart
Yes you do need to test but if becoming a mother is your priority then do that first. My friend who has the gene had her three children in 5 years so she could have the surgery as soon as possible. She tested positive in her early thirties and had mastectomy at 39.
It stinks that anyone has to go through this.
Hugs to you.
Me:39, DH:40
DD born 8/96, DS born 8/04
TTC#3
NTNP since 2006, active trying 1/13
Natural M/C 3/13 at 7 weeks
CP 2/14
All welcome
"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness." - Eleanor Roosevelt
My Ovulation Chart
I downloaded the FF app. I have some cheap OPK and I plan on temping orally.
My Ovulation Chart