So rivajam's discussion got me thinking...
how does one decide which battles to pick. Food is one issue, and another we've been facing is when we're at church.
We go every Sunday and service is at 10:00. They have a small mothers' room and some activity bags children can take inside church to the pews.
However, 10 minutes into the service, Carter generally gets up and wants to walk around the back of the church, visit the ushers and hang out in the mothers' room. I feel like if we keep allowing this, he'll be 4 and not able to sit for the service.
When do you feel is a good age to start having them try to sit through it? I don't want to be distracting to others tho, either! But even I can get restless sitting for an hour straight. What do you think? I know @redneckmomma25 does church on a regular basis. Anyone else?
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Good point. Yes, church was rough when I was young, but my parent's made us stay in the row...
I just feel bad because C is one of the youngest in attendance I feel like such a disturbance already despite sitting in the last row!
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The last few pews are also reserved for families so that is nice too.
I think the more you work at it, the sooner they get used to being the pew and being quiet, but I have no expectations that Kate will make it through without a little disruption until she's much older. We also only go once a month or so, so she's not acclimated to it as fast.
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No, we're a small church, like 180 members. We have a small mothers room with a rocker and a few books and toys, but no nursery. Bible school for kiddos doesn't start until 4yrs and it's 45 mins before the service begins.
We'll continue practicing patience with him and allowing him to roam shortly after the service begins. He's pretty good about not running or being loud. Just curious about the back of church/mothers room.
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He's still young to sit through an entire service. Our church's policy is to have children sit through part of the service when they turn 4. This generally entails everything from the first hymn to when the sermon starts. Right before the sermon starts, children are released to go to their respective age classrooms for sunday school/childcare.
Our church is really huge (I think it seats 800 or so, and is often full,) and since Sophia is a really shy kid, the sanctuary is actually really overwhelming to her. She used to be terrified of it and cry when we brought her in with us. So, we talk about it during the week and now she psychs herself up for going into the sanctuary and talks about what songs she'll sing and how there's a piano there or whatever, and we've worked her up to the point where she can sit through the service from beginning to the start of the sermon. At which point we bring her back to her nursery to play.
I assume your church is on the smaller side, without the option for a nursery or sunday school/childcare. In your case, I'd have my child sit with my quietly as long as he could make it, and rather than let him wander around or distract people, take him back to the mother's room to do quiet activities like looking at books or coloring for the rest of the service. It may be a while before he can sit through a sermon- can you hear what's going on in the mother's room, or does that cut you off from the service? Our nursing mother's rooms have the service dubbed in, so we can hear or watch it, though even that can be hard when women start talking etc.
This is why we don't use the nursery. But Sunday school is different for me because they are learning about religion. They don't get the same thing out of sitting through the service.
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