Friendly advice please..

CarenHope5583

I am having the first great grand baby (on both sides of my family) which is a big deal to everyone , including me.
I have always been super close to my grandpa on my mom's side, I go to him for anything. We have recently found out he has stage 4 cancer and is also having heart failure.
Last night he called (from the hospital) to wish us a Happy Thanksgiving & apologized in advance if he dies before son is born...
He actually apologized for dying...He isn't aloud to leave the hospital and it is the one I'm delivering at..LO is very low and they think he may come early, how can I try and make it to where he can be apart of his life even if it is for a little while.? I'm really torn up and need some advice , please..

JCM285

I just wanted to say I am so sorry you are going through this and also that PPs advice sounds like a great idea

Beevol

*hugs*

No advice, just support.

sysakbaby

I don't have any advice but I wanted to say I'm so sorry you are going through this! I think misskilljoy had some excellent suggestions though.

CarenHope5583

That's the only bad thing..He looks pretty rough and doesn't want any pictures taken or videos of him , he wants us to remember him healthy and full of life.. I visit him all the time and he's always so happy, my new OB is very sweet and has taken a sono machine in his room and let him see my son and hear his heart beat which was great ! I just want him to be able to be as involved as possible before his time..

sysakbaby

CarenHope5583 said:

That's the only bad thing..He looks pretty rough and doesn't want any pictures taken or videos of him , he wants us to remember him healthy and full of life.. I visit him all the time and he's always so happy, my new OB is very sweet and has taken a sono machine in his room and let him see my son and hear his heart beat which was great ! I just want him to be able to be as involved as possible before his time..

Could you ask him to write a letter to your baby? Or dictate one through you? That way he could leave a message behind and it wouldn't reflect on how rough he looks/ feels right now.

rshamos

I love the letter idea. You could also make a scrap book with pictures of him growing up and have him dictate a story about him through the pictures.

Crystal7perry

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It is so nice that you live close enough that he can share the baby with you while on the inside but I can understand the need to capture him for the baby on the outside. I have nothing new to add to what PP's have said, but I think they're all amazing suggestions, especially the letter and the recordable book. Hugs to you!

BrainCellSup

My sympathies to you. You clearly love him so much.

Eora3

If he doesn't want to do a video, you could just record the audio. Have him talk about his childhood and tell some of his favorite family stories. It might be easier if you have a few questions to help guide him. Ask him about his favorite family traditions and his extended family.

I lost my grandparents when I was much younger and I regret not recording some of their personal histories and memories of older family members.

Try to get him to agree to one pic with you and your belly just so you can show your child.

agsgrrl

I love the idea of recording audio. Whether it's just talking or reading a story to baby I think that's a great way to do it. I'm sorry that this is happening to you and your family.

ashleykadlec

Sorry if this is a repeat response, I didn't read all of them but they have amazing children's books that you can read and it records your voice. My in laws did one for my DD when they moved to Atlanta and we love it. I know they have stuffed animals and stuff like that that you can record on too. Hope you're able to find a way to involve him, prayers to you.

path75

So sorry you are going through this. I agree with the books or audio story telling. Sending thoughts and prayers to you.

CarenHope5583

Thank you all a lot ! I never would've thought about recording his life stories but I love the idea & will be doing that.
My husband got a build a bear today with a recorder in it so my granddad can record something for him with that too ♡
I really appreciate all the support thank you all very much

MissMeegs

The bear idea is great. I am so sorry you're dealing with this, my DS is named after my grandpa and I so wish he had lived to know him, he will live on through you and I'm sure you will do a wonderful job of letting your LO learn all about what a great man he was.

amedbery

I am so sorry you are going through this. I really like the ideas from PPs about recording stories and memories. That will be something special that your LO and later children in the family will really appreciate one day. I hope it will give you a chance to spend as much time with him as possible, too.

Cheekers2010

I'm very sorry. I definitely love the idea of one of those recordable stories.